Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours

[Guest guest]

now that you mention it, my soon to be ex husband does the same with his nasal residues. makes me feel sick when he does it but as he lacks empathy, he's never broken out of that habit. still it is yucky.

So true! Our kids may have similar issues, but they are also all different.

Jenn

 

Louie is 31 and still will pick his nose and eat it if there's no tissue available or no one's watching.  Or if he's nervous.  Or if he's upset and doesn't want to melt down.  I've tried to break him of it, as has his Dad, as has his behavioral therapist.  It's not as bad as it used to be, but it's still around on and off.  And I am a good parent, of two kids.  Louie doesn't beat on people anymore, he has at least partial control of his temper..... but he still obsesses on his areas of expertise, he still yells and jumps up and down when upset, he still moans when nothing else is going on.   And he probably always will.  On the other hand, he's holding down a job that he's had for 5 years now, he helps deliver food for Meals on Wheels, he walks dogs and pets cats at the local animal shelter, does all his self care (including his laundry) and takes his turn at his house in the washing up after dinner.  All things considered, his good points far outweigh his iffy ones, in our eyes as well as those professionals who work with him.

I don't expect perfection.  Perfection doesn't happen with humans, typical or autistic.  

BTW, I didn't see as looking at her son's behaviors as acceptable.  I didn't see  her making excuses.  I don't see her boasting.  And sometimes, the professionals are talking through their hats because they're not with the kid 24/7.  And I think 's just as good a parent as anyone else here, trying her best to find ways of showing her son coping skills and socially acceptable behaviors.  All we can ever do is try.  The rest is up to our kids and their functional level.  If your kids are at a higher functional level, good for them.  But you can't judge all auties and their parents by that yardstick.  It just doesn't work.

Annie, who loves ya                                     annie@... " Anything that happens enough times to irritate you will happen at least once more. "  ---- Tom Parkins

 

you find that acceptable and are making excuses just because he's autistic. s' speech therapist has said any behaviour I find annoying now, he'll still be doing as a teen or adult if I don't nip it in the bud now.

don't boast about gross stuff like that.

I made no excuse, lady.� I�was only telling�people what my son's worst habbit is.� The fact that my son picks his nose and wipes his boogers on the wall says nothing about me.� It really doesn't say much about him other than he's FLIPPING AUTISTIC.��Get a clue lady!�

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To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Tue, June 14, 2011 8:28:40 PMSubject: Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours�

just a parent like everyone else here.

making excuses for your kids poor behaviour reflects on you. not on them.

[Guest guest]

Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone back and read ALL of

the related posts linking back to this topic.

I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair and a booger wall that

it would totally depend on the parent and the child. There are times when it is

simply best to pick your battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe boogers on his

wall than strike or scream at his sibling.

We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take baths, refusal to get

his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime for weeks on end, only eating a certain type

of food and refusing all others, striking me, screaming and throwing things,

etc. I could go on but really, I think most of the parents here have a lot of

the same issues.

We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk to and a lot of us

can't get this tpe of support system in our towns.

It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop but I felt the need in

this case. Before anyone voices negative opinions about anothers child they

should really think long and hard about how they would feel if something similar

was said about their child.

I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I (and everyone else

here) do not know what goes on in her day to day life. By the same token I am

not sure what I would do if I were in 's shoes. I think that getting her

son to clean the wall is a wonderful step. Maybe it will help to break the

habbit...maybe not, but there are worse things he could be doing. Icky? Yes but

by no means does this action endanger anyone.

So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing.

To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that are picked up that may

NEVER be able to be broken. Even the icky ones. I have been a nail bitter my

entire life. While I have stopped a couple times, stressfull situations got me

going again before I even realized it had happened. I have resigned myself to

the fact that I will never have pretty nails and I deal. There are bigger fish

to fry for me

I hope that you all have a wonderful evening

[Guest guest]

Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone back and read ALL of

the related posts linking back to this topic.

I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair and a booger wall that

it would totally depend on the parent and the child. There are times when it is

simply best to pick your battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe boogers on his

wall than strike or scream at his sibling.

We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take baths, refusal to get

his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime for weeks on end, only eating a certain type

of food and refusing all others, striking me, screaming and throwing things,

etc. I could go on but really, I think most of the parents here have a lot of

the same issues.

We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk to and a lot of us

can't get this tpe of support system in our towns.

It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop but I felt the need in

this case. Before anyone voices negative opinions about anothers child they

should really think long and hard about how they would feel if something similar

was said about their child.

I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I (and everyone else

here) do not know what goes on in her day to day life. By the same token I am

not sure what I would do if I were in 's shoes. I think that getting her

son to clean the wall is a wonderful step. Maybe it will help to break the

habbit...maybe not, but there are worse things he could be doing. Icky? Yes but

by no means does this action endanger anyone.

So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing.

To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that are picked up that may

NEVER be able to be broken. Even the icky ones. I have been a nail bitter my

entire life. While I have stopped a couple times, stressfull situations got me

going again before I even realized it had happened. I have resigned myself to

the fact that I will never have pretty nails and I deal. There are bigger fish

to fry for me

I hope that you all have a wonderful evening

[Guest guest]

point taken. I am really sorry.my kids are = 5, Chloe = 3 and Jay = 17 months.it is a lot to deal with day in day out.next year starts school so it'll be better then in terms of my stress levels.

Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone back and read ALL of the related posts linking back to this topic.

I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair and a booger wall that it would totally depend on the parent and the child. There are times when it is simply best to pick your battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe boogers on his wall than strike or scream at his sibling.

We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take baths, refusal to get his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime for weeks on end, only eating a certain type of food and refusing all others, striking me, screaming and throwing things, etc. I could go on but really, I think most of the parents here have a lot of the same issues.

We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk to and a lot of us can't get this tpe of support system in our towns.

It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop but I felt the need in this case. Before anyone voices negative opinions about anothers child they should really think long and hard about how they would feel if something similar was said about their child.

I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I (and everyone else here) do not know what goes on in her day to day life. By the same token I am not sure what I would do if I were in 's shoes. I think that getting her son to clean the wall is a wonderful step. Maybe it will help to break the habbit...maybe not, but there are worse things he could be doing. Icky? Yes but by no means does this action endanger anyone.

So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing.

To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that are picked up that may NEVER be able to be broken. Even the icky ones. I have been a nail bitter my entire life. While I have stopped a couple times, stressfull situations got me going again before I even realized it had happened. I have resigned myself to the fact that I will never have pretty nails and I deal. There are bigger fish to fry for me

I hope that you all have a wonderful evening

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[Guest guest]

point taken. I am really sorry.my kids are = 5, Chloe = 3 and Jay = 17 months.it is a lot to deal with day in day out.next year starts school so it'll be better then in terms of my stress levels.

Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone back and read ALL of the related posts linking back to this topic.

I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair and a booger wall that it would totally depend on the parent and the child. There are times when it is simply best to pick your battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe boogers on his wall than strike or scream at his sibling.

We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take baths, refusal to get his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime for weeks on end, only eating a certain type of food and refusing all others, striking me, screaming and throwing things, etc. I could go on but really, I think most of the parents here have a lot of the same issues.

We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk to and a lot of us can't get this tpe of support system in our towns.

It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop but I felt the need in this case. Before anyone voices negative opinions about anothers child they should really think long and hard about how they would feel if something similar was said about their child.

I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I (and everyone else here) do not know what goes on in her day to day life. By the same token I am not sure what I would do if I were in 's shoes. I think that getting her son to clean the wall is a wonderful step. Maybe it will help to break the habbit...maybe not, but there are worse things he could be doing. Icky? Yes but by no means does this action endanger anyone.

So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing.

To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that are picked up that may NEVER be able to be broken. Even the icky ones. I have been a nail bitter my entire life. While I have stopped a couple times, stressfull situations got me going again before I even realized it had happened. I have resigned myself to the fact that I will never have pretty nails and I deal. There are bigger fish to fry for me

I hope that you all have a wonderful evening

------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets upset and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru this? I am wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having Aspergers. 

 

Jenn

 

 

Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone back and read ALL of the related posts linking back to this topic.I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair and a booger wall that it would totally depend on the parent and the child. There are times when it is simply best to pick your battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe boogers on his wall than strike or scream at his sibling.

We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take baths, refusal to get his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime for weeks on end, only eating a certain type of food and refusing all others, striking me, screaming and throwing things, etc. I could go on but really, I think most of the parents here have a lot of the same issues.

We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk to and a lot of us can't get this tpe of support system in our towns.It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop but I felt the need in this case. Before anyone voices negative opinions about anothers child they should really think long and hard about how they would feel if something similar was said about their child.

I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I (and everyone else here) do not know what goes on in her day to day life. By the same token I am not sure what I would do if I were in 's shoes. I think that getting her son to clean the wall is a wonderful step. Maybe it will help to break the habbit...maybe not, but there are worse things he could be doing. Icky? Yes but by no means does this action endanger anyone.

So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing. :)To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that are picked up that may NEVER be able to be broken. Even the icky ones. I have been a nail bitter my entire life. While I have stopped a couple times, stressfull situations got me going again before I even realized it had happened. I have resigned myself to the fact that I will never have pretty nails and I deal. There are bigger fish to fry for me

I hope that you all have a wonderful evening------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets upset and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru this? I am wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having Aspergers. 

 

Jenn

 

 

Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone back and read ALL of the related posts linking back to this topic.I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair and a booger wall that it would totally depend on the parent and the child. There are times when it is simply best to pick your battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe boogers on his wall than strike or scream at his sibling.

We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take baths, refusal to get his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime for weeks on end, only eating a certain type of food and refusing all others, striking me, screaming and throwing things, etc. I could go on but really, I think most of the parents here have a lot of the same issues.

We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk to and a lot of us can't get this tpe of support system in our towns.It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop but I felt the need in this case. Before anyone voices negative opinions about anothers child they should really think long and hard about how they would feel if something similar was said about their child.

I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I (and everyone else here) do not know what goes on in her day to day life. By the same token I am not sure what I would do if I were in 's shoes. I think that getting her son to clean the wall is a wonderful step. Maybe it will help to break the habbit...maybe not, but there are worse things he could be doing. Icky? Yes but by no means does this action endanger anyone.

So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing. :)To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that are picked up that may NEVER be able to be broken. Even the icky ones. I have been a nail bitter my entire life. While I have stopped a couple times, stressfull situations got me going again before I even realized it had happened. I have resigned myself to the fact that I will never have pretty nails and I deal. There are bigger fish to fry for me

I hope that you all have a wonderful evening------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

Jenn,

While my son is a bit young for puberty yet, we have gone through (and sometimes

STILL go through) him hitting himself in the head. Like yours, he does it when

he gets upset or flustered about something. When he does it I just correct him

and tell him that we need to find another way for him to express his anger and

frustration.

Those blow up punching bag things have worked pretty good for us but may not be

right for every family. Have you talked to his doctor?

O

>

> *One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets upset

> and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru this? I am

> wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having Aspergers. *

> **

> *Jenn*

[Guest guest]

Jenn,

While my son is a bit young for puberty yet, we have gone through (and sometimes

STILL go through) him hitting himself in the head. Like yours, he does it when

he gets upset or flustered about something. When he does it I just correct him

and tell him that we need to find another way for him to express his anger and

frustration.

Those blow up punching bag things have worked pretty good for us but may not be

right for every family. Have you talked to his doctor?

O

>

> *One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets upset

> and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru this? I am

> wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having Aspergers. *

> **

> *Jenn*

[Guest guest]

,

My 9 year old wasn't diagnosed until he started school and at that time I was 8

months pregnant with our second child. Talk about a pnch in the nose. We had no

idea. None of his doctors had EVER said a word. I always " thought " there was

something a little different but was told by family and friends that since I was

an only child I really didn't know what kids were like. Eh, okay.

I left my job to be a stay at home mom/writer after our daughter was born. I'll

admit that there are weeks when I get numerous calls and emails from the school,

sometimes several a day. My saving grace is that the school is WONDERFUL! and

filled with folks who are willing to help in any way they can.

Now that school is out and both the kiddos are home all day we face a new issue

of getting into a routine of sharing and not fighting, screaming and hitting.

Ah summer

Keep your head up and just remember that we are all here for eachother... no

matter what We all need a sounding board.

O

>

> point taken. I am really sorry.

> my kids are = 5, Chloe = 3 and Jay = 17 months.

> it is a lot to deal with day in day out.

> next year starts school so it'll be better then in terms of my stress

> levels.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

My 9 year old wasn't diagnosed until he started school and at that time I was 8

months pregnant with our second child. Talk about a pnch in the nose. We had no

idea. None of his doctors had EVER said a word. I always " thought " there was

something a little different but was told by family and friends that since I was

an only child I really didn't know what kids were like. Eh, okay.

I left my job to be a stay at home mom/writer after our daughter was born. I'll

admit that there are weeks when I get numerous calls and emails from the school,

sometimes several a day. My saving grace is that the school is WONDERFUL! and

filled with folks who are willing to help in any way they can.

Now that school is out and both the kiddos are home all day we face a new issue

of getting into a routine of sharing and not fighting, screaming and hitting.

Ah summer

Keep your head up and just remember that we are all here for eachother... no

matter what We all need a sounding board.

O

>

> point taken. I am really sorry.

> my kids are = 5, Chloe = 3 and Jay = 17 months.

> it is a lot to deal with day in day out.

> next year starts school so it'll be better then in terms of my stress

> levels.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I expect this kind of judgment from the general public. But on an autism list? Really? How can anyone here blame the parent for their child's behavioral issues? I would think here of all places everyone would understand.

To: "autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >Sent: Tue, June 14, 2011 8:07:15 PMSubject: Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours

This really points to the need not to judge until you really understand. You, along with , had assumed it was 's fault, due to her incompetent parenting. It is not helpful for anyone to make that kind of judgment about someone else's situation.Sent from my iPad> Well that is good you make him clean it up. So it is a habit he cannot > help like nail biting. I didn't realize that. Hard to figure out what is > autism behavior and what is not though I guess. Seems to me that these > kids can learn some things they must not do autism or not, but guess > each kid is different huh.> Carolyn> > > R. Tucker wrote:>> Carolyn,>> I don't think you

understand. He does this while he's supposed to be >> asleep or going to bed. I'm not in his room to stop him. Yes I think >> it's yucky. Yes I make him clean it up. He has cleaned his wall many >> many times, but it's a habit just like biting your nails or chewing on >> a pencil, etc. He also picks paint off the wall! He is autistic >> people! Should I set up a booger surveillance video? Please!>> >> >> ---------------------------------------------------------->> *From:* Carolyn >> *To:* autism-aspergers >> *Sent:* Tue, June 14, 2011 8:30:16

PM>> *Subject:* Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours>> >> There is no way I would allow a booger wall. IMO that is yukky! Got to>> be some sort of discipline to stop that behavior, nip it in the bid>> somehow. How about, "Nooooooo don't put that booger there!" in a really>> angry disapproving tone of voice with Kleenex in hand. Seems I've done>> that before but only when it was on a finger, didn't make it to a wall.>> I was too quick.>> Carolyn>> >> Ponzio wrote:>>> >>> I was wondering how long does it take to break kids out of certain>>> annoying behaviours?>>> >>> reason I ask is someone here mentioned that they can't get their kids>>> to comb their hair and the same kids wipes boogers on a "booger wall".>>> pretty sure

they are now 16.>>> >>> If my kids do anything that I find socially unacceptable and annoying,>>> I doubt it will take me 16 years to break them out of that behaviour.>>> just because they have autism does not mean you let them get away with>>> everything. that's just shitty parenting.>>> also once a behaviour is ingrained it is much harder to get them to>>> change their behaviour.>>> don't give up on your kids, just keep trying.>>> >> >> >> ------------------------------------>> >> sit Your Group >> <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/autism-aspergers;_ylc=X3oDMTJlNjdyOXQ2BF9TAzk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzE4MDAzMzIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMxNzA1MDYxNjE2BHNlYwN2dGwEc2xrA3ZnaHAEc3RpbWUDMTMwODA5ODExOQ--> >> >> Yahoo! Groups >>

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certain behaviours yes. others, not so much.

I expect this kind of judgment from the general public.  But on an autism list?  Really? How can anyone here blame the parent for their child's behavioral issues?  I would think here of all places everyone would understand.

To: " autism-aspergers " <autism-aspergers >

Sent: Tue, June 14, 2011 8:07:15 PMSubject: Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours 

This really points to the need not to judge until you really understand. You, along with , had assumed it was 's fault, due to her incompetent parenting. It is not helpful for anyone to make that kind of judgment about someone else's situation.

Sent from my iPad> Well that is good you make him clean it up. So it is a habit he cannot

> help like nail biting. I didn't realize that. Hard to figure out what is > autism behavior and what is not though I guess. Seems to me that these > kids can learn some things they must not do autism or not, but guess

> each kid is different huh.> Carolyn> > > R. Tucker wrote:>> Carolyn,>> I don't think you

understand. He does this while he's supposed to be >> asleep or going to bed. I'm not in his room to stop him. Yes I think >> it's yucky. Yes I make him clean it up. He has cleaned his wall many

>> many times, but it's a habit just like biting your nails or chewing on >> a pencil, etc. He also picks paint off the wall! He is autistic >> people! Should I set up a booger surveillance video? Please!

>> >> >> ---------------------------------------------------------->> *From:* Carolyn

>> *To:* autism-aspergers >> *Sent:* Tue, June 14, 2011 8:30:16

PM>> *Subject:* Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours>> >> There is no way I would allow a booger wall. IMO that is yukky! Got to>> be some sort of discipline to stop that behavior, nip it in the bid

>> somehow. How about, " Nooooooo don't put that booger there! " in a really>> angry disapproving tone of voice with Kleenex in hand. Seems I've done>> that before but only when it was on a finger, didn't make it to a wall.

>> I was too quick.>> Carolyn>> >> Ponzio wrote:>>> >>> I was wondering how long does it take to break kids out of certain>>> annoying behaviours?

>>> >>> reason I ask is someone here mentioned that they can't get their kids>>> to comb their hair and the same kids wipes boogers on a " booger wall " .>>> pretty sure

they are now 16.>>> >>> If my kids do anything that I find socially unacceptable and annoying,>>> I doubt it will take me 16 years to break them out of that behaviour.>>> just because they have autism does not mean you let them get away with

>>> everything. that's just shitty parenting.>>> also once a behaviour is ingrained it is much harder to get them to>>> change their behaviour.>>> don't give up on your kids, just keep trying.

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When he does this, he is in a full blown meltdown, and he tunes everything out, so he does not pay attention to anything I say. He has actually told me when he is in a complete meltdown, he can't hear anything around him. His sensory issues are so bad, I don't think he would punch a punching bag. I will try talking to him when he is calm, and see if I can get him to stop. Or try to find another way for him to deal with his frustration.

 

Thanks!Jenn

 

Jenn,While my son is a bit young for puberty yet, we have gone through (and sometimes STILL go through) him hitting himself in the head. Like yours, he does it when he gets upset or flustered about something. When he does it I just correct him and tell him that we need to find another way for him to express his anger and frustration.

Those blow up punching bag things have worked pretty good for us but may not be right for every family. Have you talked to his doctor?O

>> *One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets upset > and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru this? I am> wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having Aspergers. *> **> *Jenn*

[Guest guest]

When he does this, he is in a full blown meltdown, and he tunes everything out, so he does not pay attention to anything I say. He has actually told me when he is in a complete meltdown, he can't hear anything around him. His sensory issues are so bad, I don't think he would punch a punching bag. I will try talking to him when he is calm, and see if I can get him to stop. Or try to find another way for him to deal with his frustration.

 

Thanks!Jenn

 

Jenn,While my son is a bit young for puberty yet, we have gone through (and sometimes STILL go through) him hitting himself in the head. Like yours, he does it when he gets upset or flustered about something. When he does it I just correct him and tell him that we need to find another way for him to express his anger and frustration.

Those blow up punching bag things have worked pretty good for us but may not be right for every family. Have you talked to his doctor?O

>> *One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets upset > and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru this? I am> wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having Aspergers. *> **> *Jenn*

[Guest guest]

Hello,

My son also hits himself in the forehead when he us upset. He used to head bang but we got him out of that. So I think its just a matter of calming them down when they become that upset. My son can calm himself down with a pillow that he carries around the house and we have one in the car. I try to re-direct him when he is very upset sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't......

I too feel that sometimes it is done for attention, especially if he is doing it while I am driving, if I turn and look back at him, he stops! I am just afraid that he will hurt himself if I totally ignore him.

From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of R. TuckerSent: Wednesday, June 15, 2011 7:50 AMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours

My youngest non-autistic son does this.---not hard, but he does it. I think in my son's case it's in attempt to manipulate my feelings. I run to him to get him to stop hitting himself where I should ignore him. In his case it's for attention and not really the typical self injurious behavior.

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Wed, June 15, 2011 12:01:08 AMSubject: Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours

One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets upset and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru this? I am wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having Aspergers.

Jenn

Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone back and read ALL of the related posts linking back to this topic.I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair and a booger wall that it would totally depend on the parent and the child. There are times when it is simply best to pick your battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe boogers on his wall than strike or scream at his sibling.We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take baths, refusal to get his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime for weeks on end, only eating a certain type of food and refusing all others, striking me, screaming and throwing things, etc. I could go on but really, I think most of the parents here have a lot of the same issues.We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk to and a lot of us can't get this tpe of support system in our towns.It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop but I felt the need in this case. Before anyone voices negative opinions about anothers child they should really think long and hard about how they would feel if something similar was said about their child.I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I (and everyone else here) do not know what goes on in her day to day life. By the same token I am not sure what I would do if I were in 's shoes. I think that getting her son to clean the wall is a wonderful step. Maybe it will help to break the habbit...maybe not, but there are worse things he could be doing. Icky? Yes but by no means does this action endanger anyone.So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing. :)To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that are picked up that may NEVER be able to be broken. Even the icky ones. I have been a nail bitter my entire life. While I have stopped a couple times, stressfull situations got me going again before I even realized it had happened. I have resigned myself to the fact that I will never have pretty nails and I deal. There are bigger fish to fry for me :)I hope that you all have a wonderful evening------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

Hello,

My son also hits himself in the forehead when he us upset. He used to head bang but we got him out of that. So I think its just a matter of calming them down when they become that upset. My son can calm himself down with a pillow that he carries around the house and we have one in the car. I try to re-direct him when he is very upset sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't......

I too feel that sometimes it is done for attention, especially if he is doing it while I am driving, if I turn and look back at him, he stops! I am just afraid that he will hurt himself if I totally ignore him.

From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of R. TuckerSent: Wednesday, June 15, 2011 7:50 AMTo: autism-aspergers Subject: Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours

My youngest non-autistic son does this.---not hard, but he does it. I think in my son's case it's in attempt to manipulate my feelings. I run to him to get him to stop hitting himself where I should ignore him. In his case it's for attention and not really the typical self injurious behavior.

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Wed, June 15, 2011 12:01:08 AMSubject: Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours

One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets upset and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru this? I am wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having Aspergers.

Jenn

Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone back and read ALL of the related posts linking back to this topic.I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair and a booger wall that it would totally depend on the parent and the child. There are times when it is simply best to pick your battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe boogers on his wall than strike or scream at his sibling.We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take baths, refusal to get his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime for weeks on end, only eating a certain type of food and refusing all others, striking me, screaming and throwing things, etc. I could go on but really, I think most of the parents here have a lot of the same issues.We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk to and a lot of us can't get this tpe of support system in our towns.It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop but I felt the need in this case. Before anyone voices negative opinions about anothers child they should really think long and hard about how they would feel if something similar was said about their child.I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I (and everyone else here) do not know what goes on in her day to day life. By the same token I am not sure what I would do if I were in 's shoes. I think that getting her son to clean the wall is a wonderful step. Maybe it will help to break the habbit...maybe not, but there are worse things he could be doing. Icky? Yes but by no means does this action endanger anyone.So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing. :)To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that are picked up that may NEVER be able to be broken. Even the icky ones. I have been a nail bitter my entire life. While I have stopped a couple times, stressfull situations got me going again before I even realized it had happened. I have resigned myself to the fact that I will never have pretty nails and I deal. There are bigger fish to fry for me :)I hope that you all have a wonderful evening------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

That is exactly what my son does, hit himself in the forehead. I think sometimes he just doesn't know how to handle his frustration, so he hits himself. Honestly, I am so glad I pulled him out of school to homeschool him thru this online charter school. I can only imagine how frustrating Jr. High would have been for him next year. I honestly think it would have been too much for him, and things would be much worse then they are now.

 

Jenn

 

Hello,

 

My son also hits himself in the forehead when he us upset. He used to head bang but we got him out of that. So I think its just a matter of calming them down when they become that upset. My son can calm himself down with a pillow that he carries around the house and we have one in the car. I try to re-direct him when he is very upset sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't......

 

I too feel that sometimes it is done for attention, especially if he is doing it while I am driving, if I turn and look back at him, he stops! I am just afraid that he will hurt himself if I totally ignore him.

From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of R. Tucker

Sent: Wednesday, June 15, 2011 7:50 AM To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours

 

My youngest non-autistic son does this.---not hard, but he does it.  I think in my son's case it's in attempt to manipulate my feelings.  I run to him to get him to stop hitting himself where I should ignore him.  In his case it's for attention and not really the typical self injurious behavior. 

 

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wed, June 15, 2011 12:01:08 AMSubject: Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours

 

One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets upset and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru this? I am wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having Aspergers. 

 

Jenn

 

 

Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone back and read ALL of the related posts linking back to this topic.I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair and a booger wall that it would totally depend on the parent and the child. There are times when it is simply best to pick your battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe boogers on his wall than strike or scream at his sibling.

We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take baths, refusal to get his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime for weeks on end, only eating a certain type of food and refusing all others, striking me, screaming and throwing things, etc. I could go on but really, I think most of the parents here have a lot of the same issues.

We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk to and a lot of us can't get this tpe of support system in our towns.It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop but I felt the need in this case. Before anyone voices negative opinions about anothers child they should really think long and hard about how they would feel if something similar was said about their child.

I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I (and everyone else here) do not know what goes on in her day to day life. By the same token I am not sure what I would do if I were in 's shoes. I think that getting her son to clean the wall is a wonderful step. Maybe it will help to break the habbit...maybe not, but there are worse things he could be doing. Icky? Yes but by no means does this action endanger anyone.

So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing. :)To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that are picked up that may NEVER be able to be broken. Even the icky ones. I have been a nail bitter my entire life. While I have stopped a couple times, stressfull situations got me going again before I even realized it had happened. I have resigned myself to the fact that I will never have pretty nails and I deal. There are bigger fish to fry for me

I hope that you all have a wonderful evening------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

That is exactly what my son does, hit himself in the forehead. I think sometimes he just doesn't know how to handle his frustration, so he hits himself. Honestly, I am so glad I pulled him out of school to homeschool him thru this online charter school. I can only imagine how frustrating Jr. High would have been for him next year. I honestly think it would have been too much for him, and things would be much worse then they are now.

 

Jenn

 

Hello,

 

My son also hits himself in the forehead when he us upset. He used to head bang but we got him out of that. So I think its just a matter of calming them down when they become that upset. My son can calm himself down with a pillow that he carries around the house and we have one in the car. I try to re-direct him when he is very upset sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't......

 

I too feel that sometimes it is done for attention, especially if he is doing it while I am driving, if I turn and look back at him, he stops! I am just afraid that he will hurt himself if I totally ignore him.

From: autism-aspergers [mailto:autism-aspergers ] On Behalf Of R. Tucker

Sent: Wednesday, June 15, 2011 7:50 AM To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours

 

My youngest non-autistic son does this.---not hard, but he does it.  I think in my son's case it's in attempt to manipulate my feelings.  I run to him to get him to stop hitting himself where I should ignore him.  In his case it's for attention and not really the typical self injurious behavior. 

 

To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Wed, June 15, 2011 12:01:08 AMSubject: Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain behaviours

 

One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets upset and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru this? I am wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having Aspergers. 

 

Jenn

 

 

Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone back and read ALL of the related posts linking back to this topic.I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair and a booger wall that it would totally depend on the parent and the child. There are times when it is simply best to pick your battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe boogers on his wall than strike or scream at his sibling.

We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take baths, refusal to get his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime for weeks on end, only eating a certain type of food and refusing all others, striking me, screaming and throwing things, etc. I could go on but really, I think most of the parents here have a lot of the same issues.

We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk to and a lot of us can't get this tpe of support system in our towns.It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop but I felt the need in this case. Before anyone voices negative opinions about anothers child they should really think long and hard about how they would feel if something similar was said about their child.

I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I (and everyone else here) do not know what goes on in her day to day life. By the same token I am not sure what I would do if I were in 's shoes. I think that getting her son to clean the wall is a wonderful step. Maybe it will help to break the habbit...maybe not, but there are worse things he could be doing. Icky? Yes but by no means does this action endanger anyone.

So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing. :)To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that are picked up that may NEVER be able to be broken. Even the icky ones. I have been a nail bitter my entire life. While I have stopped a couple times, stressfull situations got me going again before I even realized it had happened. I have resigned myself to the fact that I will never have pretty nails and I deal. There are bigger fish to fry for me

I hope that you all have a wonderful evening------------------------------------

[Guest guest]

My son Marty used to scream real loud and jump up and down while biting

his upper arm, he'd have great big bites on his upper arm through his

shirt usually. It looked to me like he was having a fit of frustration

because he could not talk and get people to understand what he wanted.

He started this in earnest about the time they mainstreamed him out of

private school into public school and began to force him to change what

he was used to and to conform to the routine of a typical middle

school. He was awful at school and at home for at least three years and

then I pulled him out never to return again and he eventually settled

down here at home. Interestingly he can go out and accomplish a

different routine for the day but many times he looks very afraid and

uncomfortable. He does love church on Sunday evenings and the

intervention the people there give him, most come to greet him and shake

his hand, but interestingly some totally avoid him. He gives such

intense eye contact it is as though his eyes can talk..

Glad he quit screaming and biting his arm. Used to tear up my house and

throw things in my face also. Faint memories now, thank God!

Carolyn ;o)

Jenn wrote:

>

> *That is exactly what my son does, hit himself in the forehead. I

> think sometimes he just doesn't know how to handle his frustration, so

> he hits himself. Honestly, I am so glad I pulled him out of school to

> homeschool him thru this online charter school. I can only imagine how

> frustrating Jr. High would have been for him next year. I honestly

> think it would have been too much for him, and things would be much

> worse then they are now.*

> **

> *Jenn*

>

>

> On Wed, Jun 15, 2011 at 7:09 AM, lin, Jasmine <FRANKLJ2@...

> > wrote:

>

>

>

> Hello,

>

> My son also hits himself in the forehead when he us upset. He used

> to head bang but we got him out of that. So I think its just a

> matter of calming them down when they become that upset. My son

> can calm himself down with a pillow that he carries around the

> house and we have one in the car. I try to re-direct him when he

> is very upset sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't......

>

> I too feel that sometimes it is done for attention, especially if

> he is doing it while I am driving, if I turn and look back at him,

> he stops! I am just afraid that he will hurt himself if I totally

> ignore him.

>

> ------------------------------------------------------------------------

> *From:* autism-aspergers

> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

> [mailto:autism-aspergers

> <mailto:autism-aspergers >] *On Behalf Of *

> R. Tucker

> *Sent:* Wednesday, June 15, 2011 7:50 AM

>

> *To:* autism-aspergers

> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

> *Subject:* Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain

> behaviours

>

>

>

> My youngest non-autistic son does this.---not hard, but he does

> it. I think in my son's case it's in attempt to manipulate my

> feelings. I run to him to get him to stop hitting himself where I

> should ignore him. In his case it's for attention and not really

> the typical self injurious behavior.

>

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------------------------------------------

> *From:* Jenn >

> *To:* autism-aspergers

> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

> *Sent:* Wed, June 15, 2011 12:01:08 AM

> *Subject:* Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain

> behaviours

>

>

>

> *One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he

> gets upset and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go

> thru this? I am wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and

> having Aspergers. *

> **

> *Jenn*

>

>

> On Tue, Jun 14, 2011 at 9:56 PM, Ponzio <leary121@...

> > wrote:

>

>

>

> Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone

> back and read ALL of the related posts linking back to

> this topic.

>

> I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair

> and a booger wall that it would totally depend on the

> parent and the child. There are times when it is simply

> best to pick your battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe

> boogers on his wall than strike or scream at his sibling.

>

> We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take

> baths, refusal to get his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime

> for weeks on end, only eating a certain type of food and

> refusing all others, striking me, screaming and throwing

> things, etc. I could go on but really, I think most of the

> parents here have a lot of the same issues.

>

> We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk

> to and a lot of us can't get this tpe of support system in

> our towns.

>

> It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop

> but I felt the need in this case. Before anyone voices

> negative opinions about anothers child they should really

> think long and hard about how they would feel if something

> similar was said about their child.

>

> I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I

> (and everyone else here) do not know what goes on in her

> day to day life. By the same token I am not sure what I

> would do if I were in 's shoes. I think that

> getting her son to clean the wall is a wonderful step.

> Maybe it will help to break the habbit...maybe not, but

> there are worse things he could be doing. Icky? Yes but by

> no means does this action endanger anyone.

>

> So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing.

>

> To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that

> are picked up that may NEVER be able to be broken. Even

> the icky ones. I have been a nail bitter my entire life.

> While I have stopped a couple times, stressfull situations

> got me going again before I even realized it had happened.

> I have resigned myself to the fact that I will never have

> pretty nails and I deal. There are bigger fish to fry for

> me

>

> I hope that you all have a wonderful evening

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------

>

>

[Guest guest]

My son Marty used to scream real loud and jump up and down while biting

his upper arm, he'd have great big bites on his upper arm through his

shirt usually. It looked to me like he was having a fit of frustration

because he could not talk and get people to understand what he wanted.

He started this in earnest about the time they mainstreamed him out of

private school into public school and began to force him to change what

he was used to and to conform to the routine of a typical middle

school. He was awful at school and at home for at least three years and

then I pulled him out never to return again and he eventually settled

down here at home. Interestingly he can go out and accomplish a

different routine for the day but many times he looks very afraid and

uncomfortable. He does love church on Sunday evenings and the

intervention the people there give him, most come to greet him and shake

his hand, but interestingly some totally avoid him. He gives such

intense eye contact it is as though his eyes can talk..

Glad he quit screaming and biting his arm. Used to tear up my house and

throw things in my face also. Faint memories now, thank God!

Carolyn ;o)

Jenn wrote:

>

> *That is exactly what my son does, hit himself in the forehead. I

> think sometimes he just doesn't know how to handle his frustration, so

> he hits himself. Honestly, I am so glad I pulled him out of school to

> homeschool him thru this online charter school. I can only imagine how

> frustrating Jr. High would have been for him next year. I honestly

> think it would have been too much for him, and things would be much

> worse then they are now.*

> **

> *Jenn*

>

>

> On Wed, Jun 15, 2011 at 7:09 AM, lin, Jasmine <FRANKLJ2@...

> > wrote:

>

>

>

> Hello,

>

> My son also hits himself in the forehead when he us upset. He used

> to head bang but we got him out of that. So I think its just a

> matter of calming them down when they become that upset. My son

> can calm himself down with a pillow that he carries around the

> house and we have one in the car. I try to re-direct him when he

> is very upset sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't......

>

> I too feel that sometimes it is done for attention, especially if

> he is doing it while I am driving, if I turn and look back at him,

> he stops! I am just afraid that he will hurt himself if I totally

> ignore him.

>

> ------------------------------------------------------------------------

> *From:* autism-aspergers

> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

> [mailto:autism-aspergers

> <mailto:autism-aspergers >] *On Behalf Of *

> R. Tucker

> *Sent:* Wednesday, June 15, 2011 7:50 AM

>

> *To:* autism-aspergers

> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

> *Subject:* Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain

> behaviours

>

>

>

> My youngest non-autistic son does this.---not hard, but he does

> it. I think in my son's case it's in attempt to manipulate my

> feelings. I run to him to get him to stop hitting himself where I

> should ignore him. In his case it's for attention and not really

> the typical self injurious behavior.

>

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------------------------------------------

> *From:* Jenn >

> *To:* autism-aspergers

> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

> *Sent:* Wed, June 15, 2011 12:01:08 AM

> *Subject:* Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain

> behaviours

>

>

>

> *One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he

> gets upset and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go

> thru this? I am wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and

> having Aspergers. *

> **

> *Jenn*

>

>

> On Tue, Jun 14, 2011 at 9:56 PM, Ponzio <leary121@...

> > wrote:

>

>

>

> Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone

> back and read ALL of the related posts linking back to

> this topic.

>

> I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair

> and a booger wall that it would totally depend on the

> parent and the child. There are times when it is simply

> best to pick your battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe

> boogers on his wall than strike or scream at his sibling.

>

> We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take

> baths, refusal to get his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime

> for weeks on end, only eating a certain type of food and

> refusing all others, striking me, screaming and throwing

> things, etc. I could go on but really, I think most of the

> parents here have a lot of the same issues.

>

> We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk

> to and a lot of us can't get this tpe of support system in

> our towns.

>

> It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop

> but I felt the need in this case. Before anyone voices

> negative opinions about anothers child they should really

> think long and hard about how they would feel if something

> similar was said about their child.

>

> I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I

> (and everyone else here) do not know what goes on in her

> day to day life. By the same token I am not sure what I

> would do if I were in 's shoes. I think that

> getting her son to clean the wall is a wonderful step.

> Maybe it will help to break the habbit...maybe not, but

> there are worse things he could be doing. Icky? Yes but by

> no means does this action endanger anyone.

>

> So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing.

>

> To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that

> are picked up that may NEVER be able to be broken. Even

> the icky ones. I have been a nail bitter my entire life.

> While I have stopped a couple times, stressfull situations

> got me going again before I even realized it had happened.

> I have resigned myself to the fact that I will never have

> pretty nails and I deal. There are bigger fish to fry for

> me

>

> I hope that you all have a wonderful evening

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------

>

>

[Guest guest]

Speaking about driving one time my son Marty jumped on the back of my

head while I was driving and was pulling my hair and gouging my eyes and

got ahold of my blouse and almost ripped it off me! We had a van back in

the 70s and my husband had built wooden benches on both sides and we had

it all carpeted, it was real nice. After that though I would put Marty

clear to the back and tie a rope around his waist tied to the 2 x 4s of

the bench. I was quite innovative at the time to keep him alive, me

alive, and carry on. Today it would no doubt be illegal but they didn't

have seat belts on cars yet then.

Memories memories..first order of business; STAY ALIVE! It is a mom's

job to keep everybody alive!

Now I have to run down to the middle school as my granddaughter is

graduating 8th grade!

Carolyn ;o)

lin, Jasmine wrote:

>

> Hello,

> My son also hits himself in the forehead when he us upset. He used to

> head bang but we got him out of that. So I think its just a matter of

> calming them down when they become that upset. My son can calm himself

> down with a pillow that he carries around the house and we have one in

> the car. I try to re-direct him when he is very upset sometimes it

> works and sometimes it doesn't......

> I too feel that sometimes it is done for attention, especially if he

> is doing it while I am driving, if I turn and look back at him, he

> stops! I am just afraid that he will hurt himself if I totally ignore

> him.

>

> ------------------------------------------------------------------------

> *From:* autism-aspergers

> [mailto:autism-aspergers ] *On Behalf Of * R. Tucker

> *Sent:* Wednesday, June 15, 2011 7:50 AM

> *To:* autism-aspergers

> *Subject:* Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain

> behaviours

>

> My youngest non-autistic son does this.---not hard, but he does it. I

> think in my son's case it's in attempt to manipulate my feelings. I

> run to him to get him to stop hitting himself where I should ignore

> him. In his case it's for attention and not really the typical self

> injurious behavior.

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------------------------------------------

> *From:* Jenn

> *To:* autism-aspergers

> *Sent:* Wed, June 15, 2011 12:01:08 AM

> *Subject:* Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain

> behaviours

>

> *One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets

> upset and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru this? I

> am wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having Aspergers. *

> **

> *Jenn*

>

> On Tue, Jun 14, 2011 at 9:56 PM, Ponzio <leary121@...

> > wrote:

>

> Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone back

> and read ALL of the related posts linking back to this topic.

>

> I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair and a

> booger wall that it would totally depend on the parent and the

> child. There are times when it is simply best to pick your

> battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe boogers on his wall

> than strike or scream at his sibling.

>

> We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take

> baths, refusal to get his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime for

> weeks on end, only eating a certain type of food and refusing

> all others, striking me, screaming and throwing things, etc. I

> could go on but really, I think most of the parents here have

> a lot of the same issues.

>

> We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk to

> and a lot of us can't get this tpe of support system in our towns.

>

> It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop but I

> felt the need in this case. Before anyone voices negative

> opinions about anothers child they should really think long

> and hard about how they would feel if something similar was

> said about their child.

>

> I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I (and

> everyone else here) do not know what goes on in her day to day

> life. By the same token I am not sure what I would do if I

> were in 's shoes. I think that getting her son to clean

> the wall is a wonderful step. Maybe it will help to break the

> habbit...maybe not, but there are worse things he could be

> doing. Icky? Yes but by no means does this action endanger anyone.

>

> So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing.

>

> To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that are

> picked up that may NEVER be able to be broken. Even the icky

> ones. I have been a nail bitter my entire life. While I have

> stopped a couple times, stressfull situations got me going

> again before I even realized it had happened. I have resigned

> myself to the fact that I will never have pretty nails and I

> deal. There are bigger fish to fry for me

>

> I hope that you all have a wonderful evening

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------

>

>

[Guest guest]

Speaking about driving one time my son Marty jumped on the back of my

head while I was driving and was pulling my hair and gouging my eyes and

got ahold of my blouse and almost ripped it off me! We had a van back in

the 70s and my husband had built wooden benches on both sides and we had

it all carpeted, it was real nice. After that though I would put Marty

clear to the back and tie a rope around his waist tied to the 2 x 4s of

the bench. I was quite innovative at the time to keep him alive, me

alive, and carry on. Today it would no doubt be illegal but they didn't

have seat belts on cars yet then.

Memories memories..first order of business; STAY ALIVE! It is a mom's

job to keep everybody alive!

Now I have to run down to the middle school as my granddaughter is

graduating 8th grade!

Carolyn ;o)

lin, Jasmine wrote:

>

> Hello,

> My son also hits himself in the forehead when he us upset. He used to

> head bang but we got him out of that. So I think its just a matter of

> calming them down when they become that upset. My son can calm himself

> down with a pillow that he carries around the house and we have one in

> the car. I try to re-direct him when he is very upset sometimes it

> works and sometimes it doesn't......

> I too feel that sometimes it is done for attention, especially if he

> is doing it while I am driving, if I turn and look back at him, he

> stops! I am just afraid that he will hurt himself if I totally ignore

> him.

>

> ------------------------------------------------------------------------

> *From:* autism-aspergers

> [mailto:autism-aspergers ] *On Behalf Of * R. Tucker

> *Sent:* Wednesday, June 15, 2011 7:50 AM

> *To:* autism-aspergers

> *Subject:* Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain

> behaviours

>

> My youngest non-autistic son does this.---not hard, but he does it. I

> think in my son's case it's in attempt to manipulate my feelings. I

> run to him to get him to stop hitting himself where I should ignore

> him. In his case it's for attention and not really the typical self

> injurious behavior.

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------------------------------------------

> *From:* Jenn

> *To:* autism-aspergers

> *Sent:* Wed, June 15, 2011 12:01:08 AM

> *Subject:* Re: Re: breaking kids out of certain

> behaviours

>

> *One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets

> upset and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru this? I

> am wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having Aspergers. *

> **

> *Jenn*

>

> On Tue, Jun 14, 2011 at 9:56 PM, Ponzio <leary121@...

> > wrote:

>

> Well, I am coming in late to this party, but I have gone back

> and read ALL of the related posts linking back to this topic.

>

> I agree that when dealing with issues like combing hair and a

> booger wall that it would totally depend on the parent and the

> child. There are times when it is simply best to pick your

> battles. I would MUCH rather my son wipe boogers on his wall

> than strike or scream at his sibling.

>

> We have gone through self mutilation (sp), refusal to take

> baths, refusal to get his hair cut, meltdowns at bedtime for

> weeks on end, only eating a certain type of food and refusing

> all others, striking me, screaming and throwing things, etc. I

> could go on but really, I think most of the parents here have

> a lot of the same issues.

>

> We are all here for SUPPORT. We NEED other parents to talk to

> and a lot of us can't get this tpe of support system in our towns.

>

> It isn't often that I find the time to post on this loop but I

> felt the need in this case. Before anyone voices negative

> opinions about anothers child they should really think long

> and hard about how they would feel if something similar was

> said about their child.

>

> I am not in any way trying to speak badly about as I (and

> everyone else here) do not know what goes on in her day to day

> life. By the same token I am not sure what I would do if I

> were in 's shoes. I think that getting her son to clean

> the wall is a wonderful step. Maybe it will help to break the

> habbit...maybe not, but there are worse things he could be

> doing. Icky? Yes but by no means does this action endanger anyone.

>

> So to I say, Keep doing what you are doing.

>

> To I say that sometimes there are some habbits that are

> picked up that may NEVER be able to be broken. Even the icky

> ones. I have been a nail bitter my entire life. While I have

> stopped a couple times, stressfull situations got me going

> again before I even realized it had happened. I have resigned

> myself to the fact that I will never have pretty nails and I

> deal. There are bigger fish to fry for me

>

> I hope that you all have a wonderful evening

>

>

>

> ------------------------------------

>

>

[Guest guest]

>

> One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets

> upset and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru

> this? I am wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having

> Aspergers.

>

> Jenn

Louie did this when he hit puberty, so I think it may be hormonal.

We couldn't figure out how to get him to stop, outside of saying

something every time he did it to try to find out what was upsetting

him so. He eventually grew out of it.

Annie annie@...

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" I'm not afraid to die. I just don't want to be there when it

happens. " --Woody

[Guest guest]

>

> One bad habit my son just started a few months ago is when he gets

> upset and frustrated he hits himself. Does anyone else go thru

> this? I am wondering if it is part of going thru puberty and having

> Aspergers.

>

> Jenn

Louie did this when he hit puberty, so I think it may be hormonal.

We couldn't figure out how to get him to stop, outside of saying

something every time he did it to try to find out what was upsetting

him so. He eventually grew out of it.

Annie annie@...

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" I'm not afraid to die. I just don't want to be there when it

happens. " --Woody