Guest guest Posted October 10, 2004 Report Share Posted October 10, 2004 Hi Gwen- I wanted to comment on POA and tell you I had a similar situation with my dad. Our federal government said they didn't 'recognize' durable power of attorney. All I wanted to do was change my dad's address for any of their future mailings. They wouldn't allow me to do this without first becoming 'representative payee'. Then, because of my new title, I had to fill out a 'book' of sorts, once a year stating where my dad's money had been spent for that whole year. I remember receiving this novel of paperwork a few months after my dad passed away, calling this government office and asking if I still needed to fill it out to find that I did...well, news to them, I never filled it out. All to change his address. It is true, some institutions don't recognize POA, and that in itself is frustrating. Best of luck to all that are still dealing with the legal side of LBD. Sandie -- Re: Re: Lewy Bodies/Jp JP, Your welcome. Sounds like he is taking a chemical stew but could be the disease. Sorry to hear about the financial obsession. I don't know which is worse the obsession over finances or apathy. We found out about dad's dementia when his utilities were being turned off for non payment and also found that his house was in foreclosure and he only owed one more payment! He had to pay thousands in fines and attorney fees when we stepped in to straighten everything out. One tip that I have been finding about POA - not all institutions accept it especially financial institutions. They require their own POA forms filled out. You have to call all of the places that he has financial dealings with and ask what they require and ask for the forms. This can be done while waiting for the lawyer and then all can be done at the same time. Sometimes it can be slow and frustrating. Good luck. Gwen Re: Lewy Bodies/Gwen Thanks for the info., Gwen. The Dr. claims that my Dad is on a low dose of sinemet and he starts excelon in a week or so, but he's also taking namenda, depakote, flomax, paxil, and a host of other things. Sometimes I wonder what he would be like if he wasn't taking any of this stuff. I would like to believe the odd behavior is linked to the chemical stew, but in reality, I know better. He still insists the house they're living in is new, even though my Mom and he have lived there for sixteen years. His newest obsession is telephoning all kinds of people daily like the bank and his annuity handler. We're working on getting his finances taken away from him as he's ripe for fraud I just hope nothing happens before we get power of attorney in place. Jp Welcome to LBDcaregivers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2004 Report Share Posted October 10, 2004 Hi Gwen- I wanted to comment on POA and tell you I had a similar situation with my dad. Our federal government said they didn't 'recognize' durable power of attorney. All I wanted to do was change my dad's address for any of their future mailings. They wouldn't allow me to do this without first becoming 'representative payee'. Then, because of my new title, I had to fill out a 'book' of sorts, once a year stating where my dad's money had been spent for that whole year. I remember receiving this novel of paperwork a few months after my dad passed away, calling this government office and asking if I still needed to fill it out to find that I did...well, news to them, I never filled it out. All to change his address. It is true, some institutions don't recognize POA, and that in itself is frustrating. Best of luck to all that are still dealing with the legal side of LBD. Sandie -- Re: Re: Lewy Bodies/Jp JP, Your welcome. Sounds like he is taking a chemical stew but could be the disease. Sorry to hear about the financial obsession. I don't know which is worse the obsession over finances or apathy. We found out about dad's dementia when his utilities were being turned off for non payment and also found that his house was in foreclosure and he only owed one more payment! He had to pay thousands in fines and attorney fees when we stepped in to straighten everything out. One tip that I have been finding about POA - not all institutions accept it especially financial institutions. They require their own POA forms filled out. You have to call all of the places that he has financial dealings with and ask what they require and ask for the forms. This can be done while waiting for the lawyer and then all can be done at the same time. Sometimes it can be slow and frustrating. Good luck. Gwen Re: Lewy Bodies/Gwen Thanks for the info., Gwen. The Dr. claims that my Dad is on a low dose of sinemet and he starts excelon in a week or so, but he's also taking namenda, depakote, flomax, paxil, and a host of other things. Sometimes I wonder what he would be like if he wasn't taking any of this stuff. I would like to believe the odd behavior is linked to the chemical stew, but in reality, I know better. He still insists the house they're living in is new, even though my Mom and he have lived there for sixteen years. His newest obsession is telephoning all kinds of people daily like the bank and his annuity handler. We're working on getting his finances taken away from him as he's ripe for fraud I just hope nothing happens before we get power of attorney in place. Jp Welcome to LBDcaregivers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2004 Report Share Posted October 10, 2004 Hi Sandie, Thanks for the information. I am going through this right now. My dad is retired from the railroad and it is also considered federal government - same checks. I just received the 'book' to fill out. They told me that POA is a state thing and this is federal. A while back I also had a problem with Merrill Lynch where they were being a real pain about the POA forms and a copy of the POA. All I wanted them to do was to update my dad's birthdate on his IRA account. They had the default of 1970 and he had not taken his minimum distribution. This has big IRS ramifications. Anyway, they updated it and eventually sent a form for distribution. I asked for the full amount, had dad sign it and rolled it over into an account locally. End of Merrill Lynch! This is sooo much fun in addition to caregiving! Gwen Re: Lewy Bodies/Gwen Thanks for the info., Gwen. The Dr. claims that my Dad is on a low dose of sinemet and he starts excelon in a week or so, but he's also taking namenda, depakote, flomax, paxil, and a host of other things. Sometimes I wonder what he would be like if he wasn't taking any of this stuff. I would like to believe the odd behavior is linked to the chemical stew, but in reality, I know better. He still insists the house they're living in is new, even though my Mom and he have lived there for sixteen years. His newest obsession is telephoning all kinds of people daily like the bank and his annuity handler. We're working on getting his finances taken away from him as he's ripe for fraud I just hope nothing happens before we get power of attorney in place. Jp Welcome to LBDcaregivers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2004 Report Share Posted October 10, 2004 Hi Gwen- I was told that with the federal government, which is who I was dealing with as well...the representative payee was more for financial responsibility. With POA, there was no proof of responsibility for financial status...representative payee would hold me responsible should my dad be unable to take care of his own finances. Well, duh, I did this anyway since I was POA. I remember laughing in the phone when I was told... " we don't recognize POA " ....sheesh, I thought they were kidding. A legal and binding document, notarized and all... goes to show you, nothing really is fool proof. I do wish you the best of luck with this. It does add another dimension to caregiving, another level of used energy and sometimes stress. Keep on keeping on...it will all be worth it! Hugs to you Gwen- Sandie -- Re: Gwen - POA Hi Sandie, Thanks for the information. I am going through this right now. My dad is retired from the railroad and it is also considered federal government - same checks. I just received the 'book' to fill out. They told me that POA is a state thing and this is federal. A while back I also had a problem with Merrill Lynch where they were being a real pain about the POA forms and a copy of the POA. All I wanted them to do was to update my dad's birthdate on his IRA account. They had the default of 1970 and he had not taken his minimum distribution. This has big IRS ramifications. Anyway, they updated it and eventually sent a form for distribution. I asked for the full amount had dad sign it and rolled it over into an account locally. End of Merrill Lynch! This is sooo much fun in addition to caregiving! Gwen Re: Lewy Bodies/Gwen Thanks for the info., Gwen. The Dr. claims that my Dad is on a low dose of sinemet and he starts excelon in a week or so, but he's also taking namenda, depakote, flomax, paxil, and a host of other things. Sometimes I wonder what he would be like if he wasn't taking any of this stuff. I would like to believe the odd behavior is linked to the chemical stew, but in reality, I know better. He still insists the house they're living in is new, even though my Mom and he have lived there for sixteen years. His newest obsession is telephoning all kinds of people daily like the bank and his annuity handler. We're working on getting his finances taken away from him as he's ripe for fraud I just hope nothing happens before we get power of attorney in place. Jp Welcome to LBDcaregivers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2004 Report Share Posted October 11, 2004 I love it Sandie, my feelings exactly! Re: Lewy Bodies/Gwen Thanks for the info., Gwen. The Dr. claims that my Dad is on a low dose of sinemet and he starts excelon in a week or so, but he's also taking namenda, depakote, flomax, paxil, and a host of other things. Sometimes I wonder what he would be like if he wasn't taking any of this stuff. I would like to believe the odd behavior is linked to the chemical stew, but in reality, I know better. He still insists the house they're living in is new, even though my Mom and he have lived there for sixteen years. His newest obsession is telephoning all kinds of people daily like the bank and his annuity handler. We're working on getting his finances taken away from him as he's ripe for fraud I just hope nothing happens before we get power of attorney in place. Jp Welcome to LBDcaregivers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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