Guest guest Posted June 17, 2005 Report Share Posted June 17, 2005 When all this started I mentioned to my dr ( the wife of Mum's dr) that I was so very glad that I had chosen not to have children because I did not feel I was dealing with things very well. She pointed out to me that there was a big difference in the situations! When you go through the struggle of raising children you know that things will improve. When you go through what we are all going through you know that things are only going to get worse. Not a happy thought, but realistic. Certainly opened my eyes. Bless her for being so honest. Every night before bed I go outside and wish on the first star for ease for Mum. Probably does diddly squat for Mum but makes me feel better! Hey - you do what you can to survive. But I wonder? Sometimes I may have wished on a satellite- who can tell these days. Do you suppose those wishes count, too? Hang in there, Jean. We will do our best. We will survive. We have to so we will. - the Stubborn --------------------------------- Yahoo! Mail Stay connected, organized, and protected. Take the tour Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2005 Report Share Posted June 17, 2005 , thanks for your lovely thought about your mother, I know what you mean, but its still hard to deal with sometimes. I,m just glad that I'm able to help my Mother even though she doesn't remember who I am at times. She mainly calls me by my sister name, and than it goes to other people she has known. I know in my heart that she appreciates everything that I do for her and she is happy for the most part. I,m hanging in there for her as she would have done for me. Jean Cowie wrote: When all this started I mentioned to my dr ( the wife of Mum's dr) that I was so very glad that I had chosen not to have children because I did not feel I was dealing with things very well. She pointed out to me that there was a big difference in the situations! When you go through the struggle of raising children you know that things will improve. When you go through what we are all going through you know that things are only going to get worse. Not a happy thought, but realistic. Certainly opened my eyes. Bless her for being so honest. Every night before bed I go outside and wish on the first star for ease for Mum. Probably does diddly squat for Mum but makes me feel better! Hey - you do what you can to survive. But I wonder? Sometimes I may have wished on a satellite- who can tell these days. Do you suppose those wishes count, too? Hang in there, Jean. We will do our best. We will survive. We have to so we will. - the Stubborn --------------------------------- Yahoo! Mail Stay connected, organized, and protected. Take the tour Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2005 Report Share Posted June 17, 2005 -- Thanks for the second morning chuckle! I don't think it matters if you wish on satellites or stars -- it's putting that positive thought out to the universe -- and bringing you a bit of peace too. Here's to wishes! Lori > > When all this started I mentioned to my dr ( the wife of Mum's dr) that I was so very glad that I had chosen not to have children because I did not feel I was dealing with things very well. > She pointed out to me that there was a big difference in the situations! > When you go through the struggle of raising children you know that things will improve. > When you go through what we are all going through you know that things are only going to get worse. > Not a happy thought, but realistic. > Certainly opened my eyes. > Bless her for being so honest. > Every night before bed I go outside and wish on the first star for ease for Mum. > Probably does diddly squat for Mum but makes me feel better! > Hey - you do what you can to survive. > But I wonder? Sometimes I may have wished on a satellite- who can tell these days. > Do you suppose those wishes count, too? > Hang in there, Jean. > We will do our best. > We will survive. > We have to so we will. > - the Stubborn > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Yahoo! Mail > Stay connected, organized, and protected. Take the tour > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2005 Report Share Posted June 17, 2005 Lori, I agree with you, in my heart I know that my Mother knows it me, but sometimes it still gets to me. I do try not to let this bother me anymore now, because I know that when she goes to sleep at night I always tell her how I love her and she will also say the same. This means so much to me Jean ladpr6 wrote: -- I heard from a geriatric nurse at an Alzheimer's Meeting that even when our LOs don't remember our names, they remember our love. It's a nice thought. Lori > > When all this started I mentioned to my dr ( the wife of Mum's dr) that I was so very glad that I had chosen not to have children because I did not feel I was dealing with things very well. > She pointed out to me that there was a big difference in the situations! > When you go through the struggle of raising children you know that things will improve. > When you go through what we are all going through you know that things are only going to get worse. > Not a happy thought, but realistic. > Certainly opened my eyes. > Bless her for being so honest. > Every night before bed I go outside and wish on the first star for ease for Mum. > Probably does diddly squat for Mum but makes me feel better! > Hey - you do what you can to survive. > But I wonder? Sometimes I may have wished on a satellite- who can tell these days. > Do you suppose those wishes count, too? > Hang in there, Jean. > We will do our best. > We will survive. > We have to so we will. > - the Stubborn > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Yahoo! Mail > Stay connected, organized, and protected. Take the tour > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2005 Report Share Posted June 17, 2005 One of the tips that I learned long ago is that I should always tell Mom when I entered the room who I was and this helped her to remember the name better. I lost Mom in '02 but I did try to remember to do that and it often helped her and keeps your expectations met. She does know who you are, she just doesn't have the capacity to put faces and names together anymore. Donna R Re: Re: Protecting Mum Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2005 Report Share Posted June 17, 2005 Hi Donna, Thanks for the input will try this and see how it works, will let you know about it later Jean Donna Mido wrote: One of the tips that I learned long ago is that I should always tell Mom when I entered the room who I was and this helped her to remember the name better. I lost Mom in '02 but I did try to remember to do that and it often helped her and keeps your expectations met. She does know who you are, she just doesn't have the capacity to put faces and names together anymore. Donna R Re: Re: Protecting Mum Welcome to LBDcaregivers. --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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