Re: For Rose - MIL

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Hi Rose

I know you know it is your MIL that is frequently hanging up on you, however, if you wanted to, you could report to your phone company that you are receiving nuisance calls and they will then monitor your phone calls and have it logged that it is your MIL's number that is frequently hanging up. Don't let on to the phone company that you know who it is or they may not monitor it.

What you do with that information is up to you whether you keep it to yourself or tell your MIL your phone is being monitored and you would appreciate it if she didn't hang up when you answer the phone.

Kind regards

Leanne

-- Re: Yesterday's lunch and my MIL

Hi RoseI am always cautious to comment on other people's private affairs but can I just say that 21 years and is it 3 children is a big investment, so please hasten slowly. I'm not defending your husband's or your MIL's action but bear in mind that they may be struggling to adjust to the changes that are taking place in you as you go on this weight loss path. Statistics confirm that marriages and long term relationships do crumble post WLS. Maybe some counselling, you attending on your own if hubby is not ready to participate will help put some things into perspective and arm you with some strategies. I am not suggesting that you shouldn't stand your ground and settle for second best - be it from hubby and your MIL but there's a lot at stake and a lot to lose. By all means vent away here but do take your time and consider your options. Your MIL may be thinking - great I'm achieving what I've set out to do - drive a wedge through the couple. I hope you receive this response as it is intended - with thought and care.Look after yourselfLorraine>> Hiya all, I'm so sorry I missed yesterday's lunch. I so wanted to > be there but had to attend a family function. > > Over the past couple of weeks, my mother in law has been ringing my > home to talk to my husband and every time I answer the phone she > hangs up. I know it's her because firstly hers is the only number > which comes up as private on my phone and also this only ever > happens when she's not talking to me. By the way, she's not talking > to me because I finally had the guts to tell her off for her last 21 > years of meddling in my marriage and continuously putting her son > against me. If I ring her it usually takes her ages to answer the > phone because she's not very mobile. So, yesterday she called in > the morning and when I answered she hung up. I called her number > back immediately and lo and behold she answered straight away, > funny that, she was obviously right next to the phone. I told her > to stop it and that I know it's her, she of course immediately hung > up on me. Then she rang back an hour later but my daughter answered > the phone.> > Well, she was also at the family function, I said hello to everyone > else that was there, but walked right past her, in fact I didn't > even look at her in the face. I've never done that before, you > wouldn't believe how nervous I was. In the past when she's had the > s***s with me for whatever stupid reason, I've always said hello to > her and she's usually just given me a nod because she's had no > choice but this time I held my head up high. I don't deserve to be > treated like crap. And if my husband can't deal with me not talking > to his mummy, he knows what he can do, I honestly don't care anymore.> > Aaaaah that's better.> > Seeya, love Rose.>