Dealing with grades

[Guest guest]

Hello,

My daughter has high functioning Autism. She was evaluated at school and has

around a 70 IQ. She is in integrated class and got a C on a math test. I know it

shouldn't be bugging me but I am looking at taking her out of school and just

having her get speech.

I haven't liked the math cirriculum with the Everyday Math because I think it is

all over the place and doesn't teach mastery. I have felt like I am stuck with

the school cirriculum and having some social nurturing or homeschooling her.

Truthfully, I don't have many friends or social outlets for both daughters

because it is like being in 2 totally different worlds. Homeschoolers are on a

different schedule than public school kids.

I know I am nervous or at least starting the stages of grief because having her

in school gave me support. I don't know I will have as much as I need outside of

school.

How does one deal with the academics and how it affects evaluating your child's

abilities? Am I the only one who cringes when she can't get straight As or Bs? I

don't want to be a jerk, but learning is tiered and it feels like the school

wants to expose them to so much so it supposably comes easier. I don't have much

faith in it. I feel a bit scared and I don't know if I am grieving not having a

kid who can show her intelligence on a report card. I feel like a jerk. It is

just I know when I fell behind in math, everything rolled downhill, and I

couldn't get better. Plus I felt judged.

Anyone have any thoughts? I don't want to expect so much of her she can't meet

my expectations. But I have my own insecurities about people thinking I was

stupid because I didn't live up to some standard.

[Guest guest]

If you are comfortable with the school for the most part, you could maybe get a

tutor or help her with math yourself. If the school does not teach mastery,

perhaps you could just work on skills with her that you want her to master. You

didn't say how old she was, but a C on a math test is not a terrible grade, even

for an NT.

I go back and forth with whether or not to continue homeschooling my kids, but

in the end I evaluate what I think is best for them individually and our family

as a whole. For our family and our situation, that is homeschool, for all three

of my kids.

Good luck!

jamie

>

> Hello,

>

> My daughter has high functioning Autism. She was evaluated at school and has

around a 70 IQ. She is in integrated class and got a C on a math test. I know it

shouldn't be bugging me but I am looking at taking her out of school and just

having her get speech.

>

> I haven't liked the math cirriculum with the Everyday Math because I think it

is all over the place and doesn't teach mastery. I have felt like I am stuck

with the school cirriculum and having some social nurturing or homeschooling

her. Truthfully, I don't have many friends or social outlets for both daughters

because it is like being in 2 totally different worlds. Homeschoolers are on a

different schedule than public school kids.

>

> I know I am nervous or at least starting the stages of grief because having

her in school gave me support. I don't know I will have as much as I need

outside of school.

>

> How does one deal with the academics and how it affects evaluating your

child's abilities? Am I the only one who cringes when she can't get straight As

or Bs? I don't want to be a jerk, but learning is tiered and it feels like the

school wants to expose them to so much so it supposably comes easier. I don't

have much faith in it. I feel a bit scared and I don't know if I am grieving not

having a kid who can show her intelligence on a report card. I feel like a jerk.

It is just I know when I fell behind in math, everything rolled downhill, and I

couldn't get better. Plus I felt judged.

>

> Anyone have any thoughts? I don't want to expect so much of her she can't meet

my expectations. But I have my own insecurities about people thinking I was

stupid because I didn't live up to some standard.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

my daughter is on everything modified, there is noway she can keep up with what

other 16 year olds are learning....i just want her to learn the basic living

skills part, ifshe can do this, i shall be happy.

Cheryl S [chez]

To: Autism_in_Girls_and_Women

From: lewistolkien@...

Date: Sun, 3 Apr 2011 03:33:20 +0000

Subject: Dealing with grades

Hello,

My daughter has high functioning Autism. She was evaluated at school and has

around a 70 IQ. She is in integrated class and got a C on a math test. I know it

shouldn't be bugging me but I am looking at taking her out of school and just

having her get speech.

I haven't liked the math cirriculum with the Everyday Math because I think it is

all over the place and doesn't teach mastery. I have felt like I am stuck with

the school cirriculum and having some social nurturing or homeschooling her.

Truthfully, I don't have many friends or social outlets for both daughters

because it is like being in 2 totally different worlds. Homeschoolers are on a

different schedule than public school kids.

I know I am nervous or at least starting the stages of grief because having her

in school gave me support. I don't know I will have as much as I need outside of

school.

How does one deal with the academics and how it affects evaluating your child's

abilities? Am I the only one who cringes when she can't get straight As or Bs? I

don't want to be a jerk, but learning is tiered and it feels like the school

wants to expose them to so much so it supposably comes easier. I don't have much

faith in it. I feel a bit scared and I don't know if I am grieving not having a

kid who can show her intelligence on a report card. I feel like a jerk. It is

just I know when I fell behind in math, everything rolled downhill, and I

couldn't get better. Plus I felt judged.

Anyone have any thoughts? I don't want to expect so much of her she can't meet

my expectations. But I have my own insecurities about people thinking I was

stupid because I didn't live up to some standard.