RE: Re: i just don't understand

[Guest guest]

thanks the address for the forum, i shall go take a look and join no doubt.

After the big row, she has settled a little, but tomorrow is Friday, and itwas

last friday she was silly in her science class, i have requested that she not do

science anymore, she and the teacher don't jell, and she onlylikes watching the

experiments, there is no work in her book...so, she does nothing. i think i

have next week off...so i might be rattling the cage there.

Cheryl S [chez]

To: Autism_in_Girls_and_Women

From: helen.gravina@...

Date: Thu, 24 Mar 2011 00:52:07 +0000

Subject: Re: i just don't understand

Hi -I'm in Sydney Australia

Just wondering what diagnosis your daughter has ? ( mine has Autism with

development delays and is in special needs school ) Is she in a special needs

class ? does she have an IEP or anything ? You might want to visit this

chatboard - RAISING CHILDREN NETWORK - Autism section- they have really been

helpful to me and it's in Australia and so they can advise specific to where

you are and the school system etc

here's the link

http://raisingchildren.net.au/forum/Forum133-1.aspx

I am VERY dubious about " more available at 18 " comment and you want to get

SPECIFICS off them (names , contact details , details of program etc etc )

otherwise this could be just to fob you off and get rid of the " problem " (your

DD) back onto you . They have a LEGAL responsibility under Dept of Education

legislation to provide education for your daughter to meet her needs . They

cannot legally just wash their hands of her ( which is what it sounds like )

Hang in there !!!

Helen

>

> It just seems the last few months, hannah has just changed so much,

> regressed so much. the school has just about had enough of her, and i am

> seriously contemplating allowing her to leave school.i so much wanted

> her to stay till she reached the age of 18, but it looks like she might

> be out by 17 or sooner if her behaviour keeps up.She is constantly late

> for classes, eats slow at break times, so she is late once again. i try

> to talk to her, but she comes out with silly stuff and laughs and

> carries on like a nut...........sorry, but i am calling it like i am

> seeing it at present. i have cried all day, have asked for help, but no

> phonecall.....typical, been put in the too hard basket once again i

> guess!i guess i send her to school tomorrow, only cause i have to work,

> and i don't want her here all by herself. i only work casual, so if it

> continues, i guess i will be forced to tell them i can only work 1 days

> a week..............and its gonna kill me to do this. Hubby says i am

> crazy for thinking this way, that hannah has to conform to our

> life..........but guess what, she isn't going too. I guess God gave her

> to us, so we have to do what we can, and if it means i have to sacrifice

> my work, then..............what else can i do??? we are in

> Australia.....where we are, its rural, there isn;'t much help, they say,

> when she is 18, more will be available.........i am now wondering if

> this is even true.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

i offered hannah a day at home today, cause its only science and maths and

sport....she said no, she would rather school....so thats confusing.....

Cheryl S [chez]

To: Autism_in_Girls_and_Women

From: helen.gravina@...

Date: Thu, 24 Mar 2011 19:28:37 +0000

Subject: Re: i just don't understand

yes hope to see you there . the Raising Children Network - children with

Autism forum - are a really helpful bunch and have lots of local (Australia )

information about everything - makes it easier for me ( my DD is 13 ) and we

have had school issues in the past too . Cheers

Helen

>

> >

>

> > It just seems the last few months, hannah has just changed so much,

>

> > regressed so much. the school has just about had enough of her, and i am

>

> > seriously contemplating allowing her to leave school.i so much wanted

>

> > her to stay till she reached the age of 18, but it looks like she might

>

> > be out by 17 or sooner if her behaviour keeps up.She is constantly late

>

> > for classes, eats slow at break times, so she is late once again. i try

>

> > to talk to her, but she comes out with silly stuff and laughs and

>

> > carries on like a nut...........sorry, but i am calling it like i am

>

> > seeing it at present. i have cried all day, have asked for help, but no

>

> > phonecall.....typical, been put in the too hard basket once again i

>

> > guess!i guess i send her to school tomorrow, only cause i have to work,

>

> > and i don't want her here all by herself. i only work casual, so if it

>

> > continues, i guess i will be forced to tell them i can only work 1 days

>

> > a week..............and its gonna kill me to do this. Hubby says i am

>

> > crazy for thinking this way, that hannah has to conform to our

>

> > life..........but guess what, she isn't going too. I guess God gave her

>

> > to us, so we have to do what we can, and if it means i have to sacrifice

>

> > my work, then..............what else can i do??? we are in

>

> > Australia.....where we are, its rural, there isn;'t much help, they say,

>

> > when she is 18, more will be available.........i am now wondering if

>

> > this is even true.

>

> >

>

> >

>

> >

[Guest guest]

With my daughter, it was a disruption of her routine. Even going to school

late upset her whole day. It was if her complete day was thrown off and she

couldn't seem to get her routine back on track.

Annie's mother Dianna

-- Re: i just don't understand

yes hope to see you there . the Raising Children Network - children

with Autism forum - are a really helpful bunch and have lots of local

(Australia ) information about everything - makes it easier for me ( my DD

is 13 ) and we have had school issues in the past too . Cheers

Helen

>

> >

>

> > It just seems the last few months, hannah has just changed so much,

>

> > regressed so much. the school has just about had enough of her, and i am

>

> > seriously contemplating allowing her to leave school.i so much wanted

>

> > her to stay till she reached the age of 18, but it looks like she might

>

> > be out by 17 or sooner if her behaviour keeps up.She is constantly late

>

> > for classes, eats slow at break times, so she is late once again. i try

>

> > to talk to her, but she comes out with silly stuff and laughs and

>

> > carries on like a nut...........sorry, but i am calling it like i am

>

> > seeing it at present. i have cried all day, have asked for help, but no

>

> > phonecall.....typical, been put in the too hard basket once again i

>

> > guess!i guess i send her to school tomorrow, only cause i have to work,

>

> > and i don't want her here all by herself. i only work casual, so if it

>

> > continues, i guess i will be forced to tell them i can only work 1 days

>

> > a week..............and its gonna kill me to do this. Hubby says i am

>

> > crazy for thinking this way, that hannah has to conform to our

>

> > life..........but guess what, she isn't going too. I guess God gave her

>

> > to us, so we have to do what we can, and if it means i have to sacrifice

>

> > my work, then..............what else can i do??? we are in

>

> > Australia.....where we are, its rural, there isn;'t much help, they say,

>

> > when she is 18, more will be available.........i am now wondering if

>

> > this is even true.

>

> >

>

> >

>

> >

[Guest guest]

it probably was that with hannah. if i had offered a day off the night before,

it would have given her time to process it.I have told her she can have next

friday off as its Cross country, and there is noway she is interested in that.

This will giveher something to look forward to i hope. i just feel like i am

going around and round in circles at present. i will go talk to heraide on

monday, as she usually always gives me something positive to grasp hold of.

Right now, i feel like dragging her outof school, and just let her stay at home

so i neither of us have to deal with people anymore, but i know it wouldn't be

right for heror me................guess we keep soldiering on......

Cheryl S [chez]

To: Autism_in_Girls_and_Women

From: caffeehouseemerson@...

Date: Fri, 25 Mar 2011 11:37:18 -0400

Subject: RE: Re: i just don't understand

With my daughter, it was a disruption of her routine. Even going to

school

late upset her whole day. It was if her complete day was thrown off and she

couldn't seem to get her routine back on track.

Annie's mother Dianna

-- Re: i just don't understand

yes hope to see you there . the Raising Children Network - children

with Autism forum - are a really helpful bunch and have lots of local

(Australia ) information about everything - makes it easier for me ( my DD

is 13 ) and we have had school issues in the past too . Cheers

Helen

>

> >

>

> > It just seems the last few months, hannah has just changed so much,

>

> > regressed so much. the school has just about had enough of her, and i am

>

> > seriously contemplating allowing her to leave school.i so much wanted

>

> > her to stay till she reached the age of 18, but it looks like she might

>

> > be out by 17 or sooner if her behaviour keeps up.She is constantly late

>

> > for classes, eats slow at break times, so she is late once again. i try

>

> > to talk to her, but she comes out with silly stuff and laughs and

>

> > carries on like a nut...........sorry, but i am calling it like i am

>

> > seeing it at present. i have cried all day, have asked for help, but no

>

> > phonecall.....typical, been put in the too hard basket once again i

>

> > guess!i guess i send her to school tomorrow, only cause i have to work,

>

> > and i don't want her here all by herself. i only work casual, so if it

>

> > continues, i guess i will be forced to tell them i can only work 1 days

>

> > a week..............and its gonna kill me to do this. Hubby says i am

>

> > crazy for thinking this way, that hannah has to conform to our

>

> > life..........but guess what, she isn't going too. I guess God gave her

>

> > to us, so we have to do what we can, and if it means i have to sacrifice

>

> > my work, then..............what else can i do??? we are in

>

> > Australia.....where we are, its rural, there isn;'t much help, they say,

>

> > when she is 18, more will be available.........i am now wondering if

>

> > this is even true.

>

> >

>

> >

>

> >