Happy New Year To All - Is My Marriage Over?

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I'd just like to wish everyone a happy new year and hope they

enjoyed it whatever they were doing.

We had a few friends over and it was one of the best news years eves

I've had in a long time. Even though I'm still not happy with the

situation regarding my husband and his mother, we more or less

avoided each other. I've moved into the spare room but we're still

civilised with eachother.

My new years resolution came to me upon waking this morning. I know

what I have to do now. I want to save our marriage, I still love my

husband even though he's admitted to me that he doesn't love me the

way he used to, whatever that's supposed to mean.

I've decided I'm going to lay down the law with my monster-in-law

oops sorry I meant mother-in-law. I've already told her that I

blame her for our marriage falling into the state that it is now.

You know that American sitcom " Everybody Loves " ? Well I'm

living it, and the tragedy is that it's real, and believe me it's no

comedy. The problem is though that unlike , my husband

doesn't know how to stand up to his mother and defend me when he

should, instead he takes her side and holds it against me. For the

last 21 years there have been three people in this marriage, with

his mother being the " preferred " wife.

In all fairness to my husband, I must say that he is a very good

person, he's never abused me, come home drunk, he's a great father

etc. And I truly believe that because of his good nature, with all

the problems regarding his mother, we have lasted this long because

he is really a good person. But what do you think guys? Do I give

up and leave or should I try to work it out by laying down the law

and risk causing more problems in my marriage, or do I just accept

things the way they are for the sake of my kids and everyone else?

Ciao, Rose.