Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 Hi Libby, thanks for answering my post.I too have 3 kids.My daughter is the oldest and she is 38 and has 3 kids also,they are 17.5, 15, 12.The problem comes when she remembers how healthy I was and how I was able to be " normal " for Ryenn the oldest granddaughter and for daughter #2 Jourdan until she was 18 months and I couldn't ignore my symptoms any more.I had helped her many times because her husband was at sea alot in the Navy and she lived in various states.I potty trained the two girls,but was too sick by the time came along.I have 2 sons who are 37 and 35.They are pretty understanding.I just think it's a mother/daughter thing.It does hurt sometimes when she has no patience with me.The latest is she is moving Sept 1st and wants me to help her! Elly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 Elly, I imagine is in denial that her mother is sick. I know I get angry with my mother who's health is rapidly declining...and she's 82! It is a mother/daughter thing...and I think we just don't want to admit our mother's mortality. It may make us admit our own. Sounds like you have a lovely family. Hope you're doing well today. in tX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 Elly It is not just a mother / Daughter thing but a parent / child thing. It is hard to see our parents going down hill as in health. I fought this with my dad and so many times I wished he could be like he used to be. One thing I did see that happened is I did not see dad but about one time a month for the last year or so because I lived so far away. The rest saw him almost daily. they would tell me how good he was doing and yet when I came down and saw him with high hopes they were dashed because I saw the truth because of time in-between he was not doing good but the little changes they did not really see as they were so slow but for me they were not little nor slow. Again I saw this with mom with her heart trouble last year. Again I was the farthest livening away and again saw her the lest because of it. Again same things but this time in also reveres. As mom got better they were not seeing it because of the slowness but boy I did and could not believe it as I was told how she is not doing that great and how she is behind were she should be extra. well it was amassing as mom and I would talk and I would tell her last time you could only do this or that and look at you now well soon she also started to believe me and soon she was telling her docs how well she was doing and they also told her how she was far ahead of were they thought she would be again all in perception. now it you do not see you daughter that much it may be hard for her to understand were your at because time and miles help her only remember and see in her mind what you were able to do not what you can do now. I have this same problem with my son or did when he first came down her and now that he is gone again he now is always thinking I am worse then I am because when he was here I was going down hill kind of fast before my meds kicked in so again this is what his minds eye see's. just a thought here and you have most likely done this but have you sat her down with no one around kids or others and had a heart to heart letting her know in your words how you also wish you could do as before and why you can not and or asked her what do you see me as to day and what did you see me as before in personality and health things like that. I did this with my son and all I can say is it was an eye opener big time as I did not see some things as he did or understand how he did and nor him I . I only know that we had nothing too lose and a whole lot to gain having this kind of blunt and frank talk. Just a thought and my hugs to ya the rednecks Marty & G. the redneck's my space http://www.myspace.com/martyg58 Stills ; An illness I know to well! To learn about Stills http://www.stillsdisease.org/stills_info If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop diggin'. In the old days a man who saved money was a miser; nowadays he's a wonder. ~Author Unknown " Taking my gun away because I might shoot someone is like cutting my tongue out because I might yell `Fire!' in a crowded theater. " -- Venetoklis a government and its agents are under no general duty to provide public services, such as police protection, to any particular individual citizen... -- Warren v. District of Columbia, 444 A.2d 1 (D.C. App.181) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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