Re: today

[Guest guest]

My fault Pearl...sometimes when we are used to how something works we

don't realize that others don't. I realized that there was a

misunderstanding and I needed to be clearer. So you have nothing to

be sorry about. I'm just glad I caught it before you did the work of

entering a whole years worth or family events and only to have to re-

do it in your own personal calendar. The calendars really are useful

tools so I'm glad you are being introduced to their use.

Besides Now I know is having a birthday this month...Happy

birthday to " my friend " .

And I found out that you and my oldest granddaughter share the same

birthday...how cool is that?

Hope that shoulder is making progress and you can " get on with the

business of getting it fixed " Any update on doing your other surgery

while you are waiting for your shoulder to get better?

Hugs

Jo

> Sorry about the calendar thing Jo, I thought you meant it was our

personal

> one that showed up on our space, so I put the three things in for

this month.

> You didn't tell me it showed up for all.

>

> Pearl

[Guest guest]

Sondra, people can be so stupid and cruel. I'm glad you are not letting that

person's suggestion get you down. Yes, your story is so sad. There was a family

here who died in a traffic accident, several kids, mom/wife, and her MIL. Only

the husband was left. Our associate pastor was a volunteer for the police dept

and the first person to meet with the husband. I wondered how the man didn't die

from a broken heart. Things such as losing one's children and entire families,

that's the sort of thing that one can only get through from God carrying the

person, it's far more than a person can handle.

Debi

[Guest guest]

Debi yes the one persons words did of hurt me much so over the years as she had

done this to me on a few lists and the last one was of a list I to much enjoyed

was of called the me list. but anyways that person use to say much cruel things

to me and say I to be of a fake and that adults do not just suddenly get of

autism and such and that she is of people like of me and other adults who

suddenly claim of autism for self attention and such and then write of books and

act as if they are of an authority on autism.... I to hurt so much and never

really was of able to cope that painful words to me.

It often caused me to doubt of self too thinking the current professionals are

of wrong and that I to not have of autism but mentally ill and schizophrenic.

and all ofmy life had been of sick like this in my head.... but then I to read

of the words about me and see it clearly defining autism although they never dx

me of it. I to read of them reports to me and see so much much of my thinking

back then was of so distorted by thier imputs to my mindsets. such as they used

of the words over and over for literally years of me hearing voices and so i t

began to use the same vocabulary not because it was true of me but felt it was

of part of the back and forth of words that I to associated as an odd sort of

echoing back to them and in my mind set was thinking the voices in my head must

be of not good but lacked awareness that the voices in my head were of my own

internal thinking but they maked it seem as if that were of not normal and so it

feared of me to know my words in my head were of a bad things but later learned

in this life that ALL people have thinking that is of silent to them owns being.

what they classified as auditory command hallucinations were of just my anxiety

inward in words that were of silent to me but if asked at times would report

what my thinking was inside of me such as when asked of it once in an office of

a stranger assesing me I to be of told her " get out " that is of what I to

wanted to do , it was of my thinking and she marked it as a command things / so

frustrating to know of all this in me was of not seen for what it was.

About the mom yes my heart is of so overly impacted by the sharing she gave and

some who assume we dont feel does not understand autism too much because for me

overly feel but cant show of my emotional state on my face or in actions or in

verbal mindset but in typing can let of out what is of inside.

sondra

[Guest guest]

Debi I to think will use of those records of self and make a strogn powerpoint

to be of used for professionals to begin to understand how misunderstood, how

misinterpretation can create a huge oasis of pains for the person of autism. I

to think should take of this painful memory and turn it around for it to be of

used for a good.

sondra

[Guest guest]

That is a great idea, Sondra. If I had a nickle for every misinterpreted

behavior of Katy's by " qualified " professionals, I could probably pay off all of

her medical bills! Nothing is more aggravating than being mislabeled and

misunderstood. ~~~Aggy

" No one can make you feel inferior without your permission " ~~Elanor Roosevelt

Subject: Re: today

To: Autism_in_Girls_and_Women

Date: Friday, May 8, 2009, 10:25 PM

Debi I to think will use of those records of self and make a strogn powerpoint

to be of used for professionals to begin to understand how misunderstood, how

misinterpretation can create a huge oasis of pains for the person of autism. I

to think should take of this painful memory and turn it around for it to be of

used for a good.

sondra

[Guest guest]

I think that's great. Those of us who are NT would do well to accept that every

word has a purpose even if we don't know that purpose. Such as your use of " get

out. " You were trying your best to express how you felt, those you were speaking

to should have tried as hard as you were trying in understanding what you were

communicating.

Debi

>

> Debi I to think will use of those records of self and make a strogn powerpoint

to be of used for professionals to begin to understand how misunderstood, how

misinterpretation can create a huge oasis of pains for the person of autism. I

to think should take of this painful memory and turn it around for it to be of

used for a good.

> sondra

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