Re: Per the Arthritis foundation

[Guest guest]

holding your toungue is a good policy! my mom is always complaining to me about

my adult overweight sister--i wish the policy applied to others who hear all

about it. i'm all for venting but my mother doesn't realize how much she hurt my

feelings as an overweight child!! i remember how she would complain to her

friends about how hard it was to find clothes for me and how much i ate...she

was the one who bought little debbie brownies, chips, lunchbox pies, white

bread, spaghettio's...her feeling was that i should have had more self control!!

see--i'm not over it yet!!!

stacey

[Guest guest]

That *is* hurtful and I'm sorry you had to endure that, Stacey.  Did she publicly praise you?Yes, when you're fat you KNOW you're fat, it doesn't need to be pointed out.  Why not treat people with loving kindness and see what happens?  Being overweight is often a sign of something psychological and being unhappy with something, at least it is for me.

Hugs,

 

holding your toungue is a good policy! my mom is always complaining to me about my adult overweight sister--i wish the policy applied to others who hear all about it. i'm all for venting but my mother doesn't realize how much she hurt my feelings as an overweight child!! i remember how she would complain to her friends about how hard it was to find clothes for me and how much i ate...she was the one who bought little debbie brownies, chips, lunchbox pies, white bread, spaghettio's...her feeling was that i should have had more self control!! see--i'm not over it yet!!!

stacey

[Guest guest]

((HUGS)) Stacey. I'm sorry to hear that about your mom when you were a kid. You CAN'T expect a kid to have "self-control" with treats. The only way to deal with kids and treats is limit what is in the house and limit what they can have. IMHO you don't want to go over-board restrictive, but you also don't want free reign either b/c tell me, what kid will choose carrot sticks over a chocolate chip cookie? You also have to model healthy habits around kids - you can't say "chips are bad for you" and then sit down and eat a bag full of them in front of your kids.

I know I'm preaching to the choir!But, I am sorry that your mom said things like that about you when you were a kid. I know my mom was alway weight/appearance focused and would always comment on others looks. I try not to do that myself b/c I think it sends a bad message.

Take care,

Donna

Subject: Re: Per the Arthritis foundationTo: exercisevideos Date: Thursday, July 29, 2010, 10:56 AM

holding your toungue is a good policy! my mom is always complaining to me about my adult overweight sister--i wish the policy applied to others who hear all about it. i'm all for venting but my mother doesn't realize how much she hurt my feelings as an overweight child!! i remember how she would complain to her friends about how hard it was to find clothes for me and how much i ate...she was the one who bought little debbie brownies, chips, lunchbox pies, white bread, spaghettio's...her feeling was that i should have had more self control!! see--i'm not over it yet!!! stacey