Re: Newbie :-)

[Guest guest]

Hello DebbiePeople don't realize how mean they truly are and so often think the worse of others. You shouldn't worry about what others think, you have enough to worry about already. God has decided to challenge us more than he has others, be proud of that. There are people that want to associate with you, you just haven't met them yet. Take heart in that the callousness of strangers is often unintentional and due to being misinformed, it's prejudice at it's worse, they simply don't know us, and perhaps they're just projecting their own shortcomings and troubles onto you. My own cat died last night.Regards, Hello, wanted to stop in and say Hi :-) My name is Debbie and I have Menieres Syndrome, Atypical Complicated Classic Migraines, Abnormal EEG in both Temporal regions with slowing and spiking. I am currently on disability due to this and resulting mood disorder. I feel soo beat up by people lately. Living purely on Social Security throws me into living a life being very poor, so I have to have my hand out alot. Prior to being ill I had a life, now I don't. Today, for instance, I arrived at my food bank, which I have been going to for a year. I walked thru the isles and put my food in the basket. When I arrived at the end to be packed up, one worker blasted me for filling my cart too high and how dare I be soo inconsiderate of others in need. I was only following the rules given to me. The reason my cart was filled up was with the free items which has no limit, so I put four boxes of Triscuits there, same with bread. She didn't stop there, she kept on and on berating me. I thought I was going to pass out, I was overwhelmed with feelings of embarassment, grief, dread. I felt demoralized. I tried to speak up on my behalf by apologizing but she spoke over the top of me. Finally some other workers came in to my defense and she picked up the bag of bread and flung it acrosss the room it at me. At which time I immediately sat down on the floor in shock. I did get hugs from some of the volunteers there apologizing for her behaviors, but all the way home I had to admit to myself, this goes on all the time, people being abusive towards those less needy and disabled. Stuff like this happens to me weekly. Something about being disabled and walking with a cane seems to set one up for abuse. My cat, I left at my vets office yesterday for 3 hours, waiting for his eye medication to take effect so his eye pressures could be checked. When I came back, I found him in an exam room cryng his head off. He was soaking wet from head to tail, shaking and frightened. I asked the receptionist what had happened and she said she didn't know. He was supposed to be put in a cage, with at the very least, a box of litter, but here he was in a room which he could have gotten out of if anyone had opened the door to the street and I would have lost him. My vet has not been charging me because I cannot afford the office visits and this seems to have irked the receptionist who glares at me when I come in. She makes a big announcement in front of owners in the lobby to remind me what the charge is and if I cannot pay it to speak up then. It's humiliating and embarassing. I don't feel like I can complain because my vet is being kind enough to give me free service. But finding my cat soaking wet in an unsecured exam room, is pushing me closer to complaining about her. The list goes on, it's endless. I don't want to leave my home anymore, I don't want to associate with people anymore. I want to hide away so people can't abuse me anymore. I'm tired of being a target. My life has closed in on me, no quality of life anymore. And to top it off, I have never really dealt with being disabled. Thanks for listening Debbie

[Guest guest]

Ah , SO well said!!

and oh dear that you have lost your beloved cat. That's very tough.

best, Jean

From: Wang

Sent: Monday, May 03, 2010 12:31 PM

To: BeingSick

Subject: Re: Newbie :-)

Hello Debbie

People don't realize how mean they truly are and so often think the worse of others. You shouldn't worry about what others think, you have enough to worry about already. God has decided to challenge us more than he has others, be proud of that. There are people that want to associate with you, you just haven't met them yet. Take heart in that the callousness of strangers is often unintentional and due to being misinformed, it's prejudice at it's worse, they simply don't know us, and perhaps they're just projecting their own shortcomings and troubles onto you. My own cat died last night.

Regards,

Hello, wanted to stop in and say Hi :-)My name is Debbie and I have Menieres Syndrome, Atypical Complicated Classic Migraines, Abnormal EEG in both Temporal regions with slowing and spiking. I am currently on disability due to this and resulting mood disorder.I feel soo beat up by people lately. Living purely on Social Security throws me into living a life being very poor, so I have to have my hand out alot. Prior to being ill I had a life, now I don't.Today, for instance, I arrived at my food bank, which I have been going to for a year. I walked thru the isles and put my food in the basket. When I arrived at the end to be packed up, one worker blasted me for filling my cart too high and how dare I be soo inconsiderate of others in need. I was only following the rules given to me. The reason my cart was filled up was with the free items which has no limit, so I put four boxes of Triscuits there, same with bread. She didn't stop there, she kept on and on berating me. I thought I was going to pass out, I was overwhelmed with feelings of embarassment, grief, dread. I felt demoralized. I tried to speak up on my behalf by apologizing but she spoke over the top of me. Finally some other workers came in to my defense and she picked up the bag of bread and flung it acrosss the room it at me. At which time I immediately sat down on the floor in shock. I did get hugs from some of the volunteers there apologizing for her behaviors, but all the way home I had to admit to myself, this goes on all the time, people being abusive towards those less needy and disabled.Stuff like this happens to me weekly. Something about being disabled and walking with a cane seems to set one up for abuse. My cat, I left at my vets office yesterday for 3 hours, waiting for his eye medication to take effect so his eye pressures could be checked. When I came back, I found him in an exam room cryng his head off. He was soaking wet from head to tail, shaking and frightened. I asked the receptionist what had happened and she said she didn't know. He was supposed to be put in a cage, with at the very least, a box of litter, but here he was in a room which he could have gotten out of if anyone had opened the door to the street and I would have lost him. My vet has not been charging me because I cannot afford the office visits and this seems to have irked the receptionist who glares at me when I come in. She makes a big announcement in front of owners in the lobby to remind me what the charge is and if I cannot pay it to speak up then. It's humiliating and embarassing. I don't feel like I can complain because my vet is being kind enough to give me free service. But finding my cat soaking wet in an unsecured exam room, is pushing me closer to complaining about her.The list goes on, it's endless. I don't want to leave my home anymore, I don't want to associate with people anymore. I want to hide away so people can't abuse me anymore. I'm tired of being a target. My life has closed in on me, no quality of life anymore.And to top it off, I have never really dealt with being disabled. Thanks for listeningDebbie