Guest guest Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 My motivation is that I know it works....... I saw it work with my husband and feel like 12 weeks is a doable commitment. Follow the food program!! Do the exercise! When you see the results you WILL be motivated. And take the before pictures!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am 6 weeks into this and cannot believe I have calve muscles. My flab on my arms is going away. My butt looks better.. all these things are motivation to me. fire7child wrote: I was wondering if you could share what you use as motivation. Not so much the why, but the how. My husband has been deployed for 29 months and he will be home in sept. for his 2 week R & R. I have 13 weeks to drop at least 45 pounds (and thats only 1/2 of what i need to lose total) I have been fighting depression since he left and cant seem to get of my butt and do it. I know why i need to, i just dont know how. I really want to be fit and healthy and it will surprise my husband too. thanks in advance Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 Thank you for responding and I tell myself that too but its not getting me up. My mind says " go work out now " but my body doesnt move. I have 3 kids and I lost all the weight with my first 2. With my third I gained the most weight. Im about 85 more than I should be. Could it be that I'm psyching myself out by thinking its hopeless? that Im not as young as I used to be and even if i do lose the weight, ill still look bad? and for those that have lost 80+ pounds, is your skin saggy? will I need surgery at the age of 30 because my body will sag? Maybe I think I've screwed myself beyond repair? > I was wondering if you could share what you use as motivation. Not so > much the why, but the how. My husband has been deployed for 29 months > and he will be home in sept. for his 2 week R & R. I have 13 weeks to > drop at least 45 pounds (and thats only 1/2 of what i need to lose > total) I have been fighting depression since he left and cant seem to > get of my butt and do it. I know why i need to, i just dont know how. > I really want to be fit and healthy and it will surprise my husband too. > > thanks in advance > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 How about adding your kids as a motivation? How much energy do you have for them, and if you suffer from depression I'm sure your energy levels are even lower. You didn't say how old they are, but can you get them involved in your fitness program (BFL is not a diet)? Would they ride bikes while you walk, and later run? It's not hopeless to start exercising and eating better. Maybe all the weight won't come off in the first 12 weeks... maybe it will... how will you know unless you just pick yourself up and get moving. From what I understand, if you lose the weight slowly (1-2 pounds per week), your body better adjusts to the changes of weight loss. Have you taken a look at the before and after photos on the BFL website?... http://www.bodyforlife.com/success/goals/fatloss.asp. Those women don't show signs of flabby skin in their after pictures. What makes me motivated? I want to look better in my 40's than I did in my 30's. When I was younger I always thought I would age " gracefully " ... well the heck with that... I've never looked my age, and I want to keep it that way. Plus, I'm being a good role model for my son, who goes bike riding with me (and complains that I ride too fast). I'm hoping that at some point, I can get him to run with me... and then we can do races together when he's a bit older. K. > > Thank you for responding and I tell myself that too but its not > getting me up. My mind says " go work out now " but my body doesnt move. > I have 3 kids and I lost all the weight with my first 2. With my third > I gained the most weight. Im about 85 more than I should be. > Could it be that I'm psyching myself out by thinking its hopeless? > that Im not as young as I used to be and even if i do lose the weight, > ill still look bad? > and for those that have lost 80+ pounds, is your skin saggy? will I > need surgery at the age of 30 because my body will sag? Maybe I think > I've screwed myself beyond repair? > > > > I was wondering if you could share what you use as > motivation. Not so > > much the why, but the how. My husband has been deployed for 29 months > > and he will be home in sept. for his 2 week R & R. I have 13 weeks to > > drop at least 45 pounds (and thats only 1/2 of what i need to lose > > total) I have been fighting depression since he left and cant seem to > > get of my butt and do it. I know why i need to, i just dont know how. > > I really want to be fit and healthy and it will surprise my husband > too. > > > > thanks in advance > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 My husband was deployed in 04/05...it's tough! I know what you are going thru. I wanted to lose weight also before he came home, so I pretty much starved away 35 pounds on Atkins, it all came back with my first bite of chocolate on Christmas Eve-3 days after his return. I think by doing BFL you will be insuring more success, you will be feeding your body properly and exercising to build lean muscles. Daily 'meditation', not the crossed legged 'oooommmm' stuff, but quiet yourself daily, close your eyes, SEE what you want, put yourself in that moment, FEEL what it will be like to have your hubby be shocked at what he sees in that first look after a long absense. Any time you want to cheat, or miss a workout take yourself there and you will want to walk away from the ***insert trigger food here***. Post often, let the other memebrs of this group help you and support you. Good luck! Kris (army wife for 18 yrs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 Sister, when I read your post it was almost as if I had written it myself 7 months ago.. I won't get into my former struggle though because it will bore you and everyone else senseless. About motivation though, I know it's corny to say but motivation really does grown from doing. Don't give yourself a choice!! Go to the gym and do your workout regardless of how you feel. In the beginning I hated every second of it and I just forced myself to do it.. now I can't get in the gym door quick enough but it took 4 or 5 months before that miracle occurred. About skin, for myself, I haven't had any problem so far. I've lost 30kgs and would still like to lose maybe another 10 or 15 kgs. I still hate my stretch marks but I refuse to spend any more time dwelling on things I can't change. I'm so grateful for what I do have now. I feel as if my former struggles with weight robbed me of my 20's and half of my 30's and I don't want to lose another precious second. Just take the first step and keep going..and I'm sure you'll never look back. All the best dea > > I was wondering if you could share what you use as > motivation. Not so > > much the why, but the how. My husband has been deployed for 29 months > > and he will be home in sept. for his 2 week R & R. I have 13 weeks to > > drop at least 45 pounds (and thats only 1/2 of what i need to lose > > total) I have been fighting depression since he left and cant seem to > > get of my butt and do it. I know why i need to, i just dont know how. > > I really want to be fit and healthy and it will surprise my husband > too. > > > > thanks in advance > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 Slow down, take it one step at a time, I have around 70-75 to lose, I have 3 c-sections, I am not fooling myself, a 'six pack' is most likely not in my future, but I'll take some saggy skin over diabetes and heart disease anyday! I have heard that exercise and water help with the skin, but alot of it is simple genetics, how elastic is your skin, maybe more than mine, but not as much as mary down the street. I have talked with people who have the skin intially, but it starts to 'shrink' over time. The benefits to getting the weight off will outweigh all the saggy skin issues, so maybe you will have surgery some day, I actually look forward to the time when I can actually make a choice, but wait and see what you have at the end first, don't put the cart before the horse....the energy and stamina you will have will so impress your hubby, and family, it's not worth the stress at this time to worry about it....YOU WILL DO THIS! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2007 Report Share Posted May 25, 2007 It is hard for busy, exhausted, large moms to get started finding a way back to wellness. I can relate. I have a 7 and a 14 year old. BFL got me from a size 20 to a size 10. I am currently a size 14 for various reasons, but I am heading for the size 12, not the size 16 Be kind to yourself as you would to your beloved sister or a best friend. You don't have to change 100% over night. On my worst motivation days...I say to myself, " Well, I don't feel like exercising, but I will just do it for 5 minutes anyway because I really want to start being healthier. " Stand up, dance to music, or put on a video if you want " company " . I like the old videos... Powter (Burn Fat and Get Fit) and (Dance Your Pants Off). The one is especially motivating as 1/2 the folks have made big transformations or are half-way through one. Can you tell I am over 50? Breathe...smile... Get up an hour earlier than the kids (Tell yourself you can head back to bed in 10 minutes if you aren't feeling good.) 99% of the time the breathing and the music make me feel great. A few days/weeks later, you'll be heading out for a walk/jog for aerobic time. Right after exercising, have a BFL meal and head to the grocery store to stock up on the frozen veggies and lean proteins that will get you through the first couple of weeks. Clean out the " junk " as you restock the 'frig and pantry. Listen to the free interviews at www.bodychangers.com. Take it one moment at a time. Keep drinking water and breathing deep M. > > Thank you for responding and I tell myself that too but its not > getting me up. My mind says " go work out now " but my body doesnt move. > I have 3 kids and I lost all the weight with my first 2. With my third > I gained the most weight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2007 Report Share Posted May 25, 2007 my favorite motivation is watching " the biggest loser " on tv. i've been watching marathons (and lately there have been a few for past seasons) on cable tv so it was easy to see the transformation of the contestants who lasted past two or three weeks. i'm not an obese person and i'm not too overly overwieght, but i could lose some weight. seeing the transformation of the people on the show, seeing how hard these people worked to look good, and wanting to be healthier (for themselves and their families/friends) makes me want to keep trying. it's ok to struggle with something, with anything in life, as long as you know you can get somethng good out of it at the end and you can maintain it. by the way, i use some of the exercises they do in the show for myself. > > I was wondering if you could share what you use as motivation. Not so > much the why, but the how. My husband has been deployed for 29 months > and he will be home in sept. for his 2 week R & R. I have 13 weeks to > drop at least 45 pounds (and thats only 1/2 of what i need to lose > total) I have been fighting depression since he left and cant seem to > get of my butt and do it. I know why i need to, i just dont know how. > I really want to be fit and healthy and it will surprise my husband too. > > thanks in advance Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 25, 2007 Report Share Posted May 25, 2007 My husband was career navy for 20 years so boy do I know how it feels to be in your shoes. One thing I did that help me a lot was I bought a pretty dress in a size I felt I should be able to fit into if I stayed dedicated to my food plan and workouts. Then I hung it up on the out side of my bedroom closet door. every time I walked into my room and when I went to bed at night there it would be reminding me of my goal. I would imagine how great I would look once I fit ino that dress. I am please to say I was able to fit into that dress when he returned home and was it a great feeling. It is a motivation I have used since then this challange I bought a great little white bikini in a size 5 I am determined to fit into it by the end of the 12 weeks. Seing it several times a day helps to keep me motivated. > > I was wondering if you could share what you use as motivation. Not so > much the why, but the how. My husband has been deployed for 29 months > and he will be home in sept. for his 2 week R & R. I have 13 weeks to > drop at least 45 pounds (and thats only 1/2 of what i need to lose > total) I have been fighting depression since he left and cant seem to > get of my butt and do it. I know why i need to, i just dont know how. > I really want to be fit and healthy and it will surprise my husband too. > > thanks in advance > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2007 Report Share Posted May 26, 2007 wow, this group moves really fast, hehe Thank you all for responding. I think someone asked how old my kids are-Theyre 4, 7, and 12. I tried taking the kids out, but we live in a newly developed neighborhood, there are no sidewalks, and there are some real jerks driving down the street at 70mph. I do have a treadmill, bowflex and weigh bench in my garage so I have everything i need. So I'm assuming it is because Im depressed. I get enough sleep at night, but still take 2-3 hour naps. I get tired at 10-11pm even though Ive napped so it seems Im sleeping forever. Im either in bed, on the couch, or in front of the comp to talk to my husband. i feel like crap and i want to work out. i tell myself i want to 10 times a day-what the heck is wrong with me? i need to snap out of this but I know that its because my husband is gone. I was so happy before he left. I was working out and things were perfect. and now im just making excuses and letting myself be sad because hes gone. Thanks for all the advice. I need to wake up, fast. > > > I was wondering if you could share what you use as > > motivation. Not so > > > much the why, but the how. My husband has been deployed for 29 months > > > and he will be home in sept. for his 2 week R & R. I have 13 weeks to > > > drop at least 45 pounds (and thats only 1/2 of what i need to lose > > > total) I have been fighting depression since he left and cant seem to > > > get of my butt and do it. I know why i need to, i just dont know how. > > > I really want to be fit and healthy and it will surprise my husband > > too. > > > > > > thanks in advance > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2007 Report Share Posted May 26, 2007 how was the bowflex when you did work on it? there are a bunch of versions of it, so which one did you get? i'm just curious because i'm thinking of getting one. they seem like a neat equipment. anastasia http://www.xanga.com/xrciser > > I do have a > treadmill, bowflex and weigh bench in my garage so I have everything i > need. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 26, 2007 Report Share Posted May 26, 2007 Anastasia, I have the bench plus the Lat attachment. I didnt get the leg attachment since there are so many leg exercises you can do with out it. Plus I only do legs every other week because they bulk up quickly. > > > > I do have a > > treadmill, bowflex and weigh bench in my garage so I have everything i > > need. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 15, 2008 Report Share Posted January 15, 2008 > What's your motivation to keep going? Motivation for my cardio mornings is that it is now broken into " chunks " , which helps. Before, I would get on the nordic track and crank along for 45 minutes. BOR-ing! hard to stay motivated. Though I was starting to do some intervals with weights, which would make the time pass more quickly. But since I have been doing BFL, I do a 10 minute warm-up on the NT at an easy to moderate pace. Then I do interval training on the NT for 20 minutes (1 to 1.5 minutes all-out, and then 2 minutes for my HR to drop back down, rinse, repeat). Then back to a moderately paced cool down and a few abs thrown in for good measure. The chunks make it more bearable, and thus more enjoyable. As far as motivation for actually doing it? Guilt! Guilt has always been a major source of motivation for me ( " Oh, I'll feel so guilty if I don't get up at 5 AM to exercise. " ) Dana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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