Guest guest Posted November 14, 2006 Report Share Posted November 14, 2006 Interesting. Even when I was overweight and out of shape, I never felt out of place at the Y--I figured that's where I was *supposed* to be. On the other hand, I used to feel embarassed when I went out to eat, especially if it was a buffet. I always felt like people were watching me and keeping track of what I ate. Naomi ****** > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > BJ in Idaho > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite for > not > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > <http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Great topic!!!! I don't dig on the gym for a different reason: It's not weight, I simply hate to go out without my hair done at least decently etc. and I have no desire to buy gym clothing. (I'll take pants from Target with snowflakes on them and wear them to workout in June, thank you very much.) I do the BFL diet which for me has been a lifesaver, as I used to do WW points and though it worked, it did not fit for me (I dropped too much weight and I did not include enough protein to develop a killer body.) I chose to workout from home, using heavier weights with Austin Daily Workout and her Fit and Lite program which I TIVO on Lifetime and do at a time which is convenient for my schedule 6 days a week. I can sweat, swear, laugh my butt off, and just be " ME! " for goodness sakes. I am in the zone with my own personal trainer () in the complete comfort of my own home. I Know it's not the BFL workout, but I can stick to it, see amazing results and never be discouraged from a workout. ~Jess DRAGONMAMMA wrote: Interesting. Even when I was overweight and out of shape, I never felt out of place at the Y--I figured that's where I was *supposed* to be. On the other hand, I used to feel embarassed when I went out to eat, especially if it was a buffet. I always felt like people were watching me and keeping track of what I ate. Naomi ****** > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > BJ in Idaho > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite for > not > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > <http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/> > > --------------------------------- Everyone is raving about the all-new Yahoo! Mail beta. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Right on. I never ever felt uncomfortable at the gym (even at over 300 pounds)because I was there and I was always given all kinds of support. If the gym you're at is judgmental about size - it isn't a good gym. Buffets were always a nightmare for me because I felt that everybody was scrutinizing everything on my plate - which is also kind of bunko because I don't think *most* people pay much attention to what anybody else eats. http://lybbe1631.blogspot.com/ > > Interesting. Even when I was overweight and out of shape, I never felt > out of place at the Y--I figured that's where I was *supposed* to be. > > On the other hand, I used to feel embarassed when I went out to eat, > especially if it was a buffet. I always felt like people were watching > me and keeping track of what I ate. > > Naomi > ****** > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite for > > not > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > > <http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/> > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 I think embarrassment is an increasingly common issue that prevents people from exercising. Even my friend who is a size 10-12 (assuming US and Australian sizes are the same) was trying to lose as much weight as she could before she joined the gym. One of the reasons that I do my cardio at home is because I hate going to the gym and feeling embarrassed to leave after 20 minutes. Normally, I feel humiliated just being there in my baggy black trackpants and daggy oversized black t-shirt whilst everyone else is wearing cute shorts and bra like tops etc. So today for the first time since I started there a month ago, I bravely wore a low cut t- shirt. I have small breasts so I barely have any cleavage, and you should have seen the glaring look one fit looking lady gave me. Geez if looks could kill. Also, I am not familiar with even half of the equipment but I feel embarrassed to even ask the trainer. When I joined he offered to design me a program (for a cost), but I told him that I had one that I wanted to try. So ever since then I feel as if I can't even ask him anything or even talk to him about my program. Sometimes, I wish he would at least correct my form when I know its bad, but he never does. Sorry I am venting. I miss my non-trendy gym :/ On the other hand, I think embarrassment can have some advantages. ie. two years ago when I was going to a different gym I would go at a time when I knew these two huge body builders were going to be there because it shamed me into working harder. dea xx > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > BJ in Idaho > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite for > not > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Wow! I am truly sorry that you're having such a bad gym experience. I guess if that happened to me I'd never go either. My gym is a huge chain, but all locations operate in exactly the same way. You have to pay a trainer for advice, but they have 'member-ambassadors' to show you how to use equipment properly so you don't get hurt. Of course there are gym bunnies in cute outfits, but there are just as many chunky, overweight women and men. You're paying for exactly the same service as everybody else - and you deserve to get the same benefits. You'll get out what you put in. Ignore what everybody else is doing and work your own program. It might help to keep a notebook that you can keep your records in - that way you'll look efficient and in charge of your own program. Don't worry about what anybody else is thinking - if they're lookin' at you, they ain't payin' enough attention to their own program. > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite > for > > not > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Clearly you crossed the abyss! Great job doing that! That's all that matters, getting in your workout 6 days a week. Make the muscles hurt, somehow. Reach beyond your comfort level. I'm going to search for that and tivo it too. Lifetime you said? I enjoy my weight workout but every once in awhile I like to shake things up. Thanks for sharing! > Interesting. Even when I was overweight and out of shape, I never felt > out of place at the Y--I figured that's where I was *supposed* to be. > > On the other hand, I used to feel embarassed when I went out to eat, > especially if it was a buffet. I always felt like people were watching > me and keeping track of what I ate. > > Naomi > ****** > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite for > > not > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > > <http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/> > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Everyone is raving about the all-new Yahoo! Mail beta. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 > I can't help but wonder how much of the negativity is just your > perception. Just in general, I think that when we think other people are focused on us (its 'all about me' syndrome) when they are really are not (because they have the 'all about themselves' syndrome! LoL!). You would probably be surprised that they werent even looking AT you, more like right thru you (which sometimes is worse depending on how you feel about that!) I could finish a set and be making a face about how much it just hurt (argh) and glance your way and you take that face I'm making to mean something about your appearance! Soooo misconstrued low selfesteem thinking! Believe me when I tell you that people are just very into their own little worlds. Repeat that over and over. Feel good about yourself that you are taking steps to better yourself and damn it, its just too bad if someone wants to actually gawk at you. Why should you care? Who the @#! are they that it matters? They are just minutes of your life, and yet we dwell on them as if they are the big picture. Refocus, aim for your goals and leave them in the dust behind you. joni ----------------------------------------------------- *Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter & those who matter don't mind.* - Dr Seuss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 I used to lift at a hard core Gold's gym. There were people there who competed and their presence alone was enough to keep me going and pushing harder. I miss that too. And, if you ask nicely, people are totally willing to give tips on form. But, I only ask those who obviously know what they're talking about. And, you may want to consider a 1-hr Q & A about your program (pay). I think it might be worth it. And probably they will continue to be friendly long after you pay for 1 hr of support. Or, just ask the trainer directly if you can ask questions or do you need an appt. I find people to be so helpful if you approach them with a smile. And, maybe he holds back on purpose, knowing that most people are very sensitive to input. How about saying, " if you notice that my form is bad, feel free to speak up! " This will establish that you are open for suggestions. Take care, keep up the good work! > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite > for > > not > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Well, I don't know about the breast envy and I could be overly paranoid but there was just something about the way in which she scowled at me after I smiled at her that led me to think it wasn't all my imagination . My apologises if my post was extremely negative, since the article was essentially about gym embarrassment, I was trying to share some of the ways in which I feel it myself. It's not easy to share or admit these things. Not all of us have it all together and I readily admit that I am screwed up in a lot of ways. I guess I was also mostly contrasting in my mind, the new gym as opposed to the previous one I attended which was very friendly, supportive, helpful, etc. Thank you for highlighting that my attitude does need improvement if I want things to get better. All the best dea xx > > > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite > > for > > > not > > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > > <http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/> > > > > > > > > > Messages in this topic > > <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bodyforlifewomensclub2/message/211142; _ylc=X3oDMTM4MjhiNXBjBF9TAzk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMx NzA1NjU1NDg4BG1zZ0lkAzIxMTE1NARzZWMDZnRyBHNsawN2dHBjBHN0aW1lAzExNjM1O DMyMDEEdHBjSWQDMjExMTQy> > > (5) Reply (via web post) > > <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bodyforlifewomensclub2/post;_ylc=X3oDM TJyNGcya2FiBF9TAzk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1ND g4BG1zZ0lkAzIxMTE1NARzZWMDZnRyBHNsawNycGx5BHN0aW1lAzExNjM1ODMyMDE-? act=reply & messageNum=211154> > > | > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 I've been enjoying this discussion because I've had some similar thoughts/insecurities. I sometimes wonder if I'm known as the girl with the flabby, jelly- butt who keeps changing the speed on the treadmill every minute while she runs and then makes a complete racket and looks like she's going to pass out on the last one. Then I wonder if I'm known as the girl who can't make up her mind about which weight she can handle as I'm walking back to the rack to get the next set (5 times). NO ONE in my gym does a program where they switch weights, that I've ever seen. But then...I imagine myself in a couple months being the girl that people either stop and ask, " What have you been doing? You look great! " or are wishing that they had the guts to ask. And sometime this spring or summer when my jelly-butt has turned to steel and I run on the treadmill, there will be all these people walking or running slowly holding on to the rails thinking to themselves, " I wonder if I should change it up a bit. " And then on a more practical note, could those of you who feel a little unsure of yourselves on the machines, bring someone along with you that you trust and that you know has a knowledge about the gym? I try to go with my husband from time to time so that I can ask him questions I'm too embarrased to ask anyone else. There is a very comforting feeling when we are there together (I don't usually have the luxury of doing this because we have 3 kids) and I know he won't make fun of me for my " dumb " questions. I too, feel insecure about how I'm dressed because most of the girls/women at my gym look amazing and always are so cutely dressed. In the end, though, as someone else mentioned, I don't go to the gym to impress any one. I'm not there looking for friends or for a date. I go there to get the job done and get out. It really DOESN'T matter and I think we would all benefit from getting our thoughts off of our concerns of what others are thinking of us. There is this ONE really over-weight girl who has the guts to walk into this gym and workout. I admire her courage and her desire to change, and although I'm sure she feels like people are judging her, it's really just the opposite (at least for me)and I would like to pat her on the back. Well, ladies, here's to gym memberships and to NOT CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF US. Have a great day!! > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite > for > > not > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Gosh, now I am starting to think I am even more screwed up and self centered than I initially thought I was. Perhaps, these things shouldn't matter to me but I'm obviously not that enlightened as yet to be immune to the opinions of others. Thank you for the advice, I'll try to implement it at the gym this morning, as I really have enough to worry about without dwelling on things that are not useful. All the best dea xx > > I can't help but wonder how much of the negativity is just your > > perception. > > Just in general, I think that when we think other people are focused > on us (its 'all about me' syndrome) when they are really are not > (because they have the 'all about themselves' syndrome! LoL!). You > would probably be surprised that they werent even looking AT you, > more like right thru you (which sometimes is worse depending on how > you feel about that!) I could finish a set and be making a face > about how much it just hurt (argh) and glance your way and you take > that face I'm making to mean something about your appearance! Soooo > misconstrued low selfesteem thinking! Believe me when I tell you > that people are just very into their own little worlds. Repeat that > over and over. Feel good about yourself that you are taking steps to > better yourself and damn it, its just too bad if someone wants to > actually gawk at you. Why should you care? Who the @#! are they that > it matters? They are just minutes of your life, and yet we dwell on > them as if they are the big picture. Refocus, aim for your goals and > leave them in the dust behind you. > > > joni > ----------------------------------------------------- > *Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't > matter & those who matter don't mind.* - Dr Seuss > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Thank you, for the kind words After having read some other responses to my post, I am now wondering how much of the unpleasant experiences are actually of my own making. Hopefully, things will get better as I improve my attitude. I'm off to the gym now.. hehe.. have a good day all the best dea xx my > > > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite > > for > > > not > > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Dea/Green Violet: Heya, baby! Thnx for speaking up!!! That part is what this group is for, I thought, SUPPORT!!!!! Although I can't relate (in the degree you are speaking) I appreciate the bravery you had to at least say it. I guarantee it helped someone on this board... IMHO Jilabil just put it very succintly: " Well, ladies, here's to gym memberships and to NOT CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF US. Have a great day!! " Please be proud you are haulin your bum in there. Crank up your iPod and groove to your own tune...and thnx for being brave to be so honest! I admire that...it's a sign of emotional intelligence. Even when a lady gives you a crusty look...it is more about her negative vibe than your own. Hold your head proud and strut your (in my case still-cellulite-ridden) stuff...SISTAH! lil > > > I can't help but wonder how much of the negativity is just your > > > perception. > > > > Just in general, I think that when we think other people are > focused > > on us (its 'all about me' syndrome) when they are really are not > > (because they have the 'all about themselves' syndrome! LoL!). You > > would probably be surprised that they werent even looking AT you, > > more like right thru you (which sometimes is worse depending on > how > > you feel about that!) I could finish a set and be making a face > > about how much it just hurt (argh) and glance your way and you > take > > that face I'm making to mean something about your appearance! > Soooo > > misconstrued low selfesteem thinking! Believe me when I tell you > > that people are just very into their own little worlds. Repeat > that > > over and over. Feel good about yourself that you are taking steps > to > > better yourself and damn it, its just too bad if someone wants to > > actually gawk at you. Why should you care? Who the @#! are they > that > > it matters? They are just minutes of your life, and yet we dwell > on > > them as if they are the big picture. Refocus, aim for your goals > and > > leave them in the dust behind you. > > > > > > joni > > ----------------------------------------------------- > > *Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind > don't > > matter & those who matter don't mind.* - Dr Seuss > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 LOL, Dea, we're all screwed up in some way(s)! You may be right about that lady giving you the scowl, the thing is, do you know her? Do you really care what someone you don't know, who knows nothing about you thinks about you? I am also affected by what other's think, but my husband is teaching me the " who cares " method. It's really great, when I start to worry about what someone thinks he'll say " Who cares? " or " Why do you care? " . The why one always get's me because why do I care? I don't! I turn to people who truly know me and worry about what they think about me, and most importantly I've learned to turn to me and what I think of me. If I think well of myself, meaning I truly love myself - not I think I'm the neatest and best person on earth, everything else starts to fall into place. You take much better care of others, when you take good care of you. I totally think that Dragonmomma made a fantastic point. I used to model (MANY moons ago) and mostly did photo shots since I'm way too short for runway. However, every now and then they'd run short (no pun intended) and I'd get to fill in. I'll never forget we were doing a specialty runway for an exclusive club and the walk was all through the center of the room. It was for a women's " power " club, so a lot of exectutives...not very attractive women (sorry, but they really weren't). These perfectly built gorgeous women were truly going out of their minds wondering what these women thought of them, and it wasn't because they wanted jobs in their companies! They were that insecure! I talked to some of the women afterwards (I wanted the job...) and they were totally paranoid about how they compared to the models. It suddenly dawned on me that there was a room full of women and I couldn't find one that was " judging " anyone by their looks, they were all wondering if their outfit was ok or their hair. They were all wondering what everyone else in the room thought of them and it didn't matter how gorgeous or plain the woman was. Granted there are a few out there that will be thinking exactley what you think they are thinking...but those are the ones that you should really care the least about! I think women come with pre-programmed insecurity and we have to overcome that, not going overcompensating and becoming oversecure. Hope that made sense, Yvette > > > > > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people > cite > > > for > > > > not > > > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > > > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > > > <http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/> > > > > > > > > > > > > > Messages in this topic > > > > <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bodyforlifewomensclub2/message/211142; > _ylc=X3oDMTM4MjhiNXBjBF9TAzk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMx > NzA1NjU1NDg4BG1zZ0lkAzIxMTE1NARzZWMDZnRyBHNsawN2dHBjBHN0aW1lAzExNjM1O > DMyMDEEdHBjSWQDMjExMTQy> > > > (5) Reply (via web post) > > > > <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bodyforlifewomensclub2/post;_ylc=X3oDM > TJyNGcya2FiBF9TAzk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1ND > g4BG1zZ0lkAzIxMTE1NARzZWMDZnRyBHNsawNycGx5BHN0aW1lAzExNjM1ODMyMDE-? > act=reply & messageNum=211154> > > > | > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 Lil!!!!!!!!!!! hehe.. thank you for those unbelievably sweet words and kind support. You made my day!!!!!!!!!!! I did my cardio in the gym today, and I did go in with a much more positive and friendly attitude following everyone's advice. I talked to a guy I knew from my former gym and he was pretty awesome and supportive. He was telling me to " throw the f***ing scales away " after I was telling him that my scale weight hadn't changed much lately. I didn't take to much notice of others. I just went in to get the job done. How's everything going with you since you started back? I hope it's all great. You sound fantastic! By the way, I was curious as to how long, you and other members here have been doing BFL now? All the best Sis dea xx > > > > I can't help but wonder how much of the negativity is just your > > > > perception. > > > > > > Just in general, I think that when we think other people are > > focused > > > on us (its 'all about me' syndrome) when they are really are not > > > (because they have the 'all about themselves' syndrome! LoL!). > You > > > would probably be surprised that they werent even looking AT you, > > > more like right thru you (which sometimes is worse depending on > > how > > > you feel about that!) I could finish a set and be making a face > > > about how much it just hurt (argh) and glance your way and you > > take > > > that face I'm making to mean something about your appearance! > > Soooo > > > misconstrued low selfesteem thinking! Believe me when I tell you > > > that people are just very into their own little worlds. Repeat > > that > > > over and over. Feel good about yourself that you are taking steps > > to > > > better yourself and damn it, its just too bad if someone wants to > > > actually gawk at you. Why should you care? Who the @#! are they > > that > > > it matters? They are just minutes of your life, and yet we dwell > > on > > > them as if they are the big picture. Refocus, aim for your goals > > and > > > leave them in the dust behind you. > > > > > > > > > joni > > > ----------------------------------------------------- > > > *Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind > > don't > > > matter & those who matter don't mind.* - Dr Seuss > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 Hi Yvette, Thank you for your post, it made perfect sense hun. About the lady, I don't know why I care. Maybe it's the fact that I live in a relatively small town (pop. 18,000), where complete anonimity is not really an option or maybe its the fact that I grew up in a small country town (pop. 2000) that I kinda expect people to treat each other with a certain level of decency that I felt she didn't really exhibit. Anyway, thank you for sharing that anecdote about the models and executives, I really enjoyed reading your post. I wish I was more like your husband. My ex was often telling me similiar things as well. I think it was a good point you made about women's pre-programmed insecurity. I could say more about this in terms of my own experience and upbringing but I wouldn't want to bore everyone senseless..hehe. Thanks again and all the best dea xx > > > > > > > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > > > > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > > > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people > > cite > > > > for > > > > > not > > > > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > > > > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > > > > <http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Messages in this topic > > > > > > > <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bodyforlifewomensclub2/message/211142; > > > _ylc=X3oDMTM4MjhiNXBjBF9TAzk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMx > > > NzA1NjU1NDg4BG1zZ0lkAzIxMTE1NARzZWMDZnRyBHNsawN2dHBjBHN0aW1lAzExNjM1O > > DMyMDEEdHBjSWQDMjExMTQy> > > > > (5) Reply (via web post) > > > > > > > <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bodyforlifewomensclub2/post;_ylc=X3oDM > > > TJyNGcya2FiBF9TAzk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1ND > > g4BG1zZ0lkAzIxMTE1NARzZWMDZnRyBHNsawNycGx5BHN0aW1lAzExNjM1ODMyMDE-? > > act=reply & messageNum=211154> > > > > | > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 Ouch Amy!! ya poor girl!! Normally, I do my cardio on an exercise bike but this morning I decided to do it on the treamill. Thank goodness the 20 mins ended when it did cause any longer and I would have thrown up all over the machine. How lovely!! I > > > > > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people > cite > > > for > > > > not > > > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > > > http://www.msnbc. msn.com/id/ 15598063/ from/ET/ > > > <http://www.msnbc. msn.com/id/ 15598063/ from/ET/> > > > > > > > > > > > > > Messages in this topic > > > > <http://groups. yahoo.com/ group/bodyforlif ewomensclub2/ message/211142; > _ylc=X3oDMTM4MjhiNX BjBF9TAzk3MzU5Nz E0BGdycElkAzYyOT M4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZA Mx > NzA1NjU1NDg4BG1zZ0l kAzIxMTE1NARzZWM DZnRyBHNsawN2dHB jBHN0aW1lAzExNjM 1O > DMyMDEEdHBjSWQDMjEx MTQy> > > > (5) Reply (via web post) > > > > <http://groups. yahoo.com/ group/bodyforlif ewomensclub2/ post;_ylc= X3oDM > TJyNGcya2FiBF9TAzk3 MzU5NzE0BGdycElk AzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jw c3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1 ND > g4BG1zZ0lkAzIxMTE1N ARzZWMDZnRyBHNsa wNycGx5BHN0aW1lA zExNjM1ODMyMDE- ? > act=reply & messageNu m=211154> > > > | > > > > > > > > > _____________________________________________________________________ _______________ > Sponsored Link > > Mortgage rates near 39yr lows. > $310k for $999/mo. Calculate new payment! > www.LowerMyBills.com/lre > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 Years ago when I started this BFL stuff, I was the 200 pounder in the sweats and baggy T-shirt who hated to look in the mirror. I also quickly realized, " Shame on me " as there were 300 pounders in there sweating and showing up everyday too. There were people recovering from strokes. There were 80 year olds dealing with arthritis that were making it to the gym and classes to do the best THEY could. Remember that old saying, " If you see someone without a smile, give them one of yours " ? When I do it, my conscience is clear. They may or may not smile back, but I feel fine. The crowd at my gym is a very mixed bunch. I think I feel more comfortable there because of that blend. But I also know from actually talking to some of the " beautiful, buff folks " that most of them are recovering from obesity, depression, anorexia, surgery, huge health issues, emotional pain, or just trying to stay as healthy as they can while they support a loved one through some of these things. I smile at everyone, and don't hesitate to say, " How's it going? " to them to. You'd be amazed what we all share in there. I would recommend paying for a trainer for a month to leap into a more confident gym mode. I still have issues with looking at my face in the gym mirrors, but hey, years from now, I know I'll wish I could have THIS face back again Is the glass half empty or half full? Cyber Hugs, M. was 205 in pain now 150 feeling great still fighting the celulite age 52 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2006 Report Share Posted November 17, 2006 Really, really nice post . Every time you write something, you steer me in a positive direction. I know there's really not much point in being physically attractive if that's as far as it goes, but my lack of confidence at the gym holds me back from making contact with others. After reading your post though, I do feel that I can make a real effort to emulate your example. Your giving and compassionate spirit is really touching. All the best dea xx > > Years ago when I started this BFL stuff, I was the 200 pounder in the > sweats and baggy T-shirt who hated to look in the mirror. > I also quickly realized, " Shame on me " as there were 300 pounders in > there sweating and showing up everyday too. There were people > recovering from strokes. There were 80 year olds dealing with > arthritis that were making it to the gym and classes to do the best > THEY could. > > Remember that old saying, " If you see someone without a smile, give > them one of yours " ? When I do it, my conscience is clear. They may > or may not smile back, but I feel fine. > > The crowd at my gym is a very mixed bunch. I think I feel more > comfortable there because of that blend. But I also know from > actually talking to some of the " beautiful, buff folks " that most of > them are recovering from obesity, depression, anorexia, surgery, huge > health issues, emotional pain, or just trying to stay as healthy as > they can while they support a loved one through some of these things. > I smile at everyone, and don't hesitate to say, " How's it going? " to > them to. > You'd be amazed what we all share in there. > I would recommend paying for a trainer for a month to leap into a more > confident gym mode. > > I still have issues with looking at my face in the gym mirrors, but > hey, years from now, I know I'll wish I could have THIS face back again > > Is the glass half empty or half full? > > Cyber Hugs, > M. > was 205 in pain > now 150 feeling great > still fighting the celulite > age 52 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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