Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 I can't help but wonder how much of the negativity is just your perception. F'r instance; the glaring look that woman gave you? She may have been envying your small breasts. (Don't laugh--I have a natural bosom many women pay thousands of dollars to get, but I would love to have small breasts!) Or, she just may have been grimacing because she had a tough exercise coming up. Or maybe it was gas. I seriously doubt that anyone is noticing if you're there for 20 minutes or 2 hours. Most people are too busy doing their own thang to pay much attention to what anyone else is doing. At the Y I go to, the employees double as personal trainers. Yes, you can hire them to give you their undivided attention, but as employees they are required to help you out when you have questions about the equipment. Most of them are quite generous with their time; right now I've got one employee who spends about 15 minutes with me on an upper-body routine every time I go in. Next best thing to a personal trainer! I've never, ever seen any employee or fellow Y member be the least bit discouraging to an out-of-shape member. On the contrary, everyone seems more than willing to jump in with help or encouragement to anyone who needs it. Naomi ******* > > I think embarrassment is an increasingly common issue that prevents > people from exercising. Even my friend who is a size 10-12 (assuming > US and Australian sizes are the same) was trying to lose as much > weight as she could before she joined the gym. > > One of the reasons that I do my cardio at home is because I hate > going to the gym and feeling embarrassed to leave after 20 minutes. > > Normally, I feel humiliated just being there in my baggy black > trackpants and daggy oversized black t-shirt whilst everyone else is > wearing cute shorts and bra like tops etc. So today for the first > time since I started there a month ago, I bravely wore a low cut t- > shirt. I have small breasts so I barely have any cleavage, and you > should have seen the glaring look one fit looking lady gave me. Geez > if looks could kill. > > Also, I am not familiar with even half of the equipment but I feel > embarrassed to even ask the trainer. When I joined he offered to > design me a program (for a cost), but I told him that I had one that > I wanted to try. So ever since then I feel as if I can't even ask > him anything or even talk to him about my program. Sometimes, I wish > he would at least correct my form when I know its bad, but he never > does. Sorry I am venting. I miss my non-trendy gym :/ > > On the other hand, I think embarrassment can have some advantages. > ie. two years ago when I was going to a different gym I would go at > a time when I knew these two huge body builders were going to be > there because it shamed me into working harder. > dea xx > > > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite > for > > not > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/ > <http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/15598063/from/ET/> > > > > > Messages in this topic > <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bodyforlifewomensclub2/message/211142;_ylc=X3oDMT\ M4MjhiNXBjBF9TAzk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1NDg4BG1zZ0lkAz\ IxMTE1NARzZWMDZnRyBHNsawN2dHBjBHN0aW1lAzExNjM1ODMyMDEEdHBjSWQDMjExMTQy> > (5) Reply (via web post) > <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bodyforlifewomensclub2/post;_ylc=X3oDMTJyNGcya2Fi\ BF9TAzk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1NDg4BG1zZ0lkAzIxMTE1NARz\ ZWMDZnRyBHNsawNycGx5BHN0aW1lAzExNjM1ODMyMDE-?act=reply & messageNum=211154> > | Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Good point. I've talked to all of the weight room employees, and I specifically told them to let me know if they see me doing something stupid or that needs improvement. I bet they've all gotten their heads bitten off by people who didn't want any advice. Naomi ****** heyjami wrote: > > > And, maybe he holds back on purpose, knowing that most people are > very sensitive to input. How about saying, " if you notice that my > form is bad, feel free to speak up! " This will establish that you > are open for suggestions. > > Recent Activity > > * > 22 > New Members > <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bodyforlifewomensclub2/members;_ylc=X3oDMTJmMWdza\ jJxBF9TAzk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1NDg4BHNlYwN2dGwEc2xrA\ 3ZtYnJzBHN0aW1lAzExNjM2MTIxOTY-> > > Visit Your Group > <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bodyforlifewomensclub2;_ylc=X3oDMTJlODRrOHQ0BF9TA\ zk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1NDg4BHNlYwN2dGwEc2xrA3ZnaHAEc\ 3RpbWUDMTE2MzYxMjE5Ng--> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Maybe it's because I'm an older (48) woman, or maybe it's because I'm happily married and not cruising, but I just don't care or compare! T-shirt and sweats are my gym " uniform " . I think about the only thing that would embarrass me is if I were to break wind, loudly, while doing a squat! I just know that's going to happen some day. Naomi ****** > > > > I too, feel insecure about how I'm dressed because most of the > girls/women at my gym look amazing and always are so cutely dressed. > In the end, though, as someone else mentioned, I don't go to the gym > to impress any one. I'm not there looking for friends or for a > date. I go there to get the job done and get out. It really DOESN'T > matter and I think we would all benefit from getting our thoughts off > of our concerns of what others are thinking of us. There is this ONE > really over-weight girl who has the guts to walk into this gym and > workout. I admire her courage and her desire to change, and although > I'm sure she feels like people are judging her, it's really just the > opposite (at least for me)and I would like to pat her on the back. > > Well, ladies, here's to gym memberships and to NOT CARING WHAT OTHER > PEOPLE THINK OF US. Have a great day!! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Don't apologize for speaking your mind! Naomi ****** > > Well, I don't know about the breast envy and I could be overly > paranoid but there was just something about the way in which she > scowled at me after I smiled at her that led me to think it wasn't > all my imagination . > > My apologises if my post was extremely negative, since the article > was essentially about gym embarrassment, I was trying to share some > of the ways in which I feel it myself. It's not easy to share or > admit these things. Not all of us have it all together and I readily > admit that I am screwed up in a lot of ways. > > I guess I was also mostly contrasting in my mind, the new gym as > opposed to the previous one I attended which was very friendly, > supportive, helpful, etc. > Thank you for highlighting that my attitude does need improvement if > I want things to get better. > All the best > dea xx > > > > > I can't help but wonder how much of the negativity is just your > > perception. F'r instance; the glaring look that woman gave you? > She may > > have been envying your small breasts. (Don't laugh--I have a > natural > > bosom many women pay thousands of dollars to get, but I would love > to > > have small breasts!) > > > > Or, she just may have been grimacing because she had a tough > exercise > > coming up. Or maybe it was gas. > > > > I seriously doubt that anyone is noticing if you're there for 20 > > minutes or 2 hours. Most people are too busy doing their own thang > to > > pay much attention to what anyone else is doing. > > > > At the Y I go to, the employees double as personal trainers. Yes, > you > > can hire them to give you their undivided attention, but as > employees > > they are required to help you out when you have questions about > the > > equipment. Most of them are quite generous with their time; right > now > > I've got one employee who spends about 15 minutes with me on an > > upper-body routine every time I go in. Next best thing to a > personal > > trainer! > > > > I've never, ever seen any employee or fellow Y member be the least > bit > > discouraging to an out-of-shape member. On the contrary, everyone > seems > > more than willing to jump in with help or encouragement to anyone > who > > needs it. > > > > Naomi > > ******* > > Recent Activity > > * > 23 > New Members > <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bodyforlifewomensclub2/members;_ylc=X3oDMTJmOG9jd\ m9rBF9TAzk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1NDg4BHNlYwN2dGwEc2xrA\ 3ZtYnJzBHN0aW1lAzExNjM2MjQzMTQ-> > > Visit Your Group > <http://groups.yahoo.com/group/bodyforlifewomensclub2;_ylc=X3oDMTJlMXV0Mm5jBF9TA\ zk3MzU5NzE0BGdycElkAzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1NDg4BHNlYwN2dGwEc2xrA3ZnaHAEc\ 3RpbWUDMTE2MzYyNDMxNA--> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 one time - I was trying to be cool and not hold on to the bars on the elliptical. Cool I was not! I slipped off and went crashing sideways into one of those tall revolving step machines. Nothing like the sound of fat on metal to ge some attention! Re: Cool article Well, I don't know about the breast envy and I could be overly paranoid but there was just something about the way in which she scowled at me after I smiled at her that led me to think it wasn't all my imagination . My apologises if my post was extremely negative, since the article was essentially about gym embarrassment, I was trying to share some of the ways in which I feel it myself. It's not easy to share or admit these things. Not all of us have it all together and I readily admit that I am screwed up in a lot of ways. I guess I was also mostly contrasting in my mind, the new gym as opposed to the previous one I attended which was very friendly, supportive, helpful, etc. Thank you for highlighting that my attitude does need improvement if I want things to get better. All the best dea xx > > > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite > > for > > > not > > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > > http://www.msnbc. msn.com/id/ 15598063/ from/ET/ > > <http://www.msnbc. msn.com/id/ 15598063/ from/ET/> > > > > > > > > > Messages in this topic > > <http://groups. yahoo.com/ group/bodyforlif ewomensclub2/ message/211142; _ylc=X3oDMTM4MjhiNX BjBF9TAzk3MzU5Nz E0BGdycElkAzYyOT M4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZA Mx NzA1NjU1NDg4BG1zZ0l kAzIxMTE1NARzZWM DZnRyBHNsawN2dHB jBHN0aW1lAzExNjM 1O DMyMDEEdHBjSWQDMjEx MTQy> > > (5) Reply (via web post) > > <http://groups. yahoo.com/ group/bodyforlif ewomensclub2/ post;_ylc= X3oDM TJyNGcya2FiBF9TAzk3 MzU5NzE0BGdycElk AzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jw c3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1 ND g4BG1zZ0lkAzIxMTE1N ARzZWMDZnRyBHNsa wNycGx5BHN0aW1lA zExNjM1ODMyMDE- ? act=reply & messageNu m=211154> > > | > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Sponsored Link Mortgage rates near 39yr lows. $310k for $999/mo. Calculate new payment! www.LowerMyBills.com/lre Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 Maybe it¹s the 48 thing. I don¹t seem to give a crap either! If my hair is sticking out, I put on a ball cap. I endeavor to find clean gym clothes every morning and try to be sure not to step in a dog pile on my way in, but that¹s about as good as it gets! A lot of people in the gym do pay attention to me because I lift so much more than almost every one else, but I am the friendly sort so it works out. Last week some guy asked me for a copy of my workout. I was going to blow him off and then I walked up to the front desk and made them copy it for him. He¹s a cool guy and he spotted for me a couple of times the next day. The first challenge I did all sorts of people were coming up to me asking what I was doing because they NOTICED my weight loss. That¹s a great feeling. > Maybe it's because I'm an older (48) woman, or maybe it's because I'm > happily married and not cruising, but I just don't care or compare! > T-shirt and sweats are my gym " uniform " . > > I think about the only thing that would embarrass me is if I were to > break wind, loudly, while doing a squat! I just know that's going to > happen some day. > > Naomi > ****** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 Naomi! You just cracked me up tonight with your breaking wind comment! That would be my fear too. ha! I will be 48 in January btw.... Jeanie Re: Re: Cool article Maybe it's because I'm an older (48) woman, or maybe it's because I'm happily married and not cruising, but I just don't care or compare! T-shirt and sweats are my gym " uniform " . I think about the only thing that would embarrass me is if I were to break wind, loudly, while doing a squat! I just know that's going to happen some day. Naomi ****** > > > > I too, feel insecure about how I'm dressed because most of the > girls/women at my gym look amazing and always are so cutely dressed. > In the end, though, as someone else mentioned, I don't go to the gym > to impress any one. I'm not there looking for friends or for a > date. I go there to get the job done and get out. It really DOESN'T > matter and I think we would all benefit from getting our thoughts off > of our concerns of what others are thinking of us. There is this ONE > really over-weight girl who has the guts to walk into this gym and > workout. I admire her courage and her desire to change, and although > I'm sure she feels like people are judging her, it's really just the > opposite (at least for me)and I would like to pat her on the back. > > Well, ladies, here's to gym memberships and to NOT CARING WHAT OTHER > PEOPLE THINK OF US. Have a great day!! > > > <!-- #ygrp-mlmsg {font-size:13px;font-family:arial,helvetica,clean,sans-serif;} #ygrp-mlmsg table {font-size:inherit;font:100%;} #ygrp-mlmsg select, input, textarea {font:99% arial,helvetica,clean,sans-serif;} #ygrp-mlmsg pre, code {font:115% monospace;} #ygrp-mlmsg * {line-height:1.22em;} #ygrp-text{ font-family:Georgia; } #ygrp-text p{ margin:0 0 1em 0; } #ygrp-tpmsgs{ font-family:Arial; clear:both; } #ygrp-vitnav{ padding-top:10px; font-family:Verdana; font-size:77%; margin:0; } #ygrp-vitnav a{ padding:0 1px; } #ygrp-actbar{ clear:both; margin:25px 0; white-space:nowrap; color:#666; text-align:right; } #ygrp-actbar .left{ float:left; white-space:nowrap; } ..bld{font-weight:bold;} #ygrp-grft{ font-family:Verdana; font-size:77%; padding:15px 0; } #ygrp-ft{ font-family:verdana; font-size:77%; border-top:1px solid #666; padding:5px 0; } #ygrp-mlmsg #logo{ padding-bottom:10px; } #ygrp-vital{ background-color:#e0ecee; margin-bottom:20px; padding:2px 0 8px 8px; } #ygrp-vital #vithd{ font-size:77%; font-family:Verdana; font-weight:bold; color:#333; text-transform:uppercase; } #ygrp-vital ul{ padding:0; margin:2px 0; } #ygrp-vital ul li{ list-style-type:none; clear:both; border:1px solid #e0ecee; } #ygrp-vital ul li .ct{ font-weight:bold; color:#ff7900; float:right; width:2em; text-align:right; padding-right:.5em; } #ygrp-vital ul li .cat{ font-weight:bold; } #ygrp-vital a { text-decoration:none; } #ygrp-vital a:hover{ text-decoration:underline; } #ygrp-sponsor #hd{ color:#999; font-size:77%; } #ygrp-sponsor #ov{ padding:6px 13px; background-color:#e0ecee; margin-bottom:20px; } #ygrp-sponsor #ov ul{ padding:0 0 0 8px; margin:0; } #ygrp-sponsor #ov li{ list-style-type:square; padding:6px 0; font-size:77%; } #ygrp-sponsor #ov li a{ text-decoration:none; font-size:130%; } #ygrp-sponsor #nc { background-color:#eee; margin-bottom:20px; padding:0 8px; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad{ padding:8px 0; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad #hd1{ font-family:Arial; font-weight:bold; color:#628c2a; font-size:100%; line-height:122%; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad a{ text-decoration:none; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad a:hover{ text-decoration:underline; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad p{ margin:0; } o {font-size:0;} ..MsoNormal { margin:0 0 0 0; } #ygrp-text tt{ font-size:120%; } blockquote{margin:0 0 0 4px;} ..replbq {margin:4;} --> ____________________________________________________ Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around http://ph.mail.yahoo.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 I just want to comment on this line about self esteem. I am almost 48 yrs old and most of my life I have been self conscience. When I was only 10 lbs. overweight, I would make excuses not to go to the neighborhood swimming pool with my husband and kids because I was so self conscience. I am now 50 lbs overweight and would give anything to have those years back. A few years ago, I became friends with an awsome young lady. (10 yrs my junior). She is rather large boned and very overweight. BUT she will go to the pool with me and not only strut around in her swimsuit totally unaware or uncaring of the way she looks and get on the diving board to do the most graceful swan dive you would ever see! She has taught me so much to not worry about what others think and to enjoy each day as it brings us to the fullest! I started BFL not for anyone else, but so that I can be healthy and fit and enjoy the rest of my days without health issues. Jeanie Re: Cool article LOL, Dea, we're all screwed up in some way(s)! You may be right about that lady giving you the scowl, the thing is, do you know her? Do you really care what someone you don't know, who knows nothing about you thinks about you? I am also affected by what other's think, but my husband is teaching me the " who cares " method. It's really great, when I start to worry about what someone thinks he'll say " Who cares? " or " Why do you care? " . The why one always get's me because why do I care? I don't! I turn to people who truly know me and worry about what they think about me, and most importantly I've learned to turn to me and what I think of me. If I think well of myself, meaning I truly love myself - not I think I'm the neatest and best person on earth, everything else starts to fall into place. You take much better care of others, when you take good care of you. I totally think that Dragonmomma made a fantastic point. I used to model (MANY moons ago) and mostly did photo shots since I'm way too short for runway. However, every now and then they'd run short (no pun intended) and I'd get to fill in. I'll never forget we were doing a specialty runway for an exclusive club and the walk was all through the center of the room. It was for a women's " power " club, so a lot of exectutives. ..not very attractive women (sorry, but they really weren't). These perfectly built gorgeous women were truly going out of their minds wondering what these women thought of them, and it wasn't because they wanted jobs in their companies! They were that insecure! I talked to some of the women afterwards (I wanted the job...) and they were totally paranoid about how they compared to the models. It suddenly dawned on me that there was a room full of women and I couldn't find one that was " judging " anyone by their looks, they were all wondering if their outfit was ok or their hair. They were all wondering what everyone else in the room thought of them and it didn't matter how gorgeous or plain the woman was. Granted there are a few out there that will be thinking exactley what you think they are thinking...but those are the ones that you should really care the least about! I think women come with pre-programmed insecurity and we have to overcome that, not going overcompensating and becoming oversecure. Hope that made sense, Yvette > > > > > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people > cite > > > for > > > > not > > > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > > > http://www.msnbc. msn.com/id/ 15598063/ from/ET/ > > > <http://www.msnbc. msn.com/id/ 15598063/ from/ET/> > > > > > > > > > > > > > Messages in this topic > > > > <http://groups. yahoo.com/ group/bodyforlif ewomensclub2/ message/211142; > _ylc=X3oDMTM4MjhiNX BjBF9TAzk3MzU5Nz E0BGdycElkAzYyOT M4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZA Mx > NzA1NjU1NDg4BG1zZ0l kAzIxMTE1NARzZWM DZnRyBHNsawN2dHB jBHN0aW1lAzExNjM 1O > DMyMDEEdHBjSWQDMjEx MTQy> > > > (5) Reply (via web post) > > > > <http://groups. yahoo.com/ group/bodyforlif ewomensclub2/ post;_ylc= X3oDM > TJyNGcya2FiBF9TAzk3 MzU5NzE0BGdycElk AzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jw c3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1 ND > g4BG1zZ0lkAzIxMTE1N ARzZWMDZnRyBHNsa wNycGx5BHN0aW1lA zExNjM1ODMyMDE- ? > act=reply & messageNu m=211154> > > > | > > > <!-- #ygrp-mlmsg {font-size:13px;font-family:arial,helvetica,clean,sans-serif;} #ygrp-mlmsg table {font-size:inherit;font:100%;} #ygrp-mlmsg select, input, textarea {font:99% arial,helvetica,clean,sans-serif;} #ygrp-mlmsg pre, code {font:115% monospace;} #ygrp-mlmsg * {line-height:1.22em;} #ygrp-text{ font-family:Georgia; } #ygrp-text p{ margin:0 0 1em 0; } #ygrp-tpmsgs{ font-family:Arial; clear:both; } #ygrp-vitnav{ padding-top:10px; font-family:Verdana; font-size:77%; margin:0; } #ygrp-vitnav a{ padding:0 1px; } #ygrp-actbar{ clear:both; margin:25px 0; white-space:nowrap; color:#666; text-align:right; } #ygrp-actbar .left{ float:left; white-space:nowrap; } ..bld{font-weight:bold;} #ygrp-grft{ font-family:Verdana; font-size:77%; padding:15px 0; } #ygrp-ft{ font-family:verdana; font-size:77%; border-top:1px solid #666; padding:5px 0; } #ygrp-mlmsg #logo{ padding-bottom:10px; } #ygrp-vital{ background-color:#e0ecee; margin-bottom:20px; padding:2px 0 8px 8px; } #ygrp-vital #vithd{ font-size:77%; font-family:Verdana; font-weight:bold; color:#333; text-transform:uppercase; } #ygrp-vital ul{ padding:0; margin:2px 0; } #ygrp-vital ul li{ list-style-type:none; clear:both; border:1px solid #e0ecee; } #ygrp-vital ul li .ct{ font-weight:bold; color:#ff7900; float:right; width:2em; text-align:right; padding-right:.5em; } #ygrp-vital ul li .cat{ font-weight:bold; } #ygrp-vital a { text-decoration:none; } #ygrp-vital a:hover{ text-decoration:underline; } #ygrp-sponsor #hd{ color:#999; font-size:77%; } #ygrp-sponsor #ov{ padding:6px 13px; background-color:#e0ecee; margin-bottom:20px; } #ygrp-sponsor #ov ul{ padding:0 0 0 8px; margin:0; } #ygrp-sponsor #ov li{ list-style-type:square; padding:6px 0; font-size:77%; } #ygrp-sponsor #ov li a{ text-decoration:none; font-size:130%; } #ygrp-sponsor #nc { background-color:#eee; margin-bottom:20px; padding:0 8px; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad{ padding:8px 0; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad #hd1{ font-family:Arial; font-weight:bold; color:#628c2a; font-size:100%; line-height:122%; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad a{ text-decoration:none; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad a:hover{ text-decoration:underline; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad p{ margin:0; } o {font-size:0;} ..MsoNormal { margin:0 0 0 0; } #ygrp-text tt{ font-size:120%; } blockquote{margin:0 0 0 4px;} ..replbq {margin:4;} --> __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 They don't call us " old farts " for nuthin'! Naomi ****** > > Naomi! You just cracked me up tonight with your breaking wind comment! > That would be my fear too. ha! I will be 48 in January btw.... > Jeanie > > Re: Re: Cool article > > Maybe it's because I'm an older (48) woman, or maybe it's because I'm > > happily married and not cruising, but I just don't care or compare! > > T-shirt and sweats are my gym " uniform " . > > I think about the only thing that would embarrass me is if I were to > > break wind, loudly, while doing a squat! I just know that's going to > > happen some day. > > Naomi > > ****** > > > > > ___________________________________________ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 I trip on the treadmill at least once a week. I once was propelled backwards and fell off. I'm pretty hopeless but at least I haven't injured myself on it. I tripped just this morning and the girl next to me started laughing. In a nice way. : ) Best Regards, beth Re: Cool article Ouch Amy!! ya poor girl!! Normally, I do my cardio on an exercise bike but this morning I decided to do it on the treamill. Thank goodness the 20 mins ended when it did cause any longer and I would have thrown up all over the machine. How lovely!! I > > > > > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people > cite > > > for > > > > not > > > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > > > http://www.msnbc. msn.com/id/ 15598063/ from/ET/ > > > <http://www.msnbc. msn.com/id/ 15598063/ from/ET/> > > > > > > > > > > > > > Messages in this topic > > > > <http://groups. yahoo.com/ group/bodyforlif ewomensclub2/ message/211142; > _ylc=X3oDMTM4MjhiNX BjBF9TAzk3MzU5Nz E0BGdycElkAzYyOT M4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZA Mx > NzA1NjU1NDg4BG1zZ0l kAzIxMTE1NARzZWM DZnRyBHNsawN2dHB jBHN0aW1lAzExNjM 1O > DMyMDEEdHBjSWQDMjEx MTQy> > > > (5) Reply (via web post) > > > > <http://groups. yahoo.com/ group/bodyforlif ewomensclub2/ post;_ylc= X3oDM > TJyNGcya2FiBF9TAzk3 MzU5NzE0BGdycElk AzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jw c3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1 ND > g4BG1zZ0lkAzIxMTE1N ARzZWMDZnRyBHNsa wNycGx5BHN0aW1lA zExNjM1ODMyMDE- ? > act=reply & messageNu m=211154> > > > | > > > > > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ ____________ ___ > Sponsored Link > > Mortgage rates near 39yr lows. > $310k for $999/mo. Calculate new payment! > www.LowerMyBills. com/lre > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 Hey Dr. Val, How much do you lift? Just curious. BTW, I'm 44, it is an over-40 thing. I just don't have time to be catty these days. ; ) Best Regards, beth Re: Re: Cool article Maybe it¹s the 48 thing. I don¹t seem to give a crap either! If my hair is sticking out, I put on a ball cap. I endeavor to find clean gym clothes every morning and try to be sure not to step in a dog pile on my way in, but that¹s about as good as it gets! A lot of people in the gym do pay attention to me because I lift so much more than almost every one else, but I am the friendly sort so it works out. Last week some guy asked me for a copy of my workout. I was going to blow him off and then I walked up to the front desk and made them copy it for him. He¹s a cool guy and he spotted for me a couple of times the next day. The first challenge I did all sorts of people were coming up to me asking what I was doing because they NOTICED my weight loss. That¹s a great feeling. On 11/15/06 1:54 PM, " DRAGONMAMMA " <dragonmamma@ sonic.net> wrote: > Maybe it's because I'm an older (48) woman, or maybe it's because I'm > happily married and not cruising, but I just don't care or compare! > T-shirt and sweats are my gym " uniform " . > > I think about the only thing that would embarrass me is if I were to > break wind, loudly, while doing a squat! I just know that's going to > happen some day. > > Naomi > ****** Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 Great post Yvette. It's sad how much time we waste on worrying what other people are thinking. Best Regards, beth Re: Cool article LOL, Dea, we're all screwed up in some way(s)! You may be right about that lady giving you the scowl, the thing is, do you know her? Do you really care what someone you don't know, who knows nothing about you thinks about you? I am also affected by what other's think, but my husband is teaching me the " who cares " method. It's really great, when I start to worry about what someone thinks he'll say " Who cares? " or " Why do you care? " . The why one always get's me because why do I care? I don't! I turn to people who truly know me and worry about what they think about me, and most importantly I've learned to turn to me and what I think of me. If I think well of myself, meaning I truly love myself - not I think I'm the neatest and best person on earth, everything else starts to fall into place. You take much better care of others, when you take good care of you. I totally think that Dragonmomma made a fantastic point. I used to model (MANY moons ago) and mostly did photo shots since I'm way too short for runway. However, every now and then they'd run short (no pun intended) and I'd get to fill in. I'll never forget we were doing a specialty runway for an exclusive club and the walk was all through the center of the room. It was for a women's " power " club, so a lot of exectutives. ..not very attractive women (sorry, but they really weren't). These perfectly built gorgeous women were truly going out of their minds wondering what these women thought of them, and it wasn't because they wanted jobs in their companies! They were that insecure! I talked to some of the women afterwards (I wanted the job...) and they were totally paranoid about how they compared to the models. It suddenly dawned on me that there was a room full of women and I couldn't find one that was " judging " anyone by their looks, they were all wondering if their outfit was ok or their hair. They were all wondering what everyone else in the room thought of them and it didn't matter how gorgeous or plain the woman was. Granted there are a few out there that will be thinking exactley what you think they are thinking...but those are the ones that you should really care the least about! I think women come with pre-programmed insecurity and we have to overcome that, not going overcompensating and becoming oversecure. Hope that made sense, Yvette > > > > > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people > cite > > > for > > > > not > > > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > > > http://www.msnbc. msn.com/id/ 15598063/ from/ET/ > > > <http://www.msnbc. msn.com/id/ 15598063/ from/ET/> > > > > > > > > > > > > > Messages in this topic > > > > <http://groups. yahoo.com/ group/bodyforlif ewomensclub2/ message/211142; > _ylc=X3oDMTM4MjhiNX BjBF9TAzk3MzU5Nz E0BGdycElkAzYyOT M4MjIEZ3Jwc3BJZA Mx > NzA1NjU1NDg4BG1zZ0l kAzIxMTE1NARzZWM DZnRyBHNsawN2dHB jBHN0aW1lAzExNjM 1O > DMyMDEEdHBjSWQDMjEx MTQy> > > > (5) Reply (via web post) > > > > <http://groups. yahoo.com/ group/bodyforlif ewomensclub2/ post;_ylc= X3oDM > TJyNGcya2FiBF9TAzk3 MzU5NzE0BGdycElk AzYyOTM4MjIEZ3Jw c3BJZAMxNzA1NjU1 ND > g4BG1zZ0lkAzIxMTE1N ARzZWMDZnRyBHNsa wNycGx5BHN0aW1lA zExNjM1ODMyMDE- ? > act=reply & messageNu m=211154> > > > | > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 16, 2006 Report Share Posted November 16, 2006 The image of you changing the speed on the treadmill is priceless. I feel just the same way. I know people think I'm crazy, since no one does workouts like me either. At least now that I've gotten my weights up, not too many people glare at me when I hog the weights for the pyramids. One frustrated-looking yuppie got mad at me a few weeks ago and walked away, sneering, " that's some powerset there. " If I had been less intimidated I would have said " Yes, thanks " or, " it's not a powerset, it's a pyramid, stupid. " But I didn't. : ) E. Best Regards, beth Re: Cool article I've been enjoying this discussion because I've had some similar thoughts/insecuriti es. I sometimes wonder if I'm known as the girl with the flabby, jelly- butt who keeps changing the speed on the treadmill every minute while she runs and then makes a complete racket and looks like she's going to pass out on the last one. Then I wonder if I'm known as the girl who can't make up her mind about which weight she can handle as I'm walking back to the rack to get the next set (5 times). NO ONE in my gym does a program where they switch weights, that I've ever seen. But then...I imagine myself in a couple months being the girl that people either stop and ask, " What have you been doing? You look great! " or are wishing that they had the guts to ask. And sometime this spring or summer when my jelly-butt has turned to steel and I run on the treadmill, there will be all these people walking or running slowly holding on to the rails thinking to themselves, " I wonder if I should change it up a bit. " And then on a more practical note, could those of you who feel a little unsure of yourselves on the machines, bring someone along with you that you trust and that you know has a knowledge about the gym? I try to go with my husband from time to time so that I can ask him questions I'm too embarrased to ask anyone else. There is a very comforting feeling when we are there together (I don't usually have the luxury of doing this because we have 3 kids) and I know he won't make fun of me for my " dumb " questions. I too, feel insecure about how I'm dressed because most of the girls/women at my gym look amazing and always are so cutely dressed. In the end, though, as someone else mentioned, I don't go to the gym to impress any one. I'm not there looking for friends or for a date. I go there to get the job done and get out. It really DOESN'T matter and I think we would all benefit from getting our thoughts off of our concerns of what others are thinking of us. There is this ONE really over-weight girl who has the guts to walk into this gym and workout. I admire her courage and her desire to change, and although I'm sure she feels like people are judging her, it's really just the opposite (at least for me)and I would like to pat her on the back. Well, ladies, here's to gym memberships and to NOT CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF US. Have a great day!! > > > > Kind of a cool article. Fits me to a tee. > > > > BJ in Idaho > > > > > > Another hurdle to exercise: embarrassment > > Lack of time, motivation and money are common reasons people cite > for > > not > > exercising. Embarrassment is another. > > http://www.msnbc. msn.com/id/ 15598063/ from/ET/ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2006 Report Share Posted November 17, 2006 DID IT AGAIN! Thanks for giving me a chuckle to start my day! (I'm 13 hours ahead of you all) Jeanie Re: Re: Cool article > > Maybe it's because I'm an older (48) woman, or maybe it's because I'm > > happily married and not cruising, but I just don't care or compare! > > T-shirt and sweats are my gym " uniform " . > > I think about the only thing that would embarrass me is if I were to > > break wind, loudly, while doing a squat! I just know that's going to > > happen some day. > > Naomi > > ****** > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ _________ ____ > > > <!-- #ygrp-mlmsg {font-size:13px;font-family:arial,helvetica,clean,sans-serif;} #ygrp-mlmsg table {font-size:inherit;font:100%;} #ygrp-mlmsg select, input, textarea {font:99% arial,helvetica,clean,sans-serif;} #ygrp-mlmsg pre, code {font:115% monospace;} #ygrp-mlmsg * {line-height:1.22em;} #ygrp-text{ font-family:Georgia; } #ygrp-text p{ margin:0 0 1em 0; } #ygrp-tpmsgs{ font-family:Arial; clear:both; } #ygrp-vitnav{ padding-top:10px; font-family:Verdana; font-size:77%; margin:0; } #ygrp-vitnav a{ padding:0 1px; } #ygrp-actbar{ clear:both; margin:25px 0; white-space:nowrap; color:#666; text-align:right; } #ygrp-actbar .left{ float:left; white-space:nowrap; } ..bld{font-weight:bold;} #ygrp-grft{ font-family:Verdana; font-size:77%; padding:15px 0; } #ygrp-ft{ font-family:verdana; font-size:77%; border-top:1px solid #666; padding:5px 0; } #ygrp-mlmsg #logo{ padding-bottom:10px; } #ygrp-vital{ background-color:#e0ecee; margin-bottom:20px; padding:2px 0 8px 8px; } #ygrp-vital #vithd{ font-size:77%; font-family:Verdana; font-weight:bold; color:#333; text-transform:uppercase; } #ygrp-vital ul{ padding:0; margin:2px 0; } #ygrp-vital ul li{ list-style-type:none; clear:both; border:1px solid #e0ecee; } #ygrp-vital ul li .ct{ font-weight:bold; color:#ff7900; float:right; width:2em; text-align:right; padding-right:.5em; } #ygrp-vital ul li .cat{ font-weight:bold; } #ygrp-vital a { text-decoration:none; } #ygrp-vital a:hover{ text-decoration:underline; } #ygrp-sponsor #hd{ color:#999; font-size:77%; } #ygrp-sponsor #ov{ padding:6px 13px; background-color:#e0ecee; margin-bottom:20px; } #ygrp-sponsor #ov ul{ padding:0 0 0 8px; margin:0; } #ygrp-sponsor #ov li{ list-style-type:square; padding:6px 0; font-size:77%; } #ygrp-sponsor #ov li a{ text-decoration:none; font-size:130%; } #ygrp-sponsor #nc { background-color:#eee; margin-bottom:20px; padding:0 8px; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad{ padding:8px 0; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad #hd1{ font-family:Arial; font-weight:bold; color:#628c2a; font-size:100%; line-height:122%; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad a{ text-decoration:none; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad a:hover{ text-decoration:underline; } #ygrp-sponsor .ad p{ margin:0; } o {font-size:0;} ..MsoNormal { margin:0 0 0 0; } #ygrp-text tt{ font-size:120%; } blockquote{margin:0 0 0 4px;} ..replbq {margin:4;} --> ____________________________________________________ Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around http://ph.mail.yahoo.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2006 Report Share Posted November 17, 2006 What an A hole! My goodness! Let¹s see if that little twit is still in the gym in 10 years when they¹re married with kids and parts aren¹t working as well as they used to. I¹m afraid my response would have been to suggest he try something that is well known to be anatomically impossible. > The image of you changing the speed on the treadmill is priceless. I feel just > the same way. I know people think I'm crazy, since no one does workouts like > me either. At least now that I've gotten my weights up, not too many people > glare at me when I hog the weights for the pyramids. One frustrated-looking > yuppie got mad at me a few weeks ago and walked away, sneering, " that's some > powerset there. " If I had been less intimidated I would have said " Yes, > thanks " or, " it's not a powerset, it's a pyramid, stupid. " But I didn't. : ) > E. > > Best Regards, > beth > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2006 Report Share Posted November 17, 2006 Eh, he was a short little dude and looked like he had anger management problems, so I didn't want to get into anything. : ) Best Regards, beth Re: Re: Cool article What an A hole! My goodness! Let¹s see if that little twit is still in the gym in 10 years when they¹re married with kids and parts aren¹t working as well as they used to. I¹m afraid my response would have been to suggest he try something that is well known to be anatomically impossible. On 11/16/06 3:20 PM, " beth Dimopoulos " <emommy3sbcglobal (DOT) net> wrote: > The image of you changing the speed on the treadmill is priceless. I feel just > the same way. I know people think I'm crazy, since no one does workouts like > me either. At least now that I've gotten my weights up, not too many people > glare at me when I hog the weights for the pyramids. One frustrated-looking > yuppie got mad at me a few weeks ago and walked away, sneering, " that's some > powerset there. " If I had been less intimidated I would have said " Yes, > thanks " or, " it's not a powerset, it's a pyramid, stupid. " But I didn't. : ) > E. > > Best Regards, > beth > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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