Guest guest Posted November 6, 2006 Report Share Posted November 6, 2006 Alyssa - you can do it. Remember its a life change not a diet. There will be ups and downs - just like life. Just think 17lbs. lighter & a lot more healthier. Tina --- Alyssa wrote: > Ok..so this is the third time I have considered > starting over again > with body for life..I probobly don't even need to > post my story > because you've all been here when I have done it > before. I ended up > doing it four two months and had lost 16 or 17 > pounds and then went to > visit parents and it all went down hill. Then I > tried to start it up > again but lacked the motivation. Then i tried to > start up > weightwatchers again on the core plan which is kind > of like body for > life. I didn't make it more than three days. > > So here I am, on the verge of tears, at the heighest > weight of my > life. 250lbs. It happened so quickly in may I was > 215. I need some > encouraging words to tell me that I CAN do this..I > feel so disgusting > right now. > > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Sponsored Link Mortgage rates near historic lows: $150,000 loan as low as $579/mo. Intro-*Terms https://www2.nextag.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 6, 2006 Report Share Posted November 6, 2006 I think that a lot of times what kills people is that they approach BFL like a diet. Right away they associate it with rules, deprivation, boredom, frustration and doubt. Dieting doesn't work. So, the worst way to approach BFL is like any other diet that you've ever tried and failed at. If you're not in a good frame of mind, don't overwhelm yourself with trying to do it all perfectly. Doing anything at all is a step in the right direction. Make an effort to move a little more and eat a little better. Once you feel better and start seeing some progress, then you step it up. Maybe in a couple of weeks you'll feel ready to do it by the book, or maybe you'll never feel ready to follow it 100%. Maybe you follow it 85% this week and 42% next week and 93% the week after that. All that matters is that you keep trying and keep moving forward. You WILL see progress if you do that. You can always make faster progress by tightening things up, or relax the rules when you're having a bad week. Plenty of people quit when they do something wrong. Don't quit. Don't start over on Monday. Don't wait until January. It's ok to make mistakes and it's totally normal to have setbacks. The only way you can really mess it up is if you stop altogether. Here's an article about baby-stepping it: http://www.skwigg.com/id76.html > Ok..so this is the third time I have considered starting over again > with body for life..I probobly don't even need to post my story > because you've all been here when I have done it before. I ended up > doing it four two months and had lost 16 or 17 pounds and then went to > visit parents and it all went down hill. Then I tried to start it up > again but lacked the motivation. Then i tried to start up > weightwatchers again on the core plan which is kind of like body for > life. I didn't make it more than three days. > > So here I am, on the verge of tears, at the heighest weight of my > life. 250lbs. It happened so quickly in may I was 215. I need some > encouraging words to tell me that I CAN do this..I feel so disgusting > right now. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 6, 2006 Report Share Posted November 6, 2006 Alyssa, You can SO do this You are worth it and you deserve to look & feel your very best! We're rooting for you and you are in our thoughts! ~Jess dizzydaisyme wrote: Alyssa - you can do it. Remember its a life change not a diet. There will be ups and downs - just like life. Just think 17lbs. lighter & a lot more healthier. Tina --- Alyssa wrote: > Ok..so this is the third time I have considered > starting over again > with body for life..I probobly don't even need to > post my story > because you've all been here when I have done it > before. I ended up > doing it four two months and had lost 16 or 17 > pounds and then went to > visit parents and it all went down hill. Then I > tried to start it up > again but lacked the motivation. Then i tried to > start up > weightwatchers again on the core plan which is kind > of like body for > life. I didn't make it more than three days. > > So here I am, on the verge of tears, at the heighest > weight of my > life. 250lbs. It happened so quickly in may I was > 215. I need some > encouraging words to tell me that I CAN do this..I > feel so disgusting > right now. > > > __________________________________________________________ Sponsored Link Mortgage rates near historic lows: $150,000 loan as low as $579/mo. Intro-*Terms https://www2.nextag.com/ --------------------------------- Sponsored Link Free Uniden 5.8GHz Phone System with Packet8 Internet Phone Service Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 6, 2006 Report Share Posted November 6, 2006 Hi Alyssa, Good on you! I don't know you, but I'm proud of you for coming back. I don't know how helpful anything I say might possibly be,but I just wanted you to know that you are right in saying that others here have been through the same experience as you are having now. It took me two years, a consultation with a gastric bypass surgeon and finally being dumped by my boyfriend before I had a strong enough reason to start the program again. It's embarrassing that being dumped was the ultimate catalyst, but after the event, I didn't even think about starting BFL again, or plan it or ease my way back in. I just woke up and started again mid week. I guess the reason I am mentioning this is that I really think it helps if you have a strong enough reason why you *have to* do the program, whereas before it was optional to me, now its do or die. Having been back for two weeks now, I really think that the hardest part is actually starting. For me it was a hideous going to the gym that first day and being the biggest person there, but once you've gotten through the first day, in all honesty, after that it's just a relief. You've already made the first step by coming back, and I'm really happy for you that you did that, just keep going now..your strength and confidence will increase by doing. Also share your difficulties because the women here are lovely and their support is invaluable. I didn't write down my reasons for wanting to do the program until last night, and even though some seem really superficial, it does feel good to get them down. Not sure what to do with them now. I was just thinking that this type of exercise might help you to find your reason for starting again. Here's a few of mine as an example. - To see my collarbone again - To go swimming with my kids (preferrably in a white bikini) - To wear a sexy pair of jeans - To have rock hard thighs - To have better skin - To send my after pics to the gastric bypass surgeon - To be happier so that my ex wants me again (highly dubious motivation, but whatever gets me through the program) - To have more confidence - To never go on another diet for a long as I live - To have more energy - To look good naked Anyway, one of my biggest sources of inspiration and strength is listening to the body changers interviews and seeing the before and after pics. I tend to listen most to those that were the biggest as their bodies are most like mine now. Will stop rambling now. All the best & stay strong dea xx > > Ok..so this is the third time I have considered starting over again > with body for life..I probobly don't even need to post my story > because you've all been here when I have done it before. I ended up > doing it four two months and had lost 16 or 17 pounds and then went to > visit parents and it all went down hill. Then I tried to start it up > again but lacked the motivation. Then i tried to start up > weightwatchers again on the core plan which is kind of like body for > life. I didn't make it more than three days. > > So here I am, on the verge of tears, at the heighest weight of my > life. 250lbs. It happened so quickly in may I was 215. I need some > encouraging words to tell me that I CAN do this..I feel so disgusting > right now. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 7, 2006 Report Share Posted November 7, 2006 Alyssa I have done 4 challenges this year and all have ended badly for one reason or another. I am now the same weight (maybe heavier) than I was New Year. But the important thing is not to give up. You haven't failed until you quit trying. I am about the same weight as you so I know how you feel. Clean out your cupboards. Write out your menu plan. Go and do your shopping for the week. Then when you get home sit down and write out your workouts and schedule them in your diary as you would an important meeting. Take one day at a time and progress will happen! Remember Progress not perfection! Jadey :-) Jade Ward SPOILT by J 0421 848 110 Gosh I need help Ok..so this is the third time I have considered starting over again with body for life..I probobly don't even need to post my story because you've all been here when I have done it before. I ended up doing it four two months and had lost 16 or 17 pounds and then went to visit parents and it all went down hill. Then I tried to start it up again but lacked the motivation. Then i tried to start up weightwatchers again on the core plan which is kind of like body for life. I didn't make it more than three days. So here I am, on the verge of tears, at the heighest weight of my life. 250lbs. It happened so quickly in may I was 215. I need some encouraging words to tell me that I CAN do this..I feel so disgusting right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 7, 2006 Report Share Posted November 7, 2006 Do you have a treadmill or a Gym membership start walking at least 3 times a week and do weight split up the muscle group so that upper body isnt so time consumering like one day do back and bi's next day do a leg work out next day walk for 20-30 mins and then the next do another upper body like tri's and shoulders ect just take little steps. sincerly Jenette Alyssa wrote: Ok..so this is the third time I have considered starting over again with body for life..I probobly don't even need to post my story because you've all been here when I have done it before. I ended up doing it four two months and had lost 16 or 17 pounds and then went to visit parents and it all went down hill. Then I tried to start it up again but lacked the motivation. Then i tried to start up weightwatchers again on the core plan which is kind of like body for life. I didn't make it more than three days. So here I am, on the verge of tears, at the heighest weight of my life. 250lbs. It happened so quickly in may I was 215. I need some encouraging words to tell me that I CAN do this..I feel so disgusting right now. --------------------------------- Access over 1 million songs - Yahoo! Music Unlimited. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 7, 2006 Report Share Posted November 7, 2006 Hi Alyssa, Welcome back, Sweetie. One thing's for sure, you have skills and information now that you didn't have a year ago. You know more about what " triggers " to avoid and what a good balanced meal looks like. I would encourage you to go to Udo's Oil site and read about essential fats. Then be sure to have some Udo's or flax oil every day. I find it keeps my cravings for " white sugar/flour " carbs way down. There is a book, Prescription for Nutritional Healing " , by Phyllis Balch that offers more ways to support the body nutritionally as we are losing fat. Minerals like calcium, magnesium, zinc, and iodine are very important. I know a lot of women in the 20-40 age range that take a pre-natal vitamin for the folic acid and selenium. Even that doesn't give us the 4 doses of calcium we need each day. Talk to your doctor. For the long haul...it's a combination of movement, strength, and nutrition. We can do this with BFL. Hugs, M. was #205, now #158 was size 20 now size 12 heading for size 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 7, 2006 Report Share Posted November 7, 2006 Alyssa, There is no greater thing than that which we overcome! There is no great joy than to say " I did it! In your face! " . I think the hardest thing for most people is going the 6 days without a free day. They changed their tune a little in their magazines to a 3 on, 1 off and had huge successes. I, for one, find that it's easier to think I'm going to do just three days and then go for the 6 instead. I know it's silly, trying to trick my brain, but 6 days is a long time! I also know myself very well and know that if I only go 3 days, then it's so much harder to come back from the 1 day off. It does work for many, so you may want to try it to break yourself back in. Joni (jgrrl) gave some great advice on changing your calories on different days, ie; more calories on weight days, less on cardio days. Also, 's site (Sqwigg?) is fantastic! There is a lot of help and motivation there. I also use positive affirmations, I know they are a bit hokey, however, they do work! I keep a pile of recipe cards near the TV and the computer. Write down your statements as if they are in the present, like " I weigh 140 pounds " or " I am fit " . When you read them, stand in front of the mirror and say them outloud while looking yourself in the eye. You feel a bit silly at first, but then you start feeling a lot better. Use those to help motivate you. Think positive! When you start to get depressed and think poor thoughts, yell " STOP " in your mind. It works, then start thinking something better. There are wonderful people here and a lot of great info, if you really need a pick-me-up, come back! Good luck and glad your here again, that's motivation right there, Yvette > > Ok..so this is the third time I have considered starting over again > with body for life..I probobly don't even need to post my story > because you've all been here when I have done it before. I ended up > doing it four two months and had lost 16 or 17 pounds and then went to > visit parents and it all went down hill. Then I tried to start it up > again but lacked the motivation. Then i tried to start up > weightwatchers again on the core plan which is kind of like body for > life. I didn't make it more than three days. > > So here I am, on the verge of tears, at the heighest weight of my > life. 250lbs. It happened so quickly in may I was 215. I need some > encouraging words to tell me that I CAN do this..I feel so disgusting > right now. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 7, 2006 Report Share Posted November 7, 2006 Alyssie I have started over so many times I can't even begin to tell you. I am absolutely a couch potato at heart and Mcs is my all time favorite meal Now if I can do this and have done it for over 2 years now you can certainly do this! I started at a weight of 210 and am currently down to 173. Yes my progress is slow so I wouldn't be the biggest loser <smile> but I am so much healthier and happy then 2 years ago. For me changing my lifestyle came about after hitting rock bottom and having the doctor saying I would have diabetes in 5 years if I didn't change my lifestyle. Bottom line is you have to want it bad enough and finding that is by looking deep within yourself and coming up with why you really want to change. You have to put those goals and reasons ahead of the food. I know it isn't easy (at all!) and you will have times that you slip up but here are some things that have made my journey of weight loss successful this time around. 1. Exercise. I see exercise as a MUST and one must be in the hospital to miss such an event To me it is like brushing your teeth in the morning. How did I get to this point: I see the same people at the gym every day and trust me they wonder if you have fallen off the wagon when you don't come and I started saying hi to those people so at least I feel like I know them. 2. Consistency. When I screw up I get right back on the horse. Before I would take an all or nothing approach and if I screwed up at breakfast I would eat bad all day. Not now it doesn't matter how bad the screw up I am back on track right away. This took some time but eventually my screw ups became less and less as I got into the habit of living BFL every day for the rest of my life. 3. Better Attitude. I am positive and really believe I can make a transformation this time around. I have not followed anything as faithfully as I have followed BFL for over two years now. I still have 35 more pounds to go and I lose slow but it will come. I don't dish myself anymore I am proud of what I have accomplished and I tell myself that everyday and so do my new smaller size jeans! <smile>. 4. Success. I don't judge my success by the scale anymore. Stupid thing isn't even worthy of weighing your cat!!! I judge by many things such as have I been journaling, drinking my water, clothes fitting nicer, how much I am enjoying life! Make the decision to change and if you screw up get right back on it I guarantee you will see results physically as well as mentally. Michele T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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