Guest guest Posted August 19, 2006 Report Share Posted August 19, 2006 Sadly, my best friend and mother told me the program was a waste of time the first few weeks of my initial challenge. When the results began to show - I couldn't stop them from asking questions. Time will speak for itself - let them doubt. Vickie > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE challenge, > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to discourage > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with people like this? > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with everyone. I usually > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is true, and > leave it at that. > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, noticed an > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I can't imagine > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. Tikie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2006 Report Share Posted August 19, 2006 oh my goodness, i so totally agree. i am having a few people ask what i am doing when i haul around bottles of water and cans of tuna and when i tell them, or try to, they look at me like i am a freak or like i have joined up with some crazy food and exercise cult. they are BIG doubters and knowing they think this won't work just inspires me further. so now when they ask how i've dropped a size i just tell them, " hard freaking work. " some of them have a general opinion that a good stay @ home mother would just sort of settle for keeping some baby fat and start wearing bigger clothes every day. i live in one of america's fattest cities. there is a weird overtone that i am pursuing something based in pride ~ i guess that would be better than gluttony...but i digress. i was standing in a store the other day and i heard someone say, " oh look! stretchy leggings are back! i don't have to unbutton my pants after lunch anymore! " my oldest daughter looked at me in horror asking if people really did that - " ummm yes, your mom used to... " my mother in law said that she thought women should " embrace their curves " and stay focused on pleased their husbands. also criticized that my kids spend " so much " time in the child care at the gym (where they love it). she's very worried that i don't make giant dinners for him when he gets home from work. i was like, ummm, he is much more pleased then when i was going to bed at 8:30 after eating giant amounts of pasta - and believe me, the curves aren't going anywhere he's happier than all of us at this point (wink). amy vickie_ivory <no_reply > wrote: Sadly, my best friend and mother told me the program was a waste of time the first few weeks of my initial challenge. When the results began to show - I couldn't stop them from asking questions. Time will speak for itself - let them doubt. Vickie > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE challenge, > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to discourage > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with people like this? > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with everyone. I usually > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is true, and > leave it at that. > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, noticed an > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I can't imagine > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. Tikie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2006 Report Share Posted August 19, 2006 Hi Amy and Vickie - I hear you both loud and clear. In the past it hurt my feelings when those I thought would support me, put obstacles in my way or attempted to discourage me instead. Now it just pisses me off(some anger is good), and reminds me of how important boundaries are! No one can discourage us, unless we give them permission and opportunity to do so in our lives. My dreams and goals have become LARGE, and I want people around me who will support those goals, or at least not spew limited doubts and fears in my direction. Tikie > > > > > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE > challenge, > > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to > discourage > > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with people > like this? > > > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with everyone. I > usually > > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is true, > and > > > leave it at that. > > > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, noticed an > > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I can't > imagine > > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. Tikie > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2006 Report Share Posted August 20, 2006 I love hearing stories like this, little scenarios at the grocery store that are happening every minute across the US. This is where I feel the internet is a tool for mankind's evolution of the mind. whew! i know heavy... We're like-minded ladies, conversing over daily activities, and influencing the choices that we make. Ultimately, these choices influence the next generation we're trying to lead. Thats all. I'm really proud of you! -- __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2006 Report Share Posted August 22, 2006 I always hate it when i read on the weightwatchers message boards about people asking if anyone incorporates the body for life plan with weightwatchers(which is totally doable. You just count points for the food your eating is all)and the responses they get are normally pretty negative like " yes, i tried it, no one can stick to it for more than the twelve weeks so don't get your hopes up, it's totally unrealistic " It's annoying because yes, it is a strict plan, but A) you get a free day and B)it is food that everyone should be eating on a daily basis anyway..more fruits, veggies, whole grains and deffinatly more lean protein. Normally it's the people living on weightwatchers frozen meals and fatfree pringles that have negatives to say about it. Or people that are doing just fine at " curves, thank you very much " *gag*..sorry, I hate curves LOL > > I love hearing stories like this, little scenarios at > the grocery store that are happening every minute > across the US. This is where I feel the internet is a > tool for mankind's evolution of the mind. > > whew! i know heavy... > > We're like-minded ladies, conversing over daily > activities, and influencing the choices that we make. > Ultimately, these choices influence the next > generation we're trying to lead. Thats all. > > I'm really proud of you! > -- > > __________________________________________________ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2006 Report Share Posted August 23, 2006 Yep, so many confuse BFL with fad diets. How wrong they are? The challenges may be 12 weeks, BFL is just that FOR LIFE! > > > > I love hearing stories like this, little scenarios at > > the grocery store that are happening every minute > > across the US. This is where I feel the internet is a > > tool for mankind's evolution of the mind. > > > > whew! i know heavy... > > > > We're like-minded ladies, conversing over daily > > activities, and influencing the choices that we make. > > Ultimately, these choices influence the next > > generation we're trying to lead. Thats all. > > > > I'm really proud of you! > > -- > > > > __________________________________________________ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2006 Report Share Posted August 23, 2006 Women can be so catty at times. Vickie > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE challenge, > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to discourage > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with people like this? > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with everyone. I usually > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is true, and > > leave it at that. > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, noticed an > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I can't imagine > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. Tikie > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2006 Report Share Posted August 23, 2006 I think people sometimes resent change in others, because it reminds them of areas in their lives in need of change. I lost a few friends right along with my first 30 pounds of fat. Vickie > > > > > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE > > challenge, > > > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to > > discourage > > > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with people > > like this? > > > > > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with everyone. > I > > usually > > > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is true, > > and > > > > leave it at that. > > > > > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, noticed > an > > > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I can't > > imagine > > > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. Tikie > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2006 Report Share Posted August 23, 2006 It is funny how when you have goala and are focused on something, people get wierd with you. And it is so true how you can't share what you are doing with people. They think you have a problem or are obsessive about food. It's very frustrating. I am glad that we have this to share and help each other stay focused. Who can appreciate me trying to get a good protien source at every meal. :-) > > > > > > > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE > > > challenge, > > > > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to > > > discourage > > > > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with people > > > like this? > > > > > > > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with > everyone. > > I > > > usually > > > > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is > true, > > > and > > > > > leave it at that. > > > > > > > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, > noticed > > an > > > > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I > can't > > > imagine > > > > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. > Tikie > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2006 Report Share Posted August 23, 2006 And vicious > > > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE > challenge, > > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to > discourage > > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with people > like this? > > > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with everyone. I > usually > > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is true, > and > > > leave it at that. > > > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, noticed an > > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I can't > imagine > > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. Tikie > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2006 Report Share Posted August 23, 2006 I agree. I am going to start telling them I am on a diabetes type2 prevention program...41 million Americans ages 40-74 are at risk, and they better get educated!!!! Check out these links and see how many similarities there are with BFL. http://www.diabetes.org/diabetes-prevention/nutrition/healthyfoodchoices.jsp M > > > > i am having a few people ask what i am doing when i haul around > bottles of water and cans of tuna... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2006 Report Share Posted August 23, 2006 It bites that you have to say there is something wrong with you to justify eating well. There's something wrong with THEM. :-) > > I agree. > I am going to start telling them I am on a diabetes type2 prevention > program...41 million Americans ages 40-74 are at risk, and they better > get educated!!!! > Check out these links and see how many similarities there are with BFL. > http://www.diabetes.org/diabetes- prevention/nutrition/healthyfoodchoices.jsp > > M > > > > > > i am having a few people ask what i am doing when i haul around > > bottles of water and cans of tuna... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 31, 2006 Report Share Posted August 31, 2006 In a message dated 8/31/2006 5:24:57 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, tikie5@... writes: STAY AWAY FROM DREAM STEALERS!! Luvs it!! Kim I am woman. Hear me R-O-A-R!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 31, 2006 Report Share Posted August 31, 2006 Thanks to everyone who responded to this thread. Great to know I'm not alone. My motto this year is: STAY AWAY FROM DREAM STEALERS!! Intentional or not, I'm eliminating or limiting contact with individuals who make it difficult for me to stay on track. This is my year. Tikie > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE challenge, > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to discourage > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with people like this? > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with everyone. I usually > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is true, and > > leave it at that. > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, noticed an > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I can't imagine > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. Tikie > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2006 Report Share Posted September 1, 2006 Yep. Sad but true. Sometimes you find out who your true friends are when you need their support the most. It has been my experience that alot of times when women are sabotaging rather than supportive, they are just plain jealous of our decision to improve our lives, epecially in the weigh loss/toning up department. We are a minority, unfortunately. Limiting contact with " dream stealers " is a good choice, helping to propel you in the direction you want to go. Surrounding ourselves with like minded people helps us become like them too. It's like ridding the kitchen of the junk, some people are plain junk in our lives. We just don't need 'em around so much! tikie5 wrote: Thanks to everyone who responded to this thread. Great to know I'm not alone. My motto this year is: STAY AWAY FROM DREAM STEALERS!! Intentional or not, I'm eliminating or limiting contact with individuals who make it difficult for me to stay on track. This is my year. Tikie > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE challenge, > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to discourage > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with people like this? > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with everyone. I usually > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is true, and > > leave it at that. > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, noticed an > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I can't imagine > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. Tikie > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2006 Report Share Posted September 1, 2006 Hey Amy - Yes it is very sad. What's surprising is that it's usually women who " appear " to be better off in many ways. I've come to the conclusion, that it's the POTENTIAL they see in many of us, which threatens them. It's especially sad, when some of these dream stealers are female relatives. Oh well, you live, learn, and grow stronger. I can't speak for others, but I've struggled with low self-esteem for years, I won't go into the reasons why. However, I'm learning that often people were able to see many qualities I possessed, that I'm just now beginning to acknowledge. It's never to late. Tikie > > > > > > > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE > > challenge, > > > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to > > discourage > > > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with people > > like this? > > > > > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with everyone. I > > usually > > > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is true, > > and > > > > leave it at that. > > > > > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, noticed an > > > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I can't > > imagine > > > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. Tikie > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2006 Report Share Posted September 1, 2006 Hi, I just have to add something. My sister-in-law has been at the children's hospital with her boy since the beginning of the month so she hasn't seen me since the beginning of the month. Well, I have been doing good with BFL this month and she noticed I lost some weight. So the first thing she did this morning was call me to tell me that she has birthday cake left over from her son's birthday party and that I should come over to eat it!!!! This is her sabatoging me nicely...when I really lose some major pounds and gain some muscle, she will try her hardest to sabatoge my healthy eating and she will be down right rude. I will just share her comments here. > > > > > > > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE > > > challenge, > > > > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to > > > discourage > > > > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with people > > > like this? > > > > > > > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with everyone. > I > > > usually > > > > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is > true, > > > and > > > > > leave it at that. > > > > > > > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, noticed > an > > > > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I can't > > > imagine > > > > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. > Tikie > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 1, 2006 Report Share Posted September 1, 2006 , Good for you for catching this! " Sabotaging me nicely " cracked me up. It reminds me that others may be either totally unaware or perhaps subconsciously threatened by our healthy ways and ultimately I am the one to be responsible for what goes in my mouth. Kerry > > > > > > > > > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE > > > > challenge, > > > > > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to > > > > discourage > > > > > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with > people > > > > like this? > > > > > > > > > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with > everyone. > > I > > > > usually > > > > > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is > > true, > > > > and > > > > > > leave it at that. > > > > > > > > > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, > noticed > > an > > > > > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I > can't > > > > imagine > > > > > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. > > Tikie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 2, 2006 Report Share Posted September 2, 2006 " Sabotaging me nicely " is exactly how manipulative cowards work. They will smile pretending to support you, while hoping you fail. Very well put. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE > > > > > challenge, > > > > > > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to > > > > > discourage > > > > > > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with > > people > > > > > like this? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with > > everyone. > > > I > > > > > usually > > > > > > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is > > > true, > > > > > and > > > > > > > leave it at that. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, > > noticed > > > an > > > > > > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I > > can't > > > > > imagine > > > > > > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. > > > Tikie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2006 Report Share Posted September 5, 2006 Wow, you ladies have got that right. Thanks again . It's really cruel when you think about it. To befriend someone, knowing all the time you don't have their back, takes a certain mentality. - -- In bodyforlifewomensclub2 , vickie_ivory wrote: > > " Sabotaging me nicely " is exactly how manipulative cowards work. > They will smile pretending to support you, while hoping you fail. > Very well put. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed > ONE > > > > > > challenge, > > > > > > > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt > to > > > > > > discourage > > > > > > > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with > > > people > > > > > > like this? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with > > > everyone. > > > > I > > > > > > usually > > > > > > > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which > is > > > > true, > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > leave it at that. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, > > > noticed > > > > an > > > > > > > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I > > > can't > > > > > > imagine > > > > > > > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 > weeks. > > > > Tikie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2006 Report Share Posted September 5, 2006 , I hope you told her, she could have your slice. lol > > > > > > > > > > > > Has anyone noticed that people who haven't completed ONE > > > > challenge, > > > > > > are quick to say BFL doesn't work, or they'll attempt to > > > > discourage > > > > > > you by expressing THEIR doubts? How do you deal with > people > > > > like this? > > > > > > > > > > > > I no longer share my fitness goals and regime with > everyone. > > I > > > > usually > > > > > > tell doubters I'm eliminating unhealthy foods, which is > > true, > > > > and > > > > > > leave it at that. > > > > > > > > > > > > I followed BFL a few weeks in the past, lost 15 lbs, > noticed > > an > > > > > > increase in strength, and my moods began to improve. I > can't > > > > imagine > > > > > > how great I'll feel after completing a full 12 weeks. > > Tikie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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