CMT & Friends

[Guest guest]

Hi to all,

Usually I stay in the background and read the e-mails but do not participate,

but this one I just had to. I guess I'm very fortunate to have 6 very, very

good friends, that I could call anytime.

I have had those **other** kinds of friends that drag you down and you check

your caller ID before answering, but after several months or years of no change

in their habits, I just decided to clean house of those kinds of friends and I

can not believe how much better I felt. I us to call this spring house cleaning

of my life, getting rid of the toxins.

One of the girls posted that she felt because some of us are home and more

available she felt that is why her friends thought she was the one they could

always cry and whine to. I totally agree!!! One of those so called friends of

mine would start to whine before I even got hello out...........then when she

would take a breath and I would try to get a word in, she ALWAYS had a way to

turn conversation right back to her.

I love to be there for my friends, but it has to be give and take. Everyone has

obstacles just different kinds at different times in their lives.

Connie,

P'burg, OH

[Guest guest]

I use to have friends that would call and start to complain even before I could

say Hi!..several of them finally stopped calling because I would always, when

able to break in, ask them what they were learning from the so called

challenging experience they were currently having....I was told by them that I

was just too optimistic and not everything could be equated with a learning

experience....I suggested that if they didn't want to hear that from me that

they then needed to call someone that they could pull into their negativity but

I wouldn't be pulled into it...the ones that really wanted to learn call, the

others do not. It is nice to know that true friends " love " unconditionally so

are there through " thick and thin " .

Sharon

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 2/19/2006 9:45:58 A.M. Pacific Standard Time,

constantly@... writes:

I love to be there for my friends, but it has to be give and take. Everyone

has obstacles just different kinds at different times in their lives.

Thank you Connie,

I am amazed at how many of us have the same problems with friends.

You need to post more often.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 2/19/2006 10:06:24 A.M. Pacific Standard Time,

dolphin99sharon@... writes:

.....I was told by them that I was just too optimistic and not everything

could be equated with a learning experience....

Hi Sharon, I am going try this and see how many of my so called friends

stick around. It a great way to begin a new positive conversation or just shut

them up.

Thanks