To Re: chris: encouraging responsibility

January 1, 2002

, thanks for the suggestions. I'll have to consider some of

those. Wish he was 10 instead of 16, I think it'd be easier!

> in NC,

>

> We lived with my mom for about 4 years. I was working and going

to

> university full time (and single parented for awhile) so she

> basically did it all for us! Since 'Granny' was busy taking care of

> us, it was our job to take care of her! My kids made sure that they

> made her coffee, asked if they could do things for her, etc. to show

> her how much they appreciated her help.

> At the time, i didnt know that it was ocd related, but tom never

> went to sleep until she had gone to bed and he could 'recheck' that

> the doors were locked. I thought he was being considerate!

>

> Its not too late to suggest to your older son that its time to

> learn some leadership skills. He could be helping your mom, taking

> the twins to do things - even watching over them so you two can have

> a coffee together without interuptions. Don't underestimate him. I

> bet if you asked him what he could do, he could come up with some

> ideas. Rewards work well for insentive, btw!! *w* We have never

> exchanged money for keeping each other company, but will reward with

> treats like a video or pizza.

>

> Have a healthy and happy year. wendy in canada

> ===================================================

> I wish I'd made my oldest son look after his younger brothers. I

> think he'd be much more responsible and maybe in some way closer to

> them. But since we live with grandma she was always there, so no

> babysitting for big brother! I still think it would have done him

> some good.

>

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