my Aspergers kids

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Hi all,

 

I'm a little worried about my girls.  Maybe someone can give me some advice. 

They have High Functioning Autism / Aspergers Syndrome.  They both seem to be

having social anxiety, and it is getting worse. 

 

My younger one (age 10, 5th grade) was crying this morning because she didn't

want to go to school.  This wasn't the first time.  It took a lot of prodding to

get her to tell me that she doesn't like going because she thinks no one likes

her.  She likes the coursework and the teacher, but thinks thinks the kids hate

her.  I don't know what to say.  I told her she could stay home today if she

promises to go for the rest of the school year, and I will help her figure out

how to be more comfortable.

 

My older one (age 13, 7th grade) seems to do ok in school right now (socially),

but only because she has one good friend.  Academically, she is doing quite

bad.  She was recently asked by our church to join a rather large children's

choir.  She came home crying saying that it was too crowded, and no one listened

when she tried to tell them that.  The lady from church that took her

(Jeanette), expects me to know what the problem is, and how to fix it.  I

convinced my daughter to go to the next practice; well, I bribed her.  I tried

to tell her that all those kids are just friends waiting to happen, and she just

needs to be friendly.  She didn't take to that well, says she doesn't know what

to do.  And Jeanette just argues that it is not that crowded, and my daughter

didn't say anything about her problem.  Then she asked if she was on drugs!

 

I'm at such a loss for what to do with these girls.  They are both very

intelligent, but socially lost.  They don't communicate well.  And their

melt-downs are becoming more frequent.  They are both showing signs of

depression.  I just want to help them.  Please help.

 

Thanks,

Cheryl