Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 Evalyn is my olny child. Socializing is mom " s forte. she's the psychologist. I teach martial arts and above all, its focusing skills Subject: Only child To: Autism_in_Girls Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 7:36 PM This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? Karmen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 Evalyn is my olny child. Socializing is mom " s forte. she's the psychologist. I teach martial arts and above all, its focusing skills Subject: Only child To: Autism_in_Girls Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 7:36 PM This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? Karmen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 My daughter is 9, and is the only child at home. She has two older sisters who are 19 and 22, both living away from home. Both were old enough when Maddie was born to be totally involved in their own little social lives, and both moved out 4 years ago, one to go to college, the other to go live with bio-Dad, so Maddie has been virtually an only child her whole life. Maddie takes a dance class once a week that she loves, is active in Sunday School, singing and participating in plays. She's in special education class at school, and we have playdates back and forth with a couple of the other girls her age on a regular basis (meaning every other week or so she'll have a friend over or go to their house on a Saturday for 4 or 5 hours). We also take her with us to our personal home group every Friday night, Celebrate Recovery, where she has met a couple little girls she loves to play with there. FYI: We just got a diagnosis from North Bay Regional of PDD NOS, and they are providing us with a ton of services to address Maddie's needs! Social interaction classes start in a week or so, and they've paid for a ton of childcare hours for us each month, as well, which we will not use much of, but we WILL use them for our Autism Family Support nights and perhaps a date night once a week. We are so incredibly excited, as the public school system refused to even reconsider her diagnosis, having called it a " learning disability " . Even when I pointed out all the symptoms of Autism and asked their professional opinion, they quickly said " No, we're clear that it's just a learning disability " . Well, North Bay didn't agree with them, and we're having her diagnosed through Kaiser, as well. At last we're getting some of the help she's needed for years! Don The Whole Truth Nothing But the Truth So Help Me God... _____ From: Autism_in_Girls [mailto:Autism_in_Girls ] On Behalf Of kcboone Sent: Sunday, September 07, 2008 5:37 PM To: Autism_in_Girls Subject: Only child This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? Karmen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 My daughter is 9, and is the only child at home. She has two older sisters who are 19 and 22, both living away from home. Both were old enough when Maddie was born to be totally involved in their own little social lives, and both moved out 4 years ago, one to go to college, the other to go live with bio-Dad, so Maddie has been virtually an only child her whole life. Maddie takes a dance class once a week that she loves, is active in Sunday School, singing and participating in plays. She's in special education class at school, and we have playdates back and forth with a couple of the other girls her age on a regular basis (meaning every other week or so she'll have a friend over or go to their house on a Saturday for 4 or 5 hours). We also take her with us to our personal home group every Friday night, Celebrate Recovery, where she has met a couple little girls she loves to play with there. FYI: We just got a diagnosis from North Bay Regional of PDD NOS, and they are providing us with a ton of services to address Maddie's needs! Social interaction classes start in a week or so, and they've paid for a ton of childcare hours for us each month, as well, which we will not use much of, but we WILL use them for our Autism Family Support nights and perhaps a date night once a week. We are so incredibly excited, as the public school system refused to even reconsider her diagnosis, having called it a " learning disability " . Even when I pointed out all the symptoms of Autism and asked their professional opinion, they quickly said " No, we're clear that it's just a learning disability " . Well, North Bay didn't agree with them, and we're having her diagnosed through Kaiser, as well. At last we're getting some of the help she's needed for years! Don The Whole Truth Nothing But the Truth So Help Me God... _____ From: Autism_in_Girls [mailto:Autism_in_Girls ] On Behalf Of kcboone Sent: Sunday, September 07, 2008 5:37 PM To: Autism_in_Girls Subject: Only child This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? Karmen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 My daughter is 9, and is the only child at home. She has two older sisters who are 19 and 22, both living away from home. Both were old enough when Maddie was born to be totally involved in their own little social lives, and both moved out 4 years ago, one to go to college, the other to go live with bio-Dad, so Maddie has been virtually an only child her whole life. Maddie takes a dance class once a week that she loves, is active in Sunday School, singing and participating in plays. She's in special education class at school, and we have playdates back and forth with a couple of the other girls her age on a regular basis (meaning every other week or so she'll have a friend over or go to their house on a Saturday for 4 or 5 hours). We also take her with us to our personal home group every Friday night, Celebrate Recovery, where she has met a couple little girls she loves to play with there. FYI: We just got a diagnosis from North Bay Regional of PDD NOS, and they are providing us with a ton of services to address Maddie's needs! Social interaction classes start in a week or so, and they've paid for a ton of childcare hours for us each month, as well, which we will not use much of, but we WILL use them for our Autism Family Support nights and perhaps a date night once a week. We are so incredibly excited, as the public school system refused to even reconsider her diagnosis, having called it a " learning disability " . Even when I pointed out all the symptoms of Autism and asked their professional opinion, they quickly said " No, we're clear that it's just a learning disability " . Well, North Bay didn't agree with them, and we're having her diagnosed through Kaiser, as well. At last we're getting some of the help she's needed for years! Don The Whole Truth Nothing But the Truth So Help Me God... _____ From: Autism_in_Girls [mailto:Autism_in_Girls ] On Behalf Of kcboone Sent: Sunday, September 07, 2008 5:37 PM To: Autism_in_Girls Subject: Only child This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? Karmen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 Hi Karmen, Mine's 8 and she gets lots of social interaction at school, the gym, music class, hippotherapy and playdates. > This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a > daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, > how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction > either outside of the home or inside? > > Karmen > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 Ah, music. I forgot. My Maddie's pretty awesome on the keyboard (amazing how she comes home and picks out songs she's heard just one time in church), and is joining band for the first time this year, too. The Whole Truth Nothing But the Truth So Help Me God... _____ From: Autism_in_Girls [mailto:Autism_in_Girls ] On Behalf Of cathylynn2 Sent: Sunday, September 07, 2008 6:14 PM To: Autism_in_Girls Subject: Re: Only child Hi Karmen, Mine's 8 and she gets lots of social interaction at school, the gym, music class, hippotherapy and playdates. > This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a > daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, > how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction > either outside of the home or inside? > > Karmen > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 Hi , Sounds like your daughter has lots of opportunities to interact with peers. How does she handle that interaction? Is it something you or another adult have to facilitate or is she a social person personality-wise? Karmen Re: Only child Hi Karmen, Mine's 8 and she gets lots of social interaction at school, the gym, music class, hippotherapy and playdates. > This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a > daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, > how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction > either outside of the home or inside? > > Karmen > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 Hi , Sounds like your daughter has lots of opportunities to interact with peers. How does she handle that interaction? Is it something you or another adult have to facilitate or is she a social person personality-wise? Karmen Re: Only child Hi Karmen, Mine's 8 and she gets lots of social interaction at school, the gym, music class, hippotherapy and playdates. > This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a > daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, > how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction > either outside of the home or inside? > > Karmen > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 That's awesome! Re: Only child Hi Karmen, Mine's 8 and she gets lots of social interaction at school, the gym, music class, hippotherapy and playdates. > This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a > daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, > how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction > either outside of the home or inside? > > Karmen > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 That's awesome! Re: Only child Hi Karmen, Mine's 8 and she gets lots of social interaction at school, the gym, music class, hippotherapy and playdates. > This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a > daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, > how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction > either outside of the home or inside? > > Karmen > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 I used to teach a variety of special needs children, but now I have only a few very advanced students and Evvie. It is very difficult for ASD children to learn forms, so the progress can be painstaking, but like all children, the thing they lack most is sefl-respect, which ultimately leads to respect for everything else. Its kind of funny to watch high ranking black belts standing along side of an eight year old yellow belt. It teaches them patience. From: kcboone <kcboonecomcast (DOT) net> Subject: Only child To: Autism_in_Girls@ yahoogroups. com Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 7:36 PM This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? Karmen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 I used to teach a variety of special needs children, but now I have only a few very advanced students and Evvie. It is very difficult for ASD children to learn forms, so the progress can be painstaking, but like all children, the thing they lack most is sefl-respect, which ultimately leads to respect for everything else. Its kind of funny to watch high ranking black belts standing along side of an eight year old yellow belt. It teaches them patience. From: kcboone <kcboonecomcast (DOT) net> Subject: Only child To: Autism_in_Girls@ yahoogroups. com Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 7:36 PM This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? Karmen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 She's very friendly and loves to be around people but needs a lot of prompting and direction when she is interacting with her peers. She doesn't mind, though, and truly wants to socialize and has a great time at all these activities. Her music she mainly does alone, but is in a special class with 3 autistic kids who are untrained prodigies like her. > Hi , > > Sounds like your daughter has lots of opportunities to interact with > peers. How does she handle that interaction? Is it something you > or another adult have to facilitate or is she a social person > personality-wise? > > Karmen > Re: Only child > > > Hi Karmen, > > Mine's 8 and she gets lots of social interaction at school, the gym, > music class, hippotherapy and playdates. > > > > > >> This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a >> daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, >> how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction >> either outside of the home or inside? >> >> Karmen >> >> > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 She's very friendly and loves to be around people but needs a lot of prompting and direction when she is interacting with her peers. She doesn't mind, though, and truly wants to socialize and has a great time at all these activities. Her music she mainly does alone, but is in a special class with 3 autistic kids who are untrained prodigies like her. > Hi , > > Sounds like your daughter has lots of opportunities to interact with > peers. How does she handle that interaction? Is it something you > or another adult have to facilitate or is she a social person > personality-wise? > > Karmen > Re: Only child > > > Hi Karmen, > > Mine's 8 and she gets lots of social interaction at school, the gym, > music class, hippotherapy and playdates. > > > > > >> This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a >> daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, >> how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction >> either outside of the home or inside? >> >> Karmen >> >> > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2008 Report Share Posted September 7, 2008 She's very friendly and loves to be around people but needs a lot of prompting and direction when she is interacting with her peers. She doesn't mind, though, and truly wants to socialize and has a great time at all these activities. Her music she mainly does alone, but is in a special class with 3 autistic kids who are untrained prodigies like her. > Hi , > > Sounds like your daughter has lots of opportunities to interact with > peers. How does she handle that interaction? Is it something you > or another adult have to facilitate or is she a social person > personality-wise? > > Karmen > Re: Only child > > > Hi Karmen, > > Mine's 8 and she gets lots of social interaction at school, the gym, > music class, hippotherapy and playdates. > > > > > >> This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a >> daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, >> how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction >> either outside of the home or inside? >> >> Karmen >> >> > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2008 Report Share Posted September 8, 2008 i have an only child and I try to invite her peers with us when we go to outings or encourage my daughter to invite them to the house. It's very difficult as my daughter has no desire for any other kds around with the exception of her best friend who is a boy . Subject: Only child To: Autism_in_Girls Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? Karmen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2008 Report Share Posted September 8, 2008 i have an only child and I try to invite her peers with us when we go to outings or encourage my daughter to invite them to the house. It's very difficult as my daughter has no desire for any other kds around with the exception of her best friend who is a boy . Subject: Only child To: Autism_in_Girls Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? Karmen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2008 Report Share Posted September 8, 2008 i have an only child and I try to invite her peers with us when we go to outings or encourage my daughter to invite them to the house. It's very difficult as my daughter has no desire for any other kds around with the exception of her best friend who is a boy . Subject: Only child To: Autism_in_Girls Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? Karmen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2008 Report Share Posted September 8, 2008 Hi Karmen, My daughter Allie is 13 now and an only child. She and our God daughter have grown up together somewhat like cousins, usually seeing each other at least once a month and often more. They play video games, watch movies, enjoy roll-playing games, go to concerts and amusement parks, and the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo every year. When they were younger, our families even vacationed together. Allie also has a same age friend who is diagnosed AS. When her family moved from out of state into our neighborhood and 'C' entered the same school, a local support organization introduced us. All 3 families get together. Sometimes while the adults play board games and card games, all 3 girls enjoy going to Allie's room to dress up for roll playing sessions in who knows what imaginary lands. Sometimes after school and on weekends Allie & 'C' just get together to play video games for hours. Allie has also been a Girl Scout for 8 years, and that has given a huge amount of social interaction and development in a positive environment. It would take another entire email to make a dent in all of the fun and development she has gained in Girl Scouts alone. She has done other things too, such as a few years of gymnastics, 5 years of dance [with a number of girls from the Circle of Friends we developed in 3rd grade]. I hear that there's a teen group that meets at the community college up the road too, and now that she's old enough we want to look into that. I hope this gives some ideas. Sandi In a message dated 9/7/2008 7:37:24 P.M. Central Daylight Time, kcboone@... writes: This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? Karmen **************Psssst...Have you heard the news? There's a new fashion blog, plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at StyleList.com. (http://www.stylelist.com/trends?ncid=aolsty00050000000014) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2008 Report Share Posted September 8, 2008 My daughter is 8 and sounds similar to yours, Tina. She really never requests that we take any friends with us anywhere that we go ( zoo, park , lunch)-she seems content just being with me. BUt however; if my husband and I take her some place together , she says it's boring and we should have invited someone. THAT just started this year. She seems to play fine with other kids, but seems to go off by herself at times, if the children aren't talking about what she wants to, or if they are doing an activity that is too hard for her ( jumping rope too fast/riding bikes etc) I was please when she started expressing an interest in having others around, but the " others " usually means she wants her aunts or grandparents with us. THe only time she does play with another child the " correct " way, is when a friend of mine whose daughter has aspergers comes over. THey seem to speak the same language and get along perfectly. Subject: Re: Only child To: Autism_in_Girls Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 10:33 PM My daughter is 9 and an only child. Not by my choice but my husband never wanted more then 1, even before we learned of her autism diagnosis. He said one time that he was not afraid of having another child with autism but rather he was afraid of having an NT child. I found this rather odd but I understand what he meant now--he was afraid that he would favor the NT child but I don't think that could EVER happen because his love for our daughter is HUGE. She is our princess! As for the social interaction- -we take her EVERYWHERE and she loves being out and about. When we went to Mexico with 16 other family memebers (and some cousins her age) she was wonderful with the entire trip and seemed to like being with her cousins in the pool. She does have limited social skills and does not have " normal " play skills (she stims mostly on strings of beads and tassles and such) so the other kids in our group tried their hardest to pull our DD into playing with them but it was hard for her to do that. I do sometimes have play dates for social interaction but I find that my daughter is not all that interested in them. She will go on her swing set and play alone most of the time even if I attempt to have the kids play together. Tina > > This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? > > Karmen > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2008 Report Share Posted September 8, 2008 My daughter is 8 and sounds similar to yours, Tina. She really never requests that we take any friends with us anywhere that we go ( zoo, park , lunch)-she seems content just being with me. BUt however; if my husband and I take her some place together , she says it's boring and we should have invited someone. THAT just started this year. She seems to play fine with other kids, but seems to go off by herself at times, if the children aren't talking about what she wants to, or if they are doing an activity that is too hard for her ( jumping rope too fast/riding bikes etc) I was please when she started expressing an interest in having others around, but the " others " usually means she wants her aunts or grandparents with us. THe only time she does play with another child the " correct " way, is when a friend of mine whose daughter has aspergers comes over. THey seem to speak the same language and get along perfectly. Subject: Re: Only child To: Autism_in_Girls Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 10:33 PM My daughter is 9 and an only child. Not by my choice but my husband never wanted more then 1, even before we learned of her autism diagnosis. He said one time that he was not afraid of having another child with autism but rather he was afraid of having an NT child. I found this rather odd but I understand what he meant now--he was afraid that he would favor the NT child but I don't think that could EVER happen because his love for our daughter is HUGE. She is our princess! As for the social interaction- -we take her EVERYWHERE and she loves being out and about. When we went to Mexico with 16 other family memebers (and some cousins her age) she was wonderful with the entire trip and seemed to like being with her cousins in the pool. She does have limited social skills and does not have " normal " play skills (she stims mostly on strings of beads and tassles and such) so the other kids in our group tried their hardest to pull our DD into playing with them but it was hard for her to do that. I do sometimes have play dates for social interaction but I find that my daughter is not all that interested in them. She will go on her swing set and play alone most of the time even if I attempt to have the kids play together. Tina > > This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? > > Karmen > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2008 Report Share Posted September 8, 2008 My little girl doesn't initiate play, but once someone says " Wanna play " she's all in it! One interesting thing, though, is that she's never asked me a question, just out of nowhere, other than " Will you get me cereal/breakfast? " first thing when she wakes up. She's 9 and she's never asked " Where are we going? " or " Do I have to go? " , and never complained about being anywhere, no matter how long we're there. She'll sit quietly and wait no matter how long, reading or coloring or just playing quietly. While that is really refreshing, I've never seen a child with such patience. I have to assume that she's just mired in the moment, not pulled by the " I'm bored " or " now what? " thinking that most kids have. Just an interesting thing about my Maddie, one of the things that got me on the internet looking up symptoms initially. Don The Whole Truth Nothing But the Truth So Help Me God... _____ From: Autism_in_Girls [mailto:Autism_in_Girls ] On Behalf Of lisa gordon Sent: Monday, September 08, 2008 5:34 AM To: Autism_in_Girls Subject: Re: Re: Only child My daughter is 8 and sounds similar to yours, Tina. She really never requests that we take any friends with us anywhere that we go ( zoo, park , lunch)-she seems content just being with me. BUt however; if my husband and I take her some place together , she says it's boring and we should have invited someone. THAT just started this year. She seems to play fine with other kids, but seems to go off by herself at times, if the children aren't talking about what she wants to, or if they are doing an activity that is too hard for her ( jumping rope too fast/riding bikes etc) I was please when she started expressing an interest in having others around, but the " others " usually means she wants her aunts or grandparents with us. THe only time she does play with another child the " correct " way, is when a friend of mine whose daughter has aspergers comes over. THey seem to speak the same language and get along perfectly. From: Tina <cuchesoptonline (DOT) <mailto:cuches%40optonline.net> net> Subject: Re: Only child To: Autism_in_Girls@ <mailto:Autism_in_Girls%40yahoogroups.com> yahoogroups.com Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 10:33 PM My daughter is 9 and an only child. Not by my choice but my husband never wanted more then 1, even before we learned of her autism diagnosis. He said one time that he was not afraid of having another child with autism but rather he was afraid of having an NT child. I found this rather odd but I understand what he meant now--he was afraid that he would favor the NT child but I don't think that could EVER happen because his love for our daughter is HUGE. She is our princess! As for the social interaction- -we take her EVERYWHERE and she loves being out and about. When we went to Mexico with 16 other family memebers (and some cousins her age) she was wonderful with the entire trip and seemed to like being with her cousins in the pool. She does have limited social skills and does not have " normal " play skills (she stims mostly on strings of beads and tassles and such) so the other kids in our group tried their hardest to pull our DD into playing with them but it was hard for her to do that. I do sometimes have play dates for social interaction but I find that my daughter is not all that interested in them. She will go on her swing set and play alone most of the time even if I attempt to have the kids play together. Tina > > This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? > > Karmen > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2008 Report Share Posted September 8, 2008 My little girl doesn't initiate play, but once someone says " Wanna play " she's all in it! One interesting thing, though, is that she's never asked me a question, just out of nowhere, other than " Will you get me cereal/breakfast? " first thing when she wakes up. She's 9 and she's never asked " Where are we going? " or " Do I have to go? " , and never complained about being anywhere, no matter how long we're there. She'll sit quietly and wait no matter how long, reading or coloring or just playing quietly. While that is really refreshing, I've never seen a child with such patience. I have to assume that she's just mired in the moment, not pulled by the " I'm bored " or " now what? " thinking that most kids have. Just an interesting thing about my Maddie, one of the things that got me on the internet looking up symptoms initially. Don The Whole Truth Nothing But the Truth So Help Me God... _____ From: Autism_in_Girls [mailto:Autism_in_Girls ] On Behalf Of lisa gordon Sent: Monday, September 08, 2008 5:34 AM To: Autism_in_Girls Subject: Re: Re: Only child My daughter is 8 and sounds similar to yours, Tina. She really never requests that we take any friends with us anywhere that we go ( zoo, park , lunch)-she seems content just being with me. BUt however; if my husband and I take her some place together , she says it's boring and we should have invited someone. THAT just started this year. She seems to play fine with other kids, but seems to go off by herself at times, if the children aren't talking about what she wants to, or if they are doing an activity that is too hard for her ( jumping rope too fast/riding bikes etc) I was please when she started expressing an interest in having others around, but the " others " usually means she wants her aunts or grandparents with us. THe only time she does play with another child the " correct " way, is when a friend of mine whose daughter has aspergers comes over. THey seem to speak the same language and get along perfectly. From: Tina <cuchesoptonline (DOT) <mailto:cuches%40optonline.net> net> Subject: Re: Only child To: Autism_in_Girls@ <mailto:Autism_in_Girls%40yahoogroups.com> yahoogroups.com Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 10:33 PM My daughter is 9 and an only child. Not by my choice but my husband never wanted more then 1, even before we learned of her autism diagnosis. He said one time that he was not afraid of having another child with autism but rather he was afraid of having an NT child. I found this rather odd but I understand what he meant now--he was afraid that he would favor the NT child but I don't think that could EVER happen because his love for our daughter is HUGE. She is our princess! As for the social interaction- -we take her EVERYWHERE and she loves being out and about. When we went to Mexico with 16 other family memebers (and some cousins her age) she was wonderful with the entire trip and seemed to like being with her cousins in the pool. She does have limited social skills and does not have " normal " play skills (she stims mostly on strings of beads and tassles and such) so the other kids in our group tried their hardest to pull our DD into playing with them but it was hard for her to do that. I do sometimes have play dates for social interaction but I find that my daughter is not all that interested in them. She will go on her swing set and play alone most of the time even if I attempt to have the kids play together. Tina > > This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside? > > Karmen > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2008 Report Share Posted September 8, 2008 Hi, My daughter is almost 16. I used to think that it was just terrible if my daughter didn't have friends and lots of social interaction. Doctors told me that she needed to be socialized, yet they told me years before that she needed to be vaccinated. After years of forcing my daughter to be more social with peers and have her in every dance class, softball team and other activities I realized that she doesn't need the interaction. does not long for friends or to be more social, she just wants to be happy with herself. When I force her to talk to people or do things that she just hates then it just makes her more miserable. Ask yourself if this is for your child or for others. Just my opinion. Hope > This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a > daughter that is an only child? If your daughter's an only child, > how old is she and what do you do to encourage social interaction > either outside of the home or inside? > > Karmen > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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