Need Help ! with a plan for Attendant care!

March 23, 2002

Hi all,

Shira started with attendant care this week and i am feeling

frustrated already. They took her bowling out to eat,. Her attendant

care person said that if I was not comfortable with what they are

doing to let her know and give her ideas on what I wanted. They said

they could come into my house and stand over her and make her clean

her room or help her clean her room, they could also help with her

chores. (I do not want someone else in my house taking over the

parent role with her). So I need ideas on they could be helping her

work on. The attendant care lady told me that she would help her with

her homework and then take her out for the rest of the time. I have a

problem with this because if she is bad all week for me then she gets

rewards with attendant care. Help me or tell me how you work on age

appropriate boundaries. Give me some ideas on what they could also

work on and how they should accomplish these goals. I know all our

kids are different but they all have something in common. I only have

until Thursday to come up with a plan. (Shira is 10 yrs old; she

suffers from depression, OCD, and separation anxiety. Shira is

defiant and ignores everything when asked to do something.) Shira has

been lying to her case manager, and her therapist over little things.

They have not asked me about them nor have i told them.

I am having some problems with her case mannger becasue she refused

to drop Shira off because i was not home when she came. My other

daughter was home and i had a friend stopping by within about 15 min

of Shira got home. So i have not told her case mannager that Shira is

lying.Just happen this week. so i have not seen her case mannager.

I have to have a plan to present to her team so that they will listen

to me.

I appreciate all the help i can get!

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