Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 Exactly!!! > That does make sense. I don't think it sounds bad at all, I think our > kids > need all the extra help they can get and if being the only girl in the > class > helps.... so be it! > I don't know if really got all that much extra attention, but I do > think the attention she got was a lot more quality attention because they > all thought she was so cute and adorable and loved her very much. She was > definately enjoyed and she knew it. > And knowing that made me feel much better about her being there, cause I > know how difficult she can get and it's easier to trust that they will work > with her and not get too frustrated with her, when you can see that they > really care about her and her well being. > > Theresa > 's Mom > > > On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com>> > wrote: > > > > I have always liked her being the only girl. This is going to sound bad, > > but because she was the only girl she got extra attention from the > teachers > > and I think that really helped her. > > T > > > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 9:22 PM, kcboone <kcboone@...<kcboone%40comcast.net> > <kcboone%40comcast.net>> > > > wrote: > > > > > Hi Theresa, > > > > > > My daughter (6) is the ONLY girl in her multiple handicapped class. > Last > > > year there was another little girl in the class but she was older than > my > > > daughter and is now in the next class up. The year before, there were 3 > > > girls. It makes me a little nervous that she is the ONLY girl. I think > > she > > > needs to TRY to develop friendships with girls which is VERY hard for > > her. > > > She is an only child and she has such a busy after school schedule with > > > private therapies and treatments that we never have play dates. I even > > said > > > to her that we were going to start having friends come over and it > upset > > her > > > VERY much. She's not good with change and has NEVER had to share her > > things. > > > Its been quite unsettling for me. So, I've enrolled her in a girls > group > > at > > > church which will begin on the day after Labor Day. I hope she will > make > > at > > > least ONE friend in that group that I can invite over. I've enlisted > the > > > help of a teenage girl to shadow her in the girls group at church (same > > > shadow she has for Sunday school), so hopefully this will yield some > > > positive possible friendships. We'll see. > > > > > > Just thought I'd comment on the ONLY girl in class situation. > > > > > > Karmen > > > > > > Re: Re: My little girl... > > > > > > That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the > > > difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she > does. > > > If > > > I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she > will > > > sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on > how > > > you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. > > > > > > She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the > VE > > > K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will > be > > > plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with > and > > > will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls > > and > > > boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she > > does > > > try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if > > > anyone plays with her or not. > > > > > > She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two > > years > > > she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best > > > buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the > > > future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. > > > > > > Theresa > > > (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom > > > > > > On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com><taijijat% > 40gmail.com><taijijat% > > 40gmail.com>> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a > boyfriend > > > > and > > > > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find > her > > a > > > > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally > > or > > > > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had > lots > > of > > > > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due > to > > > > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she > is > > > > just > > > > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has > > anything > > > > to do with her wanting one so badly. > > > > T > > > > > > > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > > > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > > > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > > > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much > younger > > > > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because > > most > > > > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just > > girlfriend > > > > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right > now. > > My > > > > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > > > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes > of > > > > > me great concern for her. > > > > > sondra > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 Does she have friends, play dates, or siblings? Maybe that's whats making it not such a good thing in my mind. My daughter has none of those and I wish she'd have the opportunity in school to HAVE a friend that is a girl. Although she is dx'd mild-moderate autism, my daughter's social skills are severely lacking. Karmen Re: Re: My little girl... > > That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the > difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she does. > If > I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she will > sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on how > you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. > > She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE > K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will be > plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with and > will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls and > boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she does > try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if > anyone plays with her or not. > > She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two years > she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best > buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the > future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. > > Theresa > (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom > > On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com>> > wrote: > > > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend > > and > > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her a > > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally or > > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots of > > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to > > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is > > just > > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has anything > > to do with her wanting one so badly. > > T > > > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > > wrote: > > > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger > > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because most > > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just girlfriend > > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. My > > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of > > > me great concern for her. > > > sondra > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 Does she have friends, play dates, or siblings? Maybe that's whats making it not such a good thing in my mind. My daughter has none of those and I wish she'd have the opportunity in school to HAVE a friend that is a girl. Although she is dx'd mild-moderate autism, my daughter's social skills are severely lacking. Karmen Re: Re: My little girl... > > That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the > difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she does. > If > I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she will > sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on how > you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. > > She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE > K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will be > plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with and > will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls and > boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she does > try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if > anyone plays with her or not. > > She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two years > she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best > buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the > future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. > > Theresa > (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom > > On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com>> > wrote: > > > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend > > and > > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her a > > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally or > > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots of > > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to > > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is > > just > > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has anything > > to do with her wanting one so badly. > > T > > > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > > wrote: > > > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger > > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because most > > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just girlfriend > > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. My > > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of > > > me great concern for her. > > > sondra > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 my daughter has no friends, not like we know friends. she sits by herself at school, as she is in the high school section now, so all the other kids are miles ahead of her in age etc. i used to feel sad for her, that she didnt experience friendship, but i now realise, that its the way she is. she has permission to go into one of the classrooms and do her drawing, which is her favourite passtime. she loves her aide teacher which she has most of monday and 3 lessons through out the week as well. she does try to do things in class, and the kids in her class are so used to her now. she loves music, and believe it or not woodwork........not sure how much of it she actually does, but he shows her what to do and you can see her attempts and she brought some little simple things home. she likes to be around people but not the centre. her big sister is having a big party this weekend for her 16th, hannah says it will be good to see, but she won't participate and will probably spend alot of the time going from her bedroom to peek out to her tv.....thats her little comfortable life. Cheryl S [chez] To: Autism_in_Girls@...: kcboone@...: Sun, 17 Aug 2008 22:25:30 -0400Subject: Re: Re: My little girl... Does she have friends, play dates, or siblings? Maybe that's whats making it not such a good thing in my mind. My daughter has none of those and I wish she'd have the opportunity in school to HAVE a friend that is a girl. Although she is dx'd mild-moderate autism, my daughter's social skills are severely lacking. Karmen Re: Re: My little girl...>> That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the> difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she does.> If> I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she will> sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on how> you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave.>> She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE> K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will be> plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with and> will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls and> boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she does> try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if> anyone plays with her or not.>> She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two years> she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best> buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the> future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. >> Theresa> (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom>> On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com>>> wrote:> >> > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend> > and> > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her a> > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally or> > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots of> > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to> > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is> > just> > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has anything> > to do with her wanting one so badly.> > T> >> > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>>> > wrote:> >> > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are> > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of> > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger> > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because most> > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just girlfriend> > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. My> > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of> > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of> > > me great concern for her.> > > sondra> > >> > >> > >> >> > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]> >> >> >>> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2008 Report Share Posted August 18, 2008 She has an older brother and they love and hate eachother. I am not sure she has real friendships with anyone yet. She just calls people her friends and likes the idea of friends but not sure what to do with a friend. > Did you ever try to facilitate friendships between your daughter and > other girls? Does she consider her older sister her 'friend'? How do they > get along? > > My daughter is an only child, so she truly is 'alone'. That is partly the > reason I feel I have to intervene, because at least if I try to encourage a > friendship between her and another little girl, at least I will give her the > opportunity to try to understand 'friendship', and see if she is receptive > to it. Right now as it stands there is NO opportunity for her to even get an > idea of what friendship is because she is an only child and is very > schedulized after school with therapies and treatments. > > Karmen > > Re: > Re: My little girl...>> That does make sense, my daughter > (5) doesn't even really know the> difference between a boy and a girl yet. > At least I don't think she does.> If> I show her a picture of a boy and ask > her if it's a boy or girl, she will> sometimes say girl and sometimes say > boy... also sometimes depends on how> you ask, cause sometimes she just > repeats the last choice you gave.>> She's also had mostly boys in her > classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE> K-2nd grade class at her school she > will be the ONLY girl! There will be> plenty of girls in the mainstream > class that she will eat lunch with and> will visit for times during the day. > But even when presented with girls and> boys in a class she almost always > gravitates towards the boys when she does> try to interact... of course most > of the time she couldn't care less if> anyone plays with her or not.>> She > has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two years> she > had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best> buddies > with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the> future, I'd > say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. >> Theresa> > (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom>> On 8/17/08, taijij at work < > taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com> <taijijat%40gmail.com>>> wrote:> > >> > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a > boyfriend> > and> > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not > going to find her a> > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla > is not mentally or> > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so > badly. She had lots of> > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am > guessing this is due to> > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then > girls and well, she is> > just> > more comfortable with boys because of > this. Not sure if this has anything> > to do with her wanting one so badly.> > > T> >> > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>>> > wrote:> >> > > My > missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are> > > really > struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of> > > boyfriends, and > while she is of 15 her development is of much younger> > > so the social > fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because most> > > boys of 15 > are of interested in other things outside of just girlfriend> > > boyfriend > things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. My> > > missy is > of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of> > > other boys > that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of> > > me great > concern for her.> > > sondra> > >> > >> > >> >> > [Non-text portions of this > message have been removed]> >> >> >>> [Non-text portions of this message > have been removed]>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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