Guest guest Posted August 15, 2008 Report Share Posted August 15, 2008 Typically a diagnosis of PDD or other forms of autism are done by a licensed psychologist. Do you know of any in your region who diagnose autism? I would suggest starting there, if you cannot afford it you have the right to request an outside evaluation at the school's expense. Only, you may not like what they find, obviously those paid by the school to do tests feel some sort of obligation to the school, and either private or outside, the school is not legally required to change based on those evaluations, only required to " consider " them, what ever the heck that means. HTH, Debi - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 15, 2008 Report Share Posted August 15, 2008 Typically a diagnosis of PDD or other forms of autism are done by a licensed psychologist. Do you know of any in your region who diagnose autism? I would suggest starting there, if you cannot afford it you have the right to request an outside evaluation at the school's expense. Only, you may not like what they find, obviously those paid by the school to do tests feel some sort of obligation to the school, and either private or outside, the school is not legally required to change based on those evaluations, only required to " consider " them, what ever the heck that means. HTH, Debi - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2008 Report Share Posted August 16, 2008 That's great news, Taijij! How old is your daughter now? The Whole Truth Nothing But the Truth So Help Me God... _____ From: Autism_in_Girls [mailto:Autism_in_Girls ] On Behalf Of taijij at work Sent: Friday, August 15, 2008 5:49 AM To: Autism_in_Girls Subject: Re: Re: My little girl... When my daughter was about 4.5 she was dx'd with PDD NOS and it was right, it's autism. We did intensive brushes to help her with touch issues and added noises to her daily life to help her learn to tune them out. I have to say these things helped her immensely. She can now do things she could never do, like watch a tv with the volume on, go to the movies, drive in a car with the radio on, touch people correctly, be touched softly, brush her hair. Wear clothes that may have a string hanging or a little dab of dirt. She eats tons of things now. She will try anything now. Then all she ate was chicken nuggets, pretzels, cheerios, and milk. There is hope. TJ On Fri, Aug 15, 2008 at 8:02 AM, Don <thewholetruth@ <mailto:thewholetruth%40comcast.net> comcast.net> wrote: > My little girl Madison (9) was diagnosed with a learning disability by > the public school system here in Sonoma County as she entered > Kindergarten 5 years ago and we've had an IEP ever since. We'd talked > with them about reassessing her as symptoms of Autism became evident > but they always stuck by their original assessment. We recently had > Maddie assessed by North Bay Regional and they determined her > assessment as PDD NOS. Reading the Wikipedia definition of this > diagnosis shows it is right on the money regarding my daughter: > hypersensitivity to sound, very particular about food (will only eat a > few things like pasta, cereal, cheese, milk, grape juice, goldfish > crackers, very little vegetables and fruits), extremely irrational > fears (of flies and " car noises " when going out into the kitchen alone > she covers her ears and we can barely hear traffic from our house). > Anyone have any experience or information about this diagnosis? Thank > you! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2008 Report Share Posted August 16, 2008 That's great news, Taijij! How old is your daughter now? The Whole Truth Nothing But the Truth So Help Me God... _____ From: Autism_in_Girls [mailto:Autism_in_Girls ] On Behalf Of taijij at work Sent: Friday, August 15, 2008 5:49 AM To: Autism_in_Girls Subject: Re: Re: My little girl... When my daughter was about 4.5 she was dx'd with PDD NOS and it was right, it's autism. We did intensive brushes to help her with touch issues and added noises to her daily life to help her learn to tune them out. I have to say these things helped her immensely. She can now do things she could never do, like watch a tv with the volume on, go to the movies, drive in a car with the radio on, touch people correctly, be touched softly, brush her hair. Wear clothes that may have a string hanging or a little dab of dirt. She eats tons of things now. She will try anything now. Then all she ate was chicken nuggets, pretzels, cheerios, and milk. There is hope. TJ On Fri, Aug 15, 2008 at 8:02 AM, Don <thewholetruth@ <mailto:thewholetruth%40comcast.net> comcast.net> wrote: > My little girl Madison (9) was diagnosed with a learning disability by > the public school system here in Sonoma County as she entered > Kindergarten 5 years ago and we've had an IEP ever since. We'd talked > with them about reassessing her as symptoms of Autism became evident > but they always stuck by their original assessment. We recently had > Maddie assessed by North Bay Regional and they determined her > assessment as PDD NOS. Reading the Wikipedia definition of this > diagnosis shows it is right on the money regarding my daughter: > hypersensitivity to sound, very particular about food (will only eat a > few things like pasta, cereal, cheese, milk, grape juice, goldfish > crackers, very little vegetables and fruits), extremely irrational > fears (of flies and " car noises " when going out into the kitchen alone > she covers her ears and we can barely hear traffic from our house). > Anyone have any experience or information about this diagnosis? Thank > you! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2008 Report Share Posted August 16, 2008 She is 13. They did a lot of intensive therapies with her. In the beginning the school district sent someone to our house to work with her one on one for about 4 hours a day. They were wonderful. She is starting to read now and I think it's more then just memorization. She has been able to memorize words forever. Like Target, the store, because she loved it there. Mc's, stuff like that. I am so hopeful that she will be reading soon. Kayla has always understood complicated directions, for example we could be in the kitchen and I would ask her to go upstairs in my bathroom and get the brush, then go to her room and get a book and get a rubber band from her bathroom and then bring it to me. At 13, she doesn't want to do this anymore, but she hasn't lost the ability she is just a teenager!!! And like any teenage girl she is boy crazy. We never tried the special diets, because she didn't eat much, like I said earlier. But as she has grown she has wanted to try new things. Usually whatever her father is eating because she really looks up to him and well, I am so picky it's not even funny. I can understand your stress. It can be a very difficult road. I hope you and your family get all the help you need. I went thru some very difficult times (lost my mother last March to brain cancer at 54, some horrible job issues, fibromylagia, etc) I had some very angry times, but Kayla really pulled me thru. She would look at me with those innocent eyes and give me a hug or pat me on the head. It really helped. TJ > That's great news, Taijij! How old is your daughter now? > > The Whole Truth > Nothing But the Truth > So Help Me God... > > _____ > > From: Autism_in_Girls <Autism_in_Girls%40yahoogroups.com> > [mailto:Autism_in_Girls <Autism_in_Girls%40yahoogroups.com>] > On Behalf Of taijij at work > Sent: Friday, August 15, 2008 5:49 AM > To: Autism_in_Girls <Autism_in_Girls%40yahoogroups.com> > Subject: Re: Re: My little girl... > > When my daughter was about 4.5 she was dx'd with PDD NOS and it was right, > it's autism. We did intensive brushes to help her with touch issues and > added noises to her daily life to help her learn to tune them out. I have > to say these things helped her immensely. She can now do things she could > never do, like watch a tv with the volume on, go to the movies, drive in a > car with the radio on, touch people correctly, be touched softly, brush her > hair. Wear clothes that may have a string hanging or a little dab of dirt. > She eats tons of things now. She will try anything now. Then all she ate > was chicken nuggets, pretzels, cheerios, and milk. There is hope. > TJ > > On Fri, Aug 15, 2008 at 8:02 AM, Don <thewholetruth@ > <mailto:thewholetruth%40comcast.net <thewholetruth%2540comcast.net>> > comcast.net> wrote: > > > My little girl Madison (9) was diagnosed with a learning disability by > > the public school system here in Sonoma County as she entered > > Kindergarten 5 years ago and we've had an IEP ever since. We'd talked > > with them about reassessing her as symptoms of Autism became evident > > but they always stuck by their original assessment. We recently had > > Maddie assessed by North Bay Regional and they determined her > > assessment as PDD NOS. Reading the Wikipedia definition of this > > diagnosis shows it is right on the money regarding my daughter: > > hypersensitivity to sound, very particular about food (will only eat a > > few things like pasta, cereal, cheese, milk, grape juice, goldfish > > crackers, very little vegetables and fruits), extremely irrational > > fears (of flies and " car noises " when going out into the kitchen alone > > she covers her ears and we can barely hear traffic from our house). > > Anyone have any experience or information about this diagnosis? Thank > > you! > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2008 Report Share Posted August 16, 2008 She is 13. They did a lot of intensive therapies with her. In the beginning the school district sent someone to our house to work with her one on one for about 4 hours a day. They were wonderful. She is starting to read now and I think it's more then just memorization. She has been able to memorize words forever. Like Target, the store, because she loved it there. Mc's, stuff like that. I am so hopeful that she will be reading soon. Kayla has always understood complicated directions, for example we could be in the kitchen and I would ask her to go upstairs in my bathroom and get the brush, then go to her room and get a book and get a rubber band from her bathroom and then bring it to me. At 13, she doesn't want to do this anymore, but she hasn't lost the ability she is just a teenager!!! And like any teenage girl she is boy crazy. We never tried the special diets, because she didn't eat much, like I said earlier. But as she has grown she has wanted to try new things. Usually whatever her father is eating because she really looks up to him and well, I am so picky it's not even funny. I can understand your stress. It can be a very difficult road. I hope you and your family get all the help you need. I went thru some very difficult times (lost my mother last March to brain cancer at 54, some horrible job issues, fibromylagia, etc) I had some very angry times, but Kayla really pulled me thru. She would look at me with those innocent eyes and give me a hug or pat me on the head. It really helped. TJ > That's great news, Taijij! How old is your daughter now? > > The Whole Truth > Nothing But the Truth > So Help Me God... > > _____ > > From: Autism_in_Girls <Autism_in_Girls%40yahoogroups.com> > [mailto:Autism_in_Girls <Autism_in_Girls%40yahoogroups.com>] > On Behalf Of taijij at work > Sent: Friday, August 15, 2008 5:49 AM > To: Autism_in_Girls <Autism_in_Girls%40yahoogroups.com> > Subject: Re: Re: My little girl... > > When my daughter was about 4.5 she was dx'd with PDD NOS and it was right, > it's autism. We did intensive brushes to help her with touch issues and > added noises to her daily life to help her learn to tune them out. I have > to say these things helped her immensely. She can now do things she could > never do, like watch a tv with the volume on, go to the movies, drive in a > car with the radio on, touch people correctly, be touched softly, brush her > hair. Wear clothes that may have a string hanging or a little dab of dirt. > She eats tons of things now. She will try anything now. Then all she ate > was chicken nuggets, pretzels, cheerios, and milk. There is hope. > TJ > > On Fri, Aug 15, 2008 at 8:02 AM, Don <thewholetruth@ > <mailto:thewholetruth%40comcast.net <thewholetruth%2540comcast.net>> > comcast.net> wrote: > > > My little girl Madison (9) was diagnosed with a learning disability by > > the public school system here in Sonoma County as she entered > > Kindergarten 5 years ago and we've had an IEP ever since. We'd talked > > with them about reassessing her as symptoms of Autism became evident > > but they always stuck by their original assessment. We recently had > > Maddie assessed by North Bay Regional and they determined her > > assessment as PDD NOS. Reading the Wikipedia definition of this > > diagnosis shows it is right on the money regarding my daughter: > > hypersensitivity to sound, very particular about food (will only eat a > > few things like pasta, cereal, cheese, milk, grape juice, goldfish > > crackers, very little vegetables and fruits), extremely irrational > > fears (of flies and " car noises " when going out into the kitchen alone > > she covers her ears and we can barely hear traffic from our house). > > Anyone have any experience or information about this diagnosis? Thank > > you! > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 16, 2008 Report Share Posted August 16, 2008 She is 13. They did a lot of intensive therapies with her. In the beginning the school district sent someone to our house to work with her one on one for about 4 hours a day. They were wonderful. She is starting to read now and I think it's more then just memorization. She has been able to memorize words forever. Like Target, the store, because she loved it there. Mc's, stuff like that. I am so hopeful that she will be reading soon. Kayla has always understood complicated directions, for example we could be in the kitchen and I would ask her to go upstairs in my bathroom and get the brush, then go to her room and get a book and get a rubber band from her bathroom and then bring it to me. At 13, she doesn't want to do this anymore, but she hasn't lost the ability she is just a teenager!!! And like any teenage girl she is boy crazy. We never tried the special diets, because she didn't eat much, like I said earlier. But as she has grown she has wanted to try new things. Usually whatever her father is eating because she really looks up to him and well, I am so picky it's not even funny. I can understand your stress. It can be a very difficult road. I hope you and your family get all the help you need. I went thru some very difficult times (lost my mother last March to brain cancer at 54, some horrible job issues, fibromylagia, etc) I had some very angry times, but Kayla really pulled me thru. She would look at me with those innocent eyes and give me a hug or pat me on the head. It really helped. TJ > That's great news, Taijij! How old is your daughter now? > > The Whole Truth > Nothing But the Truth > So Help Me God... > > _____ > > From: Autism_in_Girls <Autism_in_Girls%40yahoogroups.com> > [mailto:Autism_in_Girls <Autism_in_Girls%40yahoogroups.com>] > On Behalf Of taijij at work > Sent: Friday, August 15, 2008 5:49 AM > To: Autism_in_Girls <Autism_in_Girls%40yahoogroups.com> > Subject: Re: Re: My little girl... > > When my daughter was about 4.5 she was dx'd with PDD NOS and it was right, > it's autism. We did intensive brushes to help her with touch issues and > added noises to her daily life to help her learn to tune them out. I have > to say these things helped her immensely. She can now do things she could > never do, like watch a tv with the volume on, go to the movies, drive in a > car with the radio on, touch people correctly, be touched softly, brush her > hair. Wear clothes that may have a string hanging or a little dab of dirt. > She eats tons of things now. She will try anything now. Then all she ate > was chicken nuggets, pretzels, cheerios, and milk. There is hope. > TJ > > On Fri, Aug 15, 2008 at 8:02 AM, Don <thewholetruth@ > <mailto:thewholetruth%40comcast.net <thewholetruth%2540comcast.net>> > comcast.net> wrote: > > > My little girl Madison (9) was diagnosed with a learning disability by > > the public school system here in Sonoma County as she entered > > Kindergarten 5 years ago and we've had an IEP ever since. We'd talked > > with them about reassessing her as symptoms of Autism became evident > > but they always stuck by their original assessment. We recently had > > Maddie assessed by North Bay Regional and they determined her > > assessment as PDD NOS. Reading the Wikipedia definition of this > > diagnosis shows it is right on the money regarding my daughter: > > hypersensitivity to sound, very particular about food (will only eat a > > few things like pasta, cereal, cheese, milk, grape juice, goldfish > > crackers, very little vegetables and fruits), extremely irrational > > fears (of flies and " car noises " when going out into the kitchen alone > > she covers her ears and we can barely hear traffic from our house). > > Anyone have any experience or information about this diagnosis? Thank > > you! > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 In a message dated 8/17/08 1:53:14 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, hfa2@... writes: My missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of me great concern for her. you mean they like her just for her body. it is sad but many boys are like that. is she emtionaly ready is the real question most 15 year old girls like the idea of a bf but are not ready mentaly or emtionaly just physicaly. hang in there. eric abbys dad **************Looking for a car that's sporty, fun and fits in your budget? Read reviews on AOL Autos. (http://autos.aol.com/cars-Volkswagen-Jetta-2009/expert-review?ncid=aolaut000300\ 00000007 ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 In a message dated 8/17/08 1:53:14 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, hfa2@... writes: My missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of me great concern for her. you mean they like her just for her body. it is sad but many boys are like that. is she emtionaly ready is the real question most 15 year old girls like the idea of a bf but are not ready mentaly or emtionaly just physicaly. hang in there. eric abbys dad **************Looking for a car that's sporty, fun and fits in your budget? Read reviews on AOL Autos. (http://autos.aol.com/cars-Volkswagen-Jetta-2009/expert-review?ncid=aolaut000300\ 00000007 ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 In a message dated 8/17/08 1:53:14 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, hfa2@... writes: My missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of me great concern for her. you mean they like her just for her body. it is sad but many boys are like that. is she emtionaly ready is the real question most 15 year old girls like the idea of a bf but are not ready mentaly or emtionaly just physicaly. hang in there. eric abbys dad **************Looking for a car that's sporty, fun and fits in your budget? Read reviews on AOL Autos. (http://autos.aol.com/cars-Volkswagen-Jetta-2009/expert-review?ncid=aolaut000300\ 00000007 ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because most boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just girlfriend boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. My missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of me great concern for her. sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 developmentally and emotionally no she is of not ready. this is of what worries of me with boys. I to not had of this experiences as a kid so lack what to do and wonder maybe if kassi can give of some insight to things of this since this is of an areas i to have no presonal areas in outside of book knowings but they do not cover of teens and sexuality of young teens on the spectrums. sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 developmentally and emotionally no she is of not ready. this is of what worries of me with boys. I to not had of this experiences as a kid so lack what to do and wonder maybe if kassi can give of some insight to things of this since this is of an areas i to have no presonal areas in outside of book knowings but they do not cover of teens and sexuality of young teens on the spectrums. sondra Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend and that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her a boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally or emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots of boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is just more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has anything to do with her wanting one so badly. T > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because most > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just girlfriend > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. My > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of > me great concern for her. > sondra > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she does. If I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she will sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on how you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will be plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with and will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls and boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she does try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if anyone plays with her or not. She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two years she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. Theresa (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend > and > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her a > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally or > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots of > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is > just > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has anything > to do with her wanting one so badly. > T > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > wrote: > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because most > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just girlfriend > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. My > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of > > me great concern for her. > > sondra > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 Hi Theresa, My daughter (6) is the ONLY girl in her multiple handicapped class. Last year there was another little girl in the class but she was older than my daughter and is now in the next class up. The year before, there were 3 girls. It makes me a little nervous that she is the ONLY girl. I think she needs to TRY to develop friendships with girls which is VERY hard for her. She is an only child and she has such a busy after school schedule with private therapies and treatments that we never have play dates. I even said to her that we were going to start having friends come over and it upset her VERY much. She's not good with change and has NEVER had to share her things. Its been quite unsettling for me. So, I've enrolled her in a girls group at church which will begin on the day after Labor Day. I hope she will make at least ONE friend in that group that I can invite over. I've enlisted the help of a teenage girl to shadow her in the girls group at church (same shadow she has for Sunday school), so hopefully this will yield some positive possible friendships. We'll see. Just thought I'd comment on the ONLY girl in class situation. Karmen Re: Re: My little girl... That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she does. If I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she will sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on how you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will be plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with and will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls and boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she does try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if anyone plays with her or not. She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two years she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. Theresa (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend > and > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her a > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally or > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots of > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is > just > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has anything > to do with her wanting one so badly. > T > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > wrote: > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because most > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just girlfriend > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. My > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of > > me great concern for her. > > sondra > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 That does make sense. I don't think it sounds bad at all, I think our kids need all the extra help they can get and if being the only girl in the class helps.... so be it! I don't know if really got all that much extra attention, but I do think the attention she got was a lot more quality attention because they all thought she was so cute and adorable and loved her very much. She was definately enjoyed and she knew it. And knowing that made me feel much better about her being there, cause I know how difficult she can get and it's easier to trust that they will work with her and not get too frustrated with her, when you can see that they really care about her and her well being. Theresa 's Mom > > I have always liked her being the only girl. This is going to sound bad, > but because she was the only girl she got extra attention from the teachers > and I think that really helped her. > T > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 9:22 PM, kcboone <kcboone@...<kcboone%40comcast.net>> > wrote: > > > Hi Theresa, > > > > My daughter (6) is the ONLY girl in her multiple handicapped class. Last > > year there was another little girl in the class but she was older than my > > daughter and is now in the next class up. The year before, there were 3 > > girls. It makes me a little nervous that she is the ONLY girl. I think > she > > needs to TRY to develop friendships with girls which is VERY hard for > her. > > She is an only child and she has such a busy after school schedule with > > private therapies and treatments that we never have play dates. I even > said > > to her that we were going to start having friends come over and it upset > her > > VERY much. She's not good with change and has NEVER had to share her > things. > > Its been quite unsettling for me. So, I've enrolled her in a girls group > at > > church which will begin on the day after Labor Day. I hope she will make > at > > least ONE friend in that group that I can invite over. I've enlisted the > > help of a teenage girl to shadow her in the girls group at church (same > > shadow she has for Sunday school), so hopefully this will yield some > > positive possible friendships. We'll see. > > > > Just thought I'd comment on the ONLY girl in class situation. > > > > Karmen > > > > Re: Re: My little girl... > > > > That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the > > difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she does. > > If > > I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she will > > sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on how > > you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. > > > > She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE > > K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will be > > plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with and > > will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls > and > > boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she > does > > try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if > > anyone plays with her or not. > > > > She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two > years > > she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best > > buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the > > future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. > > > > Theresa > > (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom > > > > On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com><taijijat% > 40gmail.com>> > > wrote: > > > > > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend > > > and > > > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her > a > > > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally > or > > > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots > of > > > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to > > > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is > > > just > > > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has > anything > > > to do with her wanting one so badly. > > > T > > > > > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger > > > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because > most > > > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just > girlfriend > > > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. > My > > > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of > > > > me great concern for her. > > > > sondra > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 That does make sense. I don't think it sounds bad at all, I think our kids need all the extra help they can get and if being the only girl in the class helps.... so be it! I don't know if really got all that much extra attention, but I do think the attention she got was a lot more quality attention because they all thought she was so cute and adorable and loved her very much. She was definately enjoyed and she knew it. And knowing that made me feel much better about her being there, cause I know how difficult she can get and it's easier to trust that they will work with her and not get too frustrated with her, when you can see that they really care about her and her well being. Theresa 's Mom > > I have always liked her being the only girl. This is going to sound bad, > but because she was the only girl she got extra attention from the teachers > and I think that really helped her. > T > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 9:22 PM, kcboone <kcboone@...<kcboone%40comcast.net>> > wrote: > > > Hi Theresa, > > > > My daughter (6) is the ONLY girl in her multiple handicapped class. Last > > year there was another little girl in the class but she was older than my > > daughter and is now in the next class up. The year before, there were 3 > > girls. It makes me a little nervous that she is the ONLY girl. I think > she > > needs to TRY to develop friendships with girls which is VERY hard for > her. > > She is an only child and she has such a busy after school schedule with > > private therapies and treatments that we never have play dates. I even > said > > to her that we were going to start having friends come over and it upset > her > > VERY much. She's not good with change and has NEVER had to share her > things. > > Its been quite unsettling for me. So, I've enrolled her in a girls group > at > > church which will begin on the day after Labor Day. I hope she will make > at > > least ONE friend in that group that I can invite over. I've enlisted the > > help of a teenage girl to shadow her in the girls group at church (same > > shadow she has for Sunday school), so hopefully this will yield some > > positive possible friendships. We'll see. > > > > Just thought I'd comment on the ONLY girl in class situation. > > > > Karmen > > > > Re: Re: My little girl... > > > > That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the > > difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she does. > > If > > I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she will > > sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on how > > you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. > > > > She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE > > K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will be > > plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with and > > will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls > and > > boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she > does > > try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if > > anyone plays with her or not. > > > > She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two > years > > she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best > > buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the > > future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. > > > > Theresa > > (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom > > > > On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com><taijijat% > 40gmail.com>> > > wrote: > > > > > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend > > > and > > > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her > a > > > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally > or > > > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots > of > > > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to > > > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is > > > just > > > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has > anything > > > to do with her wanting one so badly. > > > T > > > > > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger > > > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because > most > > > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just > girlfriend > > > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. > My > > > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of > > > > me great concern for her. > > > > sondra > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 That does make sense. I don't think it sounds bad at all, I think our kids need all the extra help they can get and if being the only girl in the class helps.... so be it! I don't know if really got all that much extra attention, but I do think the attention she got was a lot more quality attention because they all thought she was so cute and adorable and loved her very much. She was definately enjoyed and she knew it. And knowing that made me feel much better about her being there, cause I know how difficult she can get and it's easier to trust that they will work with her and not get too frustrated with her, when you can see that they really care about her and her well being. Theresa 's Mom > > I have always liked her being the only girl. This is going to sound bad, > but because she was the only girl she got extra attention from the teachers > and I think that really helped her. > T > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 9:22 PM, kcboone <kcboone@...<kcboone%40comcast.net>> > wrote: > > > Hi Theresa, > > > > My daughter (6) is the ONLY girl in her multiple handicapped class. Last > > year there was another little girl in the class but she was older than my > > daughter and is now in the next class up. The year before, there were 3 > > girls. It makes me a little nervous that she is the ONLY girl. I think > she > > needs to TRY to develop friendships with girls which is VERY hard for > her. > > She is an only child and she has such a busy after school schedule with > > private therapies and treatments that we never have play dates. I even > said > > to her that we were going to start having friends come over and it upset > her > > VERY much. She's not good with change and has NEVER had to share her > things. > > Its been quite unsettling for me. So, I've enrolled her in a girls group > at > > church which will begin on the day after Labor Day. I hope she will make > at > > least ONE friend in that group that I can invite over. I've enlisted the > > help of a teenage girl to shadow her in the girls group at church (same > > shadow she has for Sunday school), so hopefully this will yield some > > positive possible friendships. We'll see. > > > > Just thought I'd comment on the ONLY girl in class situation. > > > > Karmen > > > > Re: Re: My little girl... > > > > That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the > > difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she does. > > If > > I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she will > > sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on how > > you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. > > > > She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE > > K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will be > > plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with and > > will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls > and > > boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she > does > > try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if > > anyone plays with her or not. > > > > She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two > years > > she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best > > buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the > > future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. > > > > Theresa > > (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom > > > > On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com><taijijat% > 40gmail.com>> > > wrote: > > > > > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend > > > and > > > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her > a > > > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally > or > > > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots > of > > > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to > > > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is > > > just > > > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has > anything > > > to do with her wanting one so badly. > > > T > > > > > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger > > > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because > most > > > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just > girlfriend > > > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. > My > > > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of > > > > me great concern for her. > > > > sondra > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 My girl Maddie has two older sisters who are 22 and 19, so she's the only girl at home, essentially now growing up an only child (the 22 yo moved out at 18 - the 19 yo moved back with her Dad at 16). Maddie has a few girls in her class but has also hooked up with a couple girls at our church, where we've been for 3 years. In fact, when our pastor left (for Hawaii - who could blame him), we considered finding another church, but that Maddie had friends here kept us here. Now we just hired an ON FIRE new pastor and we're glad we put Maddie's needs before our own, because we're all blessed now! All I can say is please make the effort for your daughter to be involved with other kids, because the other parents won't do it and the kids won't get it done. We've made friends with some of Maddie's classmates and churchmates now, just by being assertive about asking their kids over and arranging playdates for them. Blessings to you and your family! Don The Whole Truth Nothing But the Truth So Help Me God... _____ From: Autism_in_Girls [mailto:Autism_in_Girls ] On Behalf Of kcboone Sent: Sunday, August 17, 2008 6:23 PM To: Autism_in_Girls Subject: Re: Re: My little girl... Hi Theresa, My daughter (6) is the ONLY girl in her multiple handicapped class. Last year there was another little girl in the class but she was older than my daughter and is now in the next class up. The year before, there were 3 girls. It makes me a little nervous that she is the ONLY girl. I think she needs to TRY to develop friendships with girls which is VERY hard for her. She is an only child and she has such a busy after school schedule with private therapies and treatments that we never have play dates. I even said to her that we were going to start having friends come over and it upset her VERY much. She's not good with change and has NEVER had to share her things. Its been quite unsettling for me. So, I've enrolled her in a girls group at church which will begin on the day after Labor Day. I hope she will make at least ONE friend in that group that I can invite over. I've enlisted the help of a teenage girl to shadow her in the girls group at church (same shadow she has for Sunday school), so hopefully this will yield some positive possible friendships. We'll see. Just thought I'd comment on the ONLY girl in class situation. Karmen Re: Re: My little girl... That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she does. If I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she will sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on how you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will be plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with and will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls and boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she does try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if anyone plays with her or not. She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two years she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. Theresa (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijatgmail (DOT) <mailto:taijijat%40gmail.com> com> wrote: > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend > and > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her a > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally or > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots of > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is > just > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has anything > to do with her wanting one so badly. > T > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2columbus (DOT) <mailto:hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> rr.com<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > wrote: > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because most > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just girlfriend > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. My > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of > > me great concern for her. > > sondra > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 Does she have friends, play dates, or siblings? Maybe that's whats making it not such a good thing in my mind. My daughter has none of those and I wish she'd have the opportunity in school to HAVE a friend that is a girl. Although she is dx'd mild-moderate autism, my daughter's social skills are severely lacking. Karmen Re: Re: My little girl... > > That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the > difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she does. > If > I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she will > sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on how > you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. > > She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE > K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will be > plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with and > will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls and > boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she does > try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if > anyone plays with her or not. > > She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two years > she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best > buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the > future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. > > Theresa > (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom > > On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com>> > wrote: > > > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend > > and > > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her a > > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally or > > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots of > > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to > > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is > > just > > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has anything > > to do with her wanting one so badly. > > T > > > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > > wrote: > > > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger > > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because most > > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just girlfriend > > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. My > > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of > > > me great concern for her. > > > sondra > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 My daughter isn't getting EXTRA attention. Most of the kids in her class have a one-on-one, including my daughter. My desire is for her to form a friendship with someone, and my hopes would be that the person would be another little girl. I do understand your feelings too however. But another girl in the classroom might help my daughter build a friendship which is so crucial when growing up. Re: Re: My little girl... > > > > > > That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the > > > difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she > does. > > > If > > > I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she > will > > > sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on > how > > > you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. > > > > > > She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the > VE > > > K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will > be > > > plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with > and > > > will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls > > and > > > boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she > > does > > > try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if > > > anyone plays with her or not. > > > > > > She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two > > years > > > she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best > > > buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the > > > future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. > > > > > > Theresa > > > (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom > > > > > > On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com><taijijat% > 40gmail.com><taijijat% > > 40gmail.com>> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a > boyfriend > > > > and > > > > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find > her > > a > > > > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally > > or > > > > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had > lots > > of > > > > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due > to > > > > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she > is > > > > just > > > > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has > > anything > > > > to do with her wanting one so badly. > > > > T > > > > > > > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > > > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > > > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > > > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much > younger > > > > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because > > most > > > > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just > > girlfriend > > > > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right > now. > > My > > > > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > > > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes > of > > > > > me great concern for her. > > > > > sondra > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 My daughter isn't getting EXTRA attention. Most of the kids in her class have a one-on-one, including my daughter. My desire is for her to form a friendship with someone, and my hopes would be that the person would be another little girl. I do understand your feelings too however. But another girl in the classroom might help my daughter build a friendship which is so crucial when growing up. Re: Re: My little girl... > > > > > > That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the > > > difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she > does. > > > If > > > I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she > will > > > sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on > how > > > you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. > > > > > > She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the > VE > > > K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will > be > > > plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with > and > > > will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls > > and > > > boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she > > does > > > try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if > > > anyone plays with her or not. > > > > > > She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two > > years > > > she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best > > > buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the > > > future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. > > > > > > Theresa > > > (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom > > > > > > On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com><taijijat% > 40gmail.com><taijijat% > > 40gmail.com>> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a > boyfriend > > > > and > > > > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find > her > > a > > > > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally > > or > > > > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had > lots > > of > > > > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due > to > > > > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she > is > > > > just > > > > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has > > anything > > > > to do with her wanting one so badly. > > > > T > > > > > > > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> > > > <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > > > > wrote: > > > > > > > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > > > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > > > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much > younger > > > > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because > > most > > > > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just > > girlfriend > > > > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right > now. > > My > > > > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > > > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes > of > > > > > me great concern for her. > > > > > sondra > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 Don, Very encouraging that your daughter has friends at church, and that you decided to stay on account of her needs. Although its hard, sometimes you have to 'sit and be still'. It paid off for you since you really enjoy the new pastor. I recently enrolled my daughter in a girls group at church which will start the Wednesday after Labor Day. I truly hope this will yield some friendships. I am always the one reaching out, inviting and offering. So I'll continue to do this. Unfortunately, my daughter's school is over an hour from our home, so many of the families live a good deal away from us. But our church is only about 20 min. from us, and this will be the first time my daughter attends an activity group there, other than Sunday school. So here's hoping and praying for a positive experience. Karmen Re: Re: My little girl... That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she does. If I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she will sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on how you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave. She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will be plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with and will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls and boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she does try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if anyone plays with her or not. She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two years she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. Theresa (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijatgmail (DOT) <mailto:taijijat%40gmail.com> com> wrote: > > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend > and > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her a > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally or > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots of > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is > just > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has anything > to do with her wanting one so badly. > T > > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2columbus (DOT) <mailto:hfa2%40columbus.rr.com> rr.com<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> > wrote: > > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because most > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just girlfriend > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. My > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of > > me great concern for her. > > sondra > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2008 Report Share Posted August 17, 2008 my daughter has no friends, not like we know friends. she sits by herself at school, as she is in the high school section now, so all the other kids are miles ahead of her in age etc. i used to feel sad for her, that she didnt experience friendship, but i now realise, that its the way she is. she has permission to go into one of the classrooms and do her drawing, which is her favourite passtime. she loves her aide teacher which she has most of monday and 3 lessons through out the week as well. she does try to do things in class, and the kids in her class are so used to her now. she loves music, and believe it or not woodwork........not sure how much of it she actually does, but he shows her what to do and you can see her attempts and she brought some little simple things home. she likes to be around people but not the centre. her big sister is having a big party this weekend for her 16th, hannah says it will be good to see, but she won't participate and will probably spend alot of the time going from her bedroom to peek out to her tv.....thats her little comfortable life. Cheryl S [chez] To: Autism_in_Girls@...: kcboone@...: Sun, 17 Aug 2008 22:25:30 -0400Subject: Re: Re: My little girl... Does she have friends, play dates, or siblings? Maybe that's whats making it not such a good thing in my mind. My daughter has none of those and I wish she'd have the opportunity in school to HAVE a friend that is a girl. Although she is dx'd mild-moderate autism, my daughter's social skills are severely lacking. Karmen Re: Re: My little girl...>> That does make sense, my daughter (5) doesn't even really know the> difference between a boy and a girl yet. At least I don't think she does.> If> I show her a picture of a boy and ask her if it's a boy or girl, she will> sometimes say girl and sometimes say boy... also sometimes depends on how> you ask, cause sometimes she just repeats the last choice you gave.>> She's also had mostly boys in her classes (pre-K) and this year in the VE> K-2nd grade class at her school she will be the ONLY girl! There will be> plenty of girls in the mainstream class that she will eat lunch with and> will visit for times during the day. But even when presented with girls and> boys in a class she almost always gravitates towards the boys when she does> try to interact... of course most of the time she couldn't care less if> anyone plays with her or not.>> She has always LOVED the kids in her class with DS... In the last two years> she had 3 different boys with DS in her classes and she has been best> buddies with each of them! If I had to predict boys she'd fancy in the> future, I'd say she will find a boy with DS to be her boyfriend. >> Theresa> (who starts K tomorrow!)'s mom>> On 8/17/08, taijij at work <taijijat@... <taijijat%40gmail.com>>> wrote:> >> > Yes, I understand. Kayla has decided that I should find her a boyfriend> > and> > that's just what a good mom should do. Well, I am not going to find her a> > boyfriend but she really thinks this is my job. Kayla is not mentally or> > emotionally ready for a boyfriend but wants one so badly. She had lots of> > boys in every class she has ever been in, I am guessing this is due to> > autism affecting boys at a much higher rate then girls and well, she is> > just> > more comfortable with boys because of this. Not sure if this has anything> > to do with her wanting one so badly.> > T> >> > On Sun, Aug 17, 2008 at 1:53 PM, sondra <hfa2@...<hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>> <hfa2%40columbus.rr.com>>> > wrote:> >> > > My missy is of very boy crazy too as it i so of called and we are> > > really struggling to this in the home right now. she wants of> > > boyfriends, and while she is of 15 her development is of much younger> > > so the social fashions of her having boyfriends is of hard because most> > > boys of 15 are of interested in other things outside of just girlfriend> > > boyfriend things and this is of a very hard things for us right now. My> > > missy is of very well developed for her age and so this attracts of> > > other boys that see of this and not of my daughter and this causes of> > > me great concern for her.> > > sondra> > >> > >> > >> >> > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]> >> >> >>> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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