Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 Thank you for everyone's response and support. It is very frustrating to see your child go thru their challegneing and then get more uncomfortable. We did the best to clean out the sand, it didn't seem like much unless it is stuck pretty far down. I called Shriners, said to clen it the best we can and not to worry about any major skin irritations, especially if Max isn't complaining much. I spoke with the director of daycare and it's hard blame her, but I have no clue which teacher was responsible for him. His regulaar teacher could've started later, been on lunch, or gone home early. Besides the point, every staff in the center should be aware of the sand and water limits for Max. Max is veyr distractable that if he migrates near the sandbax, you can show him something else and he's fine with it 99% of the time. The director acknowledged this to me. When Dave picked Max up from daycare on Friday, the teacher became very direct and unprofessional with Dave. I am now more uncomfortable than ever to send Max back there. We have many daycare options around our area, but it's about trust. It gets better. Changing daycares is a hard decision and I was praying for a sign that I should switch centers. Well I got one.....today giving a bath, he wouldn't let go of the the straps on his cast screaming " ITCHY,SAND INSIDE. " Mind you, I haven't said the words sand in cast around Max-I didn't want to make it a big issue for him. I tried everything to calm him, nothing worked. After his bath, Dave sat him on his lap, pulled up the front of his shirt, and Dave said I found something. Initially Dave thought it was a Cherrio. Nope....the biggest size stone (bigger than a Cherrio) one could possibly fit down the front of his cast. Today was very warm in the house and he was getting upset as he hates sponge bathing. I think as body heat rose, causing him to sweat and the stone was sticking to his body. Changing daycares may be for the best especially now before the new baby, he's not accustomed to his new 2 year old room yet, nor the teacher. Be careful what you wish for....I got the sign I needed. Thank you again for listening and your suggestions. Aekta I am beyond furious and will try to keep this post very tactful. > Please note I am writing as a mother and not as a clinic manager of a > child psych clinic who deal with upset parents all the time! > > Max turned 2 years July 15. In the past few weeks he has been > transitioned to move to the 2 year old room in daycare. Because of the > summer, his comfort level with his infant room teacher, and the staff > changes, Max stayed in the infant room a few weeks longer. > > Daycare was closed from thursday (last week)-wednesday (this week). > > Today was his 3rd full day in the 2 year old room with a new > teacher/daycare provider of 2 weeks. I have given strict instruction > that Max is not allowed to play with water or sand. When giving Max a > bath tonight, he started wiggling a bit and saying " itchy. " My intial > thoughts were " Oh No not again, we just got past the itchiness " . So, > I thought I'd try to get a finger or two to rub his back. I couldn't > get very far down, but was able to feel something that felt > like " SAND. " I became very worried. I said to myself...no, no, maybe > it's just dry skin. I put my fingers down hs back again and sure > enough I was able to pinch some sand. I asked my husband to check to > make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Sure enough, it's sand. Trying to > compose myself and not cry in front of Max, I was able to quickly get > him to bed. I feel so helpless and not being able to get the sand out > to make him comfortable. I am so upset, I can't even be angery. > People just don't understand what we've been thru to get the proper > help for Max. He just got this cast in Chicago on 8/9/07. We've > waited so long to have this opportunity for Miss Mehta to come to > Chicago and cast Max, and now she does, and in 3 weeks gets sand down > his cast. > > Tomorrow I will talk to the daycare and plan to voice my concern to > President of the School District where Max attends daycare. I have > informed them, signed every form they needed, and gotten documentation > from every doctor giving explicit instructions. > > How hard is it to understand " NO WATER, NO SAND? " > > I appreciate being able to vent. Does anyone have any suggestions on > what we can do? I'm afraid to push the sand down further. > Fortunately, Max sleeps on his side or stomach. Also, he has not yet > complained too much about it being " itchy " or doemonstrated any > discomfort. > > I can't stop crying about this...not sure if it's pregnancy hormones > or a sense of helplessness. > > Any suggestions on how to tactfully voice my concerns to daycare > without getting Max kicked out for having a crazy mother? > > Thank you for listening. > > Aekta > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 Thank you for everyone's response and support. It is very frustrating to see your child go thru their challegneing and then get more uncomfortable. We did the best to clean out the sand, it didn't seem like much unless it is stuck pretty far down. I called Shriners, said to clen it the best we can and not to worry about any major skin irritations, especially if Max isn't complaining much. I spoke with the director of daycare and it's hard blame her, but I have no clue which teacher was responsible for him. His regulaar teacher could've started later, been on lunch, or gone home early. Besides the point, every staff in the center should be aware of the sand and water limits for Max. Max is veyr distractable that if he migrates near the sandbax, you can show him something else and he's fine with it 99% of the time. The director acknowledged this to me. When Dave picked Max up from daycare on Friday, the teacher became very direct and unprofessional with Dave. I am now more uncomfortable than ever to send Max back there. We have many daycare options around our area, but it's about trust. It gets better. Changing daycares is a hard decision and I was praying for a sign that I should switch centers. Well I got one.....today giving a bath, he wouldn't let go of the the straps on his cast screaming " ITCHY,SAND INSIDE. " Mind you, I haven't said the words sand in cast around Max-I didn't want to make it a big issue for him. I tried everything to calm him, nothing worked. After his bath, Dave sat him on his lap, pulled up the front of his shirt, and Dave said I found something. Initially Dave thought it was a Cherrio. Nope....the biggest size stone (bigger than a Cherrio) one could possibly fit down the front of his cast. Today was very warm in the house and he was getting upset as he hates sponge bathing. I think as body heat rose, causing him to sweat and the stone was sticking to his body. Changing daycares may be for the best especially now before the new baby, he's not accustomed to his new 2 year old room yet, nor the teacher. Be careful what you wish for....I got the sign I needed. Thank you again for listening and your suggestions. Aekta I am beyond furious and will try to keep this post very tactful. > Please note I am writing as a mother and not as a clinic manager of a > child psych clinic who deal with upset parents all the time! > > Max turned 2 years July 15. In the past few weeks he has been > transitioned to move to the 2 year old room in daycare. Because of the > summer, his comfort level with his infant room teacher, and the staff > changes, Max stayed in the infant room a few weeks longer. > > Daycare was closed from thursday (last week)-wednesday (this week). > > Today was his 3rd full day in the 2 year old room with a new > teacher/daycare provider of 2 weeks. I have given strict instruction > that Max is not allowed to play with water or sand. When giving Max a > bath tonight, he started wiggling a bit and saying " itchy. " My intial > thoughts were " Oh No not again, we just got past the itchiness " . So, > I thought I'd try to get a finger or two to rub his back. I couldn't > get very far down, but was able to feel something that felt > like " SAND. " I became very worried. I said to myself...no, no, maybe > it's just dry skin. I put my fingers down hs back again and sure > enough I was able to pinch some sand. I asked my husband to check to > make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Sure enough, it's sand. Trying to > compose myself and not cry in front of Max, I was able to quickly get > him to bed. I feel so helpless and not being able to get the sand out > to make him comfortable. I am so upset, I can't even be angery. > People just don't understand what we've been thru to get the proper > help for Max. He just got this cast in Chicago on 8/9/07. We've > waited so long to have this opportunity for Miss Mehta to come to > Chicago and cast Max, and now she does, and in 3 weeks gets sand down > his cast. > > Tomorrow I will talk to the daycare and plan to voice my concern to > President of the School District where Max attends daycare. I have > informed them, signed every form they needed, and gotten documentation > from every doctor giving explicit instructions. > > How hard is it to understand " NO WATER, NO SAND? " > > I appreciate being able to vent. Does anyone have any suggestions on > what we can do? I'm afraid to push the sand down further. > Fortunately, Max sleeps on his side or stomach. Also, he has not yet > complained too much about it being " itchy " or doemonstrated any > discomfort. > > I can't stop crying about this...not sure if it's pregnancy hormones > or a sense of helplessness. > > Any suggestions on how to tactfully voice my concerns to daycare > without getting Max kicked out for having a crazy mother? > > Thank you for listening. > > Aekta > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 Thank you for everyone's response and support. It is very frustrating to see your child go thru their challegneing and then get more uncomfortable. We did the best to clean out the sand, it didn't seem like much unless it is stuck pretty far down. I called Shriners, said to clen it the best we can and not to worry about any major skin irritations, especially if Max isn't complaining much. I spoke with the director of daycare and it's hard blame her, but I have no clue which teacher was responsible for him. His regulaar teacher could've started later, been on lunch, or gone home early. Besides the point, every staff in the center should be aware of the sand and water limits for Max. Max is veyr distractable that if he migrates near the sandbax, you can show him something else and he's fine with it 99% of the time. The director acknowledged this to me. When Dave picked Max up from daycare on Friday, the teacher became very direct and unprofessional with Dave. I am now more uncomfortable than ever to send Max back there. We have many daycare options around our area, but it's about trust. It gets better. Changing daycares is a hard decision and I was praying for a sign that I should switch centers. Well I got one.....today giving a bath, he wouldn't let go of the the straps on his cast screaming " ITCHY,SAND INSIDE. " Mind you, I haven't said the words sand in cast around Max-I didn't want to make it a big issue for him. I tried everything to calm him, nothing worked. After his bath, Dave sat him on his lap, pulled up the front of his shirt, and Dave said I found something. Initially Dave thought it was a Cherrio. Nope....the biggest size stone (bigger than a Cherrio) one could possibly fit down the front of his cast. Today was very warm in the house and he was getting upset as he hates sponge bathing. I think as body heat rose, causing him to sweat and the stone was sticking to his body. Changing daycares may be for the best especially now before the new baby, he's not accustomed to his new 2 year old room yet, nor the teacher. Be careful what you wish for....I got the sign I needed. Thank you again for listening and your suggestions. Aekta I am beyond furious and will try to keep this post very tactful. > Please note I am writing as a mother and not as a clinic manager of a > child psych clinic who deal with upset parents all the time! > > Max turned 2 years July 15. In the past few weeks he has been > transitioned to move to the 2 year old room in daycare. Because of the > summer, his comfort level with his infant room teacher, and the staff > changes, Max stayed in the infant room a few weeks longer. > > Daycare was closed from thursday (last week)-wednesday (this week). > > Today was his 3rd full day in the 2 year old room with a new > teacher/daycare provider of 2 weeks. I have given strict instruction > that Max is not allowed to play with water or sand. When giving Max a > bath tonight, he started wiggling a bit and saying " itchy. " My intial > thoughts were " Oh No not again, we just got past the itchiness " . So, > I thought I'd try to get a finger or two to rub his back. I couldn't > get very far down, but was able to feel something that felt > like " SAND. " I became very worried. I said to myself...no, no, maybe > it's just dry skin. I put my fingers down hs back again and sure > enough I was able to pinch some sand. I asked my husband to check to > make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Sure enough, it's sand. Trying to > compose myself and not cry in front of Max, I was able to quickly get > him to bed. I feel so helpless and not being able to get the sand out > to make him comfortable. I am so upset, I can't even be angery. > People just don't understand what we've been thru to get the proper > help for Max. He just got this cast in Chicago on 8/9/07. We've > waited so long to have this opportunity for Miss Mehta to come to > Chicago and cast Max, and now she does, and in 3 weeks gets sand down > his cast. > > Tomorrow I will talk to the daycare and plan to voice my concern to > President of the School District where Max attends daycare. I have > informed them, signed every form they needed, and gotten documentation > from every doctor giving explicit instructions. > > How hard is it to understand " NO WATER, NO SAND? " > > I appreciate being able to vent. Does anyone have any suggestions on > what we can do? I'm afraid to push the sand down further. > Fortunately, Max sleeps on his side or stomach. Also, he has not yet > complained too much about it being " itchy " or doemonstrated any > discomfort. > > I can't stop crying about this...not sure if it's pregnancy hormones > or a sense of helplessness. > > Any suggestions on how to tactfully voice my concerns to daycare > without getting Max kicked out for having a crazy mother? > > Thank you for listening. > > Aekta > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 I'm sorry Max had to go through the sand/rock issue, but who knows what may happen in the future if you don't listen to your gut and do what you think is best... good luck! babymaxpd wrote: Thank you for everyone's response and support. It is very frustrating to see your child go thru their challegneing and then get more uncomfortable. We did the best to clean out the sand, it didn't seem like much unless it is stuck pretty far down. I called Shriners, said to clen it the best we can and not to worry about any major skin irritations, especially if Max isn't complaining much. I spoke with the director of daycare and it's hard blame her, but I have no clue which teacher was responsible for him. His regulaar teacher could've started later, been on lunch, or gone home early. Besides the point, every staff in the center should be aware of the sand and water limits for Max. Max is veyr distractable that if he migrates near the sandbax, you can show him something else and he's fine with it 99% of the time. The director acknowledged this to me. When Dave picked Max up from daycare on Friday, the teacher became very direct and unprofessional with Dave. I am now more uncomfortable than ever to send Max back there. We have many daycare options around our area, but it's about trust. It gets better. Changing daycares is a hard decision and I was praying for a sign that I should switch centers. Well I got one.....today giving a bath, he wouldn't let go of the the straps on his cast screaming " ITCHY,SAND INSIDE. " Mind you, I haven't said the words sand in cast around Max-I didn't want to make it a big issue for him. I tried everything to calm him, nothing worked. After his bath, Dave sat him on his lap, pulled up the front of his shirt, and Dave said I found something. Initially Dave thought it was a Cherrio. Nope....the biggest size stone (bigger than a Cherrio) one could possibly fit down the front of his cast. Today was very warm in the house and he was getting upset as he hates sponge bathing. I think as body heat rose, causing him to sweat and the stone was sticking to his body. Changing daycares may be for the best especially now before the new baby, he's not accustomed to his new 2 year old room yet, nor the teacher. Be careful what you wish for....I got the sign I needed. Thank you again for listening and your suggestions. Aekta I am beyond furious and will try to keep this post very tactful. > Please note I am writing as a mother and not as a clinic manager of a > child psych clinic who deal with upset parents all the time! > > Max turned 2 years July 15. In the past few weeks he has been > transitioned to move to the 2 year old room in daycare. Because of the > summer, his comfort level with his infant room teacher, and the staff > changes, Max stayed in the infant room a few weeks longer. > > Daycare was closed from thursday (last week)-wednesday (this week). > > Today was his 3rd full day in the 2 year old room with a new > teacher/daycare provider of 2 weeks. I have given strict instruction > that Max is not allowed to play with water or sand. When giving Max a > bath tonight, he started wiggling a bit and saying " itchy. " My intial > thoughts were " Oh No not again, we just got past the itchiness " . So, > I thought I'd try to get a finger or two to rub his back. I couldn't > get very far down, but was able to feel something that felt > like " SAND. " I became very worried. I said to myself...no, no, maybe > it's just dry skin. I put my fingers down hs back again and sure > enough I was able to pinch some sand. I asked my husband to check to > make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Sure enough, it's sand. Trying to > compose myself and not cry in front of Max, I was able to quickly get > him to bed. I feel so helpless and not being able to get the sand out > to make him comfortable. I am so upset, I can't even be angery. > People just don't understand what we've been thru to get the proper > help for Max. He just got this cast in Chicago on 8/9/07. We've > waited so long to have this opportunity for Miss Mehta to come to > Chicago and cast Max, and now she does, and in 3 weeks gets sand down > his cast. > > Tomorrow I will talk to the daycare and plan to voice my concern to > President of the School District where Max attends daycare. I have > informed them, signed every form they needed, and gotten documentation > from every doctor giving explicit instructions. > > How hard is it to understand " NO WATER, NO SAND? " > > I appreciate being able to vent. Does anyone have any suggestions on > what we can do? I'm afraid to push the sand down further. > Fortunately, Max sleeps on his side or stomach. Also, he has not yet > complained too much about it being " itchy " or doemonstrated any > discomfort. > > I can't stop crying about this...not sure if it's pregnancy hormones > or a sense of helplessness. > > Any suggestions on how to tactfully voice my concerns to daycare > without getting Max kicked out for having a crazy mother? > > Thank you for listening. > > Aekta > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 I'm sorry Max had to go through the sand/rock issue, but who knows what may happen in the future if you don't listen to your gut and do what you think is best... good luck! babymaxpd wrote: Thank you for everyone's response and support. It is very frustrating to see your child go thru their challegneing and then get more uncomfortable. We did the best to clean out the sand, it didn't seem like much unless it is stuck pretty far down. I called Shriners, said to clen it the best we can and not to worry about any major skin irritations, especially if Max isn't complaining much. I spoke with the director of daycare and it's hard blame her, but I have no clue which teacher was responsible for him. His regulaar teacher could've started later, been on lunch, or gone home early. Besides the point, every staff in the center should be aware of the sand and water limits for Max. Max is veyr distractable that if he migrates near the sandbax, you can show him something else and he's fine with it 99% of the time. The director acknowledged this to me. When Dave picked Max up from daycare on Friday, the teacher became very direct and unprofessional with Dave. I am now more uncomfortable than ever to send Max back there. We have many daycare options around our area, but it's about trust. It gets better. Changing daycares is a hard decision and I was praying for a sign that I should switch centers. Well I got one.....today giving a bath, he wouldn't let go of the the straps on his cast screaming " ITCHY,SAND INSIDE. " Mind you, I haven't said the words sand in cast around Max-I didn't want to make it a big issue for him. I tried everything to calm him, nothing worked. After his bath, Dave sat him on his lap, pulled up the front of his shirt, and Dave said I found something. Initially Dave thought it was a Cherrio. Nope....the biggest size stone (bigger than a Cherrio) one could possibly fit down the front of his cast. Today was very warm in the house and he was getting upset as he hates sponge bathing. I think as body heat rose, causing him to sweat and the stone was sticking to his body. Changing daycares may be for the best especially now before the new baby, he's not accustomed to his new 2 year old room yet, nor the teacher. Be careful what you wish for....I got the sign I needed. Thank you again for listening and your suggestions. Aekta I am beyond furious and will try to keep this post very tactful. > Please note I am writing as a mother and not as a clinic manager of a > child psych clinic who deal with upset parents all the time! > > Max turned 2 years July 15. In the past few weeks he has been > transitioned to move to the 2 year old room in daycare. Because of the > summer, his comfort level with his infant room teacher, and the staff > changes, Max stayed in the infant room a few weeks longer. > > Daycare was closed from thursday (last week)-wednesday (this week). > > Today was his 3rd full day in the 2 year old room with a new > teacher/daycare provider of 2 weeks. I have given strict instruction > that Max is not allowed to play with water or sand. When giving Max a > bath tonight, he started wiggling a bit and saying " itchy. " My intial > thoughts were " Oh No not again, we just got past the itchiness " . So, > I thought I'd try to get a finger or two to rub his back. I couldn't > get very far down, but was able to feel something that felt > like " SAND. " I became very worried. I said to myself...no, no, maybe > it's just dry skin. I put my fingers down hs back again and sure > enough I was able to pinch some sand. I asked my husband to check to > make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Sure enough, it's sand. Trying to > compose myself and not cry in front of Max, I was able to quickly get > him to bed. I feel so helpless and not being able to get the sand out > to make him comfortable. I am so upset, I can't even be angery. > People just don't understand what we've been thru to get the proper > help for Max. He just got this cast in Chicago on 8/9/07. We've > waited so long to have this opportunity for Miss Mehta to come to > Chicago and cast Max, and now she does, and in 3 weeks gets sand down > his cast. > > Tomorrow I will talk to the daycare and plan to voice my concern to > President of the School District where Max attends daycare. I have > informed them, signed every form they needed, and gotten documentation > from every doctor giving explicit instructions. > > How hard is it to understand " NO WATER, NO SAND? " > > I appreciate being able to vent. Does anyone have any suggestions on > what we can do? I'm afraid to push the sand down further. > Fortunately, Max sleeps on his side or stomach. Also, he has not yet > complained too much about it being " itchy " or doemonstrated any > discomfort. > > I can't stop crying about this...not sure if it's pregnancy hormones > or a sense of helplessness. > > Any suggestions on how to tactfully voice my concerns to daycare > without getting Max kicked out for having a crazy mother? > > Thank you for listening. > > Aekta > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 I'm sorry Max had to go through the sand/rock issue, but who knows what may happen in the future if you don't listen to your gut and do what you think is best... good luck! babymaxpd wrote: Thank you for everyone's response and support. It is very frustrating to see your child go thru their challegneing and then get more uncomfortable. We did the best to clean out the sand, it didn't seem like much unless it is stuck pretty far down. I called Shriners, said to clen it the best we can and not to worry about any major skin irritations, especially if Max isn't complaining much. I spoke with the director of daycare and it's hard blame her, but I have no clue which teacher was responsible for him. His regulaar teacher could've started later, been on lunch, or gone home early. Besides the point, every staff in the center should be aware of the sand and water limits for Max. Max is veyr distractable that if he migrates near the sandbax, you can show him something else and he's fine with it 99% of the time. The director acknowledged this to me. When Dave picked Max up from daycare on Friday, the teacher became very direct and unprofessional with Dave. I am now more uncomfortable than ever to send Max back there. We have many daycare options around our area, but it's about trust. It gets better. Changing daycares is a hard decision and I was praying for a sign that I should switch centers. Well I got one.....today giving a bath, he wouldn't let go of the the straps on his cast screaming " ITCHY,SAND INSIDE. " Mind you, I haven't said the words sand in cast around Max-I didn't want to make it a big issue for him. I tried everything to calm him, nothing worked. After his bath, Dave sat him on his lap, pulled up the front of his shirt, and Dave said I found something. Initially Dave thought it was a Cherrio. Nope....the biggest size stone (bigger than a Cherrio) one could possibly fit down the front of his cast. Today was very warm in the house and he was getting upset as he hates sponge bathing. I think as body heat rose, causing him to sweat and the stone was sticking to his body. Changing daycares may be for the best especially now before the new baby, he's not accustomed to his new 2 year old room yet, nor the teacher. Be careful what you wish for....I got the sign I needed. Thank you again for listening and your suggestions. Aekta I am beyond furious and will try to keep this post very tactful. > Please note I am writing as a mother and not as a clinic manager of a > child psych clinic who deal with upset parents all the time! > > Max turned 2 years July 15. In the past few weeks he has been > transitioned to move to the 2 year old room in daycare. Because of the > summer, his comfort level with his infant room teacher, and the staff > changes, Max stayed in the infant room a few weeks longer. > > Daycare was closed from thursday (last week)-wednesday (this week). > > Today was his 3rd full day in the 2 year old room with a new > teacher/daycare provider of 2 weeks. I have given strict instruction > that Max is not allowed to play with water or sand. When giving Max a > bath tonight, he started wiggling a bit and saying " itchy. " My intial > thoughts were " Oh No not again, we just got past the itchiness " . So, > I thought I'd try to get a finger or two to rub his back. I couldn't > get very far down, but was able to feel something that felt > like " SAND. " I became very worried. I said to myself...no, no, maybe > it's just dry skin. I put my fingers down hs back again and sure > enough I was able to pinch some sand. I asked my husband to check to > make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Sure enough, it's sand. Trying to > compose myself and not cry in front of Max, I was able to quickly get > him to bed. I feel so helpless and not being able to get the sand out > to make him comfortable. I am so upset, I can't even be angery. > People just don't understand what we've been thru to get the proper > help for Max. He just got this cast in Chicago on 8/9/07. We've > waited so long to have this opportunity for Miss Mehta to come to > Chicago and cast Max, and now she does, and in 3 weeks gets sand down > his cast. > > Tomorrow I will talk to the daycare and plan to voice my concern to > President of the School District where Max attends daycare. I have > informed them, signed every form they needed, and gotten documentation > from every doctor giving explicit instructions. > > How hard is it to understand " NO WATER, NO SAND? " > > I appreciate being able to vent. Does anyone have any suggestions on > what we can do? I'm afraid to push the sand down further. > Fortunately, Max sleeps on his side or stomach. Also, he has not yet > complained too much about it being " itchy " or doemonstrated any > discomfort. > > I can't stop crying about this...not sure if it's pregnancy hormones > or a sense of helplessness. > > Any suggestions on how to tactfully voice my concerns to daycare > without getting Max kicked out for having a crazy mother? > > Thank you for listening. > > Aekta > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 Aekta, I wish you peace in your difficult decision and know you'll make the best choice for him. Love Sandi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 Aekta, I wish you peace in your difficult decision and know you'll make the best choice for him. Love Sandi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 Aekta, I wish you peace in your difficult decision and know you'll make the best choice for him. Love Sandi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 I’ve been super busy so have not responded to many emails—but this just got to me since I have had issues with daycare in the past. You had every right to complain (and be furious too!) and the fact that the teacher was rude to you (probably after getting reprimanded) was a BIG sign. Who knows how this person would treat your child when you are not there. No matter how young, our babies can tell if someone isn’t really caring for them (just tolerating them). You can’t be too careful and I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this. However, I’m sure this opened your eyes and will protect even your new baby in the future should you have to place him or her in childcare. I think some childcare places get complacent that parents just need a “dropping off spot” (some parents are like this) and so they think that however they take care of a child who cannot express his experiences is just fine because the parents aren’t around. It makes me SO angry and I have been in a similar circumstance. Good for you for being a vigilant mom that won’t put up with neglect! Bev Forney From: infantile_scoliosis [mailto:infantile_scoliosis ] On Behalf Of babymaxpd Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2007 8:10 PM To: infantile_scoliosis Subject: Re: Sand in Cast Thank you for everyone's response and support. It is very frustrating to see your child go thru their challegneing and then get more uncomfortable. We did the best to clean out the sand, it didn't seem like much unless it is stuck pretty far down. I called Shriners, said to clen it the best we can and not to worry about any major skin irritations, especially if Max isn't complaining much. I spoke with the director of daycare and it's hard blame her, but I have no clue which teacher was responsible for him. His regulaar teacher could've started later, been on lunch, or gone home early. Besides the point, every staff in the center should be aware of the sand and water limits for Max. Max is veyr distractable that if he migrates near the sandbax, you can show him something else and he's fine with it 99% of the time. The director acknowledged this to me. When Dave picked Max up from daycare on Friday, the teacher became very direct and unprofessional with Dave. I am now more uncomfortable than ever to send Max back there. We have many daycare options around our area, but it's about trust. It gets better. Changing daycares is a hard decision and I was praying for a sign that I should switch centers. Well I got one.....today giving a bath, he wouldn't let go of the the straps on his cast screaming " ITCHY,SAND INSIDE. " Mind you, I haven't said the words sand in cast around Max-I didn't want to make it a big issue for him. I tried everything to calm him, nothing worked. After his bath, Dave sat him on his lap, pulled up the front of his shirt, and Dave said I found something. Initially Dave thought it was a Cherrio. Nope....the biggest size stone (bigger than a Cherrio) one could possibly fit down the front of his cast. Today was very warm in the house and he was getting upset as he hates sponge bathing. I think as body heat rose, causing him to sweat and the stone was sticking to his body. Changing daycares may be for the best especially now before the new baby, he's not accustomed to his new 2 year old room yet, nor the teacher. Be careful what you wish for....I got the sign I needed. Thank you again for listening and your suggestions. Aekta I am beyond furious and will try to keep this post very tactful. > Please note I am writing as a mother and not as a clinic manager of a > child psych clinic who deal with upset parents all the time! > > Max turned 2 years July 15. In the past few weeks he has been > transitioned to move to the 2 year old room in daycare. Because of the > summer, his comfort level with his infant room teacher, and the staff > changes, Max stayed in the infant room a few weeks longer. > > Daycare was closed from thursday (last week)-wednesday (this week). > > Today was his 3rd full day in the 2 year old room with a new > teacher/daycare provider of 2 weeks. I have given strict instruction > that Max is not allowed to play with water or sand. When giving Max a > bath tonight, he started wiggling a bit and saying " itchy. " My intial > thoughts were " Oh No not again, we just got past the itchiness " . So, > I thought I'd try to get a finger or two to rub his back. I couldn't > get very far down, but was able to feel something that felt > like " SAND. " I became very worried. I said to myself...no, no, maybe > it's just dry skin. I put my fingers down hs back again and sure > enough I was able to pinch some sand. I asked my husband to check to > make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Sure enough, it's sand. Trying to > compose myself and not cry in front of Max, I was able to quickly get > him to bed. I feel so helpless and not being able to get the sand out > to make him comfortable. I am so upset, I can't even be angery. > People just don't understand what we've been thru to get the proper > help for Max. He just got this cast in Chicago on 8/9/07. We've > waited so long to have this opportunity for Miss Mehta to come to > Chicago and cast Max, and now she does, and in 3 weeks gets sand down > his cast. > > Tomorrow I will talk to the daycare and plan to voice my concern to > President of the School District where Max attends daycare. I have > informed them, signed every form they needed, and gotten documentation > from every doctor giving explicit instructions. > > How hard is it to understand " NO WATER, NO SAND? " > > I appreciate being able to vent. Does anyone have any suggestions on > what we can do? I'm afraid to push the sand down further. > Fortunately, Max sleeps on his side or stomach. Also, he has not yet > complained too much about it being " itchy " or doemonstrated any > discomfort. > > I can't stop crying about this...not sure if it's pregnancy hormones > or a sense of helplessness. > > Any suggestions on how to tactfully voice my concerns to daycare > without getting Max kicked out for having a crazy mother? > > Thank you for listening. > > Aekta > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 I’ve been super busy so have not responded to many emails—but this just got to me since I have had issues with daycare in the past. You had every right to complain (and be furious too!) and the fact that the teacher was rude to you (probably after getting reprimanded) was a BIG sign. Who knows how this person would treat your child when you are not there. No matter how young, our babies can tell if someone isn’t really caring for them (just tolerating them). You can’t be too careful and I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this. However, I’m sure this opened your eyes and will protect even your new baby in the future should you have to place him or her in childcare. I think some childcare places get complacent that parents just need a “dropping off spot” (some parents are like this) and so they think that however they take care of a child who cannot express his experiences is just fine because the parents aren’t around. It makes me SO angry and I have been in a similar circumstance. Good for you for being a vigilant mom that won’t put up with neglect! Bev Forney From: infantile_scoliosis [mailto:infantile_scoliosis ] On Behalf Of babymaxpd Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2007 8:10 PM To: infantile_scoliosis Subject: Re: Sand in Cast Thank you for everyone's response and support. It is very frustrating to see your child go thru their challegneing and then get more uncomfortable. We did the best to clean out the sand, it didn't seem like much unless it is stuck pretty far down. I called Shriners, said to clen it the best we can and not to worry about any major skin irritations, especially if Max isn't complaining much. I spoke with the director of daycare and it's hard blame her, but I have no clue which teacher was responsible for him. His regulaar teacher could've started later, been on lunch, or gone home early. Besides the point, every staff in the center should be aware of the sand and water limits for Max. Max is veyr distractable that if he migrates near the sandbax, you can show him something else and he's fine with it 99% of the time. The director acknowledged this to me. When Dave picked Max up from daycare on Friday, the teacher became very direct and unprofessional with Dave. I am now more uncomfortable than ever to send Max back there. We have many daycare options around our area, but it's about trust. It gets better. Changing daycares is a hard decision and I was praying for a sign that I should switch centers. Well I got one.....today giving a bath, he wouldn't let go of the the straps on his cast screaming " ITCHY,SAND INSIDE. " Mind you, I haven't said the words sand in cast around Max-I didn't want to make it a big issue for him. I tried everything to calm him, nothing worked. After his bath, Dave sat him on his lap, pulled up the front of his shirt, and Dave said I found something. Initially Dave thought it was a Cherrio. Nope....the biggest size stone (bigger than a Cherrio) one could possibly fit down the front of his cast. Today was very warm in the house and he was getting upset as he hates sponge bathing. I think as body heat rose, causing him to sweat and the stone was sticking to his body. Changing daycares may be for the best especially now before the new baby, he's not accustomed to his new 2 year old room yet, nor the teacher. Be careful what you wish for....I got the sign I needed. Thank you again for listening and your suggestions. Aekta I am beyond furious and will try to keep this post very tactful. > Please note I am writing as a mother and not as a clinic manager of a > child psych clinic who deal with upset parents all the time! > > Max turned 2 years July 15. In the past few weeks he has been > transitioned to move to the 2 year old room in daycare. Because of the > summer, his comfort level with his infant room teacher, and the staff > changes, Max stayed in the infant room a few weeks longer. > > Daycare was closed from thursday (last week)-wednesday (this week). > > Today was his 3rd full day in the 2 year old room with a new > teacher/daycare provider of 2 weeks. I have given strict instruction > that Max is not allowed to play with water or sand. When giving Max a > bath tonight, he started wiggling a bit and saying " itchy. " My intial > thoughts were " Oh No not again, we just got past the itchiness " . So, > I thought I'd try to get a finger or two to rub his back. I couldn't > get very far down, but was able to feel something that felt > like " SAND. " I became very worried. I said to myself...no, no, maybe > it's just dry skin. I put my fingers down hs back again and sure > enough I was able to pinch some sand. I asked my husband to check to > make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Sure enough, it's sand. Trying to > compose myself and not cry in front of Max, I was able to quickly get > him to bed. I feel so helpless and not being able to get the sand out > to make him comfortable. I am so upset, I can't even be angery. > People just don't understand what we've been thru to get the proper > help for Max. He just got this cast in Chicago on 8/9/07. We've > waited so long to have this opportunity for Miss Mehta to come to > Chicago and cast Max, and now she does, and in 3 weeks gets sand down > his cast. > > Tomorrow I will talk to the daycare and plan to voice my concern to > President of the School District where Max attends daycare. I have > informed them, signed every form they needed, and gotten documentation > from every doctor giving explicit instructions. > > How hard is it to understand " NO WATER, NO SAND? " > > I appreciate being able to vent. Does anyone have any suggestions on > what we can do? I'm afraid to push the sand down further. > Fortunately, Max sleeps on his side or stomach. Also, he has not yet > complained too much about it being " itchy " or doemonstrated any > discomfort. > > I can't stop crying about this...not sure if it's pregnancy hormones > or a sense of helplessness. > > Any suggestions on how to tactfully voice my concerns to daycare > without getting Max kicked out for having a crazy mother? > > Thank you for listening. > > Aekta > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 I’ve been super busy so have not responded to many emails—but this just got to me since I have had issues with daycare in the past. You had every right to complain (and be furious too!) and the fact that the teacher was rude to you (probably after getting reprimanded) was a BIG sign. Who knows how this person would treat your child when you are not there. No matter how young, our babies can tell if someone isn’t really caring for them (just tolerating them). You can’t be too careful and I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this. However, I’m sure this opened your eyes and will protect even your new baby in the future should you have to place him or her in childcare. I think some childcare places get complacent that parents just need a “dropping off spot” (some parents are like this) and so they think that however they take care of a child who cannot express his experiences is just fine because the parents aren’t around. It makes me SO angry and I have been in a similar circumstance. Good for you for being a vigilant mom that won’t put up with neglect! Bev Forney From: infantile_scoliosis [mailto:infantile_scoliosis ] On Behalf Of babymaxpd Sent: Sunday, September 02, 2007 8:10 PM To: infantile_scoliosis Subject: Re: Sand in Cast Thank you for everyone's response and support. It is very frustrating to see your child go thru their challegneing and then get more uncomfortable. We did the best to clean out the sand, it didn't seem like much unless it is stuck pretty far down. I called Shriners, said to clen it the best we can and not to worry about any major skin irritations, especially if Max isn't complaining much. I spoke with the director of daycare and it's hard blame her, but I have no clue which teacher was responsible for him. His regulaar teacher could've started later, been on lunch, or gone home early. Besides the point, every staff in the center should be aware of the sand and water limits for Max. Max is veyr distractable that if he migrates near the sandbax, you can show him something else and he's fine with it 99% of the time. The director acknowledged this to me. When Dave picked Max up from daycare on Friday, the teacher became very direct and unprofessional with Dave. I am now more uncomfortable than ever to send Max back there. We have many daycare options around our area, but it's about trust. It gets better. Changing daycares is a hard decision and I was praying for a sign that I should switch centers. Well I got one.....today giving a bath, he wouldn't let go of the the straps on his cast screaming " ITCHY,SAND INSIDE. " Mind you, I haven't said the words sand in cast around Max-I didn't want to make it a big issue for him. I tried everything to calm him, nothing worked. After his bath, Dave sat him on his lap, pulled up the front of his shirt, and Dave said I found something. Initially Dave thought it was a Cherrio. Nope....the biggest size stone (bigger than a Cherrio) one could possibly fit down the front of his cast. Today was very warm in the house and he was getting upset as he hates sponge bathing. I think as body heat rose, causing him to sweat and the stone was sticking to his body. Changing daycares may be for the best especially now before the new baby, he's not accustomed to his new 2 year old room yet, nor the teacher. Be careful what you wish for....I got the sign I needed. Thank you again for listening and your suggestions. Aekta I am beyond furious and will try to keep this post very tactful. > Please note I am writing as a mother and not as a clinic manager of a > child psych clinic who deal with upset parents all the time! > > Max turned 2 years July 15. In the past few weeks he has been > transitioned to move to the 2 year old room in daycare. Because of the > summer, his comfort level with his infant room teacher, and the staff > changes, Max stayed in the infant room a few weeks longer. > > Daycare was closed from thursday (last week)-wednesday (this week). > > Today was his 3rd full day in the 2 year old room with a new > teacher/daycare provider of 2 weeks. I have given strict instruction > that Max is not allowed to play with water or sand. When giving Max a > bath tonight, he started wiggling a bit and saying " itchy. " My intial > thoughts were " Oh No not again, we just got past the itchiness " . So, > I thought I'd try to get a finger or two to rub his back. I couldn't > get very far down, but was able to feel something that felt > like " SAND. " I became very worried. I said to myself...no, no, maybe > it's just dry skin. I put my fingers down hs back again and sure > enough I was able to pinch some sand. I asked my husband to check to > make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Sure enough, it's sand. Trying to > compose myself and not cry in front of Max, I was able to quickly get > him to bed. I feel so helpless and not being able to get the sand out > to make him comfortable. I am so upset, I can't even be angery. > People just don't understand what we've been thru to get the proper > help for Max. He just got this cast in Chicago on 8/9/07. We've > waited so long to have this opportunity for Miss Mehta to come to > Chicago and cast Max, and now she does, and in 3 weeks gets sand down > his cast. > > Tomorrow I will talk to the daycare and plan to voice my concern to > President of the School District where Max attends daycare. I have > informed them, signed every form they needed, and gotten documentation > from every doctor giving explicit instructions. > > How hard is it to understand " NO WATER, NO SAND? " > > I appreciate being able to vent. Does anyone have any suggestions on > what we can do? I'm afraid to push the sand down further. > Fortunately, Max sleeps on his side or stomach. Also, he has not yet > complained too much about it being " itchy " or doemonstrated any > discomfort. > > I can't stop crying about this...not sure if it's pregnancy hormones > or a sense of helplessness. > > Any suggestions on how to tactfully voice my concerns to daycare > without getting Max kicked out for having a crazy mother? > > Thank you for listening. > > Aekta > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 Bev - You are 100% correct. I hav ebeen concerned about how this teacher now takes care of Max. Inthe past 19 months that Max has been in this daycare I have been completely satisfied. Up until the the change to the 2 year old room (when he turned 2), we've encounter more concerning events...the sand and rocks is the biggets of my issues. I loved their infant room and the teachers in the infant room. I plan to keep the new baby in the infant room at this daycare. But for Max, tomorrow we will visit another daycare who I am confident we can trust. They offer additional enrichment programs which I think Max will enjoy such as Kinder Music. Yes this daycare will cost us about $200 more per month, but you can't put a price on your child, especially one who has enxperienced so much. My biggest concern is if they can't monitor Max near sand and rocks, what will happen the day we find out he needs growing rod surgery and Max returns to daycare to find out they just weren't watching Max and soemthing happens to his rods. I just can't chance this. Thank you all for your support. It moments like this in life I wish I can stay home every day with him. I will keep everyone posted on how our visit goes tomorrow at the new daycare. Aekta I > am beyond furious and will try to keep this post very tactful. > > Please note I am writing as a mother and not as a clinic manager > of a > > child psych clinic who deal with upset parents all the time! > > > > Max turned 2 years July 15. In the past few weeks he has been > > transitioned to move to the 2 year old room in daycare. Because > of the > > summer, his comfort level with his infant room teacher, and the > staff > > changes, Max stayed in the infant room a few weeks longer. > > > > Daycare was closed from thursday (last week)-wednesday (this > week). > > > > Today was his 3rd full day in the 2 year old room with a new > > teacher/daycare provider of 2 weeks. I have given strict > instruction > > that Max is not allowed to play with water or sand. When giving > Max a > > bath tonight, he started wiggling a bit and saying " itchy. " My > intial > > thoughts were " Oh No not again, we just got past the itchiness " . > So, > > I thought I'd try to get a finger or two to rub his back. I > couldn't > > get very far down, but was able to feel something that felt > > like " SAND. " I became very worried. I said to myself...no, no, > maybe > > it's just dry skin. I put my fingers down hs back again and sure > > enough I was able to pinch some sand. I asked my husband to check > to > > make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Sure enough, it's sand. Trying > to > > compose myself and not cry in front of Max, I was able to quickly > get > > him to bed. I feel so helpless and not being able to get the sand > out > > to make him comfortable. I am so upset, I can't even be angery. > > People just don't understand what we've been thru to get the > proper > > help for Max. He just got this cast in Chicago on 8/9/07. We've > > waited so long to have this opportunity for Miss Mehta to come to > > Chicago and cast Max, and now she does, and in 3 weeks gets sand > down > > his cast. > > > > Tomorrow I will talk to the daycare and plan to voice my concern > to > > President of the School District where Max attends daycare. I > have > > informed them, signed every form they needed, and gotten > documentation > > from every doctor giving explicit instructions. > > > > How hard is it to understand " NO WATER, NO SAND? " > > > > I appreciate being able to vent. Does anyone have any > suggestions on > > what we can do? I'm afraid to push the sand down further. > > Fortunately, Max sleeps on his side or stomach. Also, he has not > yet > > complained too much about it being " itchy " or doemonstrated any > > discomfort. > > > > I can't stop crying about this...not sure if it's pregnancy > hormones > > or a sense of helplessness. > > > > Any suggestions on how to tactfully voice my concerns to daycare > > without getting Max kicked out for having a crazy mother? > > > > Thank you for listening. > > > > Aekta > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! > Travel. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 Bev - You are 100% correct. I hav ebeen concerned about how this teacher now takes care of Max. Inthe past 19 months that Max has been in this daycare I have been completely satisfied. Up until the the change to the 2 year old room (when he turned 2), we've encounter more concerning events...the sand and rocks is the biggets of my issues. I loved their infant room and the teachers in the infant room. I plan to keep the new baby in the infant room at this daycare. But for Max, tomorrow we will visit another daycare who I am confident we can trust. They offer additional enrichment programs which I think Max will enjoy such as Kinder Music. Yes this daycare will cost us about $200 more per month, but you can't put a price on your child, especially one who has enxperienced so much. My biggest concern is if they can't monitor Max near sand and rocks, what will happen the day we find out he needs growing rod surgery and Max returns to daycare to find out they just weren't watching Max and soemthing happens to his rods. I just can't chance this. Thank you all for your support. It moments like this in life I wish I can stay home every day with him. I will keep everyone posted on how our visit goes tomorrow at the new daycare. Aekta I > am beyond furious and will try to keep this post very tactful. > > Please note I am writing as a mother and not as a clinic manager > of a > > child psych clinic who deal with upset parents all the time! > > > > Max turned 2 years July 15. In the past few weeks he has been > > transitioned to move to the 2 year old room in daycare. Because > of the > > summer, his comfort level with his infant room teacher, and the > staff > > changes, Max stayed in the infant room a few weeks longer. > > > > Daycare was closed from thursday (last week)-wednesday (this > week). > > > > Today was his 3rd full day in the 2 year old room with a new > > teacher/daycare provider of 2 weeks. I have given strict > instruction > > that Max is not allowed to play with water or sand. When giving > Max a > > bath tonight, he started wiggling a bit and saying " itchy. " My > intial > > thoughts were " Oh No not again, we just got past the itchiness " . > So, > > I thought I'd try to get a finger or two to rub his back. I > couldn't > > get very far down, but was able to feel something that felt > > like " SAND. " I became very worried. I said to myself...no, no, > maybe > > it's just dry skin. I put my fingers down hs back again and sure > > enough I was able to pinch some sand. I asked my husband to check > to > > make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Sure enough, it's sand. Trying > to > > compose myself and not cry in front of Max, I was able to quickly > get > > him to bed. I feel so helpless and not being able to get the sand > out > > to make him comfortable. I am so upset, I can't even be angery. > > People just don't understand what we've been thru to get the > proper > > help for Max. He just got this cast in Chicago on 8/9/07. We've > > waited so long to have this opportunity for Miss Mehta to come to > > Chicago and cast Max, and now she does, and in 3 weeks gets sand > down > > his cast. > > > > Tomorrow I will talk to the daycare and plan to voice my concern > to > > President of the School District where Max attends daycare. I > have > > informed them, signed every form they needed, and gotten > documentation > > from every doctor giving explicit instructions. > > > > How hard is it to understand " NO WATER, NO SAND? " > > > > I appreciate being able to vent. Does anyone have any > suggestions on > > what we can do? I'm afraid to push the sand down further. > > Fortunately, Max sleeps on his side or stomach. Also, he has not > yet > > complained too much about it being " itchy " or doemonstrated any > > discomfort. > > > > I can't stop crying about this...not sure if it's pregnancy > hormones > > or a sense of helplessness. > > > > Any suggestions on how to tactfully voice my concerns to daycare > > without getting Max kicked out for having a crazy mother? > > > > Thank you for listening. > > > > Aekta > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! > Travel. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2007 Report Share Posted September 3, 2007 Bev - You are 100% correct. I hav ebeen concerned about how this teacher now takes care of Max. Inthe past 19 months that Max has been in this daycare I have been completely satisfied. Up until the the change to the 2 year old room (when he turned 2), we've encounter more concerning events...the sand and rocks is the biggets of my issues. I loved their infant room and the teachers in the infant room. I plan to keep the new baby in the infant room at this daycare. But for Max, tomorrow we will visit another daycare who I am confident we can trust. They offer additional enrichment programs which I think Max will enjoy such as Kinder Music. Yes this daycare will cost us about $200 more per month, but you can't put a price on your child, especially one who has enxperienced so much. My biggest concern is if they can't monitor Max near sand and rocks, what will happen the day we find out he needs growing rod surgery and Max returns to daycare to find out they just weren't watching Max and soemthing happens to his rods. I just can't chance this. Thank you all for your support. It moments like this in life I wish I can stay home every day with him. I will keep everyone posted on how our visit goes tomorrow at the new daycare. Aekta I > am beyond furious and will try to keep this post very tactful. > > Please note I am writing as a mother and not as a clinic manager > of a > > child psych clinic who deal with upset parents all the time! > > > > Max turned 2 years July 15. In the past few weeks he has been > > transitioned to move to the 2 year old room in daycare. Because > of the > > summer, his comfort level with his infant room teacher, and the > staff > > changes, Max stayed in the infant room a few weeks longer. > > > > Daycare was closed from thursday (last week)-wednesday (this > week). > > > > Today was his 3rd full day in the 2 year old room with a new > > teacher/daycare provider of 2 weeks. I have given strict > instruction > > that Max is not allowed to play with water or sand. When giving > Max a > > bath tonight, he started wiggling a bit and saying " itchy. " My > intial > > thoughts were " Oh No not again, we just got past the itchiness " . > So, > > I thought I'd try to get a finger or two to rub his back. I > couldn't > > get very far down, but was able to feel something that felt > > like " SAND. " I became very worried. I said to myself...no, no, > maybe > > it's just dry skin. I put my fingers down hs back again and sure > > enough I was able to pinch some sand. I asked my husband to check > to > > make sure I wasn't losing my mind. Sure enough, it's sand. Trying > to > > compose myself and not cry in front of Max, I was able to quickly > get > > him to bed. I feel so helpless and not being able to get the sand > out > > to make him comfortable. I am so upset, I can't even be angery. > > People just don't understand what we've been thru to get the > proper > > help for Max. He just got this cast in Chicago on 8/9/07. We've > > waited so long to have this opportunity for Miss Mehta to come to > > Chicago and cast Max, and now she does, and in 3 weeks gets sand > down > > his cast. > > > > Tomorrow I will talk to the daycare and plan to voice my concern > to > > President of the School District where Max attends daycare. I > have > > informed them, signed every form they needed, and gotten > documentation > > from every doctor giving explicit instructions. > > > > How hard is it to understand " NO WATER, NO SAND? " > > > > I appreciate being able to vent. Does anyone have any > suggestions on > > what we can do? I'm afraid to push the sand down further. > > Fortunately, Max sleeps on his side or stomach. Also, he has not > yet > > complained too much about it being " itchy " or doemonstrated any > > discomfort. > > > > I can't stop crying about this...not sure if it's pregnancy > hormones > > or a sense of helplessness. > > > > Any suggestions on how to tactfully voice my concerns to daycare > > without getting Max kicked out for having a crazy mother? > > > > Thank you for listening. > > > > Aekta > > > > > > > > > > > > > > --------------------------------- > > Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! > Travel. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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