Guest guest Posted July 3, 2006 Report Share Posted July 3, 2006 I am reading " Emotional Intelligence " by Goleman. It is a bit of an academic, slow read, but if you can hang with it has given me a lot of insight. The book was written 10 years ago, this year was its anniversary republishing. For instance, the author writes about a study done that started with a group of four year olds. They were told they could have one marshmellow NOW or WAIT until the teacher came back from an errand and have two. The study followed the kids through high school graduation and the ones that were able to wait or delay gratification had much easier and successful young lives. The study was done by Walter Mischel. .... " What Walter Mishcel, who did the study, describes with the rather infelicitous phrase " goal-directed self-imposed delay of gratification " is perhaps the essence of emotional self regulation: the ability to deny impulse in the service of a goal, whether it be building a business, solving algebraic equation or persuing the Stanley Cup. His finding underscores the role of emotional intelligence as a meta ability, determining how well or how poorly people are able to use their other mental capacities. " This book has been helping me figure out how to monitor my emotions. Just thought I'd share. kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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