Guest guest Posted April 27, 2006 Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 Thank you for your responses. I feel like I needed to hear some more rigorous advice as opposed to the gentle encouragement I got last week...and you guys gave it! I am 41, 5'1, around 137. One online measurement put my bodyfat at 33% I have been trying to lose those same 12 pounds for a while a now. I workout daily...but maybe not at the high intensity recommended by BFL. Because of my height and weight, my calorie intake for weight loss is pretty low and doesn't leave a lot of room for error. I am fortunate to be home with my two daughters...ages 3 and 6. One of my main motivations to get the weight off and stop obsessing about the whole issue is to provide a healthy, positive environment for my daughters. (that quote yesterday was amazing!). I plan my meals the evening before or that morning and have most of the food available. My oldest daughter is homeschooled so she is home all the time except when she has a class. My husband is works from home so that means preparing three meals a day for him. Sometimes preparing the meals for others gets tricky because then I am exposed to the food that I really should not be eating... But the kids don't eat junk food so at worst it's a few of annie's cheddar bunnies. The protein part is a little tricky for me because I do not eat fish or eggs or tofu. I have forced down some egg beaters recently though and it wasn't that bad. My main problem is about one a week, I will decide that I have to have a big mac, and I can't talk myself out of it. Then once I have that, I have " blown it " and then I eat more. Usually this only lasts one day. This week I've been cheating every day with sweets. Another big issues is social occasions. We have a pretty active social life....the first week on BFL I did pretty well because I stayed home everyday except for the gym and my daughters' schedule. This week, Tuesday night was my big mac disaster, last night I went to a political fundraiser that was catered Mexican food and I just could not stop myself. I am in therapy to deal with the mental aspects, and yesterday in my appointment the main topic was my lack of discipline and where that comes from. Thanks again for your thoughts and your time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2006 Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 > sorry if I get obnoxious, but i'm just going to keep hammering home the pathway.org i have a master's in counseling psych i've studied meditation and buddhism intensively and done maybe 20 or 30 ten day silent meditation retreats and countless weekend retreat i have been in psychotherapy til the cows come home and more stuff -- a nine month intensive coaching program, a certificate in substance abuse from harvard medical school and I'm here to tell you -- thepathway.org psychotherapy looks for the " why " and looks for " pathologies " (meaning it looks at how you are messed up -- which is slightly dis-empowering focusing on the negative from my point of view) the pathway teaches skills -- a whole different ball game and the goal is not to be thin or figure out how to not be a mess the goal is to have a very very very happy healthy functional life life is very beautiful when you have your " solution " felicity > << > I am in therapy to deal with the mental aspects, and yesterday in my > appointment the main topic was my lack of discipline and where that > comes > from. > >>> > \ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2006 Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 I hear ya with the social occassions. Last challenge, if we had a few things going on in a weekend, i would eat free all weekend. This weekend, we have a fundraiser Friday nite and a shower on Sat. I have decided that instead of saying FREE WEEKEND, like I used to, I am going to eat as clean as I can. Friday nite, I will eat some non-okay appetizers, but I know my trigger is sweets, so I will avoid. I will also limit myself to one glass of wine. On Sat., I am going to plan meal 1 and 2 for before the shower as healthy as I can be and then again allow myself to indugle, but not overdo, at the shower. It's a fine line, but I am really trying to push myself outside my comfort zone. I'm also saying all of this now so I know if I overdo, I will be held accountable by the group. Mostly, I keep reminding myself had disappointed i was in myself at the end of challenge 1 and i don't want to feel that way again. I also realize that this is going to be an issue for the rest of my life, and the sooner I make it a habit to not overdo, the easier it will be. > > Thank you for your responses. I feel like I needed to hear some more > rigorous advice as opposed to the gentle encouragement I got last week...and > you guys gave it! > > I am 41, 5'1, around 137. One online measurement put my bodyfat at 33% I > have been trying to lose those same 12 pounds for a while a now. I workout > daily...but maybe not at the high intensity recommended by BFL. Because of > my height and weight, my calorie intake for weight loss is pretty low and > doesn't leave a lot of room for error. > > I am fortunate to be home with my two daughters...ages 3 and 6. One of my > main motivations to get the weight off and stop obsessing about the whole > issue is to provide a healthy, positive environment for my daughters. (that > quote yesterday was amazing!). > > I plan my meals the evening before or that morning and have most of the food > available. My oldest daughter is homeschooled so she is home all the time > except when she has a class. My husband is works from home so that means > preparing three meals a day for him. > > Sometimes preparing the meals for others gets tricky because then I am > exposed to the food that I really should not be eating... > But the kids don't eat junk food so at worst it's a few of annie's cheddar > bunnies. > > The protein part is a little tricky for me because I do not eat fish or eggs > or tofu. I have forced down some egg beaters recently though and it wasn't > that bad. > > My main problem is about one a week, I will decide that I have to have a big > mac, and I can't talk myself out of it. Then once I have that, I have " blown > it " and then I eat more. > Usually this only lasts one day. This week I've been cheating every day > with sweets. > > Another big issues is social occasions. We have a pretty active social > life....the first week on BFL I did pretty well because I stayed home > everyday except for the gym and my daughters' schedule. > This week, Tuesday night was my big mac disaster, last night I went to a > political fundraiser that was catered Mexican food and I just could not stop > myself. > > I am in therapy to deal with the mental aspects, and yesterday in my > appointment the main topic was my lack of discipline and where that comes > from. > > Thanks again for your thoughts and your time. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2006 Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 Robin, It sounds like you are taking some possitive steps and that's great. You said that your work outs are probably not as intense as BFL calls for...well, crank it up! The idea is to make your metabolism increase through pushing your physical limits. After a really gut- wrenching session on the treadmill you are NOT going to want to ruin your hard work with a Big Mac (by the way, if you MUST have a burger, for heaven's sake get one that has MEAT in it! The animal product used by most fast food places is the lowest quality possible.) Socializing can be difficult and takes a special preparation. The first thing you should do is make sure you have eaten your healthy meal befor you go. That way at least you are not starving and justifying with 'well, I have to eat, and this is what there is " . If you know what foods will be there, and you know you are going to eat some of it, go ahead and plan which things you will indulge in and in what proportions. Yes, re-fried beans are not the absolute best thing when you are trying to burn fat (if they are the good ones they are made with lard....yummy, but man are they high in fat!) but no one ever got fat from eating three chips with a smidge of beans. See what I mean? Usually, no matter what the spread is, there is a salad offered. Make that your best friend. Crunchy veggies can be very satisfying. You say your family is home all day together, working or schooling or such. Well, put them ALL on BFL. They don't have to know it. Just make healthy meals that fit into plan and eat your correct proportions. BFL food is not something " out of the norm " . It's really food that we all eat. Make sure you have nothing in the house that is a trigger food. You said your family really doesn't eat junk, so that should not be a problem. Good for you for getting help dealing with the mental aspects of this. We all need some support from time to time. Hang in there. You'll figure this out. Barbara > > Thank you for your responses. I feel like I needed to hear some more > rigorous advice as opposed to the gentle encouragement I got last week...and > you guys gave it! > > I am 41, 5'1, around 137. One online measurement put my bodyfat at 33% I > have been trying to lose those same 12 pounds for a while a now. I workout > daily...but maybe not at the high intensity recommended by BFL. Because of > my height and weight, my calorie intake for weight loss is pretty low and > doesn't leave a lot of room for error. > > I am fortunate to be home with my two daughters...ages 3 and 6. One of my > main motivations to get the weight off and stop obsessing about the whole > issue is to provide a healthy, positive environment for my daughters. (that > quote yesterday was amazing!). > > I plan my meals the evening before or that morning and have most of the food > available. My oldest daughter is homeschooled so she is home all the time > except when she has a class. My husband is works from home so that means > preparing three meals a day for him. > > Sometimes preparing the meals for others gets tricky because then I am > exposed to the food that I really should not be eating... > But the kids don't eat junk food so at worst it's a few of annie's cheddar > bunnies. > > The protein part is a little tricky for me because I do not eat fish or eggs > or tofu. I have forced down some egg beaters recently though and it wasn't > that bad. > > My main problem is about one a week, I will decide that I have to have a big > mac, and I can't talk myself out of it. Then once I have that, I have " blown > it " and then I eat more. > Usually this only lasts one day. This week I've been cheating every day > with sweets. > > Another big issues is social occasions. We have a pretty active social > life....the first week on BFL I did pretty well because I stayed home > everyday except for the gym and my daughters' schedule. > This week, Tuesday night was my big mac disaster, last night I went to a > political fundraiser that was catered Mexican food and I just could not stop > myself. > > I am in therapy to deal with the mental aspects, and yesterday in my > appointment the main topic was my lack of discipline and where that comes > from. > > Thanks again for your thoughts and your time. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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