Guest guest Posted January 30, 2007 Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 L That’s disgusting! I’m truly horrified and speechless! Talk about paying lip service to inclusion! Did he have a mentor? Did NAS have any advice? Re: Fw: You Tube footage Sara I spoke to LEA about the bullying and they said it was up to each individual school what their approach was, it's like no one really wants to take responsibility. I was also told I get him back into school pronto or face the attendance officer from LEA or otherwise write and say he is being home educated, which I suppose means they would no longer be responsible. Vicky -- No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.432 / Virus Database: 268.17.14/658 - Release Date: 29/01/2007 14:49 -- No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.432 / Virus Database: 268.17.14/658 - Release Date: 29/01/2007 14:49 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2007 Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 Sara, Well I decided not to wait for the "talk" with my daughter but to grab the bull by the horns. I just spoke to the school and the deputy was extremely receptive ( as usual) He said he wouldn't put up with such nonsense and he would take the bullies aside and reprimand them. Emphasized that he would make clear to the bullies that there should be no retributions. Furthermore " I will back your daughter right to the top! " (He thinks highly of her good character.) I will have to calm my daughter down when she gets home..... Thanks for your support. RE: Fw: You Tube footage Yeah sure, it’s very difficult. I read back what I wrote when it appeared in my mailbox and it had a funny tone. Sorry!!! I think I have my own issues here because, whilst I was working at my tough tough London school, dealing with these things constantly, my little, painfully shy niece was being bullied at her primary and then secondary school. I begged and pleaded with my sister to contact the school but my sister insisted that my niece wouldn’t allow it as she was scared of the repercussions. She went right through primary school and secondary school and the issue was NEVER addressed! Bullying only works because the bullies have some form of power over the bullied and this power will necessarily include an element of making them afraid to tell. If you were being bullied at work that would mean that you were unable, for whatever reason, to stand up to the perpetrators. The next step is to go above them, to their boss, your union, the press, join forces with other workers – whatever works really or you are almost giving the bully the right to continue. I was bullied at school too. I would never have wanted my parents to make a fuss but my fear was that of confronting the bully. This is a child’s mindset because the real fear should be of letting them continue and letting the situation escalate. Just read your message too Vicky. There are crap schools out there that can’t deal with bullying and I’m really sorry to hear your son’s story. I can’t help feeling that they are also giving into the bullies and, by not putting a stop to it are actually joining them, or even joining your son as a victim. They should also be reported, not sure who to though – the press???/ SARA x --No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Free Edition.Version: 7.5.432 / Virus Database: 268.17.14/658 - Release Date: 29/01/2007 14:49 --No virus found in this outgoing message.Checked by AVG Free Edition.Version: 7.5.432 / Virus Database: 268.17.14/658 - Release Date: 29/01/2007 14:49 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2007 Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 Yes, she told me about the glass bottle incident last night and my first inclination was to get the address of this little minx and visit her home. My daughter insisted that I refrain. So I have been mulling over this and the previous incidents and wondering about the best tack. But you're right. Don't let the bastards get you down. So you see, I have called and now I will wait to see how it all pans out. Phew, that's a weight off my mind. Re: Fw: You Tube footage In a message dated 30/01/2007 11:00:48 GMT Standard Time, CarolineTraaaol writes: >>Excellent response I think they have handled this very well. Lets face it they >>cannot be help responsible for idiots that do this. They seem to be doing and >>have done all the y possibly can. Yes, I agree, they were quite reticent on the phone yesterday. The only thing that bugs me is the line in the Dorset Echo that they issued saying that this was an *isolated incident*. What rubbish. It was clearly systematic bullying with group participation. I'm sure by the time the bullies got around to videoing there was already a well established and entrenched pattern of perpetration although I realise the school couldn't possibly issue a statement saying that systematic bullying had been going on, no doubt they must minimise, minimise, minimise the damage. I sincerely hope they all learn a lifelong lesson from this. Darla --No virus found in this incoming message.Checked by AVG Free Edition.Version: 7.5.432 / Virus Database: 268.17.14/658 - Release Date: 29/01/2007 14:49 --No virus found in this outgoing message.Checked by AVG Free Edition.Version: 7.5.432 / Virus Database: 268.17.14/658 - Release Date: 29/01/2007 14:49 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2007 Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 , Do you[uK] have any provisions which offer your daughter formal protection for true issues of safety and well being written into an IEP[uS]? Does she have an aide[para]? if not, could a cute and burly guy be hired for the job? or is this just US thinking? > > Yes, she told me about the glass bottle incident last night and my first inclination was to get the address of this little minx and visit her home. My daughter insisted that I refrain. So I have been mulling over this and the previous incidents and wondering about the best tack. But you're right. Don't let the bastards get you down. So you see, I have called and now I will wait to see how it all pans out. > > Phew, that's a weight off my mind. > > > Re: Fw: You Tube footage > > > > In a message dated 30/01/2007 11:00:48 GMT Standard Time, CarolineTraa@... writes: > > >>Excellent response I think they have handled this very well. Lets face it they >>cannot be help responsible for idiots that do this. They seem to be doing and >>have done all the y possibly can. > > Yes, I agree, they were quite reticent on the phone yesterday. > > > > The only thing that bugs me is the line in the Dorset Echo that they issued saying that this was an *isolated incident*. What rubbish. It was clearly systematic bullying with group participation. I'm sure by the time the bullies got around to videoing there was already a well established and entrenched pattern of perpetration although I realise the school couldn't possibly issue a statement saying that systematic bullying had been going on, no doubt they must minimise, minimise, minimise the damage. > > > > I sincerely hope they all learn a lifelong lesson from this. > > > > Darla > > > > > -- > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG Free Edition. > Version: 7.5.432 / Virus Database: 268.17.14/658 - Release Date: 29/01/2007 14:49 > > > > > -- > No virus found in this outgoing message. > Checked by AVG Free Edition. > Version: 7.5.432 / Virus Database: 268.17.14/658 - Release Date: 29/01/2007 14:49 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2007 Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 I'm home edding but I've still got the statement. They don't do anything to carry it out but I've still got it -- they monitor it and review it etc. I could use it to go back into education. Eventually I will (perhaps) Sally Mum231ASD@... wrote: In a message dated 30/01/2007 14:27:21 GMT Standard Time, MaddiganVaol (DOT) com writes: from LEA or otherwise write and say he is being home educated, which I suppose means they would no longer be responsible. >>You get a letter from your GP to say he has anxiety and keep him opff legally - once you say you are hiome eddiing you lose the statement and are likely to have to go back to tribunal to get a reassessment at soemtime, play the game while you decide Mandi x No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.432 / Virus Database: 268.17.14/658 - Release Date: 29/01/2007 14:49 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2007 Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 Yes same here, Joe still has a statement, but LEA won't comply with any of their obligations whilst I am home edding. We have an annual review when I ask for things, they tell me I can't have them and everyone gets uptight. Me especially. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2007 Report Share Posted January 30, 2007 Thanks Caroline. I feel much better for it. Geez I hate this bullying. J Re: Fw: You Tube footage JULIE WELL DONE. WE R ALL THINKING BOUT YOU. LUV CAROLINE XXX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2007 Report Share Posted January 31, 2007 Did anyone download the videos for proof? It seems they have all been removed - the last time he logged in was 1 day ago. I hope someonen has them for proof and to find out who the others in the room were so as to run the investigation. What a nightmare! Hugs, Theresa > > Response from Poole. I am happy with this - am thinking of writing a quick > note thanking them for their quick response - but any suggestions anyone? > > You Tube footage > > > > Dear > > > > Thank you for your e-mail communication to The College yesterday > > regarding the video footage published on You Tube. > > > > We completely understand and share your concerns over the reprehensible > > behaviour demonstrated, and assure you than in line with our strict > > policies, that there is a full investigation ongoing that has > > immediately resulted in the suspension of a group of students identified > > as having some involvement. > > > > You may not be aware, but The Bournemouth and Poole College has a very > > solid and well earned reputation for inclusiveness, and we offer a > > learning environment for students of all abilities where learners are > > well supported in every way. Students with a wide range of learning > > disabilities are embraced into college life, and many function to a very > > high academic standard in the mainstream environment. We have excellent > > staff with a wide range of expertise, and within their remit is the > > creation of an educational environment sensitive to people with any > > disability or 'difference'. Our equal opportunities and diversity > > polices are strong, and upheld by those who work and study here. > > > > In terms of acceptable behaviour, every student enrolling with us signs > > up to the Student Agreement, which is a code of conduct that is > > rigorously enforced. Part of this is the Student Anti-bullying and > > Harassment Policy and we will not hesitate to exclude anyone who is > > found to be in breach of this agreement. > > > > Lastly, we do firmly believe that ours is an 'enlightened' learning > > environment, and is not a place where disabled people get victimised. We > > currently believe that this represents isolated and exceptional conduct > > involving a small group of students who have acted irresponsibly. > > > > Thank you for sharing your concerns with us, and assuring you that the > > gravity of the matter has not been overlooked. > > > > Kind regards > > > > -Anne Houldey > > Director of Marketing > > The Bournemouth and Poole College > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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