Re: Re: embarassing question -- Tara

[Guest guest]

Most anorexics and athletes don't get their period, Tara.

Does you doctor consider you an anorexic?

Or, is your doctor concerned about your weight?

Or, does your doctor know what you really weigh?

Have you had a body scan?

How are your teeth?

What is your skin like?

How are your extremities?

I apologize for all of the questions, but you have me concerned.

Tara Winnett wrote:

I have gone to the Dr. concerning the lack of periods, and that is why she put

me on birth control. The periods still have not come though unfortunately. I

have kind of broached the subject of sex drive with her, but she didn't seem

concerned b/c I had never had sex. It worries me and my future husband though!

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[Guest guest]

My general Dr. is concerned about my weight, as is the gyno. She says I won't be

able to have a kid unless I get some more fat on my body. My skin is very dry

and I'm FREEZING all of the time. Today, for example, it's around 65-70 and I

have on 2 sweatshirts. My toes and fingers get white and numb all of the time.

My teeth are ok though I think

ORourke wrote: Most anorexics and athletes

don't get their period, Tara.

Does you doctor consider you an anorexic?

Or, is your doctor concerned about your weight?

Or, does your doctor know what you really weigh?

Have you had a body scan?

How are your teeth?

What is your skin like?

How are your extremities?

I apologize for all of the questions, but you have me concerned.

Tara Winnett wrote:

I have gone to the Dr. concerning the lack of periods, and that is why she put

me on birth control. The periods still have not come though unfortunately. I

have kind of broached the subject of sex drive with her, but she didn't seem

concerned b/c I had never had sex. It worries me and my future husband though!

---------------------------------

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[Guest guest]

Getting pregnant is one issue.

Being able to deliver a healthy baby is the real issue.

Tara, if you are serious about getting married and having children, you need

to be serious about your health.

Personally, I think you should switch doctors. If you are truly 5'7 " ; 116

lbs; very dry skin; always freezing; exercising to extremes; eating 1800 cals;

etc, you need to be seeing a doctor that specializes in eating disorders.

I'm not trying to scare you BUT you need help.

I know. I've been there.

I have heart disease as a result of what I have done to myself. AND that is

just the tip of the iceburg!!!!!!

PLS get help. You have your whole life ahead of you. If you don't, you will

end up like me if not worse.

I'm being completely honest with you.

.

Tara Winnett wrote:

My general Dr. is concerned about my weight, as is the gyno. She says I won't

be able to have a kid unless I get some more fat on my body. My skin is very dry

and I'm FREEZING all of the time. Today, for example, it's around 65-70 and I

have on 2 sweatshirts. My toes and fingers get white and numb all of the time.

My teeth are ok though I think

ORourke wrote: Most anorexics and athletes

don't get their period, Tara.

Does you doctor consider you an anorexic?

Or, is your doctor concerned about your weight?

Or, does your doctor know what you really weigh?

Have you had a body scan?

How are your teeth?

What is your skin like?

How are your extremities?

I apologize for all of the questions, but you have me concerned.

Tara Winnett wrote:

I have gone to the Dr. concerning the lack of periods, and that is why she put

me on birth control. The periods still have not come though unfortunately. I

have kind of broached the subject of sex drive with her, but she didn't seem

concerned b/c I had never had sex. It worries me and my future husband though!

---------------------------------

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[Guest guest]

I'm a hard-driving person, but you already know that. It comes with the

territory, correct.?

I live in the Boston area. Where do you live, Tara?

To be truthful, I lost one of my people died a couple of months ago. It has

been very difficult for me.

She was a beautiful 30-something person. She had alot to offer.

I really don't understand why God took her. He should have taken me.

She was so young and had so much to offer.

In the meantime, I've got a company I am trying to create. I have alot on my

plate.

.

Tara Winnett wrote:

Man, where do you live ? You seem like the kind of person I'd love

to have counsel me! :-)

ORourke wrote: I'm sorry, Felicity, if I

came across harsh.

I know you didn't mean any harm.

But trust me, it is not part of the problem.

I have 2.5 decades of experience and I counsel four anorexic women.

It is an awful psychological disease.

You are a good person Felicity. For obvious reasons, anorexia is a sensitive

subject for me.

I'm a sophisticated 47 year old woman starting a new company; raising a 15 yr

old son; relaunching a high tech client; yet I was in " cardiac arrest " in

London.

My poor father is watching me for the next several weeks. I feel like an

idiot. I can see the sadness in his eyes.

I'm so angry, so frustrated, so confused. My partners are concerned.

Thank God my Brain is strong.

I still know how to relaunch a company; start a new company; it energizes me.

:-)

BUT physicially I am not strong. I'm so cross with myself. I'm an

intelligent person. I should know better.

Felicity wrote:

I'm sorry if it sounding like I was saying this is the whole reason a

person would become anorexic. I simply meant that it might

potentially in some cases be a small part of a very complex illness.

felicity

> Felicity,

>

> Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out. "

>

> It is about CONTROL.

>

> A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

>

> She should be seeking help from a pro.

>

> Respectfully,

>

> .

>

>

>

>

>

> Felicity wrote:

> what do you mean never?

> never at all?

> do you like kissing and cuddling?

> did you think boys were cute in high school?

> are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

>

> sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

> " never " and

> " always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the

> problem

>

> how long have you been anorexic?

> the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

> not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

> psychological

> but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

> so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

> sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out

>

> the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

> if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

> how are you and your finance with intimacy?

> by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

> embarrassing parts of yourselves

> or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

> in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

>

> you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

> your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

> it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

> very intimate activity

> it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

> like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

> boyfriend

> this is the same idea

> only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

> that other person

>

>

> there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

> is the real you

> some people are high, some low

>

> you just need to sort it out

> is it physical?

> psychological?

> intimacy issues?

> or is it just the way you are

>

> according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

> (or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

> joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

> which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

>

> once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

>

> fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

>

>

>

>

> > I've NEVER had a sex drive though

> >

> > n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

> > wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

> > the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

> > n

> >

> > At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

> > >Tara

> > >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> > >felicity

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry. That must have been hard. What kind of company are you trying to

create? That must be stressful.

ORourke wrote: I'm a hard-driving person,

but you already know that. It comes with the territory, correct.?

I live in the Boston area. Where do you live, Tara?

To be truthful, I lost one of my people died a couple of months ago. It has

been very difficult for me.

She was a beautiful 30-something person. She had alot to offer.

I really don't understand why God took her. He should have taken me.

She was so young and had so much to offer.

In the meantime, I've got a company I am trying to create. I have alot on my

plate.

.

Tara Winnett wrote:

Man, where do you live ? You seem like the kind of person I'd love

to have counsel me! :-)

ORourke wrote: I'm sorry, Felicity, if I

came across harsh.

I know you didn't mean any harm.

But trust me, it is not part of the problem.

I have 2.5 decades of experience and I counsel four anorexic women.

It is an awful psychological disease.

You are a good person Felicity. For obvious reasons, anorexia is a sensitive

subject for me.

I'm a sophisticated 47 year old woman starting a new company; raising a 15 yr

old son; relaunching a high tech client; yet I was in " cardiac arrest " in

London.

My poor father is watching me for the next several weeks. I feel like an

idiot. I can see the sadness in his eyes.

I'm so angry, so frustrated, so confused. My partners are concerned.

Thank God my Brain is strong.

I still know how to relaunch a company; start a new company; it energizes me.

:-)

BUT physicially I am not strong. I'm so cross with myself. I'm an

intelligent person. I should know better.

Felicity wrote:

I'm sorry if it sounding like I was saying this is the whole reason a

person would become anorexic. I simply meant that it might

potentially in some cases be a small part of a very complex illness.

felicity

> Felicity,

>

> Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out. "

>

> It is about CONTROL.

>

> A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

>

> She should be seeking help from a pro.

>

> Respectfully,

>

> .

>

>

>

>

>

> Felicity wrote:

> what do you mean never?

> never at all?

> do you like kissing and cuddling?

> did you think boys were cute in high school?

> are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

>

> sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

> " never " and

> " always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the

> problem

>

> how long have you been anorexic?

> the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

> not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

> psychological

> but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

> so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

> sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out

>

> the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

> if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

> how are you and your finance with intimacy?

> by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

> embarrassing parts of yourselves

> or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

> in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

>

> you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

> your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

> it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

> very intimate activity

> it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

> like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

> boyfriend

> this is the same idea

> only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

> that other person

>

>

> there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

> is the real you

> some people are high, some low

>

> you just need to sort it out

> is it physical?

> psychological?

> intimacy issues?

> or is it just the way you are

>

> according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

> (or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

> joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

> which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

>

> once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

>

> fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

>

>

>

>

> > I've NEVER had a sex drive though

> >

> > n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

> > wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

> > the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

> > n

> >

> > At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

> > >Tara

> > >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> > >felicity

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Where do you live, Tara?

What kind of antidepressents are you on? And how many mgs?

Doing Yoga or Pilates is terrific for you.

You will find that most therapists are screwed up and/or driven to their

specialty due to their personal experience. That shouldn't be a surprise to

you. Doctors are the same way.

Tara Winnett wrote:

My gyno tried to get me into a specialist, but they only deal w/ adolescents.

My family Dr. sent me to a psychiatrist who talked to me for 5 min. and put me

on antidepressents. The other therapist just tried to have me do yoga and told

me how she didn't eat and drank diet coke to keep her going....? It has kind of

soured me on the whole therapist thing.

ORourke wrote: Felicity,

Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or because sex is

scary or freaks them out. "

It is about CONTROL.

A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

She should be seeking help from a pro.

Respectfully,

.

Felicity wrote:

what do you mean never?

never at all?

do you like kissing and cuddling?

did you think boys were cute in high school?

are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

" never " and

" always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the problem

how long have you been anorexic?

the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

psychological

but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

because sex is scary or freaks them out

the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

how are you and your finance with intimacy?

by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

embarrassing parts of yourselves

or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

very intimate activity

it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

boyfriend

this is the same idea

only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

that other person

there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

is the real you

some people are high, some low

you just need to sort it out

is it physical?

psychological?

intimacy issues?

or is it just the way you are

according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

(or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

> I've NEVER had a sex drive though

>

> n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

> wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

> the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

> n

>

> At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

> >Tara

> >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> >felicity

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I live in Ohio. I stopped taking the antidepressents. I was on Lexapro. A

fairly low dosage I believe. I didn't like the thought of being on them. I'm not

a yoga person. I don't know why. It kind of bores me. I'm more into high

intensity stuff and lifting. I couldn't get into the whole meditation thing

ORourke wrote: Where do you live, Tara?

What kind of antidepressents are you on? And how many mgs?

Doing Yoga or Pilates is terrific for you.

You will find that most therapists are screwed up and/or driven to their

specialty due to their personal experience. That shouldn't be a surprise to

you. Doctors are the same way.

Tara Winnett wrote:

My gyno tried to get me into a specialist, but they only deal w/ adolescents.

My family Dr. sent me to a psychiatrist who talked to me for 5 min. and put me

on antidepressents. The other therapist just tried to have me do yoga and told

me how she didn't eat and drank diet coke to keep her going....? It has kind of

soured me on the whole therapist thing.

ORourke wrote: Felicity,

Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or because sex is

scary or freaks them out. "

It is about CONTROL.

A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

She should be seeking help from a pro.

Respectfully,

.

Felicity wrote:

what do you mean never?

never at all?

do you like kissing and cuddling?

did you think boys were cute in high school?

are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

" never " and

" always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the problem

how long have you been anorexic?

the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

psychological

but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

because sex is scary or freaks them out

the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

how are you and your finance with intimacy?

by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

embarrassing parts of yourselves

or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

very intimate activity

it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

boyfriend

this is the same idea

only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

that other person

there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

is the real you

some people are high, some low

you just need to sort it out

is it physical?

psychological?

intimacy issues?

or is it just the way you are

according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

(or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

> I've NEVER had a sex drive though

>

> n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

> wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

> the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

> n

>

> At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

> >Tara

> >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> >felicity

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Tara,

It generally takes 3-4 weeks for an antidepressant to have some impact. Did

you give it that much time?

If not, has your doctor discussed your cardio routine?

Have you tried Pilates?

I saw a big change in my body -- leaner and longer.

.

Tara Winnett wrote:

I live in Ohio. I stopped taking the antidepressents. I was on Lexapro. A

fairly low dosage I believe. I didn't like the thought of being on them. I'm not

a yoga person. I don't know why. It kind of bores me. I'm more into high

intensity stuff and lifting. I couldn't get into the whole meditation thing

ORourke wrote: Where do you live, Tara?

What kind of antidepressents are you on? And how many mgs?

Doing Yoga or Pilates is terrific for you.

You will find that most therapists are screwed up and/or driven to their

specialty due to their personal experience. That shouldn't be a surprise to

you. Doctors are the same way.

Tara Winnett wrote:

My gyno tried to get me into a specialist, but they only deal w/ adolescents.

My family Dr. sent me to a psychiatrist who talked to me for 5 min. and put me

on antidepressents. The other therapist just tried to have me do yoga and told

me how she didn't eat and drank diet coke to keep her going....? It has kind of

soured me on the whole therapist thing.

ORourke wrote: Felicity,

Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or because sex is

scary or freaks them out. "

It is about CONTROL.

A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

She should be seeking help from a pro.

Respectfully,

.

Felicity wrote:

what do you mean never?

never at all?

do you like kissing and cuddling?

did you think boys were cute in high school?

are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

" never " and

" always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the problem

how long have you been anorexic?

the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

psychological

but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

because sex is scary or freaks them out

the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

how are you and your finance with intimacy?

by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

embarrassing parts of yourselves

or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

very intimate activity

it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

boyfriend

this is the same idea

only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

that other person

there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

is the real you

some people are high, some low

you just need to sort it out

is it physical?

psychological?

intimacy issues?

or is it just the way you are

according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

(or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

> I've NEVER had a sex drive though

>

> n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

> wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

> the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

> n

>

> At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

> >Tara

> >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> >felicity

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

i am invested in a wine import company. and i am starting an internet wine

company in america. our launch date is late july.

Tara Winnett wrote:

I'm so sorry. That must have been hard. What kind of company are you trying

to create? That must be stressful.

ORourke wrote: I'm a hard-driving person,

but you already know that. It comes with the territory, correct.?

I live in the Boston area. Where do you live, Tara?

To be truthful, I lost one of my people died a couple of months ago. It has

been very difficult for me.

She was a beautiful 30-something person. She had alot to offer.

I really don't understand why God took her. He should have taken me.

She was so young and had so much to offer.

In the meantime, I've got a company I am trying to create. I have alot on my

plate.

.

Tara Winnett wrote:

Man, where do you live ? You seem like the kind of person I'd love

to have counsel me! :-)

ORourke wrote: I'm sorry, Felicity, if I

came across harsh.

I know you didn't mean any harm.

But trust me, it is not part of the problem.

I have 2.5 decades of experience and I counsel four anorexic women.

It is an awful psychological disease.

You are a good person Felicity. For obvious reasons, anorexia is a sensitive

subject for me.

I'm a sophisticated 47 year old woman starting a new company; raising a 15 yr

old son; relaunching a high tech client; yet I was in " cardiac arrest " in

London.

My poor father is watching me for the next several weeks. I feel like an

idiot. I can see the sadness in his eyes.

I'm so angry, so frustrated, so confused. My partners are concerned.

Thank God my Brain is strong.

I still know how to relaunch a company; start a new company; it energizes me.

:-)

BUT physicially I am not strong. I'm so cross with myself. I'm an

intelligent person. I should know better.

Felicity wrote:

I'm sorry if it sounding like I was saying this is the whole reason a

person would become anorexic. I simply meant that it might

potentially in some cases be a small part of a very complex illness.

felicity

> Felicity,

>

> Trust me no one " become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out. "

>

> It is about CONTROL.

>

> A " low sex drive " is common when someone is anorexic.

>

> She should be seeking help from a pro.

>

> Respectfully,

>

> .

>

>

>

>

>

> Felicity wrote:

> what do you mean never?

> never at all?

> do you like kissing and cuddling?

> did you think boys were cute in high school?

> are there movie stars that make you feel hot?

>

> sometimes when people are freaked out about something they think

> " never " and

> " always " and it's not really true, just your mind amplifying the

> problem

>

> how long have you been anorexic?

> the reason I ask that is wondering if it is physical or psychological

> not that any specific answer would tell if it were physical or

> psychological

> but how long has your body been low energy, low hormones etc?

> so that would be a physical reason for low sex drive

> sometimes people might become anorexic as a way to avoid sex or

> because sex is scary or freaks them out

>

> the only scary thing about sex is that it is very very intimate

> if intimacy freaks you out, sex might

> how are you and your finance with intimacy?

> by which i mean sharing deep dark feelings or showing your

> embarrassing parts of yourselves

> or being able to tell the truth about things -- like i am or am not

> in the mood to talk/cuddle/do anything you expect me to do

>

> you don't even have to love sexual satisfaction or be in the mood for

> your own satisfaction to enjoy sex

> it can just be a very big cuddle, a way of being close and sharing a

> very intimate activity

> it makes feeling close to someone even that much better

> like if you enjoy a really good date, or a really good talk with your

> boyfriend

> this is the same idea

> only it has a special way of making you feel very, very close with

> that other person

>

>

> there is nothing in the world wrong with having a low sex drive if it

> is the real you

> some people are high, some low

>

> you just need to sort it out

> is it physical?

> psychological?

> intimacy issues?

> or is it just the way you are

>

> according the " the pathway " aka " the solution " food obsessions

> (or any obsession -- spending money, alcohol, --

> joke--) is partly about not knowing how to be intimate with ourselves

> which means really accept ourselves just the way we are

>

> once we can be intimate with ourselves we can be intimate with others

>

> fyi -- sex is really lots of fun:)

>

>

>

>

> > I've NEVER had a sex drive though

> >

> > n wrote: Yes - regular pre-

> > wedding stress, increased further due to expectations of

> > the honeymoon, and losing your virginity

> > n

> >

> > At 08:34 AM 4/29/2006, you wrote:

> > >Tara

> > >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> > >felicity

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry. I never meant for it to take up this much space or time or to offend

anybody. I'll stop asking these questions and keep things to myself. I'm very

sorry that I offended you. It was never my intention. Thank you everyone for

your help and support, but I will no longer be public about my problems.

dantegsd wrote: I think this kind of advice should

go off-list. Just my humblebumble

opinion. I'm so glad this list is helpful to you Tara. Keep asking

questions, but this latest turn is the kind of conversation that risks

creating unhelpful dependency.

Sherry

> > >Tara

> > >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> > >felicity

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Tara, there is no reason for you to be sorry.

Feel free to email directly and I will do the same.

.

Tara Winnett wrote:

I'm sorry. I never meant for it to take up this much space or time or to

offend anybody. I'll stop asking these questions and keep things to myself. I'm

very sorry that I offended you. It was never my intention. Thank you everyone

for your help and support, but I will no longer be public about my problems.

dantegsd wrote: I think this kind of advice should

go off-list. Just my humblebumble

opinion. I'm so glad this list is helpful to you Tara. Keep asking

questions, but this latest turn is the kind of conversation that risks

creating unhelpful dependency.

Sherry

> > >Tara

> > >worrying about your sex drive could partly be pre-wedding stress.

> > >felicity

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Tara,

Don't ever apologize for emailing questions to this list... we are here for a

support system... and I think we all need to realize that. Please don't be

ashamed to email questions... as you can see 99% of the group responded with

good hearts and wants to help you.... :-) Please don't feel like you can't

email questions.

~

Tara Winnett wrote: I'm sorry. I never meant for it

to take up this much space or time or to offend anybody. I'll stop asking these

questions and keep things to myself. I'm very sorry that I offended you. It was

never my intention. Thank you everyone for your help and support, but I will no

longer be public about my problems.

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