Re: Not Disclosing Status......

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You said it yourself. The positive person has an added responsibility to disclose. All the rest that places a higher (or even equal) responsibility on the negative person is rationalizing.Does the other person have to accept some responsibility for their decisions? Yes, of course.But there's still a greater responsibility on the positive person, because they know for sure what the negative person doesn't.And being drunk does not lessen that responsibility-- in fact, you could argue that it places a higher burden of responsibility on the poz person, to conduct themselves accordingly as as not to jeopardize the negative person-- even if the neg person is too clueless to behave soberly and responsibly themselves.Is it "fair"? No. But life isn't fair. If it was, we wouldn't be positive, would we?>> I guess that there is an up side and a down side to everything. In this topic, the disclosure of HIV+ status is precarious. In approximately 2/3 of the US states and other countries it is a crime to have an intimate relationship, if one party if HIV+ and does not disclose his or her status. At first, the law sounds absolutely perfect. "Well, of course." But now wait a minute think about that for a second. If two people meet, either gay or straight, for this scenario, let's assume two gay men!!!! They meet in a gay bar one evening, both parties have been consuming alcohol, one is positive, while the other is not. The positive person is on HAART with an undetectable viral load. The negative person willingly had an intimate relationship with that person. This participating person did so willingly. It does not for all practical purposes serve either person to prosecute the person. The positive person met the other in a bar where both persons where they were under the influence. The negative person has to assume responsibility for his own actions. > > Another way to look at this is that if this negative person is having unprotected sex with this person, it is more likely than not that he has with others. Therefore, was he already positive. Maybe he was told of his one-night stand's status, but didn't recall it due to the consumption of alcohol.> > If one is going to be held accountable for his status, so should the other for not protecting himself.> > On the other side of this argument, YES, the positive person does have an added responsibility to protect his partners. He or she has the duty of informing his partner and allowing them to make the decision on his own. > > If I were a positive person going through this, well simply said, I would find it excessively easier just not to have sex.> > hyyp://timehasshownme.com>