My DD's 1st PDOC appt

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I had no idea it was going to cost so much! We had to pay 50% and it was

still alot! UGH.

Well I do not know anything more than before we went to the appointment. The

Dr gave me a thing for her teacher to fill out, made another appointment for

next Friday and that is it. So we do not have a diagnosis. At first I was a

little upset because I want to start solving this problem NOW and next Friday

means another 10 days of " episodes " but then again, I would rather him be

sure of his diagnosis. He also gave me homework, to write down the 3 largest

areas of concerns. I did feel like he dismissed the whole clothing issue, which

is a major issue for me/my daughter. He acted like it was a normal thing.

However, I did not get a chance to talk to him w/o my daughter present so he

was probably trying to make her feel OK with the whole discussion. I got that

feeling during some other topics as well.

The perfectionist issue was the main vein of subject. He asked her several

questions about her grades in school, how she feels about bad grades, how a

bad grade makes her feel (a bad grade for her is a C) and what the worst thing

that could happen if she got a failing grade was (which she could not

answer). He had a scale of 1-8 in picture form and asked her her level of

frustration in certain situations. SHE complained about her brothers more than

anything

else. I was surprised. She also acted a little weird (I guess she was

uncomfortable). She was very fidgety, not paying attention to the Dr (on

purpose)

would ramble off weird sentences (like nervous behavior). I have never seen

her like that before. Honestly, after the whole thing she appeared more ADD

than anything.

After we got home, she asked me " Mom, if you could home school me, would

you? " To which I replied no. I told her I was not a very good teacher and she

should know that from when I try to help her with her homework. She agreed LOL.

I had set up a meeting on Monday with the " team " at her school (principal,

teacher, counselor and Title 1 teacher) as a follow up to the Dr appt. Too bad

I do not have a diagnosis but we still need to get started on an IEP for

her.

On a side note, I have a personality conflict with her teacher I am trying

very hard to ignore. Her teacher is probably close to my own age, maybe a tad

older and while she has gone out of her way to help us (letting us call her

after hours and meetings, etc.) I get the distinct feeling she thinks I am

half the problem or something (sort of treats me like I am stupid). I have made

a list of several issues I want resolved at the meeting Monday, the main one

being the communication gap about math and the fact there are instructions

they are given that are not written down and my dd cannot remember them or

implement them if she cannot read them. I want her moved to the front of the

class as well.

I did not like her teacher last year at all. I think MY biggest frustration

is that they rely too much on my 3rd grader to tell me what is going on at

school. We were sent home a form to fill out of we wanted our child to

participate in a dental screening at school. I did not want her to participate

but we

had to return the form either way (check yes or no). They kept sending the

form back to me saying it wasn't filled out. I told my dd I didn't have to

fill it out unless she was going to participate (they wanted income info, my

dd's social security #, medical info, etc.) This caused several episodes at

home

because she told me I HAVE to fill it out. I refused (that is personal

info!) and she did not understand why I would not just fill it out so she could

turn it in. I finally write her teacher a note explaining why I was not filling

it out (even tho the sheet clearly says you only fill it out if it is marked

YES) and she wrote me a note back saying it was not her but the office that

kept sending it back (ok, so why not forward my note to the office? Instead

she sent it back to me). The whole thing needlessly stressed my dd out.

Well hopefully the Monday meeting will be fruitful.

~~Lori

Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Leave the rest to

God.

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