Aiding and Abetting repetition

[Guest guest]

- I am sure this probably has been discussed in the past but since I

am new here...if this has been discussed can some of the vetern

members point me in the direction of the posts...

After reading a bunch of posts my daughters " symptoms " seem to be far

milder...

However one of the biggest things we are dealing with right now is

repetition...and repeating her actions because she thinks the inital

one is flawed somehow...a lot of times I give in and let her repeat -

especially with phrases and such we have been working with her for

the last 8 months and I do set a limit and tell her " THIS IS THE LAST

TIME " and 9 out of 10 times that works for her...

Yesterday she had a theraphy session and the therapist asked what if

I don't respond and I said will get all upset and that will

lead into a melt down which leads to more repetative words/phrases

(she has this whole set of phrases she has to repeat when she hits a

certain level - plus add in all the " perception thinking " - i.e. You

are mad at me... you are going to ground me...I am not a Baby...I am

a big Girl, etc...over and over again as she just gets more agitated)

it can take upwards for 20 minutes to calm her down from the meltdown-

so for me it is easier to do what she asks or what she perceives

needs to be done within reason - like if she asks me a question and I

say " OK " she will say no you have to say " OK " and then proceeds

to ask the question over so I can say " OK " instead of " OK "

Another example is yesterday when I picked her up from day camp she

came running towards me I laughed - well she got all upset because I

laughed and I wasn't " suppose " to...so she wanted to go back to the

starting point where she began and do it over (without me laughing) -

my husband told her NO and that we were going - to which point she

started in on a meltdown saying she HAD to do it...and crying for

me...so I told her to do it but to hurry up...

Now I agree with the therapist and my husband that " giving " into her

on many occassions isn't the answer but if it is a difference of

taking 30 seconds and letting her do it again and avoiding a

prolonged meltdown and basically an anxiety attack because she has a

complusion to do these things and feels like she has to...

Thanks

Jenni