Guest guest Posted June 6, 2009 Report Share Posted June 6, 2009 Hi all, I'm new here, and I've just started listening to 's podcasts this week. I am about 25 pounds overweight, which isn't a lot, but at this point I weigh more than I ever have (unless pregnant). And, it has motivated me to think about my relationship with food. said a couple of things that really hit home. One was about how food can be a " bright spot " - I'd never heard anyone describe exactly the way I use food before! Yes, it is my bright spot. My life has always been very solitary and largely I don't mind it, but I do think food is the friend that I turn to when I'm sad and it's the bright spot when I'm bored. I'm beginning my search for a new bright spot - exploring drawing and crafts. But I have a question. also mentioned how some women use extra weight to avoid attention from men. I believe that may be the reason that I tend to sabatoge myself once I begin to really lose weight. I'll begin to visibly lose it and start to look good, and then stop myself by overeating or stopping my workouts. It makes me wonder why I'm afraid to look really good. So, here's my question, and I'm just hoping someone else here might have experience with this. :-)...Is it possible that I fear attention from men not because anything bad has happened to me (which it hasn't) but because my mom was a survivor of childhood sexual abuse? She didn't begin recovery from that until I was an adult, so I wonder if I could have subconsciously picked up her fears? I distinctly remember her calling me an exhibitionist as a little girl and telling me to cover up when my brother and dad were in the room. I was so confused, and it stuck in my mind. If anyone has any thoughts on that, I'd really be grateful. And I'm glad to have found this group.:-) Take care, Jo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2009 Report Share Posted June 6, 2009 Hi Jo, Welcome. I've fallen off the wagon a bit in that I haven't listened to the podcasts in about 2 weeks but I've been ill. Food was (and probably still is a bit) of a bright spot for me and I don't know exactly what to do about that. I too think I have the fear of being attractive again, but I am obese right now. Have you listened to the episodes on self limiting beliefs? They may help Bonnie Thoughts become things. Choose the good ones. On Jun 6, 2009, at 8:50 AM, jlb_671 wrote: > Hi all, > > I'm new here, and I've just started listening to 's podcasts > this week. I am about 25 pounds overweight, which isn't a lot, but > at this point I weigh more than I ever have (unless pregnant). And, > it has motivated me to think about my relationship with food. > said a couple of things that really hit home. One was about how > food can be a " bright spot " - I'd never heard anyone describe > exactly the way I use food before! Yes, it is my bright spot. My > life has always been very solitary and largely I don't mind it, but > I do think food is the friend that I turn to when I'm sad and it's > the bright spot when I'm bored. I'm beginning my search for a new > bright spot - exploring drawing and crafts. > > But I have a question. also mentioned how some women use extra > weight to avoid attention from men. I believe that may be the reason > that I tend to sabatoge myself once I begin to really lose weight. > I'll begin to visibly lose it and start to look good, and then stop > myself by overeating or stopping my workouts. It makes me wonder > why I'm afraid to look really good. > > So, here's my question, and I'm just hoping someone else here might > have experience with this. :-)...Is it possible that I fear > attention from men not because anything bad has happened to me > (which it hasn't) but because my mom was a survivor of childhood > sexual abuse? She didn't begin recovery from that until I was an > adult, so I wonder if I could have subconsciously picked up her > fears? I distinctly remember her calling me an exhibitionist as a > little girl and telling me to cover up when my brother and dad were > in the room. I was so confused, and it stuck in my mind. > > If anyone has any thoughts on that, I'd really be grateful. And I'm > glad to have found this group.:-) > > Take care, > Jo > > > > > > ------------------------------------ > > Copyright 2005-2007. A. s. All worldwide rights > reserved. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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