Re: New Hidden Issues

[Guest guest]

So sorry about losing your Mum. I hope you are doing okay.. Congratulations on

your breakthrough! Please report back and let us know if you have been able to

work through your issues about your Dad.

Judy

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> Hi

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> I thought I would post as I have been struggling over the last few months and

I think I may have had a break through today.

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> I had been naturally slender for 9 months - it was easy, weight came off

gradually, i dealt with issues and triggers and felt fantastic.

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> Then this autumn my mum died and as you can imagine there was some comfort

eating. But what I was most disappointed with was that I seemed to have gone

backwards so far and weight was gradually going back on. What had happened to

all my life changing work. Now people said to me, don't worry you have had a

lot to deal with, but if you are truely naturally slender then that should

persist. I didn't want to be slim, I wanted to have this food issue dealt this.

But I just couldn't work out what do work on.

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> Then this morning I had a breakthrough (I hope). As says, change is

constant and I had changed last year and all that work was still valid, but

there was more work to do. A consequence of my mum dying is that I have become

responsible for my dad and the truth is, i hate holding that responsibility. I

really resent its intrusion into my life that I was happy with. It has also

forced me to have to face up to how poor our relationship is and acknowledge

quite how self centred I am about having what I want.

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> I decided what I want instead is I want to feel positive about caring for him

- I want to feel good about the time I spend making things better for him. I

want to be less self-centred. So, I listened again to the podcasts on

forgiveness - forgiving him for being an emotionally absent father and

acknowledging he did the best he could. Forgiving myself for resenting this and

for feeling vulnerable after losing mum. Already today I have felt able to

resist sweet treats and to look at goodies and think " why would I want that "

just like I had been for most of this year.

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> So in conclusion, I just wanted to say that even when things look like they

are going backwards, they aren't. You are always moving forward from where you

are, even if the scenery looks familar.

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> Here's hoping this work will come good.

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> Viv

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