Guest guest Posted March 10, 2011 Report Share Posted March 10, 2011 Well, I had a really stressful day today-I knew that this would be a trigger for me. So when I came home I tried to set everything up so that I wouldn't binge. I relaxed for 20 minutes, I did something I really enjoy, I thought about if I was hungry-then I ate dinner. It was healthy and I probably had a larger serving than I needed-but then after dinner-I had a small binge. I feel a little sick and uncomfortable and this should be a reminder to myself-that it doesn't feel good! Oh but it is hard when there are things that I have used to cope for so long-the other stuff, just doesn't feel right yet. I want to see this as just a little bump or a hiccup but it is so challenging when you feel in control and progressing and then, bam-your out of control again. Maybe the lesson is for me to let all of it go. It helps to be able to post here and I am grateful for that. Thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2011 Report Share Posted March 10, 2011 It sounds like you're doing so many things right! You didn't come home and immediately start eating, you thought about whether or not you were hungry AND you made a healthy dinner. That's all so awesome! Instead of concentrating on the fact that you did binge some, think about the fact that you stopped yourself from giving in to a much worse binge. I totally understand what you mean about how difficult it is when you're trying to change your coping mechanism. My biggest struggle is trying to find something besides eating that comforts me in the same way. Maybe it will help you to listen to 's podcast on self correcting? I know it makes me feel better when I remember that if I go overboard once, it doesn't mean I have to continue down that path. > > Well, I had a really stressful day today-I knew that this would be a trigger for me. So when I came home I tried to set everything up so that I wouldn't binge. I relaxed for 20 minutes, I did something I really enjoy, I thought about if I was hungry-then I ate dinner. It was healthy and I probably had a larger serving than I needed-but then after dinner-I had a small binge. I feel a little sick and uncomfortable and this should be a reminder to myself-that it doesn't feel good! Oh but it is hard when there are things that I have used to cope for so long-the other stuff, just doesn't feel right yet. > I want to see this as just a little bump or a hiccup but it is so challenging when you feel in control and progressing and then, bam-your out of control again. Maybe the lesson is for me to let all of it go. It helps to be able to post here and I am grateful for that. > Thank you. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2011 Report Share Posted March 11, 2011 Thank you so much for your comments they was so helpful. I had another little binge today and I wanted to just lie and hate myself and ask myself questions after question but basically, " when are you going to get it right? " I am working on letting go of those feelings of self hatred and self criticism and your comments really help to put it in perspective and maybe next time a binge happens. I can accept it and not beat myself up-OH! That would be lovely! Much love > > Yup--for me, letting it go is the key. > > Because of all the years that food was my only tool for dealing with life's ups > and downs, it's still often the first thing I think of. > > > When I started letting go of the guilt after a binge, it became easier for me to > self correct, instead of letting one day turn into one week. Or worse. > > > When I started letting go of the guilt *during* a binge, it became easier for me > to stop the binge. It's an interesting process--noticing that I am eating *to > hurt myself*--and then saying, hey, this must mean I'm hurting about something, > even if I'm not sure what it is yet--and then saying well, instead of eating the > whole [whatever], what if I have just this much, enjoy it, then go do something > else? > > > At this point, I can often skip from noticing I'm eating to realizing the > problem. At which point, the desire to eat often (but not always) evaporates. > > When I started letting go of the feeling that " shouldn't I have figured it out > by now? Shouldn't it be automatic already? " I started opening up to other > possibilities....Like maybe I can continue to learn all sorts of Life Lessons > from the weight loss journey, even if I'm not focused on the weight? Really, I > think part of my regain before I found IOWL was the feeling that OK, I lost the > weight, I maintained the loss (I think it was at least 2 years), so, now I can > stop, right? > > > But I've found that maintaining the right mindset, maintaining the right level > of self care, requires, well, maintenance. Just like you wouldn't stop taking > care of your car after your first scheduled oil change, right? So I can't stop > taking care of *me* just because the scale showed the right number one day. > > > I guess it's letting go of the destination mindset. That one day I'll have it > all figured out, the road will be smooth, with no bumps or blips. No, I'm no > longer expecting that. (Though if it happens, great!) What I do expect, however, > is that the more I let go of, the better I'll be able to travel along that road. > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > From: paperplanesabove <paperplanesabove@...> > weightloss > Sent: Thu, March 10, 2011 4:51:51 PM > Subject: Ugh > > > Well, I had a really stressful day today-I knew that this would be a trigger for > me. So when I came home I tried to set everything up so that I wouldn't binge. I > relaxed for 20 minutes, I did something I really enjoy, I thought about if I was > hungry-then I ate dinner. It was healthy and I probably had a larger serving > than I needed-but then after dinner-I had a small binge. I feel a little sick > and uncomfortable and this should be a reminder to myself-that it doesn't feel > good! Oh but it is hard when there are things that I have used to cope for so > long-the other stuff, just doesn't feel right yet. > > I want to see this as just a little bump or a hiccup but it is so challenging > when you feel in control and progressing and then, bam-your out of control > again. Maybe the lesson is for me to let all of it go. It helps to be able to > post here and I am grateful for that. > > Thank you. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2011 Report Share Posted March 11, 2011 thanks, . I'm trying to meet up with you on that road... I see you up there, just a little ways ahead of me Avie On Fri, Mar 11, 2011 at 11:07 AM, paperplanesabove < paperplanesabove@...> wrote: > > > Thank you so much for your comments they was so helpful. I had another > little binge today and I wanted to just lie and hate myself and ask myself > questions after question but basically, " when are you going to get it > right? " I am working on letting go of those feelings of self hatred and self > criticism and your comments really help to put it in perspective and maybe > next time a binge happens. I can accept it and not beat myself up-OH! That > would be lovely! > Much love > > > > > > > Yup--for me, letting it go is the key. > > > > Because of all the years that food was my only tool for dealing with > life's ups > > and downs, it's still often the first thing I think of. > > > > > > When I started letting go of the guilt after a binge, it became easier > for me to > > self correct, instead of letting one day turn into one week. Or worse. > > > > > > When I started letting go of the guilt *during* a binge, it became easier > for me > > to stop the binge. It's an interesting process--noticing that I am eating > *to > > hurt myself*--and then saying, hey, this must mean I'm hurting about > something, > > even if I'm not sure what it is yet--and then saying well, instead of > eating the > > whole [whatever], what if I have just this much, enjoy it, then go do > something > > else? > > > > > > At this point, I can often skip from noticing I'm eating to realizing the > > > problem. At which point, the desire to eat often (but not always) > evaporates. > > > > When I started letting go of the feeling that " shouldn't I have figured > it out > > by now? Shouldn't it be automatic already? " I started opening up to other > > > possibilities....Like maybe I can continue to learn all sorts of Life > Lessons > > from the weight loss journey, even if I'm not focused on the weight? > Really, I > > think part of my regain before I found IOWL was the feeling that OK, I > lost the > > weight, I maintained the loss (I think it was at least 2 years), so, now > I can > > stop, right? > > > > > > But I've found that maintaining the right mindset, maintaining the right > level > > of self care, requires, well, maintenance. Just like you wouldn't stop > taking > > care of your car after your first scheduled oil change, right? So I can't > stop > > taking care of *me* just because the scale showed the right number one > day. > > > > > > I guess it's letting go of the destination mindset. That one day I'll > have it > > all figured out, the road will be smooth, with no bumps or blips. No, I'm > no > > longer expecting that. (Though if it happens, great!) What I do expect, > however, > > is that the more I let go of, the better I'll be able to travel along > that road. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > From: paperplanesabove <paperplanesabove@...> > > > weightloss > > Sent: Thu, March 10, 2011 4:51:51 PM > > Subject: Ugh > > > > > > Well, I had a really stressful day today-I knew that this would be a > trigger for > > me. So when I came home I tried to set everything up so that I wouldn't > binge. I > > relaxed for 20 minutes, I did something I really enjoy, I thought about > if I was > > hungry-then I ate dinner. It was healthy and I probably had a larger > serving > > than I needed-but then after dinner-I had a small binge. I feel a little > sick > > and uncomfortable and this should be a reminder to myself-that it doesn't > feel > > good! Oh but it is hard when there are things that I have used to cope > for so > > long-the other stuff, just doesn't feel right yet. > > > > I want to see this as just a little bump or a hiccup but it is so > challenging > > when you feel in control and progressing and then, bam-your out of > control > > again. Maybe the lesson is for me to let all of it go. It helps to be > able to > > post here and I am grateful for that. > > > > Thank you. > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2011 Report Share Posted March 12, 2011 And who knows? You may be able to find a shortcut! ________________________________ From: onewhorled <onewhorled@...> weightloss Sent: Sat, March 12, 2011 1:55:21 AM Subject: Re: Re: Ugh thanks, . I'm trying to meet up with you on that road... I see you up there, just a little ways ahead of me Avie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2011 Report Share Posted March 12, 2011 not today it seems i am eating all my many feelings!!! stuffing them right down ... boo hoo. woe is me, as i like to say. thanks, Avie On Sat, Mar 12, 2011 at 1:09 PM, <lsageev@...> wrote: > > > And who knows? You may be able to find a shortcut! > > ________________________________ > From: onewhorled <onewhorled@...> > weightloss > Sent: Sat, March 12, 2011 1:55:21 AM > Subject: Re: Re: Ugh > > > thanks, . I'm trying to meet up with you on that road... I see you up > there, just a little ways ahead of me > > Avie > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2011 Report Share Posted March 12, 2011 Sorry, Avie:( If love is our only feeling, will we eat it, too? Just curious anyone know a Self Love Store? I need a triple deluxe box. - Re: Re: Ugh > > > thanks, . I'm trying to meet up with you on that road... I see you up > there, just a little ways ahead of me > > Avie > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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