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[Guest guest]

I really used to think he was funny.

Tonight there seemed to be so much woman-hate seeping through his comedy that I

started to feel a little ill. He used the word " disgusting " in reference to

women in general twice in one minute. I heard plenty of mean voices like that in

school, later from guys I worked with (talking about " fat girls " in general) and

from my ex. I usually don't watch much TV anyway. Tonight I remembered one

reason why.

It's great to think in a positive way and to keep moving in a self-loving

direction without giving much attention to fat hate and/or hatred toward

overweight women, but that hatred really is out there. It still has a loud

voice, a voice that often goes unchallenged.

It's what psychologists call " Adolescent Rejection " which is a term describing a

rejection of an entire person based on a shallow assessment or on something the

person has no control over, like a visible injury. It's the kind of vicious

judgement and rudeness commonly associated with adolescents-although some people

never grow up past a certain point unless they are forced into compassion by an

event in their own lives.

I would like to extend extra love to the people on this list, simply for the

fact that they may have had to deal with these kinds of rejection, insults and

hate...IN ADDITION to having to deal with the internal forces that create

overeating. We are all re-learning a relationship with food, some of us with

the extra stress of external prejudice and verbal injuries.

Big Extra Blessings to all who've had to deal with this. May it slip your mind

completely in a few seconds, to be replaced by something awesome...like your dog

doing something funny or a friend calling with a great story or finding a

20-dollar bill in your spring jacket.

Love, Robbie