Re: Improvements that I'm/You are experiencing

[Guest guest]

I agree, my bad days aren't nearly as bad as before.

I can tell the difference when I don't work out and I much prefer to work

out during a day than not... just need to manage my sleep so I can get to

the gym more often

On Mon, Jun 21, 2010 at 3:23 PM, C <rew.craig@...> wrote:

>

>

> I was just getting geared up for the gym and I was thinking that I've had a

> few down days. Basically I drank too much wine last Thursday which ruined me

> for Friday. The meaning of this post is something that I've discussed with

> - what is like compared to what it used to be like. So before I would

> feel terrible and get really down spiralling myself downward further, then

> beat myself up for days about it. Friday wasn't great, but nothing compared

> to what it used to be and it ended Friday evening. I self corrected by

> eating right and not critizing myself (too much) and I was back on track on

> Saturday.

>

> My bad days don't last as long and don't come as often - I self correct

> quicker, and I don't seem to have the lasting negative effects of

> be-littling my own self worth. So this is Praise - I could have written more

> positive.

>

> ***I am thankful for more good positive days and for taking care of myself

> as soon as I can. I would love to hear the good things that you all are

> experiencing.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

just feel the need to share two binges in the last twelve hours... nothing

like a binge in Italy! i make myself so upset and miserable... counting

every little calorie only to blow it all out the window with a binge. i am

not sleeping well and know that is part of the problem. i hate this and

want to change!

i appreciate all of you and am glad that I have found IOWL. still holding

on to behaviors that just end up making me feel absolutely gross, hopeless,

etc.

i feel like i cant even help myself. i know this feeling will pass. grateful

for the changes in DIF and for self-correcting ...

ALL

On 6/22/10, SlinkingFerret <SlinkingFerret@...> wrote:

>

>

>

> I agree, my bad days aren't nearly as bad as before.

>

> I can tell the difference when I don't work out and I much prefer to work

> out during a day than not... just need to manage my sleep so I can get to

> the gym more often

>

> On Mon, Jun 21, 2010 at 3:23 PM, C

<rew.craig@...<rew.craig%40gmail.com>>

> wrote:

>

> >

> >

> > I was just getting geared up for the gym and I was thinking that I've had

> a

> > few down days. Basically I drank too much wine last Thursday which ruined

> me

> > for Friday. The meaning of this post is something that I've discussed

> with

> > - what is like compared to what it used to be like. So before I

> would

> > feel terrible and get really down spiralling myself downward further,

> then

> > beat myself up for days about it. Friday wasn't great, but nothing

> compared

> > to what it used to be and it ended Friday evening. I self corrected by

> > eating right and not critizing myself (too much) and I was back on track

> on

> > Saturday.

> >

> > My bad days don't last as long and don't come as often - I self correct

> > quicker, and I don't seem to have the lasting negative effects of

> > be-littling my own self worth. So this is Praise - I could have written

> more

> > positive.

> >

> > ***I am thankful for more good positive days and for taking care of

> myself

> > as soon as I can. I would love to hear the good things that you all are

> > experiencing.

> >

> >

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

I think the self correcting and dif is great, but the first thing is to

forgive yourself. Remember there was a reason for the binge and your mind

was trying to make things better.

You may not know the reason for the binge. Just forgive yourself and

appreciate the great person you are.

Patti

On Jun 24, 2010 1:09 AM, " onewhorled " <onewhorled@...> wrote:

just feel the need to share two binges in the last twelve hours... nothing

like a binge in Italy! i make myself so upset and miserable... counting

every little calorie only to blow it all out the window with a binge. i am

not sleeping well and know that is part of the problem. i hate this and

want to change!

i appreciate all of you and am glad that I have found IOWL. still holding

on to behaviors that just end up making me feel absolutely gross, hopeless,

etc.

i feel like i cant even help myself. i know this feeling will pass. grateful

for the changes in DIF and for self-correcting ...

ALL

On 6/22/10, SlinkingFerret <SlinkingFerret@...> wrote:

>

>

>

> I agree, my bad days aren't n...

> On Mon, Jun 21, 2010 at 3:23 PM, C <rew.craig@...<rew.craig%

40gmail.com>>

> wrote:

>

> >

> >

> > I was just getting geared up for the gym and I was thinking that I've

had

> a...

--

Avie Linden

University of Michigan - Anthropology

Program in the Environment, History of Art

248.535.0521

[Guest guest]

Hi Avie,

I went waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyy out of balance two days ago.

Funny, but that's the way I think of it. Out of balance. Though in reality, it

was a binge in the sense that I wanted to cause myself physical pain to stop

myself from thinking of things that would cause me pain if I thought them. I

find it interesting that my mind is moving away from the word binge.... That in

itself is an improvement, I think, since it feels less negative and judgemental

to me....

Why was I out of balance? Partly because I was treating the wrong triggers.

I think I was concentrating so hard on avoiding a head-on collision that I was

taken completely by surprise when I got sideswiped by something coming from a

different direction, ya know?

The head-on collision was easy to identify. We have relatives staying with us

for a total of ~3 weeks. They're here because we had a memorial service for my

MIL, who did last fall. So... long term house guests plus deep sadness. Mine...

and everyone else's. I did what I could to prepare for this--including cutting

myself some slack with exercise (treadmill's in the guest room) and food (not

our normal routine...). I made sure that at the reception the memorial, there

was plenty of nourishing food in addition to some options I knew other people

were bringing. I thought I was doing a pretty good job of being aware....

The sideswipe? getting overwhelmed with one of my volunteer activities, that's

causing me to be busy when I don't have the emotional energy for it. Getting

annoyed at the fact that it's one of these things where no matter what you

do--someone complains. After reading a bunch of emails, in between trips to the

kitchen, someone called about this committee. In the middle of venting, I

realized that THIS was what was driving me to eat. I didn't want to deal with

the fact that I wanted to quit. I went to curl up in a ball in my room for a

while and just BE with the feeling. Which was all well and good... but I was

kind of wallowing in the feeling, too. To the point where I couldn't get up and

make a phone call to see if I had a way to get to choir practice (my most

important renewing activity...). Fortunately, someone called ME to tell me we

had a ride. :-)

Somehow, just identifying the real reason I was thrown for a loop was enough to

start bringing me into balance. Because suddenly I knew that I should change the

tools I was using.

The next morning I felt much more balanced. My body was craving a small amount

of my normal breakfast. I wasn't very hungry mid-morning, and didn't even need

my afternoon snack, which I thought was essential....

I was really amazed at how easy it was to self-correct... once I knew what I was

correcting for.

Now I just need to find a way to remember this next time life throws me a

curve!!!

________________________________

From: onewhorled <onewhorled@...>

weightloss

Sent: Thu, June 24, 2010 11:08:54 AM

Subject: Re: Improvements that I'm/You are experiencing

just feel the need to share two binges in the last twelve hours... nothing

like a binge in Italy! i make myself so upset and miserable... counting

every little calorie only to blow it all out the window with a binge. i am

not sleeping well and know that is part of the problem.  i hate this and

want to change!

i appreciate all of you and am glad that I have found IOWL.  still holding

on to behaviors that just end up making me feel absolutely gross, hopeless,

etc.

i feel like i cant even help myself. i know this feeling will pass. grateful

for the changes in DIF and for self-correcting ...

ALL

On 6/22/10, SlinkingFerret <SlinkingFerret@...> wrote:

>

>

>

> I agree, my bad days aren't nearly as bad as before.

>

> I can tell the difference when I don't work out and I much prefer to work

> out during a day than not... just need to manage my sleep so I can get to

> the gym more often

>

> On Mon, Jun 21, 2010 at 3:23 PM, C

<rew.craig@...<rew.craig%40gmail.com>>

> wrote:

>

> >

> >

> > I was just getting geared up for the gym and I was thinking that I've had

> a

> > few down days. Basically I drank too much wine last Thursday which ruined

> me

> > for Friday. The meaning of this post is something that I've discussed

> with

> > - what is like compared to what it used to be like. So before I

> would

> > feel terrible and get really down spiralling myself downward further,

> then

> > beat myself up for days about it. Friday wasn't great, but nothing

> compared

> > to what it used to be and it ended Friday evening. I self corrected by

> > eating right and not critizing myself (too much) and I was back on track

> on

> > Saturday.

> >

> > My bad days don't last as long and don't come as often - I self correct

> > quicker, and I don't seem to have the lasting negative effects of

> > be-littling my own self worth. So this is Praise - I could have written

> more

> > positive.

> >

> > ***I am thankful for more good positive days and for taking care of

> myself

> > as soon as I can. I would love to hear the good things that you all are

> > experiencing.

> >

> >

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Avie,

I went waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyy out of balance two days ago.

Funny, but that's the way I think of it. Out of balance. Though in reality, it

was a binge in the sense that I wanted to cause myself physical pain to stop

myself from thinking of things that would cause me pain if I thought them. I

find it interesting that my mind is moving away from the word binge.... That in

itself is an improvement, I think, since it feels less negative and judgemental

to me....

Why was I out of balance? Partly because I was treating the wrong triggers.

I think I was concentrating so hard on avoiding a head-on collision that I was

taken completely by surprise when I got sideswiped by something coming from a

different direction, ya know?

The head-on collision was easy to identify. We have relatives staying with us

for a total of ~3 weeks. They're here because we had a memorial service for my

MIL, who did last fall. So... long term house guests plus deep sadness. Mine...

and everyone else's. I did what I could to prepare for this--including cutting

myself some slack with exercise (treadmill's in the guest room) and food (not

our normal routine...). I made sure that at the reception the memorial, there

was plenty of nourishing food in addition to some options I knew other people

were bringing. I thought I was doing a pretty good job of being aware....

The sideswipe? getting overwhelmed with one of my volunteer activities, that's

causing me to be busy when I don't have the emotional energy for it. Getting

annoyed at the fact that it's one of these things where no matter what you

do--someone complains. After reading a bunch of emails, in between trips to the

kitchen, someone called about this committee. In the middle of venting, I

realized that THIS was what was driving me to eat. I didn't want to deal with

the fact that I wanted to quit. I went to curl up in a ball in my room for a

while and just BE with the feeling. Which was all well and good... but I was

kind of wallowing in the feeling, too. To the point where I couldn't get up and

make a phone call to see if I had a way to get to choir practice (my most

important renewing activity...). Fortunately, someone called ME to tell me we

had a ride. :-)

Somehow, just identifying the real reason I was thrown for a loop was enough to

start bringing me into balance. Because suddenly I knew that I should change the

tools I was using.

The next morning I felt much more balanced. My body was craving a small amount

of my normal breakfast. I wasn't very hungry mid-morning, and didn't even need

my afternoon snack, which I thought was essential....

I was really amazed at how easy it was to self-correct... once I knew what I was

correcting for.

Now I just need to find a way to remember this next time life throws me a

curve!!!

________________________________

From: onewhorled <onewhorled@...>

weightloss

Sent: Thu, June 24, 2010 11:08:54 AM

Subject: Re: Improvements that I'm/You are experiencing

just feel the need to share two binges in the last twelve hours... nothing

like a binge in Italy! i make myself so upset and miserable... counting

every little calorie only to blow it all out the window with a binge. i am

not sleeping well and know that is part of the problem.  i hate this and

want to change!

i appreciate all of you and am glad that I have found IOWL.  still holding

on to behaviors that just end up making me feel absolutely gross, hopeless,

etc.

i feel like i cant even help myself. i know this feeling will pass. grateful

for the changes in DIF and for self-correcting ...

ALL

On 6/22/10, SlinkingFerret <SlinkingFerret@...> wrote:

>

>

>

> I agree, my bad days aren't nearly as bad as before.

>

> I can tell the difference when I don't work out and I much prefer to work

> out during a day than not... just need to manage my sleep so I can get to

> the gym more often

>

> On Mon, Jun 21, 2010 at 3:23 PM, C

<rew.craig@...<rew.craig%40gmail.com>>

> wrote:

>

> >

> >

> > I was just getting geared up for the gym and I was thinking that I've had

> a

> > few down days. Basically I drank too much wine last Thursday which ruined

> me

> > for Friday. The meaning of this post is something that I've discussed

> with

> > - what is like compared to what it used to be like. So before I

> would

> > feel terrible and get really down spiralling myself downward further,

> then

> > beat myself up for days about it. Friday wasn't great, but nothing

> compared

> > to what it used to be and it ended Friday evening. I self corrected by

> > eating right and not critizing myself (too much) and I was back on track

> on

> > Saturday.

> >

> > My bad days don't last as long and don't come as often - I self correct

> > quicker, and I don't seem to have the lasting negative effects of

> > be-littling my own self worth. So this is Praise - I could have written

> more

> > positive.

> >

> > ***I am thankful for more good positive days and for taking care of

> myself

> > as soon as I can. I would love to hear the good things that you all are

> > experiencing.

> >

> >

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

what kind of sleep problems are you having?

I used to go to bed at 2 to 3am on a regular basis and did some work w/ reneee

and find that doesn't happen too often. i use a cpap - sleep apnea and it's good

and it works, but sometimes i wake up drenched around 5am - which is upsetting

and messes me up.

>

> >

> >

> > I was just getting geared up for the gym and I was thinking that I've had a

> > few down days. Basically I drank too much wine last Thursday which ruined me

> > for Friday. The meaning of this post is something that I've discussed with

> > - what is like compared to what it used to be like. So before I would

> > feel terrible and get really down spiralling myself downward further, then

> > beat myself up for days about it. Friday wasn't great, but nothing compared

> > to what it used to be and it ended Friday evening. I self corrected by

> > eating right and not critizing myself (too much) and I was back on track on

> > Saturday.

> >

> > My bad days don't last as long and don't come as often - I self correct

> > quicker, and I don't seem to have the lasting negative effects of

> > be-littling my own self worth. So this is Praise - I could have written more

> > positive.

> >

> > ***I am thankful for more good positive days and for taking care of myself

> > as soon as I can. I would love to hear the good things that you all are

> > experiencing.

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Good post, I have noticed improvements too.

I have far fewer bad days and the downward spiral stops quickly as I like to

feel good & know it is possible for me. When I overeat it is so disappointing, I

enjoy feeling satisfied so much more than stuffed. I have heaps more energy &

sleep better too (moving helped). I have some tools to help me bounce back, like

the re-do and I use it daily.

I am enjoying the journey & hope you re too.

>

> I was just getting geared up for the gym and I was thinking that I've had a

few down days. Basically I drank too much wine last Thursday which ruined me for

Friday. The meaning of this post is something that I've discussed with -

what is like compared to what it used to be like. So before I would feel

terrible and get really down spiralling myself downward further, then beat

myself up for days about it. Friday wasn't great, but nothing compared to what

it used to be and it ended Friday evening. I self corrected by eating right and

not critizing myself (too much) and I was back on track on Saturday.

>

> My bad days don't last as long and don't come as often - I self correct

quicker, and I don't seem to have the lasting negative effects of be-littling my

own self worth. So this is Praise - I could have written more positive.

>

> ***I am thankful for more good positive days and for taking care of myself as

soon as I can. I would love to hear the good things that you all are

experiencing.

>

[Guest guest]

Good post, I have noticed improvements too.

I have far fewer bad days and the downward spiral stops quickly as I like to

feel good & know it is possible for me. When I overeat it is so disappointing, I

enjoy feeling satisfied so much more than stuffed. I have heaps more energy &

sleep better too (moving helped). I have some tools to help me bounce back, like

the re-do and I use it daily.

I am enjoying the journey & hope you re too.

>

> I was just getting geared up for the gym and I was thinking that I've had a

few down days. Basically I drank too much wine last Thursday which ruined me for

Friday. The meaning of this post is something that I've discussed with -

what is like compared to what it used to be like. So before I would feel

terrible and get really down spiralling myself downward further, then beat

myself up for days about it. Friday wasn't great, but nothing compared to what

it used to be and it ended Friday evening. I self corrected by eating right and

not critizing myself (too much) and I was back on track on Saturday.

>

> My bad days don't last as long and don't come as often - I self correct

quicker, and I don't seem to have the lasting negative effects of be-littling my

own self worth. So this is Praise - I could have written more positive.

>

> ***I am thankful for more good positive days and for taking care of myself as

soon as I can. I would love to hear the good things that you all are

experiencing.

>