Judy

[Guest guest]

Oh the recess saga! My son went through this and I just went in for recess and

played really fun games with him. Of course, the other kids wanted to play with

us. I said only his friends could play and so as long as they were his friend,

they could play with us ... but if not, they had to go elsewhere. I made the

other kids feel special, too, and I would always talk about how awesome my son

was. We played lots of imagination games and I really had a fun time. It

helped him alot and I got to see what the others were playing and how to help

him fit in better ... or branch off and lead in another game.

Can you do something similar with him?

jchabot <jchabot@...> wrote:

Hi

Thanks so much for sharing! I have always had that fear of something like this

happening to one of my kids, because it happened to me also. I remember in high

school going into the bathroom at lunchtime because I had nobody to sit with.

This has never happened to my girls, but my son is definitely getting picked on,

and the boys in the neighborhood don't want to play with him anymore either. He

really is so loud and diffficult, but Geez! He's only a little 6 yr old boy. He

just turned 6 the end of September.I keep thinking that maybe if he gets

stabilized this will all go away. I feel so bad for him. I will try some of your

suggestions.

Thanks so much for being there! It really helps to know others have gone through

this with their kids!

Hugs

Judy

<@...> wrote: (((hugs)))

It's hard when feeling left out. What kind of playground is it?

Are there things he can do for himself (climbing, sliding. monkey

bars...)? I would tell him I know it hurts to be left out, etc.,

but spend the time doing " climbing, monkey bars... " and don't worry

about the others (yeah, easier said than done).

I remember my oldest son in 5th grade. The guys would go out and

play basketball. They would choose teams. No one chose him, he

sucked at it. So I tried to turn him toward the other things he

could do. Heck, being older he could have brought cards to play

solitaire or something or a book.... I did speak to the teacher

about it. I know growing up that some days we had " free time " just

to run around and then other days we had the " organized " play where

teacher had us all playing kick ball or other (just ask that kids

don't pick teams, teacher divides up). I think his teacher didn't

organize them (they were 5th graders) and I think she also said

something to the entire class which backfired on me as she didn't

name names but of course all students (boys anyway) figured my son's

mom had said something so KNEW it had to do with him, and thus he

was mad at me.

UGH! No easy answers but I sure can empathize. I had similar when

I was young too and still couldn't get answers for my son in the

same situation. But I did just try to stay busy on my own with

things that I could do (like climbing, swinging...).

((hugs))

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