Question on HW from episode 4?

March 3, 2011

Hi Everyone,

I have just found IOWL this past weekend. And I must say I'm very intrigued by

this program and some of the insights I have found. But I have a very specific

question about the homework assigned from episode 4 I think?

In the episode, is talking about stepping into the future you- the slim,

healthy, fit you. And asks do you like it? Because if all of you liked it,

you'd be there already. And then she goes on to ask what part of you does not

want to be healthy/slim, etc.

I have always known that a primary reason for being overweight stems back to a

period of my childhood where I had experienced sexual abuse/trauma. It lasted

for years and was mostly by boys of my own age. Regardless, I knew this was a

key reason. I didn't know what role it played, but I knew it was a key reason.

This week I finally figured out it's role. I am highly uncomfortable with

attention from men. It doesn't feel safe, and most of the time it is unwanted.

So I have found that this part of me, that does not want to loose weight, is

trying to keep me safe and comfortable.

But it's 's next question that has me stumped. I have no idea how to

answer it or if I am understanding the question. She asks to to thank that part

of you that has been trying to keep you safe, and then asks you to write down

the message what part of you was trying to tell you for all these years.

What's the message I'm missing? I understand that parts role. That by being

fat I am rarely hit on by men. That the part of me who is resistant to loosing

weight has been keeping me " safe " all these years. But what was it telling me?

To be distrustful of men? To shy away from relationships? That I'm better off

being " safe " than healthy? Somehow, I'm pretty sure that these aren't the

answers. That was not the message I was supposed to be receiving. Unless I'm

misunderstanding the question? I've been wracking my head for two days trying

to figure out what I'm missing here. Any insights or personal opinions would be

appreciated. I'm missing the " Aha! " here. :-/

NAOB

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