Guest guest Posted April 7, 2004 Report Share Posted April 7, 2004 Hi everyone Well, today I am feeling a bit feisty. Felt good to write what I thought about the term lightweight. How can anyone over 200 lbs be considered a lightweight? Inquiring minds want to know, especially this one. Even if someone over 200lbs compares themselves with someone over 300 lbs, fat is fat, and there is no way getting away from that. Ok, time to crawl back into silent world here...lol Oh a few more things. Glad to see everyone is doing so great with their weight loss. I think most on this list are super, they are happy for everyone who makes their goal even if they haven't. I really don't see anyone on this list being jealous of another who reaches their goal. Ok, ok, I am done being feisty. God Bless Tonnie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2004 Report Share Posted April 7, 2004 In a message dated 4/8/2004 12:51:46 AM Central Standard Time, firecoupleinca@... writes: This is an awesome group.....other than a few hateful (and anonymous) emails and snide remarks I have had nothng but encouragement and support and for that I am grateful!!! This has been an awesome journey and having all of you s travelling companions has been a joy!!! Cindee _______________________________________________ Cindee, Not including the anonomous e-mails, whicjh I feel are a cowards way out, I don't think anyone mentions lightweights as a insult. It is just true that some people are smaller than other when the surgery is approved. I do get frustrated when I see people on ossg revision going back for revisions when they are 150 or 170 because they have gained 30 or 40 lbs. I honestly feel they are taking a risk that they don't understand(We're talking about revisions with increased risks of complications...not 1st timers) When you discuss morbid obesity, it is a very emotional and often frustrating problem when your 350+ and can't get surgery. I knew I had my medicare as a fallback position, but in other circumstances, I might still be fighting. I don't think you are dealing with mean people so much as people who are totally frustrated...Imagine the problems you've had and add 100 lbs to it and you can see they feel like they need it more(And I'm not saying they are right or wrong), But the nature of insurance and approvals are causing a lot of emotional pain. I know I'm just now starting to feel normal. I blend into crowds more and am not as self concious. Imagine how the people at 4 and even 5 and 6 hundred pounds feel when they are denied? As far as snide remarks, don't you feel because of the e-mails that you recieved, you might be a touch sensitive? Maybe reading insult in where none was meant? As far as hurt feelings go, I have seen people who didn't lose weight leave support groups or stop posting because they weren't the biggest loser or felt as if they were not fitting in because of poor losses. So the remarks about size, be it larger or smaller might go both ways. I know I have had to be careful with my sister about giving her clothes now because my too big clothes are now too small for her for the most part, and I don't want it to sound like I'm saying " ha-ha- I'm a size 20 and your not " . Know what I mean? in Bama VBG 1982 (lost from 433lbs to 270's) VBG -RNY1996 revision(Lost from 343 to 299) RNY-DS revision Dec 2002 -down 135 lbs (377.7 to 242.2 and still going) Homepage address- http://hometown.aol.com/mdl1031/myhomepage/profile.html Many thanks to Dr. K willing to take on a 3rd timer....LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 7, 2004 Report Share Posted April 7, 2004 In a message dated 4/8/2004 12:51:46 AM Central Standard Time, firecoupleinca@... writes: This is an awesome group.....other than a few hateful (and anonymous) emails and snide remarks I have had nothng but encouragement and support and for that I am grateful!!! This has been an awesome journey and having all of you s travelling companions has been a joy!!! Cindee _______________________________________________ Cindee, Not including the anonomous e-mails, whicjh I feel are a cowards way out, I don't think anyone mentions lightweights as a insult. It is just true that some people are smaller than other when the surgery is approved. I do get frustrated when I see people on ossg revision going back for revisions when they are 150 or 170 because they have gained 30 or 40 lbs. I honestly feel they are taking a risk that they don't understand(We're talking about revisions with increased risks of complications...not 1st timers) When you discuss morbid obesity, it is a very emotional and often frustrating problem when your 350+ and can't get surgery. I knew I had my medicare as a fallback position, but in other circumstances, I might still be fighting. I don't think you are dealing with mean people so much as people who are totally frustrated...Imagine the problems you've had and add 100 lbs to it and you can see they feel like they need it more(And I'm not saying they are right or wrong), But the nature of insurance and approvals are causing a lot of emotional pain. I know I'm just now starting to feel normal. I blend into crowds more and am not as self concious. Imagine how the people at 4 and even 5 and 6 hundred pounds feel when they are denied? As far as snide remarks, don't you feel because of the e-mails that you recieved, you might be a touch sensitive? Maybe reading insult in where none was meant? As far as hurt feelings go, I have seen people who didn't lose weight leave support groups or stop posting because they weren't the biggest loser or felt as if they were not fitting in because of poor losses. So the remarks about size, be it larger or smaller might go both ways. I know I have had to be careful with my sister about giving her clothes now because my too big clothes are now too small for her for the most part, and I don't want it to sound like I'm saying " ha-ha- I'm a size 20 and your not " . Know what I mean? in Bama VBG 1982 (lost from 433lbs to 270's) VBG -RNY1996 revision(Lost from 343 to 299) RNY-DS revision Dec 2002 -down 135 lbs (377.7 to 242.2 and still going) Homepage address- http://hometown.aol.com/mdl1031/myhomepage/profile.html Many thanks to Dr. K willing to take on a 3rd timer....LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2004 Report Share Posted April 8, 2004 Mels Yes, it can be difficult for some to continually hear about another's good weight loss. I know it hurts some people and they feel frustrated. It's not jealousy, just frustration. I get irritated by it all. I have been through so much with this surgery, and it's not good. My Doc now has me on meds that cause weight gain. There are times that I feel I put my self through all of this pain for nothing. I can't take it back, I made a decision to have the DS and now I have to live with the consequences. This is not an easy surgery. I am worse off now then before I had the surgery. I still am being positive that one day, hopefully soon, that I will be better than ever. I have gotten better, but still have a road ahead of me. I also would never tell anyone to have this surgery. Every one has to make that decision for themselves. Of course, if one of my family members wanted this surgery I would try and talk them out of it. However, if they decided to go ahead with it I would support them and pray as hard as I could that the surgery goes smoothly. This surgery has definitelyy changed my life. Even though I am being somewhat feisty today, I try to see the good in everything and I thank God that I am still alive considering everything I have been through. Wow, all of this has made me hungry. God Bless Tonnie > Cindee, > Not including the anonomous e-mails, whicjh I feel are a cowards way out, > I don't think anyone mentions lightweights as a insult. It is just true that > some people are smaller than other when the surgery is approved. I do get > frustrated when I see people on ossg revision going back for revisions when they > are 150 or 170 because they have gained 30 or 40 lbs. I honestly feel they are > taking a risk that they don't understand(We're talking about revisions with > increased risks of complications...not 1st timers) > When you discuss morbid obesity, it is a very emotional and often > frustrating problem when your 350+ and can't get surgery. I knew I had my medicare as > a fallback position, but in other circumstances, I might still be fighting. I > don't think you are dealing with mean people so much as people who are > totally frustrated...Imagine the problems you've had and add 100 lbs to it and you > can see they feel like they need it more(And I'm not saying they are right or > wrong), But the nature of insurance and approvals are causing a lot of > emotional pain. > I know I'm just now starting to feel normal. I blend into crowds more and > am not as self concious. Imagine how the people at 4 and even 5 and 6 hundred > pounds feel when they are denied? > As far as snide remarks, don't you feel because of the e-mails that you > recieved, you might be a touch sensitive? Maybe reading insult in where none > was meant? As far as hurt feelings go, I have seen people who didn't lose weight > leave support groups or stop posting because they weren't the biggest loser > or felt as if they were not fitting in because of poor losses. So the remarks > about size, be it larger or smaller might go both ways. I know I have had to be > careful with my sister about giving her clothes now because my too big > clothes are now too small for her for the most part, and I don't want it to sound > like I'm saying " ha-ha- I'm a size 20 and your not " . Know what I mean? > in Bama > VBG 1982 (lost from 433lbs to 270's) > VBG -RNY1996 revision(Lost from 343 to 299) > RNY-DS revision Dec 2002 -down 135 lbs (377.7 to 242.2 and still going) > Homepage address- http://hometown.aol.com/mdl1031/myhomepage/profile.html > Many thanks to Dr. K willing to take on a 3rd timer....LOL > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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