Re: Connecting to your highest self

[Guest guest]

I have to go back and find those self acceptance episodes...everything is all

messed up since having to go back and download all the old episodes. Then, I

screwed something up in iTunes and LOST the ones I already had I love the

path of thinking you are on. Thanks for sharing your insight!

Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

Connecting to your highest self

Hey gang,

I felt the need to share some recent progress I've made.

I've been battling with my weight for a very long time (seems like close to 10

years) and I have to say that IOWL has brought me closer than ever to

discovering the real root of my struggle.

is absolutely correct when she says something along the lines of

overeating isn't a problem it's a solution. I realized that overeating was what

I did at the end of the day when I felt this built-up inner tension that

resulted from my angst of not living to my full potential. I've been

procrastinating working on my master's thesis because the act of procrastination

protects me from a true test of my abilities. My highest self knows that I am

capable, smart, and worthy of all of the good things I've earned in life, but

unfortunately that's where the inner conflict comes in. I have not been able to

identify with my highest self because many years in my childhood I was told that

I was worthless, hopeless, and stupid.

Now, I'm trying as hard as I can to connect with my highest self. I did the

podcasts on self acceptance, and envisioned myself when I was a child, innocent

and pure and my ego vibrant in connection with my soul. How can I get back to

that connection, release this inner conflict, and stop the binge eating that is

burying it even deeper?

Best to you all,

Jenna

[Guest guest]

I have to go back and find those self acceptance episodes...everything is all

messed up since having to go back and download all the old episodes. Then, I

screwed something up in iTunes and LOST the ones I already had I love the

path of thinking you are on. Thanks for sharing your insight!

Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

Connecting to your highest self

Hey gang,

I felt the need to share some recent progress I've made.

I've been battling with my weight for a very long time (seems like close to 10

years) and I have to say that IOWL has brought me closer than ever to

discovering the real root of my struggle.

is absolutely correct when she says something along the lines of

overeating isn't a problem it's a solution. I realized that overeating was what

I did at the end of the day when I felt this built-up inner tension that

resulted from my angst of not living to my full potential. I've been

procrastinating working on my master's thesis because the act of procrastination

protects me from a true test of my abilities. My highest self knows that I am

capable, smart, and worthy of all of the good things I've earned in life, but

unfortunately that's where the inner conflict comes in. I have not been able to

identify with my highest self because many years in my childhood I was told that

I was worthless, hopeless, and stupid.

Now, I'm trying as hard as I can to connect with my highest self. I did the

podcasts on self acceptance, and envisioned myself when I was a child, innocent

and pure and my ego vibrant in connection with my soul. How can I get back to

that connection, release this inner conflict, and stop the binge eating that is

burying it even deeper?

Best to you all,

Jenna

[Guest guest]

hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. I am in need of

something more! a third line of defense, perhaps?! any suggestions?

upset with myself as it has again been difficult to maintain through

Passover Seders, although I am in a very different environment. sounds like

an excuse to me.

still keeping a hunger diary though I don't think it is helping me anymore.

I am still so desperate for a lasting change! HELP! please! I wish I could

see your faces.

it is still all about weight, shape and appearance for me... when i need a

major shift in my thinking. just down and out after a binge today. when I

don't binge, i am much more positive.

just wanting to be honest with y'all. thanks for reading.

ALL

On Wed, Mar 31, 2010 at 3:44 AM, <tania_khalil@...> wrote:

> I have to go back and find those self acceptance episodes...everything is

> all messed up since having to go back and download all the old episodes.

> Then, I screwed something up in iTunes and LOST the ones I already had

> I love the path of thinking you are on. Thanks for sharing your insight!

> Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

>

> Connecting to your highest self

>

> Hey gang,

>

> I felt the need to share some recent progress I've made.

> I've been battling with my weight for a very long time (seems like close to

> 10 years) and I have to say that IOWL has brought me closer than ever to

> discovering the real root of my struggle.

>

> is absolutely correct when she says something along the lines of

> overeating isn't a problem it's a solution. I realized that overeating was

> what I did at the end of the day when I felt this built-up inner tension

> that resulted from my angst of not living to my full potential. I've been

> procrastinating working on my master's thesis because the act of

> procrastination protects me from a true test of my abilities. My highest

> self knows that I am capable, smart, and worthy of all of the good things

> I've earned in life, but unfortunately that's where the inner conflict comes

> in. I have not been able to identify with my highest self because many years

> in my childhood I was told that I was worthless, hopeless, and stupid.

>

> Now, I'm trying as hard as I can to connect with my highest self. I did the

> podcasts on self acceptance, and envisioned myself when I was a child,

> innocent and pure and my ego vibrant in connection with my soul. How can I

> get back to that connection, release this inner conflict, and stop the binge

> eating that is burying it even deeper?

>

> Best to you all,

> Jenna

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I sent a separate response to Avie relating to holiday issues, but I wanted to

comment on two things she said here:

" hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. "

To me, this is an example of " the weight struggle is a solution to a problem. "

When I can get upset at myself about overeating, I don't have to get upset, or

emotionally entangled at all, with the real problem....

" . just down and out after a binge today. when I

don't binge, i am much more positive. "

In my experience, it's the other way around. When I'm feeling positive, I don't

binge.

Knowing that doesn't always help when I'm in the midst of a binge, but it helps

me afterwards to know that I need to figure out what's lurking below the

surface....

Maybe it would help to go back to podcast 4, and see if you can find the gift?

(Or, the current gift? I seem to have a gift-shop's worth.... LOL!)

Hang in there!

________________________________

From: onewhorled <onewhorled@...>

weightloss

Sent: Thu, April 1, 2010 11:43:09 AM

Subject: Re: Connecting to your highest self

hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. I am in need of

something more! a third line of defense, perhaps?! any suggestions?

upset with myself as it has again been difficult to maintain through

Passover Seders, although I am in a very different environment. sounds like

an excuse to me.

still keeping a hunger diary though I don't think it is helping me anymore.

I am still so desperate for a lasting change! HELP! please! I wish I could

see your faces.

it is still all about weight, shape and appearance for me... when i need a

major shift in my thinking. just down and out after a binge today. when I

don't binge, i am much more positive.

just wanting to be honest with y'all. thanks for reading.

ALL

.._,___

[Guest guest]

Avie, hi! I think we are all more positive when we are on top of things-in

control of our eating and thus of our lives. :-) 

 

I think in the end, if we really want to come out on top of our weight loss

struggle all the parts of us are going to have to come together and want it-all

parts taking this journey towards a common destination.  Like said, if

you have two teams in a rope pulling competition pulling against each other,

that's quite a struggle.

 

Maybe there are many sides to Avie. A serious, diciplined side that can eat

sensibly and enjoy healthy foods, then maybe an Avie that loves to have " mouth

parties " and delights in cakes and cookies and chips and just wants to have SOME

FUN DURN IT! She just does not want to eat sensibly. And the other side that

gets angry or tired and needs a bit of comfort from food and refuses to give it

up for the more healthy minded Avie who is shouting " Hey guys I'm trying to get

my act together and lose some weight! " And the other two sides are pulling

harder saying " Yeah.who cares??? We need comfort and sugar and don't really care

about losing....It's impossible anyway. You know that. "

 

Hey two against one!!! No fair!

 

And thinks this is easy??? :-)

From: <lsageev@...>

Subject: Re: Connecting to your highest self

weightloss

Date: Friday, April 2, 2010, 7:40 PM

 

I sent a separate response to Avie relating to holiday issues, but I wanted to

comment on two things she said here:

" hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. "

To me, this is an example of " the weight struggle is a solution to a problem. "

When I can get upset at myself about overeating, I don't have to get upset, or

emotionally entangled at all, with the real problem....

" . just down and out after a binge today. when I

don't binge, i am much more positive. "

In my experience, it's the other way around. When I'm feeling positive, I don't

binge.

Knowing that doesn't always help when I'm in the midst of a binge, but it helps

me afterwards to know that I need to figure out what's lurking below the

surface....

Maybe it would help to go back to podcast 4, and see if you can find the gift?

(Or, the current gift? I seem to have a gift-shop's worth.... LOL!)

Hang in there!

____________ _________ _________ __

From: onewhorled <onewhorledgmail (DOT) com>

weightloss @groups. com

Sent: Thu, April 1, 2010 11:43:09 AM

Subject: Re: [insideoutweightlos s] Connecting to your highest self

hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. I am in need of

something more! a third line of defense, perhaps?! any suggestions?

upset with myself as it has again been difficult to maintain through

Passover Seders, although I am in a very different environment. sounds like

an excuse to me.

still keeping a hunger diary though I don't think it is helping me anymore.

I am still so desperate for a lasting change! HELP! please! I wish I could

see your faces.

it is still all about weight, shape and appearance for me... when i need a

major shift in my thinking. just down and out after a binge today. when I

don't binge, i am much more positive.

just wanting to be honest with y'all. thanks for reading.

ALL

.._,___

[Guest guest]

thanks for your response, . I woke up this morning and felt like I was

coming down with a cold... that was enough to send me in to a binge. May i

learn from it and move on because I am miserable. It is interesting to get

back in to this behavior. On a redo, I would have eaten something else to

start... so, again, I binged today and again I resolve to never do it again

(or something lasting)! I am frustrated because I want to be better at

living!

I'll be OK. After three weeks in Hawaii and only bingeing once, I come back

to LA and have already had two binges in four days... there have been worse

spans of time, in terms of eating. I am feeling lonely, and uncomfortable.

sooooo ready to surrender to my slimmer self! But, I need help! or

something.

I have a limiting belief that I'd be meaning to share... it is that I am

responsible for leftovers. Whenever there are leftovers, I feel like I have

to eat them because they will otherwise get thrown away. I usually end up

not feeling satisfied... to question this belief, I can be certain that I am

in no way responsible for leftovers! in fact, they have nothing to do with

me. I didn't cook them, etc. etc. A belief that I would like to have

instead is just that. I do not have to feel guilty for not eating

leftovers.

SOOOOO wanting to treat myself better. Will I ever stop for good?

thanks,

ALL

On Fri, Apr 2, 2010 at 5:40 AM, <lsageev@...> wrote:

>

>

> I sent a separate response to Avie relating to holiday issues, but I wanted

> to comment on two things she said here:

>

> " hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

> totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. "

>

> To me, this is an example of " the weight struggle is a solution to a

> problem. " When I can get upset at myself about overeating, I don't have to

> get upset, or emotionally entangled at all, with the real problem....

>

>

> " . just down and out after a binge today. when I

> don't binge, i am much more positive. "

>

> In my experience, it's the other way around. When I'm feeling positive, I

> don't binge.

>

> Knowing that doesn't always help when I'm in the midst of a binge, but it

> helps me afterwards to know that I need to figure out what's lurking below

> the surface....

>

> Maybe it would help to go back to podcast 4, and see if you can find the

> gift? (Or, the current gift? I seem to have a gift-shop's worth.... LOL!)

>

> Hang in there!

>

>

>

>

> ________________________________

> From: onewhorled <onewhorled@... <onewhorled%40gmail.com>>

> weightloss <weightloss%40>

> Sent: Thu, April 1, 2010 11:43:09 AM

> Subject: Re: Connecting to your highest self

>

>

> hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

> totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. I am in need of

> something more! a third line of defense, perhaps?! any suggestions?

>

> upset with myself as it has again been difficult to maintain through

> Passover Seders, although I am in a very different environment. sounds like

> an excuse to me.

>

> still keeping a hunger diary though I don't think it is helping me anymore.

>

> I am still so desperate for a lasting change! HELP! please! I wish I could

> see your faces.

>

> it is still all about weight, shape and appearance for me... when i need a

> major shift in my thinking. just down and out after a binge today. when I

> don't binge, i am much more positive.

>

> just wanting to be honest with y'all. thanks for reading.

> ALL

>

> ._,___

>

>

[Guest guest]

I had pizza today. That's usually a big time binge food for me. I stopped

sooner than I usually do, so I wasn't as stuffed. A good test for me.

On Fri, Apr 2, 2010 at 3:31 PM, onewhorled <onewhorled@...> wrote:

> thanks for your response, . I woke up this morning and felt like I was

> coming down with a cold... that was enough to send me in to a binge. May i

> learn from it and move on because I am miserable. It is interesting to get

> back in to this behavior. On a redo, I would have eaten something else to

> start... so, again, I binged today and again I resolve to never do it

> again

> (or something lasting)! I am frustrated because I want to be better at

> living!

>

> I'll be OK. After three weeks in Hawaii and only bingeing once, I come back

> to LA and have already had two binges in four days... there have been worse

> spans of time, in terms of eating. I am feeling lonely, and uncomfortable.

> sooooo ready to surrender to my slimmer self! But, I need help! or

> something.

>

> I have a limiting belief that I'd be meaning to share... it is that I am

> responsible for leftovers. Whenever there are leftovers, I feel like I

> have

> to eat them because they will otherwise get thrown away. I usually end up

> not feeling satisfied... to question this belief, I can be certain that I

> am

> in no way responsible for leftovers! in fact, they have nothing to do with

> me. I didn't cook them, etc. etc. A belief that I would like to have

> instead is just that. I do not have to feel guilty for not eating

> leftovers.

>

> SOOOOO wanting to treat myself better. Will I ever stop for good?

>

> thanks,

> ALL

>

> On Fri, Apr 2, 2010 at 5:40 AM, <lsageev@...> wrote:

>

> >

> >

> > I sent a separate response to Avie relating to holiday issues, but I

> wanted

> > to comment on two things she said here:

> >

> > " hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

> > totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. "

> >

> > To me, this is an example of " the weight struggle is a solution to a

> > problem. " When I can get upset at myself about overeating, I don't have

> to

> > get upset, or emotionally entangled at all, with the real problem....

> >

> >

> > " . just down and out after a binge today. when I

> > don't binge, i am much more positive. "

> >

> > In my experience, it's the other way around. When I'm feeling positive, I

> > don't binge.

> >

> > Knowing that doesn't always help when I'm in the midst of a binge, but it

> > helps me afterwards to know that I need to figure out what's lurking

> below

> > the surface....

> >

> > Maybe it would help to go back to podcast 4, and see if you can find the

> > gift? (Or, the current gift? I seem to have a gift-shop's worth.... LOL!)

> >

> > Hang in there!

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ________________________________

> > From: onewhorled <onewhorled@... <onewhorled%40gmail.com>>

> > weightloss <weightloss%

> 40>

> > Sent: Thu, April 1, 2010 11:43:09 AM

> > Subject: Re: Connecting to your highest self

> >

> >

> > hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

> > totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. I am in need of

> > something more! a third line of defense, perhaps?! any suggestions?

> >

> > upset with myself as it has again been difficult to maintain through

> > Passover Seders, although I am in a very different environment. sounds

> like

> > an excuse to me.

> >

> > still keeping a hunger diary though I don't think it is helping me

> anymore.

> >

> > I am still so desperate for a lasting change! HELP! please! I wish I

> could

> > see your faces.

> >

> > it is still all about weight, shape and appearance for me... when i need

> a

> > major shift in my thinking. just down and out after a binge today. when I

> > don't binge, i am much more positive.

> >

> > just wanting to be honest with y'all. thanks for reading.

> > ALL

> >

> > ._,___

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Way to go!! Love the little triumphs!

Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

Re: Connecting to your highest self

> >

> >

> > hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

> > totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. I am in need of

> > something more! a third line of defense, perhaps?! any suggestions?

> >

> > upset with myself as it has again been difficult to maintain through

> > Passover Seders, although I am in a very different environment. sounds

> like

> > an excuse to me.

> >

> > still keeping a hunger diary though I don't think it is helping me

> anymore.

> >

> > I am still so desperate for a lasting change! HELP! please! I wish I

> could

> > see your faces.

> >

> > it is still all about weight, shape and appearance for me... when i need

> a

> > major shift in my thinking. just down and out after a binge today. when I

> > don't binge, i am much more positive.

> >

> > just wanting to be honest with y'all. thanks for reading.

> > ALL

> >

> > ._,___

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Way to go!! Love the little triumphs!

Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

Re: Connecting to your highest self

> >

> >

> > hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

> > totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. I am in need of

> > something more! a third line of defense, perhaps?! any suggestions?

> >

> > upset with myself as it has again been difficult to maintain through

> > Passover Seders, although I am in a very different environment. sounds

> like

> > an excuse to me.

> >

> > still keeping a hunger diary though I don't think it is helping me

> anymore.

> >

> > I am still so desperate for a lasting change! HELP! please! I wish I

> could

> > see your faces.

> >

> > it is still all about weight, shape and appearance for me... when i need

> a

> > major shift in my thinking. just down and out after a binge today. when I

> > don't binge, i am much more positive.

> >

> > just wanting to be honest with y'all. thanks for reading.

> > ALL

> >

> > ._,___

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

sounds about right feeling good today, grateful . thanks for all of you!

ALL

On Sat, Apr 3, 2010 at 7:15 AM, <tania_khalil@...> wrote:

> Way to go!! Love the little triumphs!

> Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

>

> Re: Connecting to your highest self

> > >

> > >

> > > hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

> > > totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. I am in need of

> > > something more! a third line of defense, perhaps?! any suggestions?

> > >

> > > upset with myself as it has again been difficult to maintain through

> > > Passover Seders, although I am in a very different environment. sounds

> > like

> > > an excuse to me.

> > >

> > > still keeping a hunger diary though I don't think it is helping me

> > anymore.

> > >

> > > I am still so desperate for a lasting change! HELP! please! I wish I

> > could

> > > see your faces.

> > >

> > > it is still all about weight, shape and appearance for me... when i

> need

> > a

> > > major shift in my thinking. just down and out after a binge today. when

> I

> > > don't binge, i am much more positive.

> > >

> > > just wanting to be honest with y'all. thanks for reading.

> > > ALL

> > >

> > > ._,___

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

Great job!

________________________________

From: Dennis Elya <djvertdood@...>

weightloss

Sent: Sat, April 3, 2010 6:23:56 AM

Subject: Re: Connecting to your highest self

I had pizza today. That's usually a big time binge food for me. I stopped

sooner than I usually do, so I wasn't as stuffed. A good test for me.

[Guest guest]

(((hugs)))

One thing that comes across in your recent posts is the amount of energy you're

pouring into the binges, how you feel after, when it'll happen again, is it

forever.... I think all of us bingers can relate to that, which is why I'm

sending this to the whole group....

Today my iPod randomizer served up #16--relaxed intent. Have you listened to

that one recently? What happens if you hold tight, tighter, tightest to the idea

of no more binges, and then... let it go. Picture yourself loving yourself even

if you binge....

Have you considered buying 's downloads? I posted recently about my great

experience with the appetite adjuster, but I also love the other two. The

conflict resolution/sabotage self-sabotage journey blows me away. I'm at the

point where I can listen when I feel a new issue starting to pop up (because,

alas, I don't have just one issue that magically resolves everything)--and it

feels almost like watching a movie, waiting to see what images my brain will

come up with this time. Yesterday I felt the possibliity of a binge coming on,

so I made some time to listen to this again. When my brain showed me the image

of the gift--and supplied a word to tell me what it represented--I actually

started laughing it was so unexpected and true... and funny. Oh, and the desire

to overeat just sort of faded away....

The compulsion blowout is also effective, but I don't think it works on as deep

a level. After listening twice, I was able to predict the images my brain would

come up with--which means I can do it on the fly, without actually listening.

Like if I know I'm going to have a compulsion to eat because I'm tired, I can

immediately come up with the perfect image to use to blow out the compulsion. Or

I know I have something coming up at work, so I can choose an image that will

apply.

Hmmm. What else is in your toolbox? What about some more EFT? Your message

suggests several possibilities to me:

Even though I'm lonely, I choose to eat in a naturally slender way.

Even though I feel uncomfortable, I deeply and completely love and accept

myself.

Even though I still binge, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Even though I may be coming down with a cold, I choose to eat foods that will

boost my immune system.

Even though I feel responsible for leftovers, I choose to [leave them for

someone else, eat in a naturally slender way, whatever seems right for you....]

Instead of the re-do, there's the pre-do, where you visualize what you're going

to do in an upcoming situation (even if the " situation " is only the time between

lunch and dinner). I have to say, this tool doesn't necessarily work so well for

me, since any variable that I didn't visualize can throw me off, leading to " you

didn't do what you said you'd do " syndrome.... Not so effective! But also

talks about asking yourself how you want to feel at the end of an event (a

party, going out to eat, whatever). This one really *does* work for

me--especially when I combine it with an intention of how I want to connect with

people in that situation.

In another post, you say:

" I know this is not what this group is really for, but I had another binge

today! was doing really well until about 7P when dinner turned into a

full-blown binge. "

We're here to support and be supported. :-)

But if you can tell that letting us know when you've binged isn't helping, try a

different approach. (Especially since it could be that on some level the binge

is an excuse to come here and post, so our responses address the loneliness?)

Let us know your successes, instead. And the successes don't have to be related

to food... Since you've identified that loneliness is one of your issues, let us

know that you reached out to a friend back home, or made a new connection where

you live now. If leftovers are a problem (and yeah, I can identify with that

one), let us know that you threw something away instead of storing it, or put it

back in the fridge even though it seemed like not enough to save....

You say you want to treat yourself better. So let us know of something you did

to... treat yourself better. And if we're focusing on the positive now, remember

that you don't need to list all the ways you treat yourself poorly. What would

make you happy? A new book? Watching a movie? Listening to music? Painting your

toenails?? Even making the list of ways you can treat yourself better might be a

treat....

You also say:

" Sometimes I'm not sure if I've eaten too much or if I am

full... so It's almost as if I overeat to show myself I am full. "

Ideally, you'll learn to recognize the difference between 8-parts-full and

10-parts-full (and way more than 10 parts). But until that happens, does it help

to drink some water to show yourself that you're full?

Will this go on forever? I don't know. I know that I'm going on about 3

weeks without a binge. Leading up to that, I seemed to be at a stage

where the duration and intensity of my binges were way down, but the

frequency was wayyyyyyy up. I think part of it was my subconscious bringing up a

whole bunch of issues, so when I sat down to do the conflict resolution journey,

everything was within reach. It was such a relief, to identify the true

conflict, see the true gift, find another way to resolve it...

Soon after that, a friend said something along the lines of " you're too thin to

be pregnant, but you're glowing. " Really, that pretty much sums up the way I

feel these days. Even though I still want to lose some weight. Even though I'm

not perfect. Even though holiday stuff is stressing me out.... The light inside

me is no longer obscured by all the energy I used to pour into food issues. It's

free to shine out.

This is what I want instead of the binges.

What do you want instead?

PS: Are you taking care of yourself, to make sure your potential cold doesn't

become a real one? I always get sick if I'm not sleeping enough or if I'm saying

" yes " to too many things. Not sleeping enough often seems to coincide with being

overcommitted, come to think of it.... Getting enough rest will help you stay

healthy *and* help you avoid sleep-deprivation carb cravings....

________________________________

From: onewhorled <onewhorled@...>

weightloss

Sent: Fri, April 2, 2010 11:31:12 PM

Subject: Re: Connecting to your highest self

thanks for your response, . I woke up this morning and felt like I was

coming down with a cold... that was enough to send me in to a binge. May i

learn from it and move on because I am miserable. It is interesting to get

back in to this behavior. On a redo, I would have eaten something else to

start... so, again, I binged today and again I resolve to never do it again

(or something lasting)! I am frustrated because I want to be better at

living!

I'll be OK. After three weeks in Hawaii and only bingeing once, I come back

to LA and have already had two binges in four days... there have been worse

spans of time, in terms of eating. I am feeling lonely, and uncomfortable.

sooooo ready to surrender to my slimmer self! But, I need help! or

something.

I have a limiting belief that I'd be meaning to share... it is that I am

responsible for leftovers. Whenever there are leftovers, I feel like I have

to eat them because they will otherwise get thrown away. I usually end up

not feeling satisfied... to question this belief, I can be certain that I am

in no way responsible for leftovers! in fact, they have nothing to do with

me. I didn't cook them, etc. etc. A belief that I would like to have

instead is just that. I do not have to feel guilty for not eating

leftovers.

SOOOOO wanting to treat myself better. Will I ever stop for good?

thanks,

ALL

[Guest guest]

Wow, what insight you have. This is cool stuff. Thanks for it!

Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

Re: Connecting to your highest self

thanks for your response, . I woke up this morning and felt like I was

coming down with a cold... that was enough to send me in to a binge. May i

learn from it and move on because I am miserable. It is interesting to get

back in to this behavior. On a redo, I would have eaten something else to

start... so, again, I binged today and again I resolve to never do it again

(or something lasting)! I am frustrated because I want to be better at

living!

I'll be OK. After three weeks in Hawaii and only bingeing once, I come back

to LA and have already had two binges in four days... there have been worse

spans of time, in terms of eating. I am feeling lonely, and uncomfortable.

sooooo ready to surrender to my slimmer self! But, I need help! or

something.

I have a limiting belief that I'd be meaning to share... it is that I am

responsible for leftovers. Whenever there are leftovers, I feel like I have

to eat them because they will otherwise get thrown away. I usually end up

not feeling satisfied... to question this belief, I can be certain that I am

in no way responsible for leftovers! in fact, they have nothing to do with

me. I didn't cook them, etc. etc. A belief that I would like to have

instead is just that. I do not have to feel guilty for not eating

leftovers.

SOOOOO wanting to treat myself better. Will I ever stop for good?

thanks,

ALL

[Guest guest]

thanks ! in the food again this morning. not happy about it, but

obviously upset, tired, whatever. hoping to chill out and get back on track.

On Sun, Apr 4, 2010 at 4:04 AM, <tania_khalil@...> wrote:

> Wow, what insight you have. This is cool stuff. Thanks for it!

> Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

>

> Re: Connecting to your highest self

>

> thanks for your response, . I woke up this morning and felt like I was

> coming down with a cold... that was enough to send me in to a binge. May i

> learn from it and move on because I am miserable. It is interesting to get

> back in to this behavior. On a redo, I would have eaten something else to

> start... so, again, I binged today and again I resolve to never do it

> again

> (or something lasting)! I am frustrated because I want to be better at

> living!

>

> I'll be OK. After three weeks in Hawaii and only bingeing once, I come back

> to LA and have already had two binges in four days... there have been worse

> spans of time, in terms of eating. I am feeling lonely, and uncomfortable.

> sooooo ready to surrender to my slimmer self! But, I need help! or

> something.

>

> I have a limiting belief that I'd be meaning to share... it is that I am

> responsible for leftovers. Whenever there are leftovers, I feel like I

> have

> to eat them because they will otherwise get thrown away. I usually end up

> not feeling satisfied... to question this belief, I can be certain that I

> am

> in no way responsible for leftovers! in fact, they have nothing to do with

> me. I didn't cook them, etc. etc. A belief that I would like to have

> instead is just that. I do not have to feel guilty for not eating

> leftovers.

>

> SOOOOO wanting to treat myself better. Will I ever stop for good?

>

> thanks,

> ALL

>

>

[Guest guest]

Just wanted to offer a tidbit from " In Defense of Food " , Deepak Chopra and

many other sources regarding leftovers. Leftovers have no nutritional value.

They should be thrown out. We need to get over this guilt we have about

eating leftovers. If we want to solve the problem, we can try cooking less,

remember, we WON'T starve if we cook a little less. But let's get rid of the

leftovers - not into us, but into the garbage!

Re: Connecting to your highest self

> >

> >

> > hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

> > totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. I am in need of

> > something more! a third line of defense, perhaps?! any suggestions?

> >

> > upset with myself as it has again been difficult to maintain through

> > Passover Seders, although I am in a very different environment. sounds

> like

> > an excuse to me.

> >

> > still keeping a hunger diary though I don't think it is helping me

> anymore.

> >

> > I am still so desperate for a lasting change! HELP! please! I wish I

> could

> > see your faces.

> >

> > it is still all about weight, shape and appearance for me... when i need

> a

> > major shift in my thinking. just down and out after a binge today. when

> > I

> > don't binge, i am much more positive.

> >

> > just wanting to be honest with y'all. thanks for reading.

> > ALL

> >

> > ._,___

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Just wanted to offer a tidbit from " In Defense of Food " , Deepak Chopra and

many other sources regarding leftovers. Leftovers have no nutritional value.

They should be thrown out. We need to get over this guilt we have about

eating leftovers. If we want to solve the problem, we can try cooking less,

remember, we WON'T starve if we cook a little less. But let's get rid of the

leftovers - not into us, but into the garbage!

Re: Connecting to your highest self

> >

> >

> > hi group! another day got awry. i'm not happy about it. in fact, i get

> > totally and overwhelmingly upset after overeating. I am in need of

> > something more! a third line of defense, perhaps?! any suggestions?

> >

> > upset with myself as it has again been difficult to maintain through

> > Passover Seders, although I am in a very different environment. sounds

> like

> > an excuse to me.

> >

> > still keeping a hunger diary though I don't think it is helping me

> anymore.

> >

> > I am still so desperate for a lasting change! HELP! please! I wish I

> could

> > see your faces.

> >

> > it is still all about weight, shape and appearance for me... when i need

> a

> > major shift in my thinking. just down and out after a binge today. when

> > I

> > don't binge, i am much more positive.

> >

> > just wanting to be honest with y'all. thanks for reading.

> > ALL

> >

> > ._,___

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

I had a bad binge day yesterday even though I did wonderful on Sunday. I am

feeling low about it too but I decided I would just smile and remind myself when

I slip I can get back up I do deserve to be human and forgive myself.

Constance in Mich.

> I have to go back and find those self acceptance episodes...everythi ng is

> all messed up since having to go back and download all the old episodes.

> Then, I screwed something up in iTunes and LOST the ones I already had

> I love the path of thinking you are on. Thanks for sharing your insight!

> Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

>

> [insideoutweightlos s] Connecting to your highest self

>

> Hey gang,

>

> I felt the need to share some recent progress I've made.

> I've been battling with my weight for a very long time (seems like close to

> 10 years) and I have to say that IOWL has brought me closer than ever to

> discovering the real root of my struggle.

>

> is absolutely correct when she says something along the lines of

> overeating isn't a problem it's a solution. I realized that overeating was

> what I did at the end of the day when I felt this built-up inner tension

> that resulted from my angst of not living to my full potential. I've been

> procrastinating working on my master's thesis because the act of

> procrastination protects me from a true test of my abilities. My highest

> self knows that I am capable, smart, and worthy of all of the good things

> I've earned in life, but unfortunately that's where the inner conflict comes

> in. I have not been able to identify with my highest self because many years

> in my childhood I was told that I was worthless, hopeless, and stupid.

>

> Now, I'm trying as hard as I can to connect with my highest self. I did the

> podcasts on self acceptance, and envisioned myself when I was a child,

> innocent and pure and my ego vibrant in connection with my soul. How can I

> get back to that connection, release this inner conflict, and stop the binge

> eating that is burying it even deeper?

>

> Best to you all,

> Jenna

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Even though I'm lonely, I choose to eat in a naturally slender way.

Even though I feel uncomfortable, I deeply and completely love and accept

myself.

Even though I still binge, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Even though I may be coming down with a cold, I choose to eat foods that will

boost my immune system.

Even though I feel responsible for leftovers, I choose to [leave them for

someone else, eat in a naturally slender way, whatever seems right for you....]

Thought this was amazing ( I am only on #4 of the podcasts so some of what you

guys have mentioned I do not or have not heard yet. )

 

I am hoping to do a towards and away from Journal this week so I can see where I

am really struggling at.

From: tania_khalil@... <tania_khalil@...>

Subject: Re: Connecting to your highest self

weightloss

Date: Sunday, April 4, 2010, 7:04 AM

Wow, what insight you have.  This is cool stuff.  Thanks for it!

Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

Re: Connecting to your highest self

thanks for your response, .  I woke up this morning and felt like I was

coming down with a cold... that was enough to send me in to a binge. May i

learn from it and move on because I am miserable.  It is interesting to get

back in to this behavior.  On a redo, I would have eaten something else to

start...  so, again, I binged today and again I resolve to never do it again

(or something lasting)!  I am frustrated because I want to be better at

living!

I'll be OK. After three weeks in Hawaii and only bingeing once, I come back

to LA and have already had two binges in four days... there have been worse

spans of time, in terms of eating.  I am feeling lonely, and uncomfortable.

sooooo ready to surrender to my slimmer self! But, I need help! or

something.

I have a limiting belief that I'd be meaning to share... it is that I am

responsible for leftovers.  Whenever there are leftovers, I feel like I have

to eat them because they will otherwise get thrown away.  I usually end up

not feeling satisfied... to question this belief, I can be certain that I am

in no way responsible for leftovers! in fact, they have nothing to do with

me. I didn't cook them, etc. etc.  A belief that I would like to have

instead is just that.  I do not have to feel guilty for not eating

leftovers.

SOOOOO wanting to treat myself better.  Will I ever stop for good?

thanks,

ALL