Re:How do you get there

[Guest guest]

<<I'm struggling. Just want to share that with you. I am very hard on

myself for the DIF of my overeating has lessened over the years, but I am

such a perfectionist. And, again after another binge tonight, I resolve to

never do it again! I want to eat moderately and feel good in my body (notice

the want stated in the positive ! I want to allow myself time to lose

the weight, for it will take time! I do not even have very much weight to

lose (15 pounds, tops?! I do not have access to a scale). I know this will

get easier, but I am asking for help! I am hurting and embarrassed>>

(These are my thoughts as a Certified Life Coach) Admitting that you are

struggling is the first step to being able to resolve issues so your letter is a

reflection of the fact that you want to make this change. As Coach, there are

two things that I would recommend to my own clients. First when you make a

statement about the future...take the word 'want' out of it. This will make it a

more powerful focus in your mind. So, " I want to allow myself time to lose

weight' becomes " I ALLOW MYSELF to lose weight! " Can you feel the difference in

intention? The other thing I would recommend to a client is to listen to each

podcast more then once. I got involved with coaching because I have an autistic

cognitively challenged son. When he was about ten, I started making video tapes

of things he liked, and I would put in what I wanted him to remember as the

background chatter. You would not believe how quickly and completely he took to

and INTERNALIZED those comments. That is because the brain will store messages,

and with each repetition they become stronger and stronger. I always say 'if we

can get that kind of a result from a damaged brain (my son had a stroke at

birth), just imagine what we can do with all of our potential!

As just another friend on line, I can tell you what worked for me this time

around. (Other then having listened and really worked the program with all of

's podcasts that she has created) When I wanted to get back on my program

this time, I realized that for me, having to give up foods, cut portions, and

start an exercise program all at once, is prety intimidating. So I changed what

I ate and ate healthily like oatmeal and bananas for breakfast instead of the

pancakes I had been doing. I give myself a little 'treat' each evening of either

a small glass of wine OR a small glass of half fat ice cream with bananas. And

Because my back was giving me major issues, I also started slowly with

exercising so only rowed for five minutes a day. Over the past seven weeks, I

have changed so much and with very little struggle. I morphed to eating half a

BLT on whole grain toast each morning which is leaner andn lighter. I also am

now up to rowing an hour a day. (I consider thirty minutes to be my 'daily

quota' but am motivated right now to try and find a waist by the end of March

for an event.) Both the changes in my eating and the exercise felt like they

came fairly naturally to me. Do I 'go off' from my healthiest eating? Yep!!

Every weekend. I don't pig out, but I realize that for me, what I am doing is

creating a lifeplan that I can live with for the rest of my life. So I loosen up

on weekends a tad, and then hop right back to my healthiest format dduring the

week. I am seeing tremendous results on my program. But the best part, and what

I am trying to say is that you need to be GOOD to yourself as you start to

create your own programm which you can follow. Remind yourself how GOOD it feels

to be on track...and then allow yourself to get out of your own way. Good

luck to you..I hope at least one thought here, might be helpful! Lori U