Re: Overnight, what to tell other parent about meds for two kids???

December 25, 2007

With our son, I've always given him the pills, then give him a call to

remind him to take them when its time. He just discreetly goes off by

himself to take them. I don't know how old your girls are, but would

that be an option? If they (relatives) are nosy, and you think they

might question your girls, you could let them know ahead of time that

they have some medication they need to take. That way you will be

under the microscope rather than your girls, if they are going to be

that inquisitive.

It's a shame that they wouldn't be understanding, but I understand.

Have had the same situation here at times. Mostly, I've found if you

don't offer more information, a lot will not ask.

Good luck.

BJ

>

> I have snuck meds in if it is just a one night event.

> However, my two DDs will be spending two nights at their cousins

> house while mom and dad attend a marriage seminar, which we need

> about all the years of this mood stuff. I dont want to reveal their

> medications which are risperdol/triliptol/wellbutrrin and a dose

> of vitamine E. I dont want to reveal the nature of their problems

> as I dont think they would get it and might even blame me???

> So, do I

>

> 1) on purpose label the meds as something else?

> 2) be uprfront regardless of her reaction and say as little

> as possible ie: They are being treated for anxiety, period.

>

> ?? Help? I surely dont want the triliptol and risperdol freely

> labeled and then have her do an internet search of something.

>

> I could keep them off for one entire day 24 hours, but fear

> side effects of withdraw. Help!

> Kathy

>

December 25, 2007

With our son, I've always given him the pills, then give him a call to

remind him to take them when its time. He just discreetly goes off by

himself to take them. I don't know how old your girls are, but would

that be an option? If they (relatives) are nosy, and you think they

might question your girls, you could let them know ahead of time that

they have some medication they need to take. That way you will be

under the microscope rather than your girls, if they are going to be

that inquisitive.

It's a shame that they wouldn't be understanding, but I understand.

Have had the same situation here at times. Mostly, I've found if you

don't offer more information, a lot will not ask.

Good luck.

BJ

>

> I have snuck meds in if it is just a one night event.

> However, my two DDs will be spending two nights at their cousins

> house while mom and dad attend a marriage seminar, which we need

> about all the years of this mood stuff. I dont want to reveal their

> medications which are risperdol/triliptol/wellbutrrin and a dose

> of vitamine E. I dont want to reveal the nature of their problems

> as I dont think they would get it and might even blame me???

> So, do I

>

> 1) on purpose label the meds as something else?

> 2) be uprfront regardless of her reaction and say as little

> as possible ie: They are being treated for anxiety, period.

>

> ?? Help? I surely dont want the triliptol and risperdol freely

> labeled and then have her do an internet search of something.

>

> I could keep them off for one entire day 24 hours, but fear

> side effects of withdraw. Help!

> Kathy

>

December 26, 2007

---

Thanks BJ, calling is an option for the 9 year old, but the six year

old is too young and her meds are liquid.

I might do that for the older girl. How old is your son?

Also, i wondered though if there is risk to having a pill like

risperold around a family with little kids? their cousins have a 2

year old, i would hate for him to find them.

Thanks. I am still mulling around what to do.

In , " svdbyhislove " <BJClosner@...>

wrote:

>

> With our son, I've always given him the pills, then give him a call

to

> remind him to take them when its time. He just discreetly goes off

by

> himself to take them. I don't know how old your girls are, but

would

> that be an option? If they (relatives) are nosy, and you think they

> might question your girls, you could let them know ahead of time

that

> they have some medication they need to take. That way you will be

> under the microscope rather than your girls, if they are going to be

> that inquisitive.

>

> It's a shame that they wouldn't be understanding, but I understand.

> Have had the same situation here at times. Mostly, I've found if

you

> don't offer more information, a lot will not ask.

>

> Good luck.

>

> BJ

>

> >

> > I have snuck meds in if it is just a one night event.

> > However, my two DDs will be spending two nights at their cousins

> > house while mom and dad attend a marriage seminar, which we need

> > about all the years of this mood stuff. I dont want to reveal

their

> > medications which are risperdol/triliptol/wellbutrrin and a dose

> > of vitamine E. I dont want to reveal the nature of their problems

> > as I dont think they would get it and might even blame me???

> > So, do I

> >

> > 1) on purpose label the meds as something else?

> > 2) be uprfront regardless of her reaction and say as little

> > as possible ie: They are being treated for anxiety, period.

> >

> > ?? Help? I surely dont want the triliptol and risperdol freely

> > labeled and then have her do an internet search of something.

> >

> > I could keep them off for one entire day 24 hours, but fear

> > side effects of withdraw. Help!

> > Kathy

> >

>

December 26, 2007

---

Thanks BJ, calling is an option for the 9 year old, but the six year

old is too young and her meds are liquid.

I might do that for the older girl. How old is your son?

Also, i wondered though if there is risk to having a pill like

risperold around a family with little kids? their cousins have a 2

year old, i would hate for him to find them.

Thanks. I am still mulling around what to do.

In , " svdbyhislove " <BJClosner@...>

wrote:

>

> With our son, I've always given him the pills, then give him a call

to

> remind him to take them when its time. He just discreetly goes off

by

> himself to take them. I don't know how old your girls are, but

would

> that be an option? If they (relatives) are nosy, and you think they

> might question your girls, you could let them know ahead of time

that

> they have some medication they need to take. That way you will be

> under the microscope rather than your girls, if they are going to be

> that inquisitive.

>

> It's a shame that they wouldn't be understanding, but I understand.

> Have had the same situation here at times. Mostly, I've found if

you

> don't offer more information, a lot will not ask.

>

> Good luck.

>

> BJ

>

> >

> > I have snuck meds in if it is just a one night event.

> > However, my two DDs will be spending two nights at their cousins

> > house while mom and dad attend a marriage seminar, which we need

> > about all the years of this mood stuff. I dont want to reveal

their

> > medications which are risperdol/triliptol/wellbutrrin and a dose

> > of vitamine E. I dont want to reveal the nature of their problems

> > as I dont think they would get it and might even blame me???

> > So, do I

> >

> > 1) on purpose label the meds as something else?

> > 2) be uprfront regardless of her reaction and say as little

> > as possible ie: They are being treated for anxiety, period.

> >

> > ?? Help? I surely dont want the triliptol and risperdol freely

> > labeled and then have her do an internet search of something.

> >

> > I could keep them off for one entire day 24 hours, but fear

> > side effects of withdraw. Help!

> > Kathy

> >

>

December 26, 2007

I put my dd pills in those pill boxes you buy at the dollar store that

says am pm and has every days or the week. That way they will never no

what pills your dds are taking.

Have a great day!

>

> I have snuck meds in if it is just a one night event.

> However, my two DDs will be spending two nights at their cousins

> house while mom and dad attend a marriage seminar, which we need

> about all the years of this mood stuff. I dont want to reveal their

> medications which are risperdol/triliptol/wellbutrrin and a dose

> of vitamine E. I dont want to reveal the nature of their problems

> as I dont think they would get it and might even blame me???

> So, do I

>

> 1) on purpose label the meds as something else?

> 2) be uprfront regardless of her reaction and say as little

> as possible ie: They are being treated for anxiety, period.

>

> ?? Help? I surely dont want the triliptol and risperdol freely

> labeled and then have her do an internet search of something.

>

> I could keep them off for one entire day 24 hours, but fear

> side effects of withdraw. Help!

> Kathy

>

December 26, 2007

I put my dd pills in those pill boxes you buy at the dollar store that

says am pm and has every days or the week. That way they will never no

what pills your dds are taking.

Have a great day!

>

> I have snuck meds in if it is just a one night event.

> However, my two DDs will be spending two nights at their cousins

> house while mom and dad attend a marriage seminar, which we need

> about all the years of this mood stuff. I dont want to reveal their

> medications which are risperdol/triliptol/wellbutrrin and a dose

> of vitamine E. I dont want to reveal the nature of their problems

> as I dont think they would get it and might even blame me???

> So, do I

>

> 1) on purpose label the meds as something else?

> 2) be uprfront regardless of her reaction and say as little

> as possible ie: They are being treated for anxiety, period.

>

> ?? Help? I surely dont want the triliptol and risperdol freely

> labeled and then have her do an internet search of something.

>

> I could keep them off for one entire day 24 hours, but fear

> side effects of withdraw. Help!

> Kathy

>

December 26, 2007

Oh dear, your girls are young. Our son is 15 now, but started meds

the first time when he was 10. So we've had to deal with this for

years. It can be difficult, depending on who you are dealing with.

It's always nice when you can just be up front and not be judged. Too

bad that is not always the case. I know if it was meds for diabetes,

there would not be the stigma attached. It's sad.

BJ

> > >

> > > I have snuck meds in if it is just a one night event.

> > > However, my two DDs will be spending two nights at their cousins

> > > house while mom and dad attend a marriage seminar, which we need

> > > about all the years of this mood stuff. I dont want to reveal

> their

> > > medications which are risperdol/triliptol/wellbutrrin and a dose

> > > of vitamine E. I dont want to reveal the nature of their problems

> > > as I dont think they would get it and might even blame me???

> > > So, do I

> > >

> > > 1) on purpose label the meds as something else?

> > > 2) be uprfront regardless of her reaction and say as little

> > > as possible ie: They are being treated for anxiety, period.

> > >

> > > ?? Help? I surely dont want the triliptol and risperdol freely

> > > labeled and then have her do an internet search of something.

> > >

> > > I could keep them off for one entire day 24 hours, but fear

> > > side effects of withdraw. Help!

> > > Kathy

> > >

> >

>

December 26, 2007

Oh dear, your girls are young. Our son is 15 now, but started meds

the first time when he was 10. So we've had to deal with this for

years. It can be difficult, depending on who you are dealing with.

It's always nice when you can just be up front and not be judged. Too

bad that is not always the case. I know if it was meds for diabetes,

there would not be the stigma attached. It's sad.

BJ

> > >

> > > I have snuck meds in if it is just a one night event.

> > > However, my two DDs will be spending two nights at their cousins

> > > house while mom and dad attend a marriage seminar, which we need

> > > about all the years of this mood stuff. I dont want to reveal

> their

> > > medications which are risperdol/triliptol/wellbutrrin and a dose

> > > of vitamine E. I dont want to reveal the nature of their problems

> > > as I dont think they would get it and might even blame me???

> > > So, do I

> > >

> > > 1) on purpose label the meds as something else?

> > > 2) be uprfront regardless of her reaction and say as little

> > > as possible ie: They are being treated for anxiety, period.

> > >

> > > ?? Help? I surely dont want the triliptol and risperdol freely

> > > labeled and then have her do an internet search of something.

> > >

> > > I could keep them off for one entire day 24 hours, but fear

> > > side effects of withdraw. Help!

> > > Kathy

> > >

> >

>

December 26, 2007

Yep, that's what we do too.

> >

> > I have snuck meds in if it is just a one night event.

> > However, my two DDs will be spending two nights at their cousins

> > house while mom and dad attend a marriage seminar, which we need

> > about all the years of this mood stuff. I dont want to reveal their

> > medications which are risperdol/triliptol/wellbutrrin and a dose

> > of vitamine E. I dont want to reveal the nature of their problems

> > as I dont think they would get it and might even blame me???

> > So, do I

> >

> > 1) on purpose label the meds as something else?

> > 2) be uprfront regardless of her reaction and say as little

> > as possible ie: They are being treated for anxiety, period.

> >

> > ?? Help? I surely dont want the triliptol and risperdol freely

> > labeled and then have her do an internet search of something.

> >

> > I could keep them off for one entire day 24 hours, but fear

> > side effects of withdraw. Help!

> > Kathy

> >

>

December 26, 2007

Yep, that's what we do too.

> >

> > I have snuck meds in if it is just a one night event.

> > However, my two DDs will be spending two nights at their cousins

> > house while mom and dad attend a marriage seminar, which we need

> > about all the years of this mood stuff. I dont want to reveal their

> > medications which are risperdol/triliptol/wellbutrrin and a dose

> > of vitamine E. I dont want to reveal the nature of their problems

> > as I dont think they would get it and might even blame me???

> > So, do I

> >

> > 1) on purpose label the meds as something else?

> > 2) be uprfront regardless of her reaction and say as little

> > as possible ie: They are being treated for anxiety, period.

> >

> > ?? Help? I surely dont want the triliptol and risperdol freely

> > labeled and then have her do an internet search of something.

> >

> > I could keep them off for one entire day 24 hours, but fear

> > side effects of withdraw. Help!

> > Kathy

> >

>

December 26, 2007

Hi Kathy,

What I do, is, I just bring the medication and hand it to the parent, and just

ask them to give my children the meds at the given time. I have never had anyone

ask me what they were for. My 11 yr old can fianlly take the meds alone, but

with my 6yr old, I would never do that, especially if where they are staying

have other young children in the house. You really have to give the meds to the

parent.

Hugs

Judy

December 26, 2007

Hi Kathy,

What I do, is, I just bring the medication and hand it to the parent, and just

ask them to give my children the meds at the given time. I have never had anyone

ask me what they were for. My 11 yr old can fianlly take the meds alone, but

with my 6yr old, I would never do that, especially if where they are staying

have other young children in the house. You really have to give the meds to the

parent.

Hugs

Judy

December 27, 2007

A couple of thoughts on this thread.... first, if the person taking

the kids is the child's other parent, how can you not tell him or her

what meds their child is taking??? Even if you are afraid they will

not understand. Similarly, how can you not leave the names of meds,

etc. I mean, suppose the child had a weird reaction to either the

meds or something else, and the caretaker was left in an emergency

room with no idea what the child had taken in the pill box? This

could unecessarily slow down needed care for the child even if it was

only to rule out the meds as a cause of the symptoms. My son has had

horrible reactions to various meds that landed us in the ER and even

a brief inpatient stint. I have broken meds down into the am/pm

containers also, just to make it easier on the caregiver and my son.

But I always pack them in a medications bag where I at least write

down the names and dosages of meds and pack an insurance card, just

in case. I usually also leave a note, signed by me, authorizing

whomoever (usually grandparents in my case) to obtain emergency

medical care if needed.

mm

> > >

> > > I have snuck meds in if it is just a one night event.

> > > However, my two DDs will be spending two nights at their cousins

> > > house while mom and dad attend a marriage seminar, which we need

> > > about all the years of this mood stuff. I dont want to reveal

their

> > > medications which are risperdol/triliptol/wellbutrrin and a dose

> > > of vitamine E. I dont want to reveal the nature of their

problems

> > > as I dont think they would get it and might even blame me???

> > > So, do I

> > >

> > > 1) on purpose label the meds as something else?

> > > 2) be uprfront regardless of her reaction and say as little

> > > as possible ie: They are being treated for anxiety, period.

> > >

> > > ?? Help? I surely dont want the triliptol and risperdol freely

> > > labeled and then have her do an internet search of something.

> > >

> > > I could keep them off for one entire day 24 hours, but fear

> > > side effects of withdraw. Help!

> > > Kathy

> > >

> >

>

December 27, 2007

---

Yes, that would be the correct way to do the med thing if there were

no stigma, or no ignorant relatives. The person watching my daughters

is not the other parent, but their in laws. I was not going to reveal

their mental conditions to the in laws, but feel I will have to if we

go to the two night couples weekend which we desperately need. We

have not been away for more than one night in nine years and have no

other options to watch our kids. I have conlcuded that we will either

not go/ mark the meds correctly/ or possibly i will come home for an

hour on saturday n ight to admister myself.

I just didnt want to mark the meds, have the sister in law read

Risperdol/ look up on internet and blab to other relatives and people

in the community that my kids were such and such. It would not be

worth the Help if you know what i mean.

In , " mega_mommie " <mega_mommie@...>

wrote:

>

> A couple of thoughts on this thread.... first, if the person

taking

> the kids is the child's other parent, how can you not tell him or

her

> what meds their child is taking??? Even if you are afraid they

will

> not understand. Similarly, how can you not leave the names of

meds,

> etc. I mean, suppose the child had a weird reaction to either the

> meds or something else, and the caretaker was left in an emergency

> room with no idea what the child had taken in the pill box? This

> could unecessarily slow down needed care for the child even if it

was

> only to rule out the meds as a cause of the symptoms. My son has

had

> horrible reactions to various meds that landed us in the ER and

even

> a brief inpatient stint. I have broken meds down into the am/pm

> containers also, just to make it easier on the caregiver and my

son.

> But I always pack them in a medications bag where I at least write

> down the names and dosages of meds and pack an insurance card, just

> in case. I usually also leave a note, signed by me, authorizing

> whomoever (usually grandparents in my case) to obtain emergency

> medical care if needed.

>

> mm

>

> > > >

> > > > I have snuck meds in if it is just a one night event.

> > > > However, my two DDs will be spending two nights at their

cousins

> > > > house while mom and dad attend a marriage seminar, which we

need

> > > > about all the years of this mood stuff. I dont want to reveal

> their

> > > > medications which are risperdol/triliptol/wellbutrrin and a

dose

> > > > of vitamine E. I dont want to reveal the nature of their

> problems

> > > > as I dont think they would get it and might even blame me???

> > > > So, do I

> > > >

> > > > 1) on purpose label the meds as something else?

> > > > 2) be uprfront regardless of her reaction and say as little

> > > > as possible ie: They are being treated for anxiety, period.

> > > >

> > > > ?? Help? I surely dont want the triliptol and risperdol freely

> > > > labeled and then have her do an internet search of something.

> > > >

> > > > I could keep them off for one entire day 24 hours, but fear

> > > > side effects of withdraw. Help!

> > > > Kathy

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

December 27, 2007