Re: apply one of 's suggestions which is to reach out to others

[Guest guest]

Jen thank you, I beleive that working on those questios will be really helpful

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> ((Lola and all - me included))

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> I really liked 's response and hope that you felt a spark of truth in what

> she was saying.

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> I do understand how deeply ingrained thought patterns can be and how they spin

> you into a place of despair.  I too have struggled against the same thought

> patterns and self loathing they preach to me.

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> However.....It can change.  It takes time and IOWL is a good place to

start. 

> But like said do not start with weight loss.  I would encourage you to

go

> back to the first ten episodes and listen to them and journal about them. 

Some

> of us are in the process of doing just that.  I think a big question for you,

as

> it is for me, is " what does the negative thinking do for you? "   " how does it

> help you?'  None of us do things for no reason.  How we respond is our body

or

> minds way of protecting us.  What does your negative self talk do for you? 

How

> can you meet that need in a different way?

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> Good luck and know that we are all together on this journey.  YOU too can be

> healthier, happier and loving to yourself.

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> Hugs,

> Jen

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> ________________________________

> From: Lola Quiroz <quiroz_rada>

> weightloss

> Sent: Tue, February 8, 2011 7:14:00 PM

> Subject: apply one of 's suggestions which is to

> reach out to others

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> That´s the intend of this post.

> I want to be really honest on this post, I start listening to the podcast but

> I´m negative about my expectations, I really feel it ain´t work for me, I

feel

> like I´m condemned to be fat, to feel fat, to look fat and to think fat.

> I know that this program is about been positive, but I can´t think that way,

I

> feel awful about myself, thinking I´m horrible, and that my body is horrible.

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> don´t know how to change that belief, I´ve been learning to feel bad about

> myself since I´m a little girl, I learned not to like me and to criticize me.

> I started listening to the podcast hoping that this time it´ll be different,

> that this time I will succeed. The truth is that it doesn´t feels any

different,

> it feels like a new attempt to lose weight that, like always, will end in

> failure.

> I feel like there is no solution to me, I don´t know how to start a change, I

> don´t even know what to buy at the supermarket, I don´t know how to cook,

how to

> organize my meals, I´m used to eat crap at the street.

> The fat thinking is so strong that I see no way of changing, is like I´m

running

> against a big wall, crashing always against the big same old wall, and I

can´t

> even do a scratch on it. It´s a wall that I need to jump or to break, it´s a

> wall that represents feeling ugly, fat and undesirable; represents been

> antisocial, not to belonging in any place or in any social group, feeling like

> nobody wants to be near me, represents difficulty to speak to people and to be

> pleasant; that wall represents to hide for eating, being alone, isolated where

I

> can eat and feel bad about myself.

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> I hope that I´m not alone and that together will find the solution, an inside

> out solution.

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