Re: off topic biopsy 2nd opinion question

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Hi Annette--

I understand your frustration, and admittedly this site is mostly focused on

health issues and is predominately gay--a reflection of the epidemic itself. I

thank my lucky stars that I'm dealing with this disease as a gay man living in a

gay & poz-friendly city, and have the support that I do. Asked a poz girlfriend

about your dilemma, and I've pasted her suggestions below. Maybe some of the

other women on the site would like to chime in, or perhaps they've contacted you

directly?

Jeff

<<Not knowing where she lives, I would say her best bet would be to get

registered (and pay a fee of about $15 a month) on some of the poz dating sites:

My personal favorite where I met my bf is www.positivesingles.com, there's also

hivnet, and the Poz Magazine website. She can create a profile and search for

men in her area by zip code. That's how most poz heteros are meeting these days.

There's also the positive cruise that 's familiar with. I know that

there's a pretty significant hetero contingent on those, but of course it's

rather expensive.>>

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> Annette,

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> I do not think that women are from Venus and gay men are from Ganymede (one of

the moons of Jupiter and a Greek symbol of male beauty and desire).

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> What I mean is that there are more similarities than differences, if you

REALLY think about it.

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> Years before the AIDS crisis, there were partners that on the FIRST night

offered me the Moon.  But never to hear from them again.  No, they were not

jerks, is that they were expecting fireworks to happen all night long.  There is

an old saying that applies here:  A kiss easily earned, is easily forgotten.  So

true!  So very true!

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> I have straight friends who have known their spouses for a lifetime, but yet

when they were divorcing, they both turned into monsters.  So much hatred after

having had so much love.

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> The grass is never greener on the other side.  It often has weeds and twigs. 

But remember, out of the dirtiest of soils, grow the most beautiful flowers...

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> Whether, straight, bi, gay, trans, or any combination in between, the same

saying applies:

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> You have to kiss a lot of frogs...  Princes and Princesses are not born.  They

are made and cultivated just like the rest of us.

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