Re: Re: Does anyone else feel like an actress

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I'm a big fan of red wine and new shoes therapy.

Joyce in Seattle

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From: " svdbyhislove " <BJClosner@...>

> Yes! By the time we get somewhere, I'm usually tense, but you can't

> tell people why, so you have to try to hide it and pretend everything

> is fine. There's usually not enough time to try to de-stress so you

> don't have to put on your mask and pretend. It's work.

>

> Probably most of us deserve and Emmy or . lol

>

> BJ

>

>

>

>

> >

> > Hi,

> >

> > Is it just me.......or does anyone else have to be an " actress " ??

> Sometimes

> > our home is SO tumultuous dealing with my dd's condition that I have

> to fake

> > it when I am out. For instance......getting ready to go somewhere

> (like

> > church, this morning), if something triggers my daughter we can go

> through an hour

> > or two of pure..........stress. Then when we reach our destination,

> I am

> > totally exasperated. I find myself just " going through the motions "

> of enjoying

> > myself and trying to make conversation with others. I sometimes

> feel very fake

> > and phony, but its all I have left in me sometimes. None of my

> friends would

> > understand this (I fake it with them too!) Thanks for " listening " .

> I know

> > most of you probably know what I mean. Kath

> >

> >

> >

> > **************************************

> > See AOL's top rated recipes

> > (http://food.aol.com/top-rated-recipes?NCID=aoltop00030000000004)

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

I'm a big fan of red wine and new shoes therapy.

Joyce in Seattle

-------------- Original message ----------------------

From: " svdbyhislove " <BJClosner@...>

> Yes! By the time we get somewhere, I'm usually tense, but you can't

> tell people why, so you have to try to hide it and pretend everything

> is fine. There's usually not enough time to try to de-stress so you

> don't have to put on your mask and pretend. It's work.

>

> Probably most of us deserve and Emmy or . lol

>

> BJ

>

>

>

>

> >

> > Hi,

> >

> > Is it just me.......or does anyone else have to be an " actress " ??

> Sometimes

> > our home is SO tumultuous dealing with my dd's condition that I have

> to fake

> > it when I am out. For instance......getting ready to go somewhere

> (like

> > church, this morning), if something triggers my daughter we can go

> through an hour

> > or two of pure..........stress. Then when we reach our destination,

> I am

> > totally exasperated. I find myself just " going through the motions "

> of enjoying

> > myself and trying to make conversation with others. I sometimes

> feel very fake

> > and phony, but its all I have left in me sometimes. None of my

> friends would

> > understand this (I fake it with them too!) Thanks for " listening " .

> I know

> > most of you probably know what I mean. Kath

> >

> >

> >

> > **************************************

> > See AOL's top rated recipes

> > (http://food.aol.com/top-rated-recipes?NCID=aoltop00030000000004)

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

I have that trouble with my husband. My ocd child takes her meds and is doing

great. The husband (ocd) won't acknowledge he has a problem and blames things

on everyone else. Also know how you feel with the pretending around other

people and other family members. Trying to appear like everything is normal in

your home when it is actually falling apart.

Oh well, a new year is around the corner.

Carol

Re: Does anyone else feel like an " actress "

--

Kath--

I do know what you mean. I was like this when my kids were n't

medicated and everything was very stressful. i hated interacting w/

other adults be/c i was very preoccppied and depressed about my kids

and the behavior. I found it has calmed down considerable when they

are medicated correctly and their behavior improves and is stable.

have you had any luck w/ medications? If not, once you find the right

meds hopefully it will improve for you and this will be temporary.

Kath

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" svdbyhislove " <BJClosner@...>

wrote:

>

> Yes! By the time we get somewhere, I'm usually tense, but you can't

> tell people why, so you have to try to hide it and pretend

everything

> is fine. There's usually not enough time to try to de-stress so you

> don't have to put on your mask and pretend. It's work.

>

> Probably most of us deserve and Emmy or . lol

>

> BJ

>

>

>

>

> >

> > Hi,

> >

> > Is it just me.......or does anyone else have to be an " actress " ??

> Sometimes

> > our home is SO tumultuous dealing with my dd's condition that I

have

> to fake

> > it when I am out. For instance......getting ready to go somewhere

> (like

> > church, this morning), if something triggers my daughter we can go

> through an hour

> > or two of pure..........stress. Then when we reach our

destination,

> I am

> > totally exasperated. I find myself just " going through the

motions "

> of enjoying

> > myself and trying to make conversation with others. I sometimes

> feel very fake

> > and phony, but its all I have left in me sometimes. None of my

> friends would

> > understand this (I fake it with them too!) Thanks

for " listening " .

> I know

> > most of you probably know what I mean. Kath

> >

> >

> >

> > **************************************

> > See AOL's top rated recipes

> >

(http://food.aol.com/top-rated-recipes?NCID=aoltop00030000000004<http://food.aol\

..com/top-rated-recipes?NCID=aoltop00030000000004>)

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

So far, my parents are getting along fine. No frantic calls for a few days!

Yesterday, I was feeling better about the dog until I realized it was his

birthday.

Beth spent the whole night at a sleepover at her martial arts school. She was

helping with the little kids. She hates sleeping anywhere other than home. So

I told her to just stay up all night...that's what you're supposed to do on New

Years Eve lol!

Laurie

Does anyone else feel like an " actress "

>

> Hi,

>

> Is it just me.......or does anyone else have to be an " actress " ??

Sometimes

> our home is SO tumultuous dealing with my dd's condition that I have

to fake

> it when I am out. For instance......getting ready to go somewhere

(like

> church, this morning), if something triggers my daughter we can go

through an hour

> or two of pure..........stress. Then when we reach our destination,

I am

> totally exasperated. I find myself just " going through the motions "

of enjoying

> myself and trying to make conversation with others. I sometimes

feel very fake

> and phony, but its all I have left in me sometimes. None of my

friends would

> understand this (I fake it with them too!) Thanks for " listening " .

I know

> most of you probably know what I mean. Kath

>

>

>

> **************************************

> See AOL's top rated recipes

> (http://food.aol.com/top-rated-recipes?NCID=aoltop00030000000004)

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

So far, my parents are getting along fine. No frantic calls for a few days!

Yesterday, I was feeling better about the dog until I realized it was his

birthday.

Beth spent the whole night at a sleepover at her martial arts school. She was

helping with the little kids. She hates sleeping anywhere other than home. So

I told her to just stay up all night...that's what you're supposed to do on New

Years Eve lol!

Laurie

Does anyone else feel like an " actress "

>

> Hi,

>

> Is it just me.......or does anyone else have to be an " actress " ??

Sometimes

> our home is SO tumultuous dealing with my dd's condition that I have

to fake

> it when I am out. For instance......getting ready to go somewhere

(like

> church, this morning), if something triggers my daughter we can go

through an hour

> or two of pure..........stress. Then when we reach our destination,

I am

> totally exasperated. I find myself just " going through the motions "

of enjoying

> myself and trying to make conversation with others. I sometimes

feel very fake

> and phony, but its all I have left in me sometimes. None of my

friends would

> understand this (I fake it with them too!) Thanks for " listening " .

I know

> most of you probably know what I mean. Kath

>

>

>

> **************************************

> See AOL's top rated recipes

> (http://food.aol.com/top-rated-recipes?NCID=aoltop00030000000004)

>

>

>