Check in from Oregon

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Howdy all, I am sitting here reading all the posts from you about potty

training, weighted blankets, psychology evaluations and feel good just

hearing that you moms are taking good care of your sweet children! I am

the mom with the 46 year old autistic son, Marty Harper, he was 46 on

Sunday and we had a nice little party for him, just his sister, one

brother, and five nieces and nephews. It was sweet but he couldn't have

any chocolate cake or mint chip ice cream on account of he is on a food

tube and I don't dare put anything in his mouth he may aspirate and get

pneumonia, he is a good sport about it but I could tell he sure did want

some. He doesn't talk anymore but is very alert with his eyes, doesn't

miss a thing, there is so much expression in his eyes.

I wanted to testify about his life at church Sun. night but they had a

visiting music group, so guess I will do it here. I am just so thankful

to God for giving me my sweet son and taking us through all the many

ordeals we have gone through. His grace has been sufficient, we are

living examples of it! For you see when he was just 3 years old they

wanted me to send him away to the state institution and just walk away,

not possible in my world, but that is what they wanted. They said I

would go crazy, my husband would leave me, my other kids would hate me,

all if I kept my son at home!

Oh yes and what would I ever do when he was old and I was old, shish,

well I will be 69 on my birthday and doing pretty well thank you very

much, and most of them are dead already! Life was not always as good as

it is now though, there have been some very hard times, but I had made

up my mind to take care of my son or drop dead in my tracks trying to,

and that has gotten me through. I think with that attitude God has given

me His amazing grace, and whenever my son got too crazy He would step in

and settle him down...years of crazy making tearing up the house every

day and scratching me and biting, the biting sure did hurt!

He went to school, yes he did, to a private school then he was

mainstreamed and he was always a handful, just did not want to cooperate

with any of the programs they put him in which were all behavior

management and he resented being managed and manipulated I think, was

too smart for it and what it did was make him a better manipulator

himself, not such a good thing at the time! They didn't seem to value

him or respect him, just wanted to brow beat him into submission and it

never worked, he fought them tooth and toenail and actually he won. I

took him out of school at age 18 and he has never been back, only at

home did he get the love and respect he deserved. And it worked. Love

has been the key that has gotten us through, pure LOVE. There is nothing

like it. I would recommend it highly to all of you, you got some to

start on so just get more and more and more of it, LOVE that is.

It will get you through as it has us, and God is not going to give you

more than you can handle through His grace. Oh it will seem like you

cannot handle it, but see that is when you go to God and say this; " I

CANNOT HANDLE THIS, IT IS TOO MUCH!! " Then He will give you His strength

and all of a sudden you will be amazed at how strong you are...

Guess this is long enough, wanted to say a bit about one of my grandsons

Lucas who won't go to the bathroom or eat food like the rest of us. He

is 6 and starts 1st grade soon, can write and spell big long words from

memory like Sponge Bob Square Pants Nickolodium. com and has been

obsessed with those three legged alien things out of War of the Worlds

and acts them out all the time and nobody knows what he is doing. He

makes a growly noise and does it, did it all last year at school, and

the teacher had no idea why he growled so much....didn't think to ask

him. Duh!

Will talk about him later, I think he may have some special needs, or

perhaps is just a genius I don't know, talks and is funny and happy but

can be quite moody too when he doesn't get his way....tells me " Shut up

grandma, be quiet, " which I know is not nice and have told him so, but

he just gets so antisocial when tired and mad I don't want to stir him

up worse by confronting him because then he says, " You are scaring

me... " Sigh.

Carolyn OR ;o)

[Guest guest]

Speaking of Marty's birthday, his sister Tara got him a T-shirt that

says this on it; " NEWS FLASH " in black, " I DON'T CARE. " in red. Thought

that was cute.

Haven't put it on him yet, maybe wait till Sunday and he can wear it to

church...also she got him some white basket ball shorts, kind of

longish...not sure about them. I mean gee others think they have it so

rough, then they will look at him, read his shirt and perhaps count

their blessings...

Carolyn ;o)

Carolyn wrote:

>

> Howdy all, I am sitting here reading all the posts from you about potty

> training, weighted blankets, psychology evaluations and feel good just

> hearing that you moms are taking good care of your sweet children! I am

> the mom with the 46 year old autistic son, Marty Harper, he was 46 on

> Sunday and we had a nice little party for him, just his sister, one

> brother, and five nieces and nephews. It was sweet but he couldn't have

> any chocolate cake or mint chip ice cream on account of he is on a food

> tube and I don't dare put anything in his mouth he may aspirate and get

> pneumonia, he is a good sport about it but I could tell he sure did want

> some. He doesn't talk anymore but is very alert with his eyes, doesn't

> miss a thing, there is so much expression in his eyes.

>

> I wanted to testify about his life at church Sun. night but they had a

> visiting music group, so guess I will do it here. I am just so thankful

> to God for giving me my sweet son and taking us through all the many

> ordeals we have gone through. His grace has been sufficient, we are

> living examples of it! For you see when he was just 3 years old they

> wanted me to send him away to the state institution and just walk away,

> not possible in my world, but that is what they wanted. They said I

> would go crazy, my husband would leave me, my other kids would hate me,

> all if I kept my son at home!

>

> Oh yes and what would I ever do when he was old and I was old, shish,

> well I will be 69 on my birthday and doing pretty well thank you very

> much, and most of them are dead already! Life was not always as good as

> it is now though, there have been some very hard times, but I had made

> up my mind to take care of my son or drop dead in my tracks trying to,

> and that has gotten me through. I think with that attitude God has given

> me His amazing grace, and whenever my son got too crazy He would step in

> and settle him down...years of crazy making tearing up the house every

> day and scratching me and biting, the biting sure did hurt!

>

> He went to school, yes he did, to a private school then he was

> mainstreamed and he was always a handful, just did not want to cooperate

> with any of the programs they put him in which were all behavior

> management and he resented being managed and manipulated I think, was

> too smart for it and what it did was make him a better manipulator

> himself, not such a good thing at the time! They didn't seem to value

> him or respect him, just wanted to brow beat him into submission and it

> never worked, he fought them tooth and toenail and actually he won. I

> took him out of school at age 18 and he has never been back, only at

> home did he get the love and respect he deserved. And it worked. Love

> has been the key that has gotten us through, pure LOVE. There is nothing

> like it. I would recommend it highly to all of you, you got some to

> start on so just get more and more and more of it, LOVE that is.

>

> It will get you through as it has us, and God is not going to give you

> more than you can handle through His grace. Oh it will seem like you

> cannot handle it, but see that is when you go to God and say this; " I

> CANNOT HANDLE THIS, IT IS TOO MUCH!! " Then He will give you His strength

> and all of a sudden you will be amazed at how strong you are...

>

> Guess this is long enough, wanted to say a bit about one of my grandsons

> Lucas who won't go to the bathroom or eat food like the rest of us. He

> is 6 and starts 1st grade soon, can write and spell big long words from

> memory like Sponge Bob Square Pants Nickolodium. com and has been

> obsessed with those three legged alien things out of War of the Worlds

> and acts them out all the time and nobody knows what he is doing. He

> makes a growly noise and does it, did it all last year at school, and

> the teacher had no idea why he growled so much....didn't think to ask

> him. Duh!

>

> Will talk about him later, I think he may have some special needs, or

> perhaps is just a genius I don't know, talks and is funny and happy but

> can be quite moody too when he doesn't get his way....tells me " Shut up

> grandma, be quiet, " which I know is not nice and have told him so, but

> he just gets so antisocial when tired and mad I don't want to stir him

> up worse by confronting him because then he says, " You are scaring

> me... " Sigh.

>

> Carolyn OR ;o)

>

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