HELP!

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My grandson Whom I have custody of is on the spectrum with ASD I have never

seen a problem quite like mine. It is a 2 part problem. I will start with his

hair. He likes what he calls the bedhead look.

Last year his hair was very long and he refused to comb it , so he developed a

large knot in the back of his head. We had to go to the barber and have it cut

short. He was very upset about this. Now it is growing back in and the bedhead

look is back. I have tried to explain, that the hair needs to be combed and then

tasseled if you want it that way. He says it makes no sense and is a waste of

time. It looks sloppy and so does he. He is 16 and also refuses to shave. No

problem if he wanted a neat beard, but it is growing in spotty, with lots of

neck hair. Nothing I say will convince him to keep his hair or beard neater.

My other problem is I was using my daughter's computer this morning. I made a

comment, I needed my reading glasses because the monitor was much smaller than

mine. His response was referring to me I am a stupid F---ing moron. Her monitor

is normal mine is larger.

I am at my wits end to the point I am thinking of looking for a home. I don't

believe he would talk that way to a man. I don't deserve it and can not stand

being spoken to that way much longer. I walked upstairs and didn't say anything.

I know it would have escalated into a big fight if I spoke. Any help would be

greatly appreciated. Peggy