Is your Aspiechild being taken advatage by classmates and how do you handle it?

January 21, 2011

I'm particulary interested in those with young ones but of course any comments

are welcome.

My 6 year old started school this year, was diagnosed with aspergers and we are

in the middle of IEP process now. My son has a big heart and desperately wants

friends. Recently I've witnessed 2 occasions and I've been told about 2 more

that - so called " friends " took advantage of my son's gullability and niceness.

It broke my heart. I want to make sure I'm not over reacting but in today's

world and all the news articles I read about autistic children getting bullied

or assualted it has me concerned. Granted this is just first grade stuff

but....is this were it all begins?

First was a boy that my son considers a great friend - they usually sit next to

eachother in class but on this particular day the boy told Luke to go sit " over

there " (like 5 tables aways) and my son didn't want to but the boy said " well if

you do, I'll let smell my pencil " ( one of those scented pencils called

smencils). My son thought that was great and went ahead to move to another

table. The boy laughed.

Another time the same boy told him about a secret club but my son couldn't be in

it unless he paid him $5.00. My son really really wants to be in this club. Of

course there is none but when I try to gently explain to my son, he insists that

there is.

Other kids are starting to catch on that he is so nieve and gullable that they

are asking him to trade things like fruit chews, cookies or even little toys

like bakugan - but they don't have the item to trade him and tell him " oh, it's

at home, I'll bring in tomorrow " and of couse they never bring it. One boy asked

to " borrow " his 3 bakugan and they agreed for just 2 days and then bring it

back. Well, that was 4 weeks ago. I've asked the boy to please bring them back

and he has told me he's still looking for them....I sent a nice letter home in

his backpack to try to let the parents know and the boy returned with 1 of the

free, cheap, Mc's versions instead of the 3 he borrowed insisting that it

was the one my son gave him.

Anyone else experience similar situations? I've asked them to mention my concern

somehow in the IEP but I'm not even sure if they can or what the school could do

about it. Again at this point it's just kid stuff but we all know it will

continue.

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