Update! Re: New here and have some questions

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Thank you so much for the replies. I wanted to share an update.

The 4 yr old boy that I care for had some problems in school last week and so

the mom was emailing me emails from the boy's teacher and asking if he behaved

the same way at my house. I emailed her back different things that he did at my

house and asked her if she had put anymore thought into taking the boy to be

retested. She never emailed me back but said she thought the child may be just

acting out because of their home situation. I had pretty much given up any

hope. Finally the mom said her friend, who has a son with aspergers, visited

her house one evening and said that she saw a lot of things in the boy that

were similar to her asperger's son so therefore she was going to get on the ball

and get him retested. A few days went by and yesterday the mom emails me from

work to tell me that she called the University where he son was tested back in

June of 2009 and the gal that answered the phone looked through his records, the

boy was diagnosed on the spectrum nearly 2 years ago!! I just couldn't believe

it! How can a child be diagnosed and she not know? She said that she must have

been 'blind to it' and she said couldn't believe her father-in-law 'missed it'.

Is that even possible to be diagnosed and she wouldn't know? She said that he

was diagnosed with Disruptive Behavior Disorder and that he was placed on the

spectrum. This is a far cry from him being a little delayed because of hearing

loss and a 'normal' child like she said when I asked her about the testing

before.

> " Apparently she had him tested and the doctors said he was slightly delayed

> because he had an earlier hearing problem because of excess fluid in his

> ears which was fixed with surgery. I had a heart to heart with the mom a few

> months ago and the mom said that she has known that there was something

> different about the older boy for a long time but her husband and his family

> (3 of which are teachers) don't feel that there is anything wrong with him.

> I shared with her that I also felt that he needs to be re-tested and I was

> really happy that she brought it up because I some concerns. "

>

> " Would you be upset if a daycare provider told you that they thought

> something was wrong with their child? I am not a doctor or a psychologist,

> but I have taken care of many children in my life and they are so completely

> different than anyone else I have ever cared for.

>

> I feel like I am stuck and don't know what to do "

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