YES CAROLYN! So sad right now...about Lucas

[Guest guest]

Montessori was AWESOME for my daughter. Yes! The are wonderful.

And yes I know the " them " feeling and how things can snap us right back

in to the past. We just always need to stay present. That's the

healing. Dealing with now right now instead of letting ourselves be

cluttered up by the past. You got it.

God will bring your dear family through this with flying colours.

Love,,

Francine

Speak with Him Thou for He hearest.

Spirit with Spirit can speak.

Closer is Love than breathing,

Nearer than hands and feet.

(with appreciation for Tennyson)

So sad right now...about Lucas

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& gt; Date: Tuesday, May 17, 2011, 6:34 PM

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& gt; Hello everybody, just feel really sad today from going to a

meeting

& gt; yesterday with my daughter and learning the school does believe my

& gt; grandson Lucas has autism, the school psychologist said he rated

" very

& gt; high " on all their testing that he has it. Of course we have always

& gt; known he was different and quirky and all of that but guess we

were in

& gt; a

& gt; bit of denial about it were hoping he could just somehow grow out

of it

& gt; and adjust and settle in, and to tell you the truth he has done

just

& gt; that during his first year of public school in many ways, has

adjusted

& gt; to many things, he even told me the other day he liked school now.

He

& gt; used to say he hated it and I asked him why and he just said

" People

& gt; talk too much.. "

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& gt; Soo I know it is a good thing to get him on an IEP, as his first

year

& gt; of

& gt; school is almost over and it well help to get this out of the way

this

& gt; year rather than wait till next year, but still I am sad, it's a

& gt; feeling

& gt; like a swift kick in the stomach. One reason is I have a son Marty

who

& gt; is 46 years old now and he has had serious problems all of his

life,

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& gt; I certainly didn't want anything like that for my grandson to go

& gt; through, or my daughter, or my other grandkids. It hurts, really

hurts.

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& gt; Yesterday we went to the school right as it was out and popped

into the

& gt; office there and I was watching for Lucas's class to walk down the

hall

& gt; so I could grab him and so I did and pulled him into the office,

and he

& gt; said, " Am I in trouble? " Poor little guy already knows when you go

to

& gt; the office you are in trouble. Sigh.

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& gt; Funny thing he did not rate so highly at home he is quite social

and

& gt; when we take him to the park he plays with other kids, it is WHY he

& gt; wants to go there every Sun. after church. They said at school he

& gt; doesn't talk to the other kids he talks " at " them. I told them I

didn't

& gt; talk at all in school my whole life and the teachers thought I was

& gt; strange. But I am very shy and a thinker and rather afraid of

strange

& gt; people which I think Lucas is a lot like me. Very high attention to

& gt; detail, observing everything but not speaking. The school

psychologist

& gt; who I did not like just snipped at me, said she was not a clinical

& gt; psychologist and did not analyze personality.

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& gt; Why not I wondered?

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& gt; He can write numbers to a hundred, perfect numbers, can repeat all

the

& gt; letters of the alphabet and recite the phonic sounds to them, can

read

& gt; but does not read at school, or do math, or anything they tell him,

& gt; although he is a fantastic artist. He has a really good memory and

can

& gt; draw from memory 67 telephone poles with all the stuff on the tops

of

& gt; them and tell me what they are for pretty much, and tell you where

they

& gt; are in town....! So why can't he read 1st grade material for his

& gt; teacher

& gt; so she can pass him I wonder!

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& gt; I guess what hurt is he scored so low in language, he would not

tell

& gt; the

& gt; speech and language teacher for example what a coat was for, that

is

& gt; how

& gt; she tested him, held up cards of things and he was supposed to

explain

& gt; what the thing did, like a lawn mower. Yesterday in the car he did

ask

& gt; me why people mowed their grass and I said well it was always

growing

& gt; and if they did not it would get too long and be all messy. So it

is

& gt; not

& gt; like he doesn't get what a lawn mower does he just wants to know

why it

& gt; is doing it. He asks a lot of questions like this and I am

explaining

& gt; things to him all the time.

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& gt; Well that is enough for now I guess, just feel sad, and sad too he

is

& gt; sick again, my daughter is taking him to the doctor this morning

& gt; because

& gt; he has a fever. He just had strep throat less than two weeks ago

and

& gt; took antibiotic and now is sick again. So worried about that right

now.

& gt; She has to go to the doctor herself later and will bring him over

and I

& gt; will be so glad to see him, see him almost every day...

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& gt; Thanks for listening,

& gt; Carolyn Grandma in Oregon ;o(

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